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Messed up last night
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I had a sober date of 7/10/10. I never thought of myself as an alcoholic but went to AA twice since then and felt at home, welcomed, and have been reading the literature. Even in listening to the stories, I always felt that I wasn't that bad, that I could quit on my own and didn't need to be at the meetings. I...
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Trying to look up AGO.....
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I guess he has deleted himself.....or was deleted?! I enjoyed his perspective....guess I missed some interplay........Am I wrong?!
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How will you dream if you don't sleep?
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: How will you dream if you don't sleep? How will you hear yourself? --Michael Dorris Sleep is a wonderful gift in our lives. For eight hours, we rest our bodies. We let the thoughts, feelings, and events of our lives tumble through our sleeping minds as they sort themse...
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Just checking in
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Hi Just thought I'd drop and maybe share a little, don't get me wrong I'm quite content with where I'm at in sobriety and love my children very much so. Daughter is off on her first real job she worked so hard to get on her own, and loves being at camp this year she gets paid for doing what she loves and I'm so pr...
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Tina
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Hey all... It's been a long time.
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Was just poking around on here and decided I should say hello and give you all an update. Just finished Phase 1 of my outpatient program, which I really liked. It was a small women's-only group adn the facilitator was fantastic. I've made a few good friends on the program and we now have a weekly dinner...
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What does this mean to you?
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Chapter 5: How it works- Selfishness, self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly wit hout provocation, but...
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Mike B.
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Hi, I am ready to start recovery
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Hey people. My name is Katie and I am new to these boards. I am at a very critical point in my life where I need to make some serious life changes. I dont think I have hit rock bottom (yet, or again or at the moment) but I know that my quality of life is definatly suffering due to my extreme drinking binges. Its t...
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Backing out for a while....
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Taking a vacation for a while been getting the impression from attitude and language that I'm just outside the door of the bar and about an hour late from that start. Sounding way tooo familiar to me....Carry on.
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Jerry F
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The 4 Absolutes-- from the Oxford Group/ and AA
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The 4 Absolutes of AAForewordSpelled out as such, the Four Absolutes are not a formal part of our AA philosophy of life. Since this is true, some may claim the Absolutes should be ignored. This premise is approximately as sound as it would be to suggest that the Holy Bible should be scuttled. The Absol...
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Coming Out of the Shadows
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Sober now 9 months and lately feeling waves of shame come over me over things I've done in my past. The voice in my head says things like ...."Look at you, everyone knows what a loser you are.""People know your secrets and shameful things you have done""Your history is not...
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Tee hee... cartoon tickled me
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I wish I could find this cartoon online. It was in the May 3, 2010 New Yorker. The cartoon had no caption (and didn't need one) - the article in which it appeared had nothing to do with alcoholism - not even sure what it was about. I cut out the cartoon and put it up on the bulletin board at my home group, af...
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Getting very restless.
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Hey all I tell you being laid off and not having any driving privileges and also being out in the country by myself most of the day, drives me insane at times. I do, 2 days a week get a ride to noon meetings and hafe an acre yard to take care of but running out of projects to do with the tight cash flow. I have five...
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buckeyebear
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No One will be offended...
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Hi everyone, At the begining of every meeting here in North Carolina, USA, the chairperson makes a few basic annoucements related to parking, smoking and profanity. I'm a smoker and a cusser... so while it wouldn't bother me if every AA room in the world was smoke filled and every one used foul languag...
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John
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Am I destined to die at an early age from this disease? (seriously)
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only on 72 hrs right now :( I hope one day I can get a true 90 day coin, but Im sober right now and God willing will stay sober tomorrow... This time I affected another person who I truly cared about in the program, I dont want to get into much detail right now but she had a lot more sobriety time than me (years) a...
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SoberSteve
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So tonight my wife asks...
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"When will you be done with recovery? How long are you going to have to keep being selfish and putting your sobriety first? These days it's all about you." No. I'm not kidding. I know I have issues; hell - I have subscriptions to some of them. However, I'm amazed at the man I'm becoming, but I gu...
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Hello
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Hi, Just thought I would Introduce myself. My SD is 28/5/2008 and from the UK. How do I access the online meetings ? Up until recently I have been doing 1 meeting a day, Which is great at the start, but as things have settled down, and life is growing as it does, doing daily meetings is getting harder, so im l...
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Dj
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Vacation.
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Well Im back from a week in the Mountains of Lake Tahoe. Sad to see it end. But lots of good lessons were learned. Went to a running camp. Ran every morning at 6 am ( ok i slept in once.) Hiked most afternoons. Funny thing. The people out there have no idea that im an alcoholic. Went to dinner with them...
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Congratulations on SEVEN Years SOBRIETY 1Day@aTime, TINA! XXX
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Lucky Number *7* aye! Have a wonderful 24hrs for 07.14.10, Tina. Godbless babe, Danielle xxx
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Conflicts with others belong in PM..
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Good Morning all, Well read the whole board this am....and saw two seperate conflicts.... My own feelings are really directed at the folks that might be reading that are nervous, but contemplating a life without alcohol. I share some "Private opinions" of the conflicting stuff, but the...
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Just Toni
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Daily Reflections ~ A Measure of Humility & 24hrs a Day
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In every case, pain had been the price of admission into a new life. But this admission price had purchased more than we expected. It brought a measure of humility, which we soon discovered to be a healer of pain. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 75 It was painful to give up trying to control my life...
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I still believe in coincidences, but it gets harder and harder.
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Background: My wife and I have been separated for two years now, but we still love each other and communicate daily. We are both in the program. We are both singers, and love music. We met in a bar singing karaoke. One song she likes, "It's Too Late" by Carly Simon, has some lyrics that took...
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FlyingSquirrel
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Living in the Present
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Today's thoughts from Hazelden are: Living in the Present One day at a time, This is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past. For it is gone. . . And do not be troubled about the future. For it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful. That it will be worth remembering.
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Larry_H
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Update
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Figured I owed an update after being MIA for awhile.... things are going.... spent a few weeks considering the old "F--- It All" solution, and isolating to the point of not even getting on the computer.... worked a little, watched a lot of t.v., did a lot of stupid inebriating... not a good w...
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jonijoni1
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No tap dancing around problems
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: No tap dancing around problems Our program calls for a "searching and fearless" moral inventory, not only in the beginning, but as we continue to follow our new way of life. What this means is complete honesty about who and what we really are. We should not...
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Larry_H
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Awww, why didn't I think of this before? I'm gonna run out of pages!
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Fun exercise, if you're bored: 1) Calculate how many days you've been sober 2) Turn to that page in the Big Book 3) See if anything jumps out at ya or there's anything you can learn or re-learn 4) If it's a personal story, count how many similarities there are between you and the person whose story it is. Me...
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FlyingSquirrel
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I don't want a drink...
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,,,but I've recognised that some of my character defects have come back. I've been assissting a colleague on a project. He's been over whelmed with work. He's now on leave for a fortnight and so I'm managing the project, which was teetering on a spiral out of control. So my perfectionism has led me to wo...
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I hate drinking
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Yet I continue to drink. I hate waking up at 3 AM with a skull-busting headache and dying of thirst. I hate how fat it makes me. I hate having to pretend I know what people are talking about, when I don't have a clue. I hate feeling like a fake, a fraud, and a scumbag. I used to be a fairly serious distance...
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Working With Others Passively?
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I've never been what you'd call an aggressive 12th-stepper. I don't shun newcomers, but I don't get in their faces either. I don't think I'm alone - seems like only 1 in 10 of us, or even fewer, really jump deep into working with others as sponsors, doing 12th step calls, etc. I've never said no to any r...
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The Cure
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I know this is considered an outside issue but anybody else see the commericals of the guy promoting his "Cure" book? He says right upfront that it isn't based on the 12 steps or the desease concept. Does this person really believe this or is he trying to take advantage of those looking for t...
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Our Newest Old Timer, Mikef!!!
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Thank you for 500 posts of beautiful experience, strength & hope, Mike! Thank you for taking your recovery as seriously today as you did 25 years ago when you first got clean & sober. Thank you for being here & sharing your faith to our newcomers that all of us can have what you have if we do as...
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Biggest trigger yet
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Home Improvement Bu**shit. I haven't wired a simple outlet in 15 years, much less did a switch-thru or whatever the hell you call it and I don't even know if it's legal! I'm trying to solve the "outlet+extension cord+surge suppressor+another six extension cords+air conditioner DOES NOT equa...
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Learning from my mistakes
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Guess I need to slow down a little bit huh ... I hit the wrong button on my own profile of ljc and deleted my whole self . So, now Im back as happycamper . Dean, you can make my status a newcomer if ya want to, cuz Im sure it wouldnt hurt me any to go back to basics, lol. thanks, The poster formally known as ljc -- Ed...
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Your first AA meeting
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I am looking online at a few different AA meetings I can attend in my area. I did get to attend a few great meetings about a year ago but stopped going after a week. I am really nervous to get back out there and find some meetings because its pretty scary going out and sitting in a room of strangers and all of th...
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KPie
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34 Years Sober Today, 1 Day at a Time
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I have been in Canada without internet access. I am back at my son's home in Albany, NY. Arrived today on the date of my sobriety anniversary. I missed you all, it is great to be back on line. Larry, -------------------- One Day at a Time
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Larry_H
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Been Phished at Facebook & Yahoo!
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Some of ya'll are also FB Friends and may have noticed via e-mail that I am "stranded in London and need $". Not true. My FB & Yahoo were hacked for a phishing scam. Soooooo...... My FB acct. has been locked out, my Yahoo e-mail acct. has been locked. So now I have only three "social ne...
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Aquaman
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Ooolllllllllldddddddddd TV
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I was browsing around tonight... and for the next week on TV Land... there is an old "Leave It To Beaver" dealing with alcoholism.... couldn't see a year but the show is in black and white... I thought if you've got a half hour to kill you might enjoy it... It will be "gone" on July 23...
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Dave Harm
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Definately not the suggested path to Sobriety
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RENT-A-SPONSOR Are you tired of being told like it is? Still looking for that easier, softer way? Had enough of that same old time-tested direction? No Reading ! No Writing! No Deadlines!STANDARD FEATURES INCLUDE: *Listening to your sniveling without constant reference to the Basic Text or Step...
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Daily Reflections ~ Pride & 24hrs a Day
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For thousands of years we have been demanding more than our share of security, prestige, and romance. When we seemed to be succeeding, we drank to dream still greater dreams. When we were frustrated, even in part, we drank for oblivion. Never was there enough of what we thought we wanted. In all these s...
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Thank you to all of you
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Hey all, I just wanted to take a moment to thank everyone on this site. I've had friends staying with me for more than a week, and although it has been a pleasure to have them, I have not been going to meetings/calling my sponsor/etc. as much as I would like because they are here and I've been busy entertain...
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TwelveSteps
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Pray to God, row to shore
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Pray to God, row to shore. -- Anonymous The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pr...
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Larry_H
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Which was easier for you...
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Getting sober, or staying sober? We've had this discussion in a few of our meetings and I find it fascinating. So, which one was it for you, getting sober, or staying sober? Brian
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Reffner
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Whats the best book to start with ?
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If you could recomend the first book for me, which one should I get ? The Big Book ? Living sober ? 12 steps and 12 traditions ?
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Friends....and how they never understand!!!
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I wrote a note to a friend, via email, this was my only childhood friend, ever, and it was so wonderful after half a lifetime to track her down, well she tracked me down, but anyway have been enjoying so much rekindleing our friendship, she is a real love. and because of our closeness that still is there, I...
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Just Toni
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Problems are opportunities for stretching our minds
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Problems are opportunities for stretching our minds. Wringing our hands over circumstances gone awry wastes our energy. In any twenty-four hours we will experience many situations that will evolve according to God's plan, rather than our own. We'd feel our spir...
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Larry_H
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Daily Reflections ~ Humility Is a Gift & 24hrs a Day
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As long as we placed self-reliance first, a genuine reliance upon a Higher Power was out of the question. That basic ingredient of all humility, a desire to seek and do God's will, was missing. 12 & 12, p.72 When I first came to A.A., I wanted to find some of the elusive quality called humility. I didn...
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It's so easy to put things off
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: And if not now, when? --The Talmud It's so easy to put things off. Sometimes we're like Scarlet O'Hara, who hoped and dreamed for a better life by saying, "There's always tomorrow." But is there always a tomorrow? If we live too many of our days counting on t...
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Larry_H
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Anger is Danger
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Hi ya all Funny how things work out. I had a lady pee me off on Friday after a meeting telling me were I should be at in the program. She said it loudly and I just smiled and said take care and shook hands real quick and left. I prayed about it and that Sunday she got asked to lead at the last min. I knew here for 20 y...
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New here - need help for an alcoholic
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My live-in boyfriend is definitely an alcoholic. He's dead drunk most nights and incredibly obnoxious about it. He refuses to go to meetings or get help - he doesn't think he's got a problem, even though he won't stop no matter what I do or how unattractive I make it for him (I've lectured, begged, scre...
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H.P. Is working
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Hi you all. Funny thing once I started working on slowing my mind down and working on staying in today, I kept getting messages from my readings and a lead I heard, and some dern good advice from my family on here. At the meeting lastnight one lady shared on how she plans everything out and it never goes ri...
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stressed out :(
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scared senless my hubby is leaving me just so scared i want to puke dont want to drink but feeling really bad. got other things happening too. -- Edited by slugcat on Saturday 10th of July 2010 06:02:20 PM
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