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laura3098


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I don't know where to go or who to turn to. I never felt so alone in my life. My husband is an alcoholic. It's been 21 years I stood by him. Taking care of him like he's one of my children. I'm tired now. Sooo tired.   You hang on and on till you realize years have gone by and  he's still suffering from this disease. no 
The sadness is when you brought children into this world knowing this disease is and will effect our kids our family. Our oldest is 18 and moved out and our youngest is only 5 years old. He see and hears everything. I feel like I have to pack our bags a go. For my sons sake but at the same time he adores his dad and it will tear him apart. I'm torn but cant keep going on this way.I grew up around alcoholics I was brought up by one. Now I'm with the man,  the love of my life. I'm depressed, sad, lonly.
I live in a small town where everyone knows your business. I'm embarrassed and ashamed and yet I still stand by him. I have no family in this state nor do I have any friends due to his drinking.
From morning till night I never know what kind of mood he will be in. He never physically abused me and hasn't mentally abused me up until a year ago. I can go on and on but for now I will stop in hopes someone out there will maybe give me some words of wisdome. Or anything.

-- Edited by laura3098 on Wednesday 5th of January 2011 03:35:45 AM

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Aloha Laura...and now you've started your search to help yourself...Yay!!  It's good
you reached MIP and click off of this page at sometime and click back on the Al-Anon
Family Group page where the friends, family, spouses and associates of alcoholics
gather.  Also go to the white pages of your local telephone book and look up the
hotline number for Al-Anon and call as early as you can;  live person or recording
that number will hook you up to meeting places and times which will help things to
change dramatically for you as it did for me.  I also was born and raised within the
disease of alcoholism and I am a member of both programs.  Both programs have
saved my life and I hang around telling newbies like yourself where to find the door.
Go find the page, the phone number and the meetings and fellowship.  In support
(((((hugs))))) smile


Oh...PS...Alcoholism is the most abusive disease I have ever come across.  It abuses
peoples minds, bodies, spirits and emotions.  See you in recovery. 

-- Edited by Jerry F on Wednesday 5th of January 2011 04:26:56 AM

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Hi Laura,
welcome to the board. The Alanon board is next door. It will be a lot more helpful for you to talk with the kind folks over there. http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727

-- Edited by StPeteDean on Wednesday 5th of January 2011 09:14:40 AM

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laura3098


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Thank you. I'm so happy that I am here.

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mikef


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Welcome,as you are well aware our disease permeates through all areas of our lives and others.Keep coming back,listen to suggestions,get the tools you need through support and get in the "solution" of your own process.I have a 24 year old son,who is a Heroin addict ,by God's grace in recovery(again) so I also attend co-dependency program for help in that area beside my own process...We are here for each other,,no big I's or little U's, just one reaching out to another in a loving and caring way..Hope to hear more from ya!!! Have a blessed and produtive day!!!smile

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Hi Laura,
I just wanted to welcome you to our recovery society.  Eventhough your moving over to the Alanon site, we're all trying to recovery from the grip of Alcoholism.  Whether we're the Alcoholic or the people effected by them. 

Jerry & Dean posted the next step into your new journey.  I wish you success.

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Hi Laura, sorry to have come to the table late, but welcome to the recovery community.

You are not alone. You've already been recommended Al-Anon by very sober and trustworthy folks on here. Put it this way: Al-Anon works. :)

All the best

Steve

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THANK YOU for being willing to go to the utmost to help your husband. You sound like a real trooper.

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