I have a woman friend in Manhattan who has come to me for help. But I'm far away, and I'm a male. Are there any women out there in the Big Apple with strong sobriety who'd be willing to call my friend, or to be called by her? My friend is in her forties, and struggling with booze and cocaine. Thanks!
I'm sure we are all concerned with your friends plight and hope she gets the help she needs. But obviously we have to be aware of scammers and predators also because of the anonymous nature of the internet. It would be atypical for a member to call someone sight unseen.
She can call the AA central services office in NYC at (212) 870-3400, they can tell her where meetings are and perhaps put her in touch with individuals. That's probably a far better solution than an online contact.
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Thanks for the reply. I understand. I'll try and call friends in Manhattan (I just don't have any friends in recovery there) to see if they know someone in the program. I am looking for a personal contact for my friend, rather than the central office. But that of course would be all right, too, in the end. I just wish I were closer.
-- Edited by StPeteDean on Friday 7th of January 2011 09:43:02 AM
She really need's to make the call. You can't want it more than she does. It doesn't work that way. Desperation and willingness, in your friend, are the keys to recovery. An alcoholic/addict will go along with this for the attention (cause they are lonely) and keep on drinking/using. A little tough love here and telling her, "if she's sick and tired of being sick and tired.." make the call. My first (and greatest) sponsor used to say "they don't make a pink version of the big book for women" same color for everyone. Be careful not to stick pillows under your friends butt that prevent her from hitting bottom. Kudos for caring.
-- Edited by StPeteDean on Friday 7th of January 2011 09:44:21 AM
I have a woman friend in Manhattan who has come to me for help. But I'm far away, and I'm a male. Are there any women out there in the Big Apple with strong sobriety who'd be willing to call my friend, or to be called by her? My friend is in her forties, and struggling with booze and cocaine. Thanks!
JT I made the same call when I needed help, I reached out to people I knew in AA when I decided to get sober, they put me in contact with people that could/would help me and I wouldn't have gotten sober or gone to a meeting without their personal support, they only gave me one condition for their help which was to save my life, I had to pull up the people behind me that came to me for help
If you are serious about this I know 2 women in NYC with solid 10+ years of sobriety that can meet your friend at a meeting and will talk to her on the phone, PM me with her # and I will pass it on to these 2 women
That's how this program works, attraction not promotion, and one alcoholic helping another when we see an alcoholic reach out to us for help, and I have received 100's of the same kind of calls over the years and I have done the same thing, put the person in contact with someone I knew in AA, as a matter of fact one of the women whose number I will give to your friend was one of them, she watched me get sober, then watched her best friend come to me and become a sponsee and get sober years later, she saw this program worked so we were the the ones she came to when she needed help as well, he and I took her to a meeting and introduced her to the women, she has been sober since that night oh so many years ago, I'm sure she would be more then happy to call your friend
One alcoholic helping another is how this deal works, when my phone rings I also answer it and do what is in my power to help the still suffering alcoholic when they ask for help
-- Edited by LinBaba on Friday 7th of January 2011 01:26:18 PM
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