Just thought I'd drop in and let you guys I'm still here, been busy hours at work have increased somewhat. Busy getting start with my daughter going to camp for a month at the end of June, she'll be gone for a month. I'm excited for her and I'm gonna miss her at the same time. She now works along side her brother at his place of employment a couple days a week and well
I hope that it works out and not sure if this is a sign of things fallin into place rite now, but seems to be more content with where things are at.
At the moment I haven't been able to get out to many meetings do to work, etc. Also, I found it difficult as to phoning people for a ride to a meeting. Maybe it's just me or it's that people are to caught up in their own events of life that they forgot what it meant to lend a hand or give a ride out.
I am now at the point of not phoning for a ride to a meetin when I'm able to go, do to the fact of bad timing or am i wrong in thinking it would be nice for those to phone me and ask if I'd like to go to a meeting. I find that people in the program would say if ya like to go to a meeting give me a call. When I do call, I get some saying their busy and not going or they don't call back or told to try so and so.
So Am I wrong for feeling this wayof quit calling people up to go to meeting, I haven't heard from my sponser in about a month, I found myself doing all the phoning to her. That's where I'm at right now and evenually things will get back on track with that end of it. I'm looking for a new sponser anyways.....
Gosh where did that memory come from? Reading your post and I get voices from the past telling me that the program was a "Save your own A$$ program". I got the point and the answer to the other question, "So what's your part in it?". I remember when my car lost it's engine and my thumb didn't and the gosh darned humility of calling for help or asking for a ride home from a meeting for valid reasons. Another question I had to seriously answer was "So how bad to you want to stay sober?". I hated questions and more still I knew that my answers would be remembered during the journey. I've been around for a while now and had to learn how to do that. Better that then dead right? Or maybe I can remember before AA thinking that drinking would never take me out? It took me down with several Toxic Shocks (over doses) but as long as I keep finding my way to the meetings the chances are less and less that alcohol will take me out. For me humility was always a better teacher than a hangover.
I'm answering that question to How bad one wants to stay sober, how bad you want it? I've around for a while my sober date is July 14th, 2003.
Through some pretty tough time lately I've managed to stay sober, and yes I've phoned around for rides, just taking a break from it and thought I'd share.
Got alot of stuff that I've had sitting on my plate that needs to be swept away.
Hiya Tina x I'm glad you're well & posting where you're up to here. I'd say don't feel bad about calling & asking for rides as people can always say no & as my Mum always says 'if you you don't ask you don't get!' People won't necessarily go out of their way to see if you're getting to meetings cuz like you say we are all so busy with what's in front of us which is why it's great for us to take our own initiative in having our needs met.
My sponsor never calls or texts me first. I always contact her when I need any sponsorship & this suits us both. It keeps boundaries clear for me & for her so that she's not getting into any sort of caretaking role & I'm being responsible for my own progress. I really like it this way. It's a help too cuz it makes me feel special that she's always there when I do get in touch. She won't drop everything but she does respond to the right level & I have learned to be realistic & patient. Of course, there are many other people I can get in touch with if I need something sooner.
Have you thought about starting a meeting up close to home? If you've got the time, starting your own meeting could be a great project. You might be surprised at the response you get. I love having my own home group where I feel responsible for ensuring everyone's alright & that they get a great service at their meeting whether a newcomer or around for awhile. Maybe this could be a good boost for you while your daughter's away?
Anyhoo, post away on here too. We'll help you stay busy & sober ;) Godbless! Danielle x
-- Edited by Sobrietyspell on Monday 25th of May 2009 07:10:34 PM
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