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BEEN A WHILE
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HI Just thought I'd drop in, its been a while..... Things are going ok for today, my son's still got no motivation. My daughter went to check one of the College Campus's out last weekend. Had my Physical the other week, the only thing that is a problem is my colesteral a little high. Can work on that, was...
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Meet Anne E. Donia...
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Anhedonia: Loss of pleasure. The counselors said this would happen in this, Early Recovery, but I hoped it wouldn't be a noticeable deal. Wrong. It's been 5 months since my last (1) day relapse, 7 months since I quit smoking and about oh...4 months since ripping myself free of xanax. How long, withou...
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We're not here to lose our sense of humor
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: We're not here to lose our sense of humor. --Richie Berlin Being too serious is habit forming. However, many aspects of our lives are serious and need to be addressed. Our disease, for one, is very serious. Working the Twelve Step program to the best of our ability is s...
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Secret.....
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Does anyone else ever feel like they have a little secret to happiness?? Since being in the program for about 3 years now, I feel happy like a child. Corney I know but to be able to feel anything was a step up. I can sit on the couch with my dog and watch tv and a surge will come over me. Contentment. Alot t...
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What is Gods Plan for you?
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I just got back from church, and what a wonderful experience. I was never the type to go to church in the past, and in fact I hated church. I hated how happy all these people were, and thought of them as fake. Now I realize that these people are all like me, and are just finding a way to live their life with mean...
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Something that you can't do while drinking
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I just got back from my vacation in Key Largo. Had a great time scuba diving with my wife. It was awesome going back there after 15 years. We made several trips there in the early 90's with our other boat. I got to do a another solo dive on a great ship wreck. A 327' Coast Guard cutter USCG Duane and t...
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Spiritual transference...
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Aloha All...just got back from my morning home meeting and before I got out and do some business in what is a very beautiful day here I wanted to check in and read...respond if I felt supportive. My eye surgery is coming up in 3 days and I've been having difficulties with letting go of control of the outco...
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In The Blood
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So last night, I'm on the way back from my home group, and taking DramaGoddess back home to the opposite side of town first... yes, she's one of us and she goes to my meeting with me sometimes now. And I'm talking to her about stuff... like how we feel emotions, and how we think, and how we react, and how we...
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"Resentment is the "number one" offender. BB pg 64.
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"It destroys more alcoholics than anything else." Alcohol had destroyed me physically and mentally. With careful medical care and good nutrition and exercise, I quickly recovered. Resentment on the other hand was a terrible spiritual disease that was eating me up. I thank God and AA fo...
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Amends...
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I recently made an amends to someone I thought I never would. An ex best friend who was screwing my husband. (sorry about being so blunt) This is a person I shared everything with. When I was having marital problems I would vent to her. So boy did she have it all in a nut shell. My part was I should neve...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Classic Prayer & 24hrs a Day
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Lord, make me a channel for thy peace - that where there is hatred, I may bring love - that where there is wrong. I may bring the spirit of forgiveness - that where there is discord, I may bring harmony - that where there is error, I may bring truth - that where there is doubt, I may bring faith - that where ther...
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My emotions run deeper than others.
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My wife asked me a question at the dinner table tonight. In fact it was more like a statement. She said how come we both read the same article in the newspaper, but you get all worked up and I remain unmoved. I told her that's because I am an alcoholic. My emotions are always extreme. Alcoholism had changed...
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Newcomer
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Hi, Im Alex and im an alcoholic. I call myself alcoholic, but it took me a while to actually state that. At first I like to say alcoholic addict bum loser etc, but now I'm just an alcoholic. For the longest time I didn't know if I was dead or alive. I wasn't quite dead because I was walking around, talking and...
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Cost and Price
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November 21 If a reasonable estimate could be made of the fatalities resulting from excessive drinking, the figures would be appalling. This loss, however, is only a small part of the price that Bacchus extracts. The wasted man-hours of work, the homes broken up, the wealth of talent tha...
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I don't understand
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AquaWife finally expressed jealousy regarding time put into AA & other recovery-related activities. Umm. Why? BEFORE: 30-60 minutes a night in the shed gettin' tore-up, Saturday & Sunday were drunken blurs and the household hemmorraged cash to feed my habits. Angry rants and acting...
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There are those who do not recover BB pg 59.
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When I came into AA some 22 years ago, many people at scoffed at the program. I used to get very discouraged, but my AA friends always asked me to stick around long enough for me to understand the AA 12 steps. I trudged along and ignored the ignorant people on the outside. Many wanted and needed what I had re...
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Should have got the red one.
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"We do not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it." This is such a wonderful promise in the BB. In the beginning I always used to think I should have. That was still self will running riot. As I started to work the steps, I had begun to realise the wonderful gifts that God had yet to give me....
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Quick update, more to follow soon
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For those that care, I am still alive ;) I fell off again, I have 15 days today, some legal issue, (misdeamenor) (harrasment with alcohol involved) and still have my job and just got a car but it got in a rearender (car hit my gf) (no alcohol involved) anyways thats a quick recap living back at my folks for...
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Going Easy
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Going Easy Go easy. You may have to push forward, but you don't have to push so hard. Go in gentleness, go in peace. Do not be in so much of a hurry. At no day, no hour, no time are you required to do more than you can do in peace. Frantic behaviors and urgency are not the founda...
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Not really 12th step
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We have a local women's only treatment center / home that has been coming to my home group. They needed to call someone in the program, so they called me. I'd get a call with someone saying "I just need to check in with a member of AA. Thanks, bye". Ohhkkkayy. Then I was asked to drive some of the...
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Illumination
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November 19 A large segment of humanity, stumbling in alcoholic darkness, resigned to a belief that nothing can possibly be done about the situation, has at long last caught a gleam of light and presses on to that beacon of Hope. Alcoholics Anonymous is that light shining forth in the night of...
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Not everything is a case of being a bit "off-program"
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Hello all ! It's Louisa - real name Karen actually (Louisa is my cat) I have come back as Northern Lights (aren't they beautiful?) and wish to use my real name. I guess this post is intended to hopefully warn against the dangers of putting everything down to the program. Within the space of 10 days I wen...
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A New Pair of Glasses
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"A New Pair of Glasses" was a term initially coined by a guy (Dr Paul) in his story "Doctor, Addict, Alcoholic" or I think it's called "Acceptance is The Answer" in the fourth edition (I still have 4 copies of the third edtion, so I don't know) and in it he describes the c...
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Other People's Views
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I see another topic about this but didn't want to hijack that thread. I'm dealing with this in all of my life right now. I'm feeling like everyone thinks I'm a couple zanaks away from schizophrenia to be honest. Everything I say I'm met with how it's all my fault and I need to focus on myself and my disea...
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30 Days Today
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So far, so good. I found a great sponsor right away (she actually offered to sponsor me at my 1st meeting) and have been to meetings every day. I'm a re-retread but it seems my resistance has left the building (thank God). Grateful not only for AA but for this board---haven't written much but I have bee...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Safety Net & 24hrs a Day
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Occasionally. . . We are seized with a rebellion so sickening that we simply won't pray. When these things happen we should not think too ill of ourselves. We should simply resume prayer as soon as we can, doing what we know to be good for us. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 105 Sometimes I scream,...
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...and Mr. Hyde
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It is one of the peculiar characteristics of the alcoholic that he almost invariably shows the worst side of his disposition to those people for whom he has the highest love and respect. Many of us were Jolly Good Fellows in the bootleg joint but Hell on wheels at home and in our relationship wi...
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Money
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November 18 Money is a medium of exchange and is as good as the things you can get with it. If you have enough money in your pocket when you fall overboard it can drown you. Love of money can make you the most despised of men, but love of mankind can make your money a blessing to you and them.
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Some days, it seems like our struggles will never end
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: All things pass... Patience attains all that it strives for. -- St. Teresa of Avila Some days, it seems like our struggles will never end. The pain, the loss, the heartaches, the failures we can recount them all. Where is the strength to go on? What if we began our day by...
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I'm getting used to the idea that God does a better job of running my life than I do
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: It takes about ten years to get used to how old you are. --Unknown If it is hard to adjust to our age, how much harder it must be to realize we can't even run our own life with any degree of competence. Until we get used to that idea we will keep having living troubles. Accept...
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Our Part...and His
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We become too easily discouraged when a new man fails to make the grade. What we fail to keep before us is the fact that we are not accountable for the results of our efforts. we are only charged with the responsibility of carrying the message to other alcoholics. Just go about your end of the j...
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Room with a View
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November 15 We alcoholics were accustomed to look at the world through the whiskey glasses and consequently what we saw of the world made it appear as one big case of D.T.'s. Sobriety corrected our vision and the world took on a more ordered appearance. The world hadn't changed--our viewpo...
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Thanks for the prayers!
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So its been a bit, but heres an update. Connie went through the double mastectomy like an experienced combat solider. Outside of me dropping the ball briefly, that phase went smoothly. Today, in her 7th day after chemo, is again, showing her mettle. Your prayers paid off extremely well and we are...
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AA
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something that is becoming more important, from meeting to meeting, is not taking my sobriety for granted. an AA friend has been in and out quite a few times in the past 5 years. i can see that it could be me at any time if i do not stick with what works for me. Romancing the drink was something hard for m...
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Daily Reflections ~ Overcoming Loneliness & 24hrs a Day
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Almost without exception, alcoholics are tortured by loneliness. Even before our drinking got bad and people began to cut us off, nearly all of us suffered the feeling that we didn't quite belong. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 90 The agonies and the void that I often felt inside occur less and less frequently in m...
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What Kind of Day do you want to have?
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Because it's up to you Being Kind is just a matter of taking the time, most people just don't have the time, allowing someone to merge, calling someone to tell them you love them, holding the door for someone, smiling at someone, these actions take time out of our busy days, hence it's a rarity, which is a...
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YOUR Prayers Can Help
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I went to a meeting yesterday. It was a good one. Really hit home. I'm seeing the utter devistation of this disease and that I've had it for so long. I'm deeply hurt...destroyed by the way I've been tricked into being someone I'm not most of my life. I'm a shattered man. My wife and children are gone...
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New Day
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The Eye Opener November 11 You are born at every sunrise and die at every sunset. Sleep is temporary death, which fortifies you for your rebirth in a new tomorrow. Every day is an entire life in itself and all human experiences can take place within its span. You, yourself, are not the same man you were ye...
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Daily Reflections ~ Vital Sustenance & 24hrs a Day
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Those of us who have come to make regular use of prayer would no more do without it than we would refuse air, food, sunshine. And for the same reason. When we refuse air, light or food, the body suffers. And when we turn away from meditation and prayer, we likewise deprive our minds, our emotions, and our i...
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Power in ESH.
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My sponsors honest sharing with me was what got me into recovery. I always thought that I was different, whereas in actual fact I very much alike to other alcoholics. Nothing that I could share with my sponsor was ever unique. I could not believe how similar we were when I did my 5th step with my sponsor. R...
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Real changes
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One of the crisis in my own life was when my relationship with my wife and kids had broken down. This was the one singular event where my recovery was tested to the extreme. I was 10 years sober and I was going to start what I call was real recovery. My wife had started a quarrel with me and I had exploded and my...
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Taking the boat (and wife lol) to Key Largo for a week
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Gratitude is at an all time high and yet more evidence that "It's keeps getting better". You'all behave and if you need me I'll be here. [url]http://maps.google.com/maps?oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&ie=UTF-8&q=f...
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Today
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You not only pass through this world but once but you live this day but once. The opportunities this day presented to do good are lost opportunities tomorrow unless you grasped them in passing. Your greatest personal loss in your drinking days was not material but rather it was the loss of m...
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Powerful share last night
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Last night I went to a different meeting, just fancied a change of scene. Met so many people there that I knew from roaund and about and the woman giving the main share is a regular at a meeting I regularly go to. She started her share and I admit, I switched off within minutes. Then I heard her talking about...
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Step 9
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I have seen a lot of confusion and questions about step 9 on this forum as of late, people wondering when to make amends, people actually unclear on the concept of what making amends actually is An Apology is 1. An acknowledgment expressing regret or asking pardon for a fault or offense.2.a. A formal ju...
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Service
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November 12 No one ever became noble simply by being moral. The great characters who have had their ennobling influence pass down through the ages are those who lived, labored and died for others. Nothing endures that fails to serve a useful purpose and man, individually or collectively, is no excep...
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Eye Opener BOOK
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While I'm glad you found some wisdom in the words I posted, they are not my work. In 1966 an anonymous author wrote "The Eye Opener"; it was very popular in AA for a long time. I got a copy and thought I'd pass it along. I am astonished that anyone would mistake it's wisdom for my lack thereof. PRE...
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Tomorrow is Remembrance Sunday
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My fifth sober one. First one that I'll miss due to Intergroup commitments. I'll take a few moments and remember all those who fought when they didn't really want to, those that died and those that survived and the damage they endured. From both sides, victors and vanquished. Both my Dad and my Father i...
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Daily Reflections ~ Intuition and Inspiration & 24hrs a Day
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. . . . we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy. We don't struggle. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 86 I invest my time in what I truly love. Step Eleven is a discipline that allows me and my Higher Power to be together, reminding me that, with God's help, intuitio...
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Just wondering
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Sitting here at home, in the dark wondering, what am I suppose to be doing ?am I already doing it ? Some days it is so clear what I think my purpose is but then there are these days. I think of an old song " What's it all about Alfie". I dont think of drinking or have the urge to drink but I know I used...
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