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checking in
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hello all just wanted to say hi and hope you are all doing well. been reading mostly this week. we are having an aa state convention here in columbia sc. went to a wonderful speaker meeting last night. it is so amazing what the program has become... that it is really une...
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AA Thought For The Day
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A.A. Thought for the Day
Sometimes we try too hard to get this pro gram. It is better to relax and accept it. It will be given to us, with no effort on our part, if we stop trying too hard to get it. Sobriety can be a free gift of God, which he gives us by His grace when He knows we are ready for it. But we have to be...
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Just a share for Worriers
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Two powerful techniques to stop worrying right now First, when you start to think of the future and are on the brink of anxiety, just say to yourself, "we'll see".
Two small words, but they are powerful and can prevent a lot of worry. You do not know what is going to happen tomorrow or further down in lif...
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About the jabber box
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Found out, I do not necessarily think it is "isms" with my spouse....He eventually....tells me he knows what he's doing....(the weeds he has to pluck)......so when he said he had been jabber...jabber...jabber.... I said yeah I do not need the Enquirer tabloid, I got you....He just grinned e...
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Have a good Friday!!
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Why I Drank
I drank to be witty - and I became a boor.
I drank to relax - and I couldn't stop my hands from shaking.
I drank to feel good - and I suffered through sickening hangovers.
I drank to be happy - and it made me depressed.
I drank to be a good dancer - and it made me a stranger.
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Reply To Gammy
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Yes Gammy--You are so right. It doesnt matter how long weve been sober. Its the quality and not the quantity.:)
We still get the daily tests, and somedays, living life on lifes terms just is no fun at all.
But thank God we can deal with it sober hu?
Sanity? um-not going there. hahaha
Some d...
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Nic
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Nic, I just finished reading your post about your Gran, and I had tears as I read it. I have been struggling with so much of the same feelings and issues for a couple of years.
My Mother who is 77 years old has lived alone for the last 12 years since my Dad died. She has been very miserable and even att...
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A New Day
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The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sin...
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Something I realized just now
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As a child, I was miserable.
When I was old enough, I was drunk and miserable.
After I realized that wasn't working, I sobered up. But I was still miserable. After a few years I started drinking again.
I'd made progress though: I was happy as long as I was drunk. (We won't talk a...
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A Big Step To Freedom
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"Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves." Creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn't be complete human beings. If men and women didn't exert themselves to be secure in their persons, made no effort to harvest food or construct shelter, there would be no su...
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Anger And Resentment
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What are the two types of anger?
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Smile!! Youll drive everyone nuts!!
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1. Birds of a feather flock together, and then crap on your car.
2. There's always a lot to be thankful for if you take time to look for it. For example I am sitting here thinking how nice it is that wrinkles don't hurt.
3. When I'm feeling down, I like to whistle. It makes the neighbour's dog ru...
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Hey Rick Buddy??
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We love yu. :) Keep It Simple. Easy Does It. Slow God Mode.
Enjoy your trip my freind.
I remember going to Florida drunk. I remember another one sober.
Sure was a better trip sober.:) I even enjoyed seeing a few places, that I never saw the first tim...
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Intro
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Hi folks.
I'm not sure where to start, so I'll just tell you where I'm at right now. I quit drinking April 10th 2002 (and have not had a drink since) because of a health problem. Actually that's kind of an understatement... I was hauled off to the hospital and they did that routine with the...
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Enabling Personality
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Appearance to the world of the enabling personality
Protect others from the consequences of their own actions
Had a post to share on here, but couldnt get it on. I guess it just wasnt meant to be.
Wishing all my AA Buddies a good night, and a good day tomorrow. -- Edited by Phil at 22:07, 2005-0...
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Bible Study
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My husband and I have been attending a bible study class with a group from our
church. When we got invited to join I told hubs why dont we try it so we can get
to know some of the people intimately so we did. This week we are studying
the beatitudes and this is a tough one for me espec...
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Phil: Question...
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I have to admit my spouse jabbers. Yeah, I know....be grateful, he's sober. Except, where once he no longer spoke at all, he talks all the time. I keep hoping he'll get back to "Him" that he once was. And yet I know that may or may not ever happ...
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Strange Pattern
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What a strange pattern the shuttle of life can weave. --Frances Marion
Each experience we have plays its part in the total picture of our lives. The steps we have taken, the path we travel today, and our direction tomorrow are not by chance. There is a pattern. We each have a destiny. We may have veer...
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Living in Today
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Hi everyone!! Hope this finds everyone happy and healthy!!
I am doing okay today. I am dealing with the repercussions for my actions 2 weeks ago. I had
to go see a therapist for an "evaluation". It went pretty well, its what I needed. He made me realize that the depression I have (which is really bad)...
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Hello
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Hi to all,
My name is Mike and I'm an alcoholic in Boston,MA. I've been looking for an online group and have found that the sharing here contains quite a bit of experience, strength, and hope. I wanted to post right away because opening up is important. I don't really have a...
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Monday--Monday
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You have to have faith that there is a reason you go through certain things. I can't say I'm glad to go through pain, but in a way one must, in order to gain courage and really feel joy."
"When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a...
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Nic
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Nic I sent you a private message
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The 12 Promises
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The Twelve Promises
If we are painstaking about this phase of our development:
1) We will be amazed before we are halfway through.
2) We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
3) We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
4) We will...
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Unconditional Love
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Love without condition
"I love you as you are, as you seek to find your own special way to relate to the world, or the way you feel that is right for you. It is important that you are the person you want to be and not someone that I or others think you should be."
Unconditional love is enlarging the self, a...
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OLD TIME AA:
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OLD TIME AA: 1. It's not old behavior if I'm still doing it. 2. If you're looking to have an image in AA, look around at the meetings you go to and take a look at whom you're trying to impress. 3. An alcoholic is a person who wants to be held while he's isolating. 4. Sobriety is the leading cause of relapse. 5...
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BB Quote
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We feel that elimination of our drinking is but a beginning. A much more important demonstration of our principles lies before us in our respective homes, occupations and affairs." ~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, There Is A Solution, pg. 19~
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Meetings in Sacramento
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I'm new to Sacramento. I've been to the Elk Grove and Land Park Meetings. I've looked on the internet and I cannot locate a meeting for today except in Elk Grove. Can anyone help me.
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Have a great Sunday!!
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How It Works
Utter confusion, misery and pain,
Humiliation, remorseful, ashamed.
Dreading to face the light of each day,
Not wanting to hear what people would say.
Like, "Where is your power? Where is your pride?"
They don't understand that deep down inside
I...
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Is This What Its Like?? Ohh Gosh!!
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Three sisters ages 72, 74, and 76 live in a house together. One night the 76 year old draws a bath. She puts her foot in and pauses. She yells down the stairs "was I getting in or out of the bath?". The 74 year old yells back "I don't know. I'll come up and see." She starts up the stairs and pauses. Then she yells...
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Allo All
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Allo folks,
I have returned from my recent reality check in civilisation and am soooo glad to be back on the farm. It really is a crazy world out there. Shared a room with a couple of great girls who were only strangers for about 3 minutes and we giggled our way through a week of workshops an...
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BB fact
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Our book is meant to be suggestive only. We realize that we only know a little. God will constantly disclose more to you and to us. Ask Him in your morning mediation what you can do each day for the man who is still sick. The answers will come if your own house is in order. But obviously you cannot transmit so...
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An article on Anger and Expectations
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Do we have a choice whether to be angry? Can we opt not to feel upset, furious, or resentful? Yes! Here’s why.
Simply put, we get angry when people, situations, and other stimuli don’t meet our expectations - our thoughts about the future, what we look forward to or wait for.
“Expectation is...
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BB Quote
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"Those of us who have spent much time in the world of spiritual make- believe have eventually seen the childishness of it. This dream world has been replaced by a great sense of purpose, accompanied by a growing consciousness of the power of God in our lives. We have come to believe He would like us to kee...
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People pleasing
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Wow, I can relate to the info on people pleasing. Thanks to whoever put it on this site. I have suffered from this dilemma for years, although I think I maybe a little better. But I can still see evidence of it in my behavior now. I do believe as I continue to work the steps it will get better. I know that guilt...
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The Fear Problem
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The Problem of Fear
Regardless of the type, size or location of their first AA meeting, newcomers face a predictable series of challenges that must be overcome in order to begin to benefit from AA. By far the greatest problem most individuals experience when beginning AA is how to deal with their fe...
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BB quote
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"Simple, but not easy; a price had to be paid. It meant destruction of self-centeredness. I must turn in all things to the Father of Light who presides over us all." ~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, Bill's Story, pg. 14~
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Step One
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Step One
"We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable." Who cares to admit complete defeat? Practically no one, of course. Every natural instinct cries out against the idea of personal powerlessness. It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we h...
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I'm Lost
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(I'm new)
Tell me what to do...
I'm in this spiral that knows no rationality.
I'm going to jail; I'm losing my family.
But yet I act like this.
Daniel
btw welcome.,
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I found the diary of my alcohlic cat
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Day 183 of My Captivity: My captors continue to taunt me with bizarre little dangling objects. They dine lavishly on fresh meat, while I am forced to eat dry cereal. The only thing that keeps me going is the hope of escape, and the mild scolding I get from ruining the occasional piece of furniture...
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Success
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The joy associated with success is a wonderful aspect of addiction recovery. Some of the success points for us that others may not understand include: - Waking up in the morning remembering what you did the night before - Getting up and not having to rush to the bathroom (and then deciding which...
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Looking in the mirror
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THE MAN IN THE GLASS
When you get what you want in your struggle for self And the world makes you king for a day, Just go to a mirror and look at yourself, And see what THAT man has to say.
For it isn't your wife or family or friend Who judgement upon you must pass; The man whose verdict counts mo...
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Have a good day!!
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A.A. Thought for the Day
When we came to our first A.A. meeting, we looked up at the wall at the end of the room and saw the sign: "But for the grace of God." We knew right then and there that we would have to call on the grace of God in order to get sober and get over our soul sickness. We heard speakers tell how...
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New member
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Hello friend's I'm Todd and I'm an Alcoholic./Just to introduce myself alittle.I was an active alcoholic for over twenty years.My road to happy destiny started on June 10th 2002.this coming June god willing I will see my 3rd year in sobriety.I'm an active AA member and am alway's willing to help wher...
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A Biggy
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Yesterday - Today - And - Tomorrow
There are two days in every week about which we should not
worry. Two days which should be kept free from fear and
apprehension.
One of these days is yesterday with its mistakes and cares,
Its faults and blunders, Its aches and pains. Yesterday
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relapse or not?
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I have a serious issue and I need some advice. Last Friday someone gave me a medication for my severe headache and neck pain. I knew enough to know it wasn't a narcotic. I took the medication. I knew I had to pee test that day. Well today I found out it was a barbituate. I had no clue and feel like a complete idi...
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just to say hi
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been reading all of the posts and as usual found out more things that i need to work on. will be traveling to Rochester NY for a funeral on my husbands side. His uncle. so i wont be around for a while. i just wanted to let you know that i hate being away from the group. i may not post b...
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The Brick
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THE BRICK
>A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street, going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something.
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>As his car passe...
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Hey Pat?
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Youre not alone my Freind.
It took me a long time to be able to comunicate feelings and emotions to those close to me. Used to think it was weak, but found out it takes strength, and honesty, and true love. Was always playing the mind games, and using masks. Didnt even know who the "H" I was.
Walking on e...
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Suffering In Silence and Sober
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Those Who Still Suffer in Silence and are Sober
I received this email today from a friend and thought you might find it thought provoking. "We don’t have to drink today to die. We buried a friend yesterday. The county coroner had published the required notices for next of kin and nobody...
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Healthy Relationships
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Healthy Relationships -- What Do They Look Like? 15 Traits of a Healthy Relationship © Nancy Wesson, Ph.D.
Partners can manage conflict and differences without despair or threats.
Both partners protect and nourish the relationship and make it a priority (not addicted to work for e...
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