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feels good to be back.....
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if there is one group of people on planet earth that u always know you'll be welcomed back with open arms its the fellowship of AA. I'm back again for my third go around at sobriety, and although it has only been 8 days without a drink or drug I already feel like a million bucks again...been a hardcore drink...
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More mouth-watering Holiday fun stuff :o)
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Happy Thanksgiving!!!!! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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Hello My Name is Danielle & I am an Alcoholic
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Hello all my Lovely Sobervibers@MIP xx Yes, my name is Danielle & I am Still an Alcoholic. I haven't shared online for ages & some of that is to do with the fact that I have been trying to devote more time to my actual Stepwork & working on me rather than just sharing with what I've got & som...
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Surrender
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Surrender means saying, "Okay, God. I'll do whatever You want." Faith in the God of our recovery means we trust that, eventually, we'll like doing that.
Today, I will surrender to my Higher Power. I'll trust that God's plan for me will be good, even if it is different than I hoped for or...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 24th Nov 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day Instead of pretending to be perfectionists, in A.A. we are content if we are making progress. The main thing is to be growing. We realize that perfectionism is only a result of false pride and an excuse to save our faces. In A.A. we are willing to make mistakes and to stumble, prov...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Universal Search
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Be quick to see where religious people are right. Make use of what they offer. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 87 I do not claim to have all the answers in spiritual matters, any more than I claim to have all the answers about alcoholism. There are others who are also engaged in a spiritual search. If I keep an op...
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13th stepping newbs...
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I know that it's frowned upon but is it really that big a deal? I mean seriously, how many random strangers did most of us bump uglies with while we were drinking? A lot! So what's so knicker twistingly wrong with two sober consenting adults making each other happy...physically. Maybe it's even a good t...
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Wow
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Went out clubbing with the girls in the city last night. Stayed sober!!! Wasn't even tempted and felt nothing but sorrow for those stumbling around and their impending hangovers and remorse. The biggest thing I walked away with is sincere gratitude for my life. I LOVE my lifestyle - it breeds sere...
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Wreckage of our past
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Hi all, Thought Id just throw this out on the table.... Taking care of my financial wreckage of the past has been truly challenging! Have slowly, but surely, taken care of some of the dumb debts I owe. My car is paid off, my dental bill that was sent to an attorney has been paid, overdrafts at the bank are ju...
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Daily Reflections ~ "Hold Your Face To The Light"
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Believe more deeply. Hold your face up to the Light, even though for the moment you do not see. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 3 One Sunday in October, during my morning meditation, I glanced out the window at the ash tree in our front yard. At once I was overwhelmed by its magnificent, golden color! As I stared in awe a...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 23rd Nov 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day I no longer refuse to do anything because I cannot do it to perfection. Many of us alcoholics use the excuse of not being able to do something perfectly to enable us to do nothing at all. We pretend to be perfectionists. We are good at telling people how a thing should be done, but wh...
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Update "getting honest"
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Happy Saturday! So, I did go to my therapist and told her everything. She was surprised but very supportive. She could not believe that I could drink an entire bottle of wine w/o anyone noticing I was intoxicated. Obviously NOT an alcoholic! Anyway, went to a meeting, picked up a white chip and shar...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 22nd Nov 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day I have got rid of most of my boredom. One of the hardest things that a new member of A.A. has to understand is how to stay sober and not be bored. Drinking was always the answer to all kinds of boring people or boring situations. But once you have taken up the interest of A.A., once you...
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Daily Reflections ~ Only Two Sins
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. . .there are only two sins; the first is to interfere with the growth of another human being, and the second is to interfere with ones own growth. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 542 Happiness is such an elusive state. How often do my prayers for others involve hidden prayers for my own agenda? How often is my...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 21st Nov 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day I no longer waste money, but try to put it to good use. Like all of us, when I was drunk, I threw money around like I really had it. It gave me a feeling of importance - a millionaire for a day. But the morning after, with an empty wallet and perhaps also some undecipherable checks, was...
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The Magic of Gratitude and Acceptance
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Gratitude and acceptance are two magic tricks available to us in recovery. No matter who we are, where we are, or what we have, gratitude and acceptance work.
We may eventually become so happy that we realize our present circumstances are good. Or we master our present circumstances and then move f...
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Hard to keep my hands off!!!!!
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Just went out and got all the ingredients for the Thanksgiving Feast next week..... I SOOOOOOOO want to pop a pan of stuffing and a pumpkin pie in the oven RIGHT NOW!!! LOL Hope everyone celebrating enjoys the holiday, sober.... and with a terrific meal and gratitude to spare.... :o)
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Allowing Ourselves to be Nurtured
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Let yourself be nurtured and loved. Let people be there for you. Allow yourself to be held when it would feel good. Let someone listen to you, support and encourage you when you need that. Receive comfort from someone's physical presence when you need that. Allow yourself to be supported emotionally...
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My Daily Cluster%#@%
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ARGH....... got stuck with this construction container here in my driveway, the buttheads who pulled down my garage did not PAY the container co. for the second one, so they did not come and get it. (It was the workers' responsibility, and included in the estimate!!). God love em'. They are in AA and we...
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Financial Fears
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I sat in the car, looking at the sign on the door of the food shelf office: "Closed until Friday." It was Wednesday. I had two hungry children and myself; I had no money.
I laid my head on the steering wheel. I couldn't take it anymore.
I had been so strong, so brave, so trusting for so long. I...
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Daily Reflections ~ Serving My Brother
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The member talks to the newcomer not in a spirit of power but in a spirit of humility and weakness. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS COMES OF AGE p. 279 As the days pass in A.A., I ask God to guide my thoughts and the words that I speak. In this labor of continuous participation in the Fellowship, I have numerous oppor...
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Living back at home
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Hi guys....and gals! After I was "found out" of being an alcoholic, I also moved back home with my dad. He wanted me to stay with him for a few weeks, just until we were sure I was not going to have seizures often. Now that I have become sober and am dealing with the real world , I have realize...
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Still sober, but marriage is no better
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Greetings! I have over six years of sobriety (except for a one time slip over a year ago), and my marriage of 15 years is just as bad and getting worse. I have a fantastic sponser, am currently on Step 8, but keep making the same mistakes with my wife. It all comes down to still being so selfish. I don't show t...
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Honesty
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Last night's book study was "Our Souther Friend" and it was GOOD. It was so candid and straight forward. I was the one to read the last few paragraphs. The last sentence is: "I learn that honesty is truth and that the truth shall set you free." My voice rang throughout the room a...
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Luck, Choices, Anger, Sobriety
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I am one of the lucky ones. Before AA, I never made more than feeble attempts to quit drinking on my own, mostly just a week or two of not drinking to recover from a particularly bad hangover, or to try and stick to a diet. There was never an intention to give up alcohol long term. And when I came to my first...
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Having trouble 'connecting' with God
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Some of you may have read my post about my marriage problems. Thnaks for all the nice replies. After talking to a friend in the program last nite, it is clear that my problem is not my wife, marriage, or anything else... my problem is my spiritual life. It just does not seem to be taking off. I keep trying to...
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SNOW and DESTRUCTION here at home
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Not THAT kind of destruction.... lol the kind where you get something torn down. An old garage at my house that was in horrible shape, they finally came today to tear the thing down. Good riddance!! What an eye sore!! Thing is, the nincompoops put the construction container on my NEIGHBOR'S LAWN!!!!!...
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What a total jerk....
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I got up to get a drink last night and the whole house had that smell like moths burning in a lamp- earlier it was the sulphur smell. I immediately knew that my Jerkwad roommate relapsed (he's not AA, is supposedly sober). He hid in his room all night (I assume), I put a chair against my door and tried to slee...
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Wants and Needs
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So many of us have been brainwashed to think that we can't have what we want in life. That is the belief of the martyr. It is born of deprivation and fear.
Identifying what we want and need, then writing it down, sets in motion a powerful chain of events. It indicates that we are taking responsibility fo...
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Daily Reflections ~ "I Was Slipping Fast"
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We A.A.s are active folk, enjoying the satisfactions of dealing with the realities of life, . . . . So it isnt surprising that we often tend to slight serious meditation and prayer as something not really necessary. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 96 I had been slipping away from the program for...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 19th Nov 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day In A.A. we do not speak much of sex. And yet putting sex in its proper place in our lives is one of the rewards that have come to us as a result of our new way of living. The Big Book says that many of us needed an overhauling there. It also says that we subjected each sex relation to this t...
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Not a rollercoaster, more like a pogo stick
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Geeesh.... one day I am abundantly blessed with energy and motivation, the next I am in a complete coma and cannot do anything but sleep (thank God I do work, or I would probably sleep 24/7 on certain days). Just really really REALLLLLYYYY sick and tired of feeling half-sick all the time in the past 6 mon...
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1 Year Today.... :o)
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Well, it is not the first time I have managed to stay sober for a Year, but this is proving to be a very special anniversary indeed. In my plight to ultra-concentrate my recovery on the "staying sober for TODAY" thing, I had forgotten about my anniversary and gone to work. I was sitting here at...
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Accepting Our Feelings
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Why do we struggle so with our feelings? Why do we work so hard to deny our emotions, especially concerning other people? They are only feelings!
In the course of a day, we may deny we feel frustrated in reaction to someone who is selling us a service.
We may deny that we feel frustrated, angry, or hur...
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Accident
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My hubby could use some prayers right this minute. And some gratitude prayers, too. He was working on a tow, and a hydraulic line blew up in his face, spraying pressurized oil into his eyes. He was temporarily blinded, and thank God there were paramedics there already working on the accident he was tow...
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Pluck Yew -- a fairy tale
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The 'Car Talk' show (on NPR) with Click and Clack, the Tappet Brothers, have a feature called the 'Puzzler'. Their most recent "Puzzler" was about the Battle of Agincourt. The French, who were overwhelmingly favored to win the battle, threatened to cut a certain body part off of all captu...
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Meditation
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I always had preconceptions of what meditation was (and wasn't) and dabbled in it for quite some time. Steps 2, 3 and of course 11 rely on a higher power and I love meditation for this. I've come to the conclusion, with much humility I might add, that having proper instruction is the way to go. For any that...
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3rd Meeting
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Today i started training for my second job. I'm bound and determined to be outta debt by next year! plus it helps give me something to do in the morning so i don't go out at night. tonight i went to my third meeting. last thursday I had gone to the same womens meeting and was met warmly. i enjoyed it entirely....
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Yourself...............................................
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Cool stuff I found in one of my online meditations for today. Think I will be answering these tonight. It is good to remind ourselves of what life and recovery teaches us. At times when I feel super-duper-pooper low, I can look and see what lessons life has granted me thus far. what have I learned from fai...
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Daily Reflections ~ Overcoming Loneliness
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Almost without exception, alcoholics are tortured by loneliness. Even before our drinking got bad and people began to cut us off, nearly all of us suffered the feeling that we didnt quite belong. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 90 The agonies and the void that I often felt inside occur less and less frequently in my...
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Im giving up on everything!
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I keep fucking up.. And Its my fault. I feel like my emotions are on a rollercoaster and Its just always depressed.. Today, I found out.. My bf is still in like with his fuckin ex.. I mean.. My x holds a place in my heart too.. But, to find pictures still like ones that parents wouldnt like to see there little...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 17th Nov 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day Everyone has two personalities, a good and a bad. We are all dual personalities to some extent. When we were drinking, the bad personality was in control. We did things when we were drunk that we would never do when we were sober. When we sober up, we are different people. Then we w...
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When do the harsh lessons end ?
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Please pray for me as I am about to do 1 of the hardest things I have ever done. Somehow when she left me, she found enough civility to leave me Buddy, or Boo as many have come to know and love. A feisty 11 year old Parson Russell Terrier, that I, and my son simply adore. With his hearing gone now, and only sligh...
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Should we go easy on the "God stuff"?
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This was on the cover of a grapevine a few years ago and the topic raged for a few months in my home group. I don't post very much, but I visit this site daily and I've noticed the god question alot lately. As a non-christian, I find it difficult when members share religious dogma in meetings. I also realize...
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should I be offended?
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I have a very good girlfriend who actually saw me thru the worst times of my drinking. She is proud of and supports my sobriety. But she does drink, and often, after going to a party or having a family event, she tells me about the drinks they had in detail- ie; "Manhatten's with sour cherries imp...
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Grief and Action
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Trust in God and do something. -- Mary Lyon
It's important to let ourselves grieve as a passage between yesterday and tomorrow. But we do not have to be controlled unduly by our grief, or our pain.
There are times when we have grieved, surrendered to the heaviness, tiredness, and weariness of a cir...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Daily Reprieve
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What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85 Maintaining my spiritual condition is like working out every day, planning for the marathon, swimming laps, jogging. Its staying in good shape spiritually, and that requ...
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The Victim Trap
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The belief that life has to be hard and difficult is the belief that makes a martyr.
We can change our negative beliefs about life, and whether we have the power to stop our pain and take care of ourselves.
We aren't helpless. We can solve our problems. We do have power - not to change or control others...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 15th Nov 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day I am less sensitive and my feelings are less easily hurt. I no longer take myself so seriously. It didn't used to take much to insult me, to feel that I had been slighted or left on the outside. What happens to me now is not so important. One cause of our drinking was that we couldn't t...
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Benefits of Recovery
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There are two benefits from recovery: we have short-term gains and long-term gains.
The short-term gains are the things we can do today that help us feel better immediately.
We can wake up in the morning, read for a few minutes in our meditation book, and feel lifted. We can work a Step and often not...
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