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Quantity or Quality
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As Bill Sees Itp. 11 Quantity or Quality "About this slip business--I would not be too discouraged. I think you are suffering a great deal from a needless guilt. For some reason or other, the Lord has laid out tougher paths for some of us, and I guess you are treading one of them. God is not askin...
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A.A. Thought for the Day
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A.A. Thought for the Day January 12,2009Reprieve It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. We are headed for trouble if we do, for alcohol is a subtle foe. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent upon our spiritual condition. Every day is a day when we mus...
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Seeking Fool's Gold
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As Bill Sees ItPg. 12 Seeking Fool's Gold Pride is the basic breeder of most human difficulties, the chief block to true progress. Pride lures us into making demands upon ourselves or upon others which cannot be met without perverting or misusing our God-given instincts. When the satisfaction of ou...
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Pocket Sponsor
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Pocket Sponsor There will be times when people around you act like absolute jerks. If they are a jerk and the problem is with them, time will reveal it. Likewise, if you are the jerk and the problem is with you, time will reveal it. Do the next right thing and give time time. Today, I don't let assholes re...
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Can you drink a little?
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I am on 9 days of sobriety and as one who didn't drink every day, but in binges, I am questioning, well, and others are questioning me to as to whether or not I could have a few glasses of wine on vacation or special occasion or for sex. haha. You know a planned thing. Does everyone believe you must be comp...
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Daily Reflections ~ The 100% Step
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Only Step One, where we made the 100 percent admission we were powerless over alcohol, can be practiced with absolute perfection. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 68 Long before I was able to obtain sobriety in A.A., I knew without a doubt that alcohol was killing me, yet even with this knowledg...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 11th Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day When we were drinking most of us never thought of helping others. We liked to buy drinks for people, because that made us feel like big shots. But we only used others for our own pleasure. To really go out and try to help somebody who needed help never occurred to us. To us, helping o...
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Letting Go of Guilt
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"There's a good trick that people in dysfunctional relationships use," said one recovering woman. "The other person does something inappropriate or wrong, then stands there until you feel guilty and end up apologizing."
It's imperative that we stop feeling so guilty.
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Drinking Dreams
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What a weird phenomenon, hey? I had one last night. I woke up in a sweat, absolutely panicked not knowing how to rectify the situation, then gradually realised I was fine and sober! It was a good reminder!
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A.A. Thought for the Day
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A.A. Thought for the Day January 10, 2009Happiness The simplicity of the AA program teaches me that happiness isn't something I can "demand." It comes upon me quietly, while I serve others. In offering my hand to the newcomer or to someone who has relapsed, I find that my own sobriety has be...
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Day 101
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Man...what a journey. Emotions all over the place. Some days I hate AA, Some days I swear it is the best thing since sliced bread. Some days I am sure I have found the answer to everything and the next day the answer is different. I am grateful that meetings are a constant and that calling my sponsor is...
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Pocket Sponsor
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Pocket Sponsor If you don't deal with your feelings, they'll deal with you. Whatever you are thinking right now is creating how you feel. One of the best ways to deal with the way you feel is to create positive thoughts. I create positive feelings by thinking positive thoughts. Thought for the Day Fai...
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Out of the Dark
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As Bill Sees ItPg 10 Out of the DarkSelf-searching is the means by which we bring new vision, action, and grace to bear upon the dark and negative side of our nature. With it comes the development of that kind of humility that makes it possible for us to receive God's help. Yet it is only a step. We will...
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Fear
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Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. What if they are a little coarse, and. you may get your coat soiled or torn? What if you do fail, and get fairly rolled in the dirt once or twice? Up again; you shall never be so afraid of...
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Binge Drinking
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This is my first post on this site. I have posted many times on the Alanon site. I am obsessed with an addict which has allowed me to focus on his issues instead of mine for the past 15 years. It has now come to my attention that my binge drinking every 3 weeks or so can be considered alcoholism. I don't dr...
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Daily Reflections ~ Do I Have A Choice?
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The fact is that most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure, have lost the power of choice in drink. Our so-called willpower becomes practically nonexistent. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.24 My powerlessness over alcohol does not cease when I quit drinking. In sobriety I still have no choice - I cant drin...
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This is a "We" Program
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This is a "We" program, not a "Me" program. We do this Together. Look at our steps. They all say "We admitted" or "We Came to believe..." Doing it together makes us stronger and Less likely to fool ourselves with dysfunctional ways of Thinking. This is...
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I know, I know, I know, I know, I know............
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I know......... Job transition thingy is not nearly as hard so far as I had worried it would be. What a sucker I am when it comes to something to freak out about. LOL Seriously, it is a character defect that I KNOW does not work, yet I keep finding myself doing it!!! Were entirely ready??? Yes!!!!! But some...
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Hi
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Been awhile, and just wanted to say hi. Have a great 24!!! Wagon
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I could totally not even think about drinking
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If there wasn't a goddamn pub every two blocks. I don't know how you people do it. You just float around being all sober and happy dishing out sound advice that's impossible for people like me to follow. Arg. I started smoking again...if I can't drink I'm damn well doing something bad for me.
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Daily Reflections ~ An Act of Providence
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It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have warped our minds into such an obsession for destructive drinking that only an act of Providence can remove it from us. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 21 My act of Providence, (a manifestation of divine care and direction), came as I experie...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 9th Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day When we were drinking, most of us had no real faith in anything. We may have said that we believed in God, but we didn't act as though we did. We never honestly asked God to help us and we never really accepted His help. To us, faith looked like helplessness. But when we came into A.A....
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Responsibility for Ourselves
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We have been doing the wrong things for the right reasons. -- Codependent No More
Caretaking: the act of taking responsibility for other people while neglecting responsibility for ourselves. When we instinctively feel responsible for the feelings, thoughts, choices, problems, comfort, and...
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Day 9
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Well I am sober 9 days today. It feels like 9 months!!!! I crave alcohol every day, and some days I dont know how I stay sober. So far the only way I know how to stay sober is to stay sleeping so I been doing a lot of that.
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A.A. Thought for the Day
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A.A. Thought for the Day January 9, 2009Gratitude I try hard to hold fast to the truth that a full and thankful heartcannot entertain great conceits.When brimming with gratitude,one's heartbeat must surely result in ongoing love,the finest emotion that we can ever know. As Bill Sees It, pg.37 Tho...
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Group and World-Wide Community
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"As Bill Sees It" pg. 9 Group and World-Wide Community The moment Twelfth Step work forms a group, a discovery is made--that most individuals cannot recover unless there is a group. Realization dawns on each member that he is but a small part of a great whole; that no personal sacrifice i...
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One Year sober and writing a book about it.
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A fairly well-known personality in the U.K. is one year sober and has written a book about his experiences; it is being serialised in one of our newspapers. He criticizes AA, saying that many sober people don't need meetings, and that he has no desire to open up his past to a sponsor who, he says, may wel...
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How many times / How long?
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How many times did you "fall off the wagon" before you got it right? Or in total how long did it take before you FINALLY got the message from falling off the wagon too many times? I went 33 days without...and just fell off. Feels very gross. Hope i'm not the first one to feel this bad... I don't t...
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situational drinking,
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Worried about upcoming routine event and how to stay on track. The usual events result in drinking, one two three etc. What is a good prayer or reading to help to prevent the drinking along with the routine event. (the event is hard to get out of, and really should be able to not drink, but you know...) An...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 8th Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day Everyone who comes into A.A. knows from bitter experience that he or she can't drink. I know that drinking has been the cause of all my major troubles or has made them worse. Now that I have found a way out, I will hang onto A.A. with both hands. Saint Paul once said that nothing in th...
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The Serenity Prayer
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The Serenity Prayer is one I'm very grateful for. It short, but covers so much. Before I came to AA, I knew of the Serenity Prayer, but I didn't really understand or used it like I use it now. God Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change.I use to skip this part all together. Because now,...
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A New Life
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As Bill Sees Itpg. 8 A New Life Is sobriety all that we are to expect of a spiritual awakening? No, sobriety is only a bare beginning; it is only the first gift of the first awakening has to go on. As it does go on, we find that bit by bit we can discard the old life--the one that did not work--for a new life tha...
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Pocket Sponsor
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Although romance and rela-tionships are an important aspect of balance in our lives--it is never the solution to drinking. It is sometimes easier to focus on passion, rather than trudge through the steps! I practice these principles in all my affairs, (pun intended). From the Book "Pock...
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Vulnerability
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Some of us may have made a decision that no one was ever going to hurt us again. We may automatically go on "feelings freeze mode" when faced with emotional pain. Or, we may terminate a relationship the first time we feel hurt. Hurt feelings are a part of life, relationships, and recovery. It...
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Daily Reflections ~ At The Turning Point
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Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point. We asked His protection and care with complete abandon. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 59 Every day I stand at turning points. My thoughts and actions can propel me toward growth or turn me down the road to old habits and to booze. Sometimes tu...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 7th Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day When temptation comes, as it does some times to all of us, I will say to myself: "No, my whole life depends on not taking that drink and nothing in the world can make me do it." Besides, I have promised that Higher Power that I wouldn't do it. I know that God doesn't want me...
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The Realm of the Spirit
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The Realm of the Spirit In ancient times material progress was painfully slow. The spirit of modern scientific inquiry, research, and invention was almost unknown. In the realm of the material, men's minds were fettered by superstition, tradition, and all sorts of fixed ideas. Some of the contemp...
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A Plate of Fudge
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A Plate of Fudge I was born under the shadow of a mountain called Mount Aeolus. An early recollection is one of looking up and seeing that vast and mysterious mountain and wondering what it was and whether I would ever climb that high, But I was presently distracted by my aunt who, as a fourth birthday pre...
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Dealing with Painful Feelings
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Feelings of hurt or anger can be some of the most difficult to face. We can feel so vulnerable, frightened, and powerless when these feelings appear. And these feelings may trigger memories of other, similar times when we felt powerless.
Sometimes, to gain a sense of control, we may punish the peop...
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Daily Reflections ~ The Victory of Surrender
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We perceive that only through utter defeat are we able to take our first steps toward liberation and strength. Our admissions of personal powerlessness finally turn out to be firm bedrock upon which happy and purposeful lives may be built. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 21 When alcohol infl...
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All or Nothing?
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All or Nothing? Acceptance and faith are capable of producing 100 per cent sobriety. In fact, they usually do; and they must, else we could have no life at all. But the moment we carry these attitudes into our emotional problems, we find that ony relative results are possible. Nobody can, for examp...
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my FEAR of stepping out on CHANGE today
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Well, I got a call today, Saturday (unheard of) from my boss. As of next week, we will be losing 2 people from the workforce, one is fired and the other senior employee is simply moving on. This means I am needed in a more medically "administrative" role right now. And I was working about 30 hou...
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Other Methods
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Big Book Quote: In our belief any scheme of combating alcoholism which proposes to shield the sick man from temptation is doomed to failure. If the alcoholic tries to shield himself he may succeed for a time, but he usually winds up with a bigger explosion than ever. We have tried these methods. These a...
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It's my birthday today...
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And it's a fairly monumental one. It's kind of making me think about how many years I've wasted shinning bar tops with the sleeves of my coat. Not exactly something I like thinking about...I do believe that this will be the last birthday that I acknowledge. I'm pretty immature so I think I can get aw...
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Moments of clarity *updated*
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Edit: Thanks for the words of encouragement. It turns out that after a good nights sleep I feel normal again...so I'm not going anywhere. Doll was right, I'm such a drama queen sometimes I hear a lot of people talk about when in the midst of their alcoholism/addiction they had a moment of clarity that...
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Relationships
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If we are unhappy without a relationship, we'll probably be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn't begin our life; a relationship doesn't become our life. A relationship is a continuation of life. -- Beyond Codependency
Relationships are the blessing and bane of recovery. Relationsh...
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Northern Kentucky AA Folks - Bueller, Bueller... ??
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Is there anybody out there? (NKY)
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Daily Reflections ~ Total Acceptance
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He cannot picture life without alcohol. Some day he will be unable to imagine life either with alcohol or without it. Then he will know loneliness such as few do. He will be at the jumping-off place. He will wish for the end. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.152 Only an alcoholic can understand the exact meanin...
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Directions to Recovery
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Wisdom of the Rooms January 5, 2009 Quote of the Week "Directions to recovery: Just go straight to hell and make a U-turn." When I was new to the program, I heard a word I didn't know the definition of. The word was perdition. As the fog began to clear, my sponsor recommended I look it up, and wh...
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panic feeling today
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Was out with family and met up with some old acquaintances. Talked briefly and felt panic. Not sure why, but must be about just having to review one more time with someone who knew a little about how horrible our past month has been. I wanted a drink. I thought if I had a drink, I wouldn't be feeling this n...
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