We are sturdy beings. But in many ways, we are fragile. We can accept change and loss, but this comes at our own pace and in our own way. And only God and we can determine the timing. -- Codependent No More
Hard times, stressful times, are not all there is to life, but they are part of life, growth, and moving forward.
What we do with hard times, or hard energy, is our choice.
We can use the energy of hard times to work out, and work through, our issues. We can use it to fine-tune our skills and our spirituality. Or we can go through these situations suffering, storing up bitterness, and refusing to grow or change.
Hard times can motivate and mold us to bring out our best. We can use these times to move forward and upward to higher levels of living, loving, and growth.
The choice is ours. Will we let ourselves feel? Will we take a spiritual approach, including gratitude, toward the event? Will we question life and our Higher Power by asking what we're supposed to be learning and doing? Or will we use the incident to prove old, negative beliefs? Will we say, "Nothing good ever happens to me... I'm just a victim... People can't be trusted... Life isn't worth living"?
We do not always require hard energy, or stress, to motivate us to grow and change. We do not have to create stress, seek it, or attract it. But if it's there, we can learn to channel it into growth and use it for achieving what's good in life.
God, let my hard times be healing times.
From The Language of Letting Go
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Hi Carol, That is exactly what I am doing right now and processing. That is why remodeling and speaking about it and the change and growth I feel from it is so important to me to feel and share.
I am not just remodeling my home and I am remodeling myself and in remodeling mistakes are made. I also do other things besides remodel and mow my lawn etc in getting sober to find and maintain balance as much as I can right now and I am proud of myself.
I chose to grow and yes I did stumble but I am bound to grow and change and it is all wonderful. That is what getting sober is all about to me. And it has been only 6 mos since this break up and it had been 8 yrs we had the relationship.
I do not profress to be a victim at all. I am a survivor and processing my life just as all others who are striving to do for change and growth. I appreciate your wonderful posts like this and all the messages and help you give in such a wonderful caring way.
That is what sober is all about in my book dear soul. God bless Love Rosie
