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so lonely
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Hi there, I am new to this site so forgive me if I get it wrong. I am currently on day 6 of sobriety and finding it really hard tonight. I split up with my boyfriend 3 weeks ago and am finding the lonleyness and depression making me want to drink even more. I know I probably sound like a madwoman but i'm not sure...
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My photo appeared in the Washington Post on Sunday
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OK, I'll relate this to sobriety as a gift. I basically couldn't/wouldn't travel when I was drinking because I often wound up in jail for DIP or DUI. I love traveling and as some of you know this weekend I was in Akron/Canton Ohio for a couple of reasons one of which is already the subject of a thread, the ot...
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I'm Back and 2 1/2 Years Sober!
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Hi Everyone,
I got back home late yesterday after a wonderful week with my parents. We all agreed that we've never been closer and it just feels great and I couldn't be happier.
The weather wasn't too bad and I spent time with Mum and the dog down on the beach most days. Then, Mum and I spent some of the e...
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Saying Yes
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Yesterday we talked about learning to say no. Today, let's discuss another important word: Yes.
We can learn to say yes to things that feel good, to what we want - for others and ourselves.
We can learn to say yes to fun. Yes to meetings, to calling a friend, asking for help.
We can learn to say yes to...
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Newb looking for courage.
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I decided to stop drinking three weeks ago after reading "Dry" by Augusten Burroughs (really good read). I am no doubt an alcoholic, but after reading his memoir I decided that enough is enough. I dumped all my booze and have been sober since. My problem is that I am scared to death to go to...
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Dr. Bob's House
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Saying No
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For many of us, the most difficult word to say is one of the shortest and easiest in the vocabulary: No. Go ahead, say it aloud: No.
No - simple to pronounce, hard to say. We're afraid people won't like us, or we feel guilty. We may believe that a "good" employee, child, parent, spouse, or Chr...
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Daily Reflections ~ Living It
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The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 83 When new in the program, I couldn't comprehend living the spiritual aspect of the program, but now that I'm sober, I can't comprehend living without it. Spirituality was what I had been seeking. God, as I understand Him...
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Daily Reflections ~ Driven
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Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. ALCOHOLIC ANONYMOUS , p. 62 My selfishness was the driving force behind my drinking. I drank to celebrate success and I drank to drown my sorrows. Humility is the answe...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 6th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Psychologists are turning to religion because just knowing about ourselves is not enough. We need the added dynamic of faith in a power outside of ourselves on which we can rely. Books on psychology and psychiatric treatments are not enough without the strength that comes f...
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Solving Problems
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Problems are made to be solved!
Some of us spend more time reacting to the fact that we have a problem than we do solving the problem. "Why is this happening to me?" . . . "Isn't life awful?" . . . "How come this had to happen?" . . . "Oh, dear. This is terrible."...
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Daily Reflections ~ Listening Deeply
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How persistently we claim the right to decide all by ourselves just what we shall think and just how we shall act. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 37 If I accept and act upon the advice of those who have made the program work for themselves, I have a chance to outgrow the limits of the past. Some prob...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 5th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We in A.A. are offering a spiritual program. The fundamental basis of A.A. is belief in some Power greater than ourselves. This belief takes us off the center of the universe and allows us to transfer our problems to some power outside of ourselves. We turn to this Power for the...
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Accepting where I am
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Well, lucky me...I was in an accident yesterday and thank God no one was hurt! It was my fault, wet roads and perhaps (lol) I wasnt paying attention for a moment??????? Yes Im upset, money out the pocket I dont really want to spend on that sort of thing, but.... What a great feeling to know...I was in an acc...
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Daily Reflections ~ Seeds Of Faith
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Faith, to be sure, is necessary, but faith alone can avail nothing. We can have faith, yet keep God out of our lives. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 34 As a child I constantly questioned the existence of God. To a scientific thinker like me, no answer could withstand a thorough dissection, unti...
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Attitudes Toward Money
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Sometimes, our life and history may be so full of pain that we think it totally unfair that we have to grow up now and be financially responsible for ourselves.
The feeling is understandable; the attitude is not healthy. Many people in recovery may believe that certain people in particular, and lif...
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Need help
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I drink every other day, after dark, for 3 years. I'm 26 and my drinking is effecting my work, social life and ability to maintain a positive relationship with my family. They have no idea how bad I think it is but I can't stop this cycle. I'm sick all the time and have lost myself. I'd like an outpatient pro...
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vulnerability
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Monday, August 4, 2008 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Vulnerability I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am. --Anonymous Many of us feel that we can only show our strong, confident side. We believe the face we h...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 4th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We in A.A. are offering a kind of psychological program as well as a spiritual one. First, people must be mentally able to receive it. They must have made up their minds that they want to quit drinking, and they must be willing to do something about it. Their confidence must be ob...
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Friend in need
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Hey all! I have a friend who is an alcoholic. Her husband is her enabler - codependent etc. He is also in denial about her drinking. Anyhow, I realize each person needs a desire to stop abusing themselves etc. However, She is recovering from surgery. She is totally detoxing---hallucinating etc. Her d...
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More Freedom Seekers
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Had our second meeting at our local jail. I'm telling you, if you ever thought about starting a meeting like this - quit thinking and start doing! It's worth it. I know many of these inmates will go back to their "old playmates and playgrounds" when they get released... but for the couple t...
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Daily Reflections ~ We Become Willing
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At the moment we are trying to put our lives in order. But this is not an end in itself. ALCOHOLIC ANONYMOUS , p. 77 How easily I can become misdirected in approaching the Eighth Step! I wish to be free, somehow transformed by my Sixth and Seventh Step work. Now, more than ever, I am vulnerable to my own self...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 3rd Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We in A.A. must remember that we are offering something intangible. We are offering a psychological and spiritual program. We are not offering a medical program. If people need medical treatment, we call in a doctor. If they need a medical prescription, we let the doctor pre...
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The consequences of our addictive behavior
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I write this with a lot of pain and suffering. About 6 months ago I fired my physc doc (He would not give me xanex) so I went doc shopping and found one who was very liberal with giving out xanex. So I was on it for 6 months. I had that car wreck drunk and full of xanex and they put me into detox. They flat cold...
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chat/meetings
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HI EVERYONE,
HAVE YOU HEARD THAT THE CHATROOM IS TRYING TO DRUMB UP A BIT OF TRADE?.
WELL I FOR ONE THINK IT'S A GREAT IDEA, WHY DOES NO ONE HERE GO ON THERE?.
I FOUND MY RECOVERY IN THE AL-ANON ROOM, BUT WOULD LOVE SOMETIMES IF I COULD COME HERE AND GET SOME DIRECT/INSTANT RESPONSE TO WHAT I NEED TO SAY...
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checking in...
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Hi all. Just wanted to check in. I discovered a great womens meeting. They also provide childcare. I am thrilled. THe discussion was about conscious contact with God. I am currently getting reacquanted with God. I was taught to fear him and in turn have trust issues with him and my family. Anyhow, my re...
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Daily Reflections ~ To Be Of Service
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Our real purpose is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and the people about us. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 77 It is clear that God's plan for me is expressed through love. God loved me enough to take me from alleys and jails so that I could be made a useful participant in His world. My response is...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 2nd Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Alcoholics Anonymous has no quarrel with medicine, psychiatry, or religion. We have great respect for the methods of each. And we are glad for any success they may have had with alcoholics. We are desirous always of cooperating with them in every way. The more doctors, the mo...
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Hi
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Hi everybody. I have not been on this forum for quite some time now but I am 8 months sober tomorrow and in a very bad place with my physical health so not been able to get to many f2f meetings. My sponsor sent me this poem last week and I love it and read it every time I feel down. I dreamt I met my higher power a...
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In between
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Saturday, August 2, 2008 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go In Between Sometimes, to get from where we are to where we are going, we have to be willing to be in between. One of the hardest parts of recovery is the concept of letting go of what is old and familiar, but what we don't...
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Police Car Lights
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Last evening police cars swarmed a group of teens out in front of my house. We live in a relatively quiet suburb, and it is rare that we see our police "in action" in the neighborhood. (Especially now that I am sober.) I had to think about police car lights. I have seen them many times before, an...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 1st Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ The Alcoholics Anonymous program has borrowed from medicine, psychiatry, and religion. It has taken from these what it wanted and combined them into the program which it considers best suited to the alcoholic mind and which will best help the alcoholic to recover. The resu...
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Accepting
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Wednesday, July 30, 2008 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Accepting Powerlessness Since I've been a child, I've been in an antagonistic relationship with an important emotional part of myself: my feelings. I have consistently tried to ignore, repress, or force my fee...
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I, finally, threw in the towel!
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3 days shy of mine and John's 5 yr 'commitment' I told him today to go blow it out his ass! Not literally but I let him know I am no longer his doormat. Today was the straw that broke the camel's back! God has a bigger better plan for my life and now I can get out of His way and let it happen. Just wanted to share wi...
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Letting go of what we want
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Thursday, July 31, 2008 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Letting Go of What We want For those of us who have survived by controlling and surrendering, letting go may not come easily. --Beyond Codependency In recovery, we learn that it is important to identify what we want...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Prayer For All Seasons
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God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change. Courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 125 The power of this prayer is overwhelming in that its simple beauty parallels the A.A. Fellowship. There are times when...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 31st July 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ This leaves only one day-today. Anyone can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when you and I add the burden of those two awful eternities, yesterday and tomorrow that we break down. It is not the experience of today that drives us mad. It is the remorse or bitterness for...
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Need Help - My 16 yo teen needs an AA group
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Hi everyone. I'm confused. My 16 year old so will be returning home next week after 5 months in a teen wilderness rehab program. He'll be needing and wanting to attend an AA group. My questions: 1. As a teen, can he attend a regular AA meeting or will he have attend another type for teens? 2. Where can I go t...
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3 Months Anniversary
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Hi all I just celebrated my 3 Months Anniversary on Saturday nightin Little Current, ON. with my home group. I have actually been sober for about 5 months now, but who's counting ?! . My sponsor is a great man, and listens to me. I do my part and listen very attentively to him. He has shown me how good this c...
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I was looking for help and advice but you pushed me out
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I posted a link to a webpage where someone was sharing their experiences and opinions on aa that were not totaly in favour of aa so i wanted your opinions.
I want to know if i should attend aa or not so i thought it best to share that particular page with people on this site who had alot of experience with aa...
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I need prayers hope and love from you all!
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I did a bad thing today. I overdosed on my medicine and ended up in the ER they pumped my stomache and I feel a lot better. I just dont know how to fight the over whelming desire to drink. I am hurting everyone I love and my world is shrinking. I am so scared and alone. I want to stop hurting but the only way...
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inconsistent
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Hi Sorry to come here tonight of all nights -i have been drinking - I am from the UK and found your web site some months ago and been reading it for a long while now. I am really at my wits end and very very low although I put on a great face to the outside world!!! My title is named inconsistence because I join...
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Daily Reflections ~ Giving Back
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. . . . he has struck something better than gold. . . . He may not see at once that he has barely scratched a limitless lode which will pay dividends only if he mines it for the rest of his life and insists on giving away the entire product. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 129 My part of the Seventh Tradition means so...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 30th July 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ The other day we should not worry about is tomorrow, with its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise, and perhaps its poor performance. Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control. Tomorrow's sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds, but...
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sober for today...
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I posted this into the ACa as well. Just thought I would keep in touch as much as possible.
Thanks for all of your stories. It helps!! Today I surfed...took my kids fishing and focused on them. I too am on anxiety meds. I am not fond of them...but when I get soooo anxious and attacks come on, I would rahter p...
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Daily Reflections ~ Anonymous Gifts Of Kindness
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As active alcoholics we were always looking for a handout in one way or another. THE TWELVE TRADITIONS ILLUSTRATED, p. 14 The challenge of the Seventh Tradition is a personal challenge, reminding me to share and give of myself. Before sobriety the only thing I ever supported was my habit of drinking....
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 29th July 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days, which should be kept from fear and apprehension. One of these days is yesterday, with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our contr...
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Just Me
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Hi everyone and happy sober day!!! Just checking in,i hope everyone is well. Its been a busy summer here it seems i have so much to do and so little time. I have been checking in for the Sunday morning meeting and we have had a couple of good meetings,I would be interested in chairing a meeting if help is ne...
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His Will
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Once there were three trees on a hill in the woods. They were discussing their hopes and dreams when the first tree said, 'Someday I hope to be a treasure chest. I could be filled with gold, silver and precious gems. I could be decorated with intricate carving and everyone would see the beauty.' T...
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Have some fun
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Tuesday, July 29, 2008 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Have Some Fun Have some fun. Loosen up a bit. Enjoy life! We do not have to be so somber and serious. We do not have to be so reflective, so critical, so bound up within the rigid parameters and ourselves others, and often...
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