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A Key Word in Communication - Courtesy
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Five Guides to Communication
(Adapted from "The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage", Page 30-32)
Discuss don't attack
Keep the voice low and pleasant
Stick to the subject
Listen to his/her complaints
Don't make demands
A Key Word in Communication - Courtesy
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OLD TIMER'S PRAYER
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OLD TIMER'S PRAYER
Lord, keep me from the habit of thinking I must say something on every subject and on every occasion. Release me from the craving to straighten out everybody's affairs. Keep my mind free from the recital of endless details - give me wings to get to the point. I a...
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A warm Welcome to pjb235
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Hey Pat? welcome to the board> Weve gotta lot of caring, warm freinds that share
in here. Feel free to share with all of us, at any time, and again> Welcome to our AA family.
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The 12 promises for Beginners
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THE TWELVE PROMISES FOR BEGINNERS
1. YOU WILL KNOW YOUR FULL NAME AND ADDRESS.
2. YOU WILL BE ABLE TO SHAVE YOURSELF.
3. YOU WILL BE ABLE TO DRESS AND UNDRESS YOURSELF.
4. YOU WILL KNOW THE TOWN, STATE AND COUNTRY YOU ARE IN.
5. YOU WILL BE ABLE TO FIND SOCKS THAT MATCH.
6. YOU WIL...
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Thanks Phil
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Thanks, I always feel I am at crossroads, or forks in the road (in life or throughout our marriage). Man, left or right, shoulda, coulda, woulda. Looking back,did I let something get away, or did I let the right things go, and I'll be OK.
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The Enemy--Resentment
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What is resentment?
Resentment is the:
harboring of animosity against a person or group of people whom I feel has mistreated me.
unresolved anger I have over a negative event which occurred in my past life.
seething, aching emotional turmoil I feel whenever a certain person or event...
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Is Not Drinking Not Enough?
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After a meeting tonight, someone asked if I had a sponsor and had started "the Programme".
I answered that, as I had given up drinking I did not see the need to do so. I added that I was put off the "Steps" by the references to god and I did not see how I could do 12 steps if the first one did not make any sense...
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To Wall
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Regret Quotes
The bittersweet tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone.
Lost time is like a run in a stocking, it always gets worse.
The biggest regrets in life are the chances you never take.
I would trade ten thousand tomorrows for just one single yes...
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Anger Management In Sobriety
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ANGER MANAGEMENT IN SOBRIETY
Thomas P. Hollander, Ph.D.
Angry feelings is one of the greatest challenges for recovering alcoholics and addicts. Relapse is often related to the inability to constructively handle anger. Mismanged anger poses a threat to recovery for the newcomer and the ol...
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Adult ADHD
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Not to overwhelm anyone, but my spouse is an alcoholic with Attention Deficit Disorder running in his family. I particularly found this website helpful: www.help4adhd.org Click on living with ADHD. Also CHADD has a website, too.
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just puttering
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Courage is fear that has said its prayers.
--Dorothy Bernard
All things come to him who waits -- provided he knows what he is waiting for.
--Woodrow Wilson
Courage is more than standing for a firm conviction. It includes the risk of questioning that conviction.
--Julian Weber Go...
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Sharing An Article On Depression
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Why Depression Is So Difficult
For Some People To Shake Off
Someone who is "down in the dumps" or feeling "blue" might welcome and be cheered by a kind word. Someone with clinical depression, however, not only might not welcome such a gesture, but might prefer to hear something negative. That'...
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holding your own
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Holding Your Own
Trust yourself. Trust what you know.
Sometimes, it is hard to stand in our own truth & trust what we know, especially when others would try to convince us otherwise.
In these cases, others may be dealing with issues of gui...
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Ouch!!
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Often you'll hear 12 Steppers make a statement like 'don't get angry, you'll slip.' If there's someone around with some time they may point out that resentment, not anger is the real threat to continuous abstaining.
The differences between the two are important.
Anger is defined as 'a stro...
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Have a good day :)
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A.A. Thought for the Day
When we were drinking, we were living an unnatural life physically and mentally. We were punishing our bodies by loading them with alcohol. We didn't eat enough and we ate the wrong things. We didn't get enough sleep or the right kind of rest. We were ruining ourselves phys...
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RIGHT WHERE I'M SUPPOSED TO BE
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THANKS FOR COMING TO GET ME:) . I'VE BEEN HAVING A PROB WITH MY P.C I'VE STARTED CALLING IT APOLLO 13. I WAN'T TO SAY HELLO TO EVERYONE. MY NAME IS CHRIS AND I'M A GRATEFUL DRUNK:) I HAVE NO IDEA HOW I FOUND THIS SITE OR, WHEN I SIGNED IN. I GOT THIS P.C FROM A NICE GUIY IN OREGON THAT REPAIRS PUTERS AND HE S...
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I think DW Fell In.... : ) (tease)
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Just had to get this one in.....say...Miss the Young Gal.  Hoping she will be back soon.
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From The Language Of Letting Go
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Emotional Balance
The goal of recovery is balance - that precious middle ground.
Many of us have gone from one extreme to another: years of taking care of everyone but ourselves, followed by a time of refusing to focus on anyone's needs but our own.
We may have spent years refusing to id...
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Finally made it
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Hi All - any chance of anyone popping in on the online meetings over the next few weeks? It might be good to get these happening... in the interests of those who pop into the board and are maybe hesitant or considering their first f2f meeting.
Also those who live too far from those meetings, and&...
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A Really BIG page on ANGER
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THE FOUR FACES of ANGER
by Mark Gorkin, LICSW
What's the first thought that comes to mind when you hear the word ANGER? Frustration? Yelling? Loss of Control? Violence? Maybe fear, silence or avoidance? All reasonable responses...Or are they? A bit one-sided, for my taste, that is, the "ange...
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Honesty In Recovery
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Good Evening My Friends
When i entered into this program i thought of myself as an honest person but something happened today that made me rethink that. i allmost found myself slipping back into an old pattern. today a friend of mine asked me if i had ever stolen anything in my addiction? i was surpriz...
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Thank you to each and everyone
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My Dear Friends,
Thank you for being here when I needed you most! I was very much in shock, devastated and at a loss of self. Thank you for giving me a shove in the right direction when I hesitated. Thank you for giving me hope. Thank you for bringing peace to my heart and for all the wonderfu...
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Hi Phil...
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I like that, just when I think I understand everything, I regain consciousness. I don't know, having a rough time, maybe the sun needs to come back out, or I need to find that shut-off valve for the Heart. duh! Head has it, not the heart yet. doy, feel stupid. The...
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For some of us older folks
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Reason to smile:
Every Seven minutes of every day, some one in an aerobics class, pulls a hamstring.
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They keep telling us to get in touch with our bodies.
Mine isnt always that comunicative.
But I heard from it the other day
When I said
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a teen in need of help
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I dont know who else to turn to at the moment. I am 17 years old and have a problem with drink. I drink when im sad I drink when Im happy i make excuses to drink. When I have had a bad day I go home and reach for the nearest bottle and dont stop til I feel better again. My family have noticed it and I have pushed them a...
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World Time Clock
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http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/
For those like me... who just can't seem to get the whole international time thing sorted... A friend has just sent the answer to my prayers.
Hope others find it useful.
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Death due to this damn disease!
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Hi Everyone
I am having big time troubles today!!!!! I feel I need to write, scream something other than picking up a damn drink!!!!!!!!!!! I had yet again another Uncle die, that's two within three months,had to also grieve over a friend who committed suicide this time last year. Phil, as you know I...
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Todays Stuff
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A.A. Thought for the Day
"We cannot get along without prayer and meditation. On awakening, let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We consider our plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking. Our thoughts lives will be placed on a much higher plane when we start the...
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Goodmoring...
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Well, good Monday morning all.Just finished my first cup of tea and need to get going for the day. Just want to share a little of my weekend. I was ask a few weeks ago to start a recovery program at my church, so I did ,we use the Alcoholics for Christ program, anyone heard of it? Anyway, we have had some good m...
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Prayer And Medatation
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Good Afternoon My Friends
For a very longtime now i have struggled with prayer and medatation whenever i start to pray i get a 101 thoughts that start running through my head and they are at lighting speed. i pray for there removal they go away for a minute or two but then as soon as i start to pray again th...
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The Meeting From Here
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Good Afternoon My Friends
Last night i went to the online meeting that is on this website the one for Tuesday and Saturday nights at 9pm. it could really use some support there was only two people there last night it was a great meeting but it could really use some of our help i remember my sponsor...
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Bizarre Thoughts And Feelings
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Life gives us so much time to collect bizarre thoughts and feelings. -
-Claire Weekes
As we go through life, we run into all kinds of negative messages: teasing on the school bus, insulting nicknames, and other put-downs. Pretty soon we may discover that some of these messages stick in our mind...
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First meeting
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Well I finally went tonight. My husband went with me to the open meeting. It was ok. I wasn't crazy how they went around the room and I had to at least introduce myself. I would have liked to have just sat in the back and listened but there was no "back". It was set up with tables set in a U shape so people were in...
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Dealing With Anger
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Angry feelings is one of the greatest challenges for recovering alcoholics and addicts. Relapse is often related to the inability to constructively handle anger. Mismanged anger poses a threat to recovery for the newcomer and the oldtimer. Sometimes the greatest threat is to relationships.
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TO SERENITY & SCHLEICH...
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I want to welcome you both and I hope you'll keep coming back often... the more you share and get feedback, the better you get to know who and what you're all about. Going to lots of face-to-face AA meetings speeds up the process.
I came into AA thinking I was St. Alice, the sacrificial martyr.... you kn...
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learned living
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"Don't let your worries get the best of you. Remember, Moses started out as a basket case" Some people are kind, polite, and sweet-spirited - until you try to sit in their pews. Many folks want to serve God, but only as advisers . It is easier to preach ten sermons than it is to l...
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a few quotes
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~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*Come*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ "You were born with potential. You were born with goodness and truth. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness. You were born with wings. You're not meant for crawling, so don't. You have wings. Learn to use them and fly." by Rumi...
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Self-Righteous Anger
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Good Afternoon My Friends,,,, This passage is taken from Step Six in our AA 12 And 12, Self righteous anger can also be very enjoyable in a preverse way we can actually take satisfaction from the fact that many people annoy us for it brings a comfortable feeling of superority. gossip barbed with our ang...
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Vulnerability
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Vulnerability
Some of us may have made a decision that no one was ever going to hurt us again. We may automatically go on "feelings freeze mode" when faced with emotional pain. Or, we may terminate a relationship the first time we feel hurt. Hurt feelings are a part of life, relationships, and reco...
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A little inspiration
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Hi all,
As some of you know I live on a farm in outback Australia. Some days I wake up wondering what on earth the next mountain will be I will have to climb, and ALWAYS ALWAYS think respectfully of those who have gone before us, and built the roads I ride on, and the lil towns I go to get supplies from etc. Ou...
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Self Esteem, Self Love, and Self Centeredness
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by Nancy Poitou, M.A., M.F.T.
I have been asked often about what is self-esteem, self-love and self-centeredness. These are very good questions and it is a fine line that separates these concepts.
Self esteem means to hold oneself in high esteem, feeling worthy of a good life and good tre...
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More On Step Six
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Good Evening My Friends, These are todays questions from Step Six and my answers to them i hope no one minds that i am shareing this way???
Step 6 - I become entirely ready to have God remove all of these defects of character
Describe the kind of activities that you really enjoy (NOT) your addictiv...
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5 Lessons
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Five (5) lessons to make you think about the way we treat people.
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>1. - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady.
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>During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one:
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Will Power--vroom!!
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WILL POWER = Our WILL-ingness to use a Higher POWER.
--Anonymous
One of the greatest decisions any of us ever made concerned our Third Step. This decision seemed to go against everything we wanted to do. We all know so well that every time we tried to manage our own lives, we produced misery and...
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I need help.:)
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A blind man walks into a bar,
grabs his dog by its hind legs,
and swings him around in a circle.
The bartender says,
"Hey buddy, what are you doing?"
And the blind man says,
"Don't mind me,
I'm just looking around
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Understanding
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I read these posts and feel so bad for what alcoholics have to deal with. As a family member I can relate to how other family members feel but never really understood the pain the alcoholic feels.
I've written before regarding my dying (ex)husband and I wanted to share that in reading some of these pos...
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A beautiful Prayer
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A BEAUTIFUL PRAYER
I asked God to take away my habit.
God said, no.
It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up.
I asked God to make my handicappe...
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just feel like talking...
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there were a lot of things that led to my wanting sobriety. i've been drinking for 9 years, which is almost half of my life, and the funny thing is is that i never thought of alcohol to be a problem. when i was 15 i started using meth daily until i got pregnant at 17. i sobered up during the...
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Canadian Eh??
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Was just thinkin--its nice to see a few Canadians on the board. Serenity? Im not too far from you--bout an hour n of Guelph. I did live in Scarborough at one time and spent 14 years in Brampton, until moving to Quiet Country. It wasnt quiet for long because I was still drinking---better now.:)
If I reme...
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food for thought
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Easy Does ItStrain & struggle abound when we try to do everything ourselves, our way. We want positive change to occur immediately & expect miracles to happen according to our personal timetable. We sometimes feel that if our Higher Power is guiding us, we should be able to accomplish great...
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