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Gentelness
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Hello, Woke up this morning and was greeted with an act of gentelness. Actually took me by surprise. For me learning to accept gentelness has been a wonderfully frightening experience. Feeling gentle was not something I learned as a child, and I most certainally did not cultivate that emotion...
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Toad
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What MORE can you do now, by being sober?
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Hi all - This is my second post on the discussion board, and my 4th day of being booze-free. Today was a first, in a long time, for me - i made Friday night plans that do NOT include alcohol....and to be honest?....I'm looking forward to it - though it will be a struggle if/when the booze does present itsel...
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Paradox
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Greetings, Hope this note finds you REASONABLY well. Was interesting for me to experience the paradox of dying to live, losing to win, giving away in order to keep. A sufficient bottom seemed to create a willingness to give that strange concept a honest try. Really glad I did. ...
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Toad
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Can we talk about me?
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Hey all, My training is finished and all the hard work was worthwhile. I appreciate the prayers and confidence. Ask and ye shall recieve. It was funny that this year I really did not do a "self test" (how I describe the temptation to drink) until after the training and I loosened up the nex...
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turninggrey
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Daily Reflections ~ Morning Thoughts & 24hrs a Day
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MORNING THOUGHTS Ask Him in your morning meditation what you can do each day for the man who is still sick. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 164 For many years I pondered over God's will for me, believing that perhaps a great destiny had been ordained for my life. After all, having been born into a specific fait...
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Back to meetings
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Oh my word, how great I have felt these past few days. I actually got to go to two of my home group morning meetings and was thrilled to see everyone as they were thrilled to see me. I really missed them! It's funny the bond you form in the beginning with a group of strangers and as time fly's by how they seem...
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Sacrifice
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Need help, traveling again, new at this
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I hit my first meeting 9 days ago after bottoming out finally after many many years of horrible things happening. That's not what I am writing about today though. I got my first 24 hour chip at the 2nd meeting. I travel on business and just embarked on another long business trip where most of the reall...
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Question on Holiday Etiquette and the Substance Abuser
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(Note, this was also cross-posted on the Al-Anon board but I wanted the input from AA members as well, many thanks) Hi there, What is the etiquette when an extended family member brings a sig other who abuses alcohol to a holiday meal where alcohol will be served? My daughter's husband's brother's gf h...
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Ambercastaway
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Hi from a Newcomer needing a bit of Mental support
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Hi All and I am brand new to this forum , I feel I need a bit more support as I am having real problems with my head at the moment with very worrying mood swings , I am totally committed to staying sober although it has only been nearly 5 months since I had my last drink and although I have tried before to give up i...
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moocher
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Finished step 4, and looking forward to 5
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Well, after about 5 weeks I feel I've done a very fearless and searching inventory the way the BB says it should be done. I'm amazed at how many things from my past I buried in places I forgot were there. It was a humbling experience to say the least, but I almost feel like all those "dark icky places...
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Reffner
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Ditto to what Joni wrote,
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Hi Everyone, Have been reading every morning, and then getting off computer, having some major health issues, and just one day at a time, slowly this is getting better. Missing all of you, and welcome to all the new people, so happy you have all joined this Site, it is where you can come in and trust that...
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Just Toni
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Pick up a hobby instead of a drink
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Does anyone have a hobby that helped them through the early days of recovery, or discovered a hobby that helps them stay sober?
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jrzboy
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clarity
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clarity if ya got one foot in the past and the other in the future...i guarentee ya, your gonna piss all over today! which, by the way, is exactly what im doing....over and over and over and over....like the ferris wheel...........geezeeeeeeeeee my son is almost 25.....next month.....alchie, drug...
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debbi
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New to the forum
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Hi everyone, my name is Jeff. I've been sober since 8/1/07. I do have a few questions for anyone willing to answer. 1. I am an Atheist. As you can imagine, the spiritual side of AA is a major obstacle for me. Are there any other members on this forum that are not believers? 2. My sobriety has been going on...
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jrzboy
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smoking and alcoholism
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Been hit hard with all day alcohol cravings last couple of days. That coupled with a negative mood and a bout of low self-esteem have me scared. I am beginning to smoke noticibly more than even last month. As I'm doing it, I sometimes feel I'm substituting the desire to end discomfort with alcohol with...
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angelov8
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But a Symptom
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Greetings, "We think drinking is but a symptom". It has not been all that easy for this alky to see that booze and dope was only ten percent of my problem. The longer I am clean and sober it seems like the more Subtle Symptoms start creeping around my space. Great News is that if my "Bo...
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Toad
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learning/Wanda says hello!!
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Wanda/learning just left a quick message saying that her computer is down and needs work, but that she is doing very well, and she is sending hugs. :o)
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jonijoni1
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You just GOTTA see this!!!
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1dQCqXao3Eo
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Avril G
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My Two Cents Worth
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Hi...I'm LeeU & new 2 this board, Not new to AA. I'm (getting to be) an "old timer" with stunted maturity LOL! I'm also a "loner" & don't do tons of live mtgs. anymore, so cyber sobriety really floats my boat and keeps me in balance with my program. DOS 4/6/83. Glad to b...
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Self Acceptance
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Hello, Woke up this morning and realized I was all that I had. The good, the bad, the ugly , the beautiful, the sad. God did not make a mistake when he made me. Toad
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What did you get out of rehab?
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http://alcoholism.about.com/u/sty/pro/rehab_lessons/
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None
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Good Day, Just to say greetings. Toad
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People Meeting People
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This place is filling up now, the convention will begin tomorrow sometime in the afternoon. Danielle and I have finally met, and she and her partner Carl are lovely young people. It's amazing that everywhere you look there are people chatting one to one, people who would normally never ever meet in...
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Seriously need some advice & POV's
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Hi all, Serious issue for me here. I've got a great sponsor. I've also got depression and anxiety that I've been getting treated for years. Re-uptake inhibitors have worked well in controlling rage outbursts, panic attacks and suicidal urges. AA and being free of additional mood-altering chemi...
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People Pleasing
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Would it be a surprise that for this alcoholic who is a therapist and has never gone 6 months in adulthood without being in some kind of relationship, that I have some serious people pleasing and codependency issues? I knew coming into AA that codependency was the most major thing feuling my alcoholi...
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Hello all, new to the board
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Hi everyone, After years of problems, I'm trying to take a stand against what I sometimes believe to be stronger than myself. Probably no secret that it's my drinking. I'm probably alot further along than most who seek help, but my assumption that I can do it on my own has lead me back every time. 33 years...
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Aprilia
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I appreciate the prayers!
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Hey All, A while back I asked for prayers to help with the prep work for my annual testing situation. The prayers really helped and I feel ready for my first day (of three) of testing. I'll keep you posted on the results, but the preparation work you helped me with really helped reduce the stress and all...
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So...I'm a little new...should I even be here?
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Hi everyone, This is the first time I've really actually signed up for a message board like this and posted, on my own. I've been thinking, for the last few months, that a board like this might actually encourage me to face what has seemingly haunted me for just about a year now as well as to reassure me tha...
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God Doing For Us What We Can't Do For Ourselves
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Had a great God moment today, something that I could never have done before I went into the programme, ever. A person that I manage made some errors, and I didn't necessarily realize how serious they potentially were until my boss commented upon the issue hypothetically in the afternoon. Long story s...
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SteveP
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Goodbye for now
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Just got in from a meeting, and just having a quick security check around the house then we will sleep in front of the TV until 3am, when we will set out for Manchester airport and on to Malta. Looking forward to meeting up with Daniella on Monday (heehee, I get a head start on you with the tan hopefully swee...
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Avril G
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Darned Technology!
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So, our home PC is sick. Maybe dead, I dunno. My participation will be sporadic and brief until I get it fixed and/or replaced. I'll stop in from work when I can! Peace, Rob
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Keeping it Simple
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Greetings, Read the new post this morning. A couple FELT very confusing. I am a real alcoholic. The Blue Book describes what that really means. I also am an addict. What the Blue Book says about alcoholics applies to my other addictions also. I know when I am looking for an easier softer way and wh...
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NEW TO THE FORUM
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NEW TO THE FORUM A FRIEND SEND ME THIS LINK... I BEEN DRINKING SINCE I WAS 13 YEARS OLD I AM NOW 24... LAST YEAR I QUIT FOR A FULL YEAR BECAUSE MY MOM HAD A STROKE AND I PROMISE I WOULDNT ... AFTER A YEAR PASSED I STARTED DRINKING AGAIN AND I GOT A LOT OF CRAZY STORY'S I REGRET ... I AM TRYING TO STOP BUT ITS REALLY HA...
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Continuing 12th step...
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Aloha Family...I took and followed thru on a "community" 12step this morning with the local Liquor Commission. They are not aware of any class of person I am including recovering alcoholic or member of any recovering group. I do it because of all of the experiences and awareness I have b...
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Ridin'the WindS
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Howdy, Glad to hear Aquaman lived to share again. I get to ride the emotional turmoil winds once again. Never is fun. The good news is that a bit of sober time helps cause I can remember I made it through the last storm clean and sober. Very Grateful the program is stronger and wiser than my storms. ...
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Day 1...again.
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Building resentment and anger. After all that hooey about a sober fishing trip I bought three singles at the bait shop. This wasn't an accident. It took several muscle-groups and a conscious decision to open that cooler door. I didn't want to call anyone on my phone list, I didn't want to call my spon...
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Telling my story at inpatient rehab
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In 2 days I will tell my story at an inpatient rehab. I have always be told that I am not to say "No" to service and it is a privilege to be asked to tell my story. I do believe it is a privilege. Nonetheless, I am a bit scared because of 2 main recurrent fear based thoughts. 1. The last time I went...
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God Damn It.
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(Opening words chosen very carefully.) Ok, so I've been sober 8 1/2 months now. I'm working with a sponsor who has been sober 10 years. I was raised Catholic but no longer consider myself to be one - the thought of organized religion still fills me with revulsion and particularly the use of the phrase...
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New to the forum
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Hello everybody, I am a 28 year old male from England and have seriously struggled with alcohol since my early 20's, however since I was made redundant in August things have taken the turn for the worst and have started drinking every day usually into oblivion. Today however I have had enough of this...
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aarona
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Sponsee stuff again
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I posted a few weeks ago about a new-ish sponsee I have who is dragging her feet about doing any work. Im starting to think she asked me to be her sponsor so she could satisfy her rehab counsellor. Ive pretty much had it with the drama phone calls, and her unwillingness to take suggestions. I want to.........
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Back in the saddle again!
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Batman Begins - Bruce Wayne's Dad (or Alfred, I can't recall) "Why do we fall down, Bruce? So we can learn how to get back up again." I'm better for the experience. Didn't spiral. Now I know - gotta work that program hard without fail. No lapses. No renting any headspace to anger. God will step...
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Aquaman
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Just for today
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Howdy, Just for today I need to let go and let God. Hold on to the program and allow life to unfold. This to shall pass. Toad
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Daily Reflections ~ Focusing & Listening + 24hrs a Day
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There is a direct linkage among self-examination, meditation, and prayer. Taken separately, these practices can bring much relief and benefit. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 98 If I do my self-examination first, then surely, I'll have enough humility to pray and meditate - because I'll s...
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Really new and have lots of frustration and questions
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Well, I will start by saying that I am a hopeless alcoholic. I can't tell you all how much I have appreciated reading your HOPEFUL posts. It can be done, can't it? I don't understand how I wake up bound and determined to get through the day living in God's will, then end up with a bottle in my hand. I hav...
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Can I hold onto a lie until a suitable time?
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Hear me out...Ive been sober for 5 days. Ive been speaking with my sponsor over the last week. He finally has time to meet with me tomorrow evening to read some BB and talk. This is what I want, to start the program over again. Thing is, I've been through some relapses with him and have false-started sever...
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Good Morning.
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Hope this note finds you reasonably well. Talked with a fellow trudgger last night. He will celebrate 29 Years this coming Saturday. We spoke of reasonableness. Not the giant of our dreams nor the dwarf of our fears. Simply a part of the whole. As I read some new posts I felt the pain of early recover...
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Toad
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so this may be a touchy one... but..
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I appreciate all the feed back from the first post i made, went better than i had really expected it to, but I feel i need to point out something about my self and see what anyone might think.. I noticed alot of people have turned to god to help them through addiction.. well I am a firm believer that there is n...
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Crappy Halloween
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WARNING - NOT a flowers and butterflies share. Last night while the rest of the family went to an annual Halloween pot-luck & family social that I always LOVE going to. There's a poetry slam & I'm the reighning champion. Until last night. Wife & I had a wee tiff and my headspace was in the neg...
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Aquaman
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Daily Reflections ~ Keeping Optimism Afloat & 24hrs a Day
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The other Steps can keep most of us sober and somehow functioning. But Step Eleven can keep us growing. . . . THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART, p. 240 A sober alcoholic finds it much easier to be optimistic about life. Optimism is the natural result of my finding myself gradually able to make the best, rather tha...
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"In all our affairs"
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....."tried to practice these principals in all our affairs" Wooooohoooooo........thats a toughie today! People drive me crazy you know! The committee of idiots that lives in my head gets very judgemental about others. I caught myself thinking of others as "stupid" and &q...
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