Good judgement, a careful sense of timing, courage and prudence - these are the qualities we shall need when we take Step Nine. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions Page 83

To make amends can be viewed two ways: first, that of repairing damage, for if I have damaged my neighbors fence, I make a mend, and that is a direct amend; the second way is by modifying my behavior, for if my actions have harmed someone, I make a daily effort to cause no further harm. I mend my ways, and that is an indirect amend. Which is the best approach? The only right approach, provided that I am causing no further harm in so doing, is to do both. If harm is done, then I simply mend my ways. To take action in this manner assures me of making honest amends