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Good Eeeeeebening
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Steady as she goes.... giving these new hours and responsibilities at work to God, and amazingly enough, like everything else in my life, it is easier to go on "autopilot" when I am connected to my Higher Power. I oftentimes run around trying to find power in situations, people, contacts,...
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Sober and Still Married
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StPeteDean wrote: Hi Jane, I just read your bio, thanks for posting it. I've been around AA since the '70's and sober since the late '80's. My mother joined in '75 when I was 15 and I was drinking hard liquor straight and doing a lot of drugs at the time. I went to my first meeting that year and subsequen...
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Pocket Sponsor
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Pocket Sponsor Self will and running the show' can be like the monkey who sticks his hand into the trap for food. He grasps the food tightly creating a fist that won't slide out the trap door. The monkey struggles but won't release the food and he is trapped. Holding tight to your will and your way can be th...
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Thinking about a Meeting?
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Quote From "Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" If you're thinking about going to a meeting, go to the meeting, and then think about it.
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AA Thought for the Day
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AA Thought for the Day January 15, 2009 Survey We should make an accurate and really exhaustive survey of our past life as it has affected other people. In many instances we shall find that though the harm done others has not been great, the emotional harm we have done ourselves has. Very deep, sometime...
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Eternal Values
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As Bill Sees ItEternal Values, p. 15 Many people will have no truck at all with absolute spiritual values. Perfectionists, they say, are either full of conceit because they fancy they have reached some impossible goal, or else they are swamped in self-condemnation because they have not done so. Yet...
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Standing Up for Ourselves
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We learn some behaviors have self-defeating consequences, while others have beneficial consequences. We learn we have choices. -- Beyond Codependency
It is so easy to come to the defense of others. How clear it is when others are being used, controlled, manipulated, or abused. It is so easy to fi...
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Daily Reflections ~ No Regrets
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We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.83 Once I became sober, I began to see how wasteful my life had been and I experienced overwhelming guilt and feelings of regret. The programs Fourth and Fifth Steps assisted me enormously in healing those troubling re...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 14th Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day When we first came into A.A., a sober life seemed strange. We wondered what life could possibly be like without ever taking a drink. At first, a sober life seemed unnatural. But the longer we're in A.A., the more natural this way of life seems. And now we know that the life we're li...
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HI!!
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Just thought I'd drop in, it's been awhile. Hope everyone had a great Christmas and New Years Sober. I'm doing fine, and the kids are well. Been keeping busy and not letting people, places and things get to me, and some days that is harder than others. Had a wonderful Christmas and New Years, my daught...
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A question about honesty...
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Well, as I said I slipped and I feel terrible about it. I no-showed for my last 2 days of work and my parents are furious with me, but somehow my boss is willing to let me come back in and have a talk with him about keeping my job. The only problem is, all I feel like doing is laying in bed by myself and not going an...
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A.A. Thought for the Day
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AA Thought for the DayJanuary 14, 2009Tradition Three "The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking." Tradition Three defines the personal liberty of the AA member. It says, in effect, that any alcoholic can be an AA member the moment he says so. Neither can any of us...
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Pocket Sponsor
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Pocket Sponsor It's hard to believe that this simple program can work for us. But it does. We see it each time an old timer celebrates a birthday, a newcomer picks up a token, or a former skid row drunk reaches out to help an alcoholic doctor that has hit his first meeting in desperation. Believe. I make be...
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Newcomer Problems
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As Bill Sees ItNewcomer Problems, p. 14 The temptation is to become rather possessive of newcomers. Perhaps we try to give them advice about their affairs which we aren't really competent to give or ought not give at all. Then we are hurt and confused when the advice is rejected, or when it is accepted a...
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Accepting Anger
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Anger is one of the many profound effects life has on us. It's one of our emotions. And we're going to feel it when it comes our way -- or else repress it. -- Codependent No More
If I were working a good program, I wouldn't get angry.... If I were a good Christian, I wouldn't feel angry.... If I were really u...
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The full moon
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A couple of people have mentioned to me that the full moon seems to affect them.....I haven't thought about this before, and initially brushed it off as superstition, but there may be something to it, and if so, it may be helpful for me to be aware of the moon phases. Has anyone else noticed anything in th...
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Daily Reflections ~ It Doesn't Happen Overnight
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We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85 The most common alcoholic fantasy seems to be: If I just dont drink, everything will be all right. Once the fog cleared for me, I saw for the firs...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 13th Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day When we were drinking, we were living an unnatural life physically and mentally. We were punishing our bodies by loading them with alcohol. We didn't eat enough and we ate the wrong things. We didn't get enough sleep or the right kind of rest. We were ruining ourselves physical...
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Can't get out of my FUNK!
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Nothing in particular. Physical pain has been better. Feel pretty much OK. But haven't been to work the last 2 days (thank God for sick time). Just got the 'don't wanna be there' funk! I have isolated since Saturday. Haven't talked to anyone, not even my sponsor, haven't been to a meeting since last wee...
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Anybody ever find sobriety while incarcerated?
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Just curious about this topic...
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A.A. Thought for the Day
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A.A. Thought for the Day January 13, 2009Isolation Isolation is bad for new people, old people, and in-between people if they are alcoholic people. Isolation sneaks up on us. We can mask it with familiar props that are not in themselves bad. We can isolate ourselves in an attempt to clean up our apart...
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Regret
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I was thinking today of all the things I have done while intoxicated and feel an embarrassed regret. Just wondering if you all have any advice on how to forgive myself?
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Good Feelings
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When we talk about feelings in recovery, we often focus on the troublesome trio - pain, fear, and anger. But there are other feelings available in the emotional realm - happiness, joy, peace, contentment, love, closeness, and excitement.
It's okay to let ourselves feel pleasurable feelings too...
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Dean - O!
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Big ole southern (((hug))) Love ya, my friend. ~ Jen -- Edited by Doll at 12:51, 2009-01-10
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Daily Reflections ~ Accepting Our Present Circumstances
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Our very first problem is to accept our present circumstances as they are, ourselves as we are, and the people about us as they are. This is to adopt a realistic humility without which no genuine advance can even begin. Again and again, we shall need to return to that unflattering point of departure. Th...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 12th Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day The longer we're in A.A., the more natural this way of life seems. Our old drinking lives were a very unnatural way of living. Our present sober lives are the most natural way we could possibly live. During the early years of our drinking, our lives weren't so different from the l...
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Pocket Sponsor
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Pocket Sponsor Today we have a choice! Don't take this gift lightly. You can chose to do right, you can choose to do wrong; with enough wrong choosing, your choices will be gone. My Higher Power gives the best to me when I give my choice to Him. Thought for the Day Staying Peaceful Desires cause peace...
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Quantity or Quality
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As Bill Sees Itp. 11 Quantity or Quality "About this slip business--I would not be too discouraged. I think you are suffering a great deal from a needless guilt. For some reason or other, the Lord has laid out tougher paths for some of us, and I guess you are treading one of them. God is not askin...
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A.A. Thought for the Day
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A.A. Thought for the Day January 12,2009Reprieve It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. We are headed for trouble if we do, for alcohol is a subtle foe. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent upon our spiritual condition. Every day is a day when we mus...
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Seeking Fool's Gold
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As Bill Sees ItPg. 12 Seeking Fool's Gold Pride is the basic breeder of most human difficulties, the chief block to true progress. Pride lures us into making demands upon ourselves or upon others which cannot be met without perverting or misusing our God-given instincts. When the satisfaction of ou...
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Pocket Sponsor
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Pocket Sponsor There will be times when people around you act like absolute jerks. If they are a jerk and the problem is with them, time will reveal it. Likewise, if you are the jerk and the problem is with you, time will reveal it. Do the next right thing and give time time. Today, I don't let assholes re...
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Can you drink a little?
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I am on 9 days of sobriety and as one who didn't drink every day, but in binges, I am questioning, well, and others are questioning me to as to whether or not I could have a few glasses of wine on vacation or special occasion or for sex. haha. You know a planned thing. Does everyone believe you must be comp...
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Daily Reflections ~ The 100% Step
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Only Step One, where we made the 100 percent admission we were powerless over alcohol, can be practiced with absolute perfection. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 68 Long before I was able to obtain sobriety in A.A., I knew without a doubt that alcohol was killing me, yet even with this knowledg...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 11th Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day When we were drinking most of us never thought of helping others. We liked to buy drinks for people, because that made us feel like big shots. But we only used others for our own pleasure. To really go out and try to help somebody who needed help never occurred to us. To us, helping o...
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Letting Go of Guilt
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"There's a good trick that people in dysfunctional relationships use," said one recovering woman. "The other person does something inappropriate or wrong, then stands there until you feel guilty and end up apologizing."
It's imperative that we stop feeling so guilty.
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Drinking Dreams
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What a weird phenomenon, hey? I had one last night. I woke up in a sweat, absolutely panicked not knowing how to rectify the situation, then gradually realised I was fine and sober! It was a good reminder!
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A.A. Thought for the Day
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A.A. Thought for the Day January 10, 2009Happiness The simplicity of the AA program teaches me that happiness isn't something I can "demand." It comes upon me quietly, while I serve others. In offering my hand to the newcomer or to someone who has relapsed, I find that my own sobriety has be...
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Day 101
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Man...what a journey. Emotions all over the place. Some days I hate AA, Some days I swear it is the best thing since sliced bread. Some days I am sure I have found the answer to everything and the next day the answer is different. I am grateful that meetings are a constant and that calling my sponsor is...
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Pocket Sponsor
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Pocket Sponsor If you don't deal with your feelings, they'll deal with you. Whatever you are thinking right now is creating how you feel. One of the best ways to deal with the way you feel is to create positive thoughts. I create positive feelings by thinking positive thoughts. Thought for the Day Fai...
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Out of the Dark
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As Bill Sees ItPg 10 Out of the DarkSelf-searching is the means by which we bring new vision, action, and grace to bear upon the dark and negative side of our nature. With it comes the development of that kind of humility that makes it possible for us to receive God's help. Yet it is only a step. We will...
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Fear
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Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. What if they are a little coarse, and. you may get your coat soiled or torn? What if you do fail, and get fairly rolled in the dirt once or twice? Up again; you shall never be so afraid of...
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Binge Drinking
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This is my first post on this site. I have posted many times on the Alanon site. I am obsessed with an addict which has allowed me to focus on his issues instead of mine for the past 15 years. It has now come to my attention that my binge drinking every 3 weeks or so can be considered alcoholism. I don't dr...
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Daily Reflections ~ Do I Have A Choice?
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The fact is that most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure, have lost the power of choice in drink. Our so-called willpower becomes practically nonexistent. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.24 My powerlessness over alcohol does not cease when I quit drinking. In sobriety I still have no choice - I cant drin...
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This is a "We" Program
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This is a "We" program, not a "Me" program. We do this Together. Look at our steps. They all say "We admitted" or "We Came to believe..." Doing it together makes us stronger and Less likely to fool ourselves with dysfunctional ways of Thinking. This is...
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I know, I know, I know, I know, I know............
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I know......... Job transition thingy is not nearly as hard so far as I had worried it would be. What a sucker I am when it comes to something to freak out about. LOL Seriously, it is a character defect that I KNOW does not work, yet I keep finding myself doing it!!! Were entirely ready??? Yes!!!!! But some...
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Hi
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Been awhile, and just wanted to say hi. Have a great 24!!! Wagon
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I could totally not even think about drinking
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If there wasn't a goddamn pub every two blocks. I don't know how you people do it. You just float around being all sober and happy dishing out sound advice that's impossible for people like me to follow. Arg. I started smoking again...if I can't drink I'm damn well doing something bad for me.
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Daily Reflections ~ An Act of Providence
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It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have warped our minds into such an obsession for destructive drinking that only an act of Providence can remove it from us. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 21 My act of Providence, (a manifestation of divine care and direction), came as I experie...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 9th Jan 2009
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A.A. Thought for the Day When we were drinking, most of us had no real faith in anything. We may have said that we believed in God, but we didn't act as though we did. We never honestly asked God to help us and we never really accepted His help. To us, faith looked like helplessness. But when we came into A.A....
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Responsibility for Ourselves
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We have been doing the wrong things for the right reasons. -- Codependent No More
Caretaking: the act of taking responsibility for other people while neglecting responsibility for ourselves. When we instinctively feel responsible for the feelings, thoughts, choices, problems, comfort, and...
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