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Male/Female Sponsorship - Please ??
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Hi, I am first time sponsoring somebody. I am a female he is male. When he asked me to sponsor him I did talk to my sponsor about it because of the obvious fact that he is male. Justification here and why we agreed that I would take on the role of being his sponsor is because I thought he is gay. I thought this, s...
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A "Real" Alcoholic.... Question
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I have heard people before they share introduce themselves as "I am (name) and I am a real alcoholic". Just curious as to why some do this. I have noticed that when some say this, emphasis is placed on the word "real" as if to distinguish themselves from others. I was under the impr...
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Today's Gift 8/17
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That's what happens when you're angry at people. You make them part of your life. --Garrison KeillorOur problems with anger and our problems in relationships go hand in hand. Some of us have held back our anger, which led to resentment of our loved ones. Some of us have indulged our anger and become abu...
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Wisdom of the Rooms
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August 17, 2015Quote of the Week"I don't have a rewind button in my life, but I do have a pause..." I can't tell you how many times - usually when I'm really mad or hurt - I've said or done things that I've later regretted. But in the heat of the moment when I felt I needed to defend, attack, or ju...
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Happy 80th Birthday To You...
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Happy birthday to you Happy birthday to you-oo Happy birthday to you On this day in 1935, Dr. Bob Smith, recovering from his last bender, said "I'm going to do what it takes to get sober and stay that way." This date is generally regarded as the founding date of Alcoholics Anonymous.
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Went to the bar last night
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so, I'm sitting at home, playing my guitar, and my next door neighbor comes over. Drunk. "Steve, come on, hop on my 4 wheeler, let's go down the road to the bar." I figured I haven't been out in awhile, so, why not. I sez, "I ain't riding on that thing with you. Yer drunk. I'll drive the ca...
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Taking a Break
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I was curious about a couple of folks who no longer are on this board. I was saddened to see they either deleted their acct. or haven't posted in a long time. I hope the folks I looked up are still sober. It would be great for them to come back and say all is well with them. The boards I am on are like meetings for...
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Today's Gift 8/16
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Imagine living in your head, untrue to your heart. Imagine the pain of separation. Imagine the depth of the longing for peace. --G. CarolBefore finding recovery as a way of life, many of us barely hung on from one pain-filled moment to another. We incessantly tried to figure out what was wrong with our...
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Next Time You Cry....
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There is a sacredness in tears. They are not a mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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Home F2F
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Got this card at my "Home Group" for my 29th Sober anniversary. Yes folks Aug 11 , I was 29 yrs sober . 1 Day at a time . Thanks to my F2F Groups. More importantly . Thank You . my MiP Group . As I check this out Everyday. whereas I can only do 2 to maybe 3 meetings a week.
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Today's Gift 8/14
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Stop expecting too much from yourself. --AnonymousWhen there is too wide a gap between standards we set for ourselves and our actual achievement, unhappiness follows. If we can't improve the performance, we should lower the demands. When we are true to ourselves, we come to expect only that which w...
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102 Guests on Here!!! Oh My Gosh!
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Registered Members: 6,695 Topics: 22,366 Total Posts: 142,334 There are currently member(s) and 102 guest(s) online. 743 user(s) visited this forum in the past 24 hours The most users ever online at once was 16 member(s) and 185 guest(s) at 7:01am Sep 07, 2010 (Date 8/14/2015 11:58 a.m. ES...
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Melodie Beattie Excerpt on Guilt (The Language of Letting Go)
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The following excerpt is from Melodie Beattie's: Theres a good trick that people in dysfunctional relationships use, said one recovering woman. The other person does something inappropriate or wrong, then stands there until you feel guilty and end up apologizing. Its imperative that we stop fee...
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Not dead yet
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I've been absent way too long and missed this board and everyone on it.then keeping everyone here in my prayers and thoughts every day. The new home is coming along nicely and all the work is good therapy for me. I've had more drama than I care to type out (and more than anyone wants to read haha), but the hi...
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printed 'sloppy joe'
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Here is a printed "Serenity Prayer" on a 'sloppy joe' that I did many yrs ago. yep still fits . yep , still wear it. We can be creative "little vegemites"
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Today's Gift 8/13
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Daily our spirits are renewed.For most of us, a spiritual awakening does not come once and for all. Instead, we have small flashes of insight here and there, and every once in a while we look back and realize with gratitude how the promises of the program have been coming true for us.Just as our bodies ne...
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Wisdom of the Rooms
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August 3, 2015Quote of the Week"It all works out in the end...if it hasn't worked out yet, it's not the end." This is one of the truest quotes I've heard yet. I can't tell you how many times I've stressed and worried about something I was sure wasn't going to work out, only to eventually real...
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Today's Gift 8/12
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Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. --Step Three of Alcoholics AnonymousLet's cut right to the heart of the matter: We get in trouble if we try to run our own lives. Our ego starts to mess things up. We try to control things we can't control. We think we a...
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Baba Louieeeeee?????
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You okay? Have missed you on the board.
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How by Today's Standards We Can Lose Sight of God
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WHY WE CAN LOSE SIGHT OF GOD An affluent woman dressed in a tailored white linen dress (from the flax plant) a pair of leather Jimmy Choos (animal) a leather Louis Vuitton Purse (Animal) is meeting her husband at Daniel an affluent French Park Ave RestaurantFirst course shrimp cocktail (animal)may...
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prayer for gonee and family
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If only I got to know you one moment... it would be worth it. Sending you love for tough times that bring us closer and build love stronger. Xxxxhugsxxx xxxox peace be with you my friend.
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Come in , Hang on
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Bob Earl
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This is my first time coming to this site, I just wanted to thank Bob Earl. about 17 years ago, I heard a tape that one of my family members had, I could relate to his words so much. I had forgotten about that tape until yesterday. I had the "vulture on my headboard", and could not make it shut up!...
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@ this time
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29yrs ago at this time . I was having my last drinks . Just been to a F2F meeting , BBS . It was a great topic too . How ironic though , crossed th bridge leading out of town . Got pulled up for a Random breath test . "Have you had any alcoholic drinks today sir" . "No , I don't drink , in fact I have j...
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If You Want What We Have......
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I have often gone to meetings and seen folks with lots of sobriety time and they looked absolutely miserable. Some would share, some would be quiet. I looked for happy people in the meetings....watched what they did, listened to what they said. I wanted what they had. I listen to "I" inste...
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Once upon a time in 1989
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BTGOG I had my last drink tonight
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Higher Power Non Believers and Patience
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So I have been having coffee with another AA'er for quite a while. I am a Christian. She is a non believer. Our get togethers have been fine under the condition I let her talk on and on about her not believing in God--or a Higher Power-- and how she thinks AA is brainwashing others with their "religio...
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Stolen car
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I went down to the garage in my condo building this morning to drive to my regular Saturday morning meeting and discovered that my car had been stolen. Dang it. This is now the second time this has happened in 18 months. It happens to be a very popular car for car thieves because it's easy to steal. So I've...
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Just saying hi.
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You are always in my prayerful thoughts. Thanks for always posting and keeping this forum alive. I dip in here most days just to read your thoughts. It's like being at a meeting.
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Prayer for Pappy.
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As many of you might know that Pappy is not well. Let's keep him in our prayer and ask God to heal him of all his health issues.
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Every morning I wake up....
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I have been through the sink-hole of life for the past 4.5 years. Because of my health and a failed marriage with three children. I turned to drinking 2 years ago and went to meetings and was able to stop. Or so i thought. 6 months ago, it was one beer with dinner and 1 or 2 rowdy nights at bowling. Now I can't e...
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Watchdog on my A**
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I had a close call last night. I got upset at something someone said and did. Didn't see it coming and my guard was down. Self pity started in....got a bit resentment for this and that....more self pity...and bam, next thing I know I was thinking about taking a walk to the nearest "wasted" rec...
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Step Two
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"Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity" By the time I got sober I had lost just about all the faith I had in the God of my understanding (who is God, btw). I prayed along with the folks in the rooms of the AA meetings anyway. I noticed something pretty wei...
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Coming back home after a LONG Relapse
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Hello everybody: This is humbling to me to share this. I want to come back to the program after a long and embarrassing relapse (I mean, something like 7 1/2 years). I once had long term sobriety, over 20 years. Violated "h.a.l.t." and "to thine own self be true." What I mean on th...
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Step One
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Step One "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable." ----------------------------- I thought I could handle the alcohol until the amount got to be so much then I started to wonder. Didn't stop me from drinking though. Then I wasn't able to work...
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Triple A meeting becoming very popular
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6 months ago a triple A meeting started All Addictons Anonymous, some were sceptical some still are but I find that so many of my AA friends have other addictions they would like to talk about and,hear themselves work out. we know that alcohol is just a symptom of our illness and this is somewhere that gi...
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tired of drinking
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Just joined AA. Tired of drinking every day. I am 55 years old and have been drinking every day since I was 21. I Had a horrible upbringing, 9 kids growing up in a 3 room house very poor and super abusive father and uninvolved cold mother. I am one of those guys who always shows up for work early, but hides...
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Darn Miserable Nasty Yucky
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...alcohol. I had to decline an offer to go on a trip for several days. I could easily cop a resentment. Beautiful Smokey Mountains, Native American crafts...darn! All but one person who we would be visiting are drinkers. Not alcoholics like I am. Just those damned irritating "normal" dr...
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Advantages of drinking
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Below, I am going to list the advantages of drinking. Feel free to add to my list. .
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Can someone please show me in the orginal literature where it talks about "sponsors"?
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Good luck finding it because it isn't there. So why does the modern day AA program place so much emphasis on it? As if the end all be all, only path to sobriety is getting a sponsor and following his/her orders. Personally I think it's a mistake and the dwindling success rate of todays AA compared to the ea...
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Today's Gift 7/29
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I am still amazed, after years of recovering, at how easily I can begin to talk myself out of attending meetings. I am also still amazed at how good I feel when I go. --AnonymousWe don't have to stay stuck in our misery and discomfort. An immediate option is available that will help us feel better: go to a m...
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Literature....
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I'm big on it and into my second reading of PASS IT ON Bill. W and the AA message. This is a very good read. Give it a try. You can get the book at your AA Central Office or maybe your sponsor has it. From Page 102; "Bill listened entranced, as Silkworth explained his theory. For the first time in...
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I need to cut down
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Wisdom of the Rooms
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July 27, 2015Quote of the Week"Anxiety is the difference between now and then." Before recovery, I had a hard time staying in the present. Without permission my mind would race into the future where it was quickly mired in anxiety and the dread of "What's going to happen then?&q...
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I'm not sure how I should feel about my behavior
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I like to drink a 40oz after work almost everyday. It doesn't affect my life in a negative way. I probably do it 4 times a week after work before bed. My friendships are fine. But I do alternate 7elevens because I don't want them thinking I drink a lot. So in a way I'm sort of self conscious about it. I haven't...
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Tons of New AA Speakers!
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We've added a ton of new AA speakers to our channel lately. Check them out here https://www.youtube.com/user/WeDoRecover12
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Today's Gift 7/25
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But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? --Albert CamusSometimes, we say we're getting our lives together. Together with what? With our selves. The Twelve Steps help us clean up the mess we've made. We're fixing our mistakes. We're looking at ourselves clo...
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Forcing prayer?
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My wife got out of recovery about 70 days ago. Both my wife and I are atheists. She has been dealing with how much religion there is in the AA meetings but she admits, other than that aspect, she has gotten a lot out of the meetings and is very proud of herself being 70 days clean. About 2 weeks ago she got a spo...
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Looking for help/advice and an interventionist in the NJ area
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Hello everyone,My wife who previously had an addiction problem before we met and went through the program to get clean 15 years ago started drinking a few years ago. It has slowly progressed into a serious problem and I am pretty new to understanding this and trying to get her help.With some help from h...
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Today's Gift 7/23
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Worry is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained. --Arthur Somers RocheA trickle of water that drains down the side of a hill poses no problem to the hill, its vegetation, or the people living in the valley. But if that t...
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