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The Fourth Step: How to approach it?
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I am now going thru my Fourth with a friend I met at a recovery home. There is some contention (or at least confusion) on how to go about it. Old-timers: how is this done? On P. 65 of the BB, there's the spreadsheet, with Bill W. saying, "We were usually as definite as this example..." There are t...
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I need help in being non-judgmental. HELP!
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I have a number of spiritual diseases that I believe (and have been told by Bill W.) will hinder my recovery. I am asking advice from people who were where I am at now, yet have since recovered from them. A short list:I am a White Nationalist. The Mexican/American seems to wave the Mexican national flag:...
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humbly returning to AA
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Just joined this forum today. I have made phone calls locally trying to get back to meetings. It takes time for someone in my rural area to respond. I do know there are meetings 6 evenings a week about 4 miles away. But it has been 4 days since I reached out and still no one closer than 20 miles has respond...
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Caught in a "slip"
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My "wife" found a beer can in the truck. I can't deny it's mine. I know that Crystal has posted about relationships, but I haven't seen an answer as to why they have to be so hard. I "caught" her in a slip. I was informed that she has been e-mailing her "friend" again....
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Struggling
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I am struggling with the quantity not the frequency of alcohol. Dinner wine is the only thing I drink but at 11.5%, it doesn't take very much to get myself intoxicated. I've gone months, even a couple of years free from alcohol, now that my children are grown, I am often alone at social settings, will p...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Daily Tune-Up
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Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of God's will into all of our activities. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85 How do I maintain my spiritual condition? For me it's quite simple: on a daily basis I ask my Higher Power to grant me the gift of sobriety for that day! I have talked to many alcoholics who h...
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Crossed the triple digit line...
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I know that in AA we celebrate milestones in a lunar cycle, but when I realized that I had 106 days in yesterday, it felt different. It caused reflection. What have I learned? 1) God had been there with me on the boat all along. All I had to do was turn over the tiller and God would steer me on the right course...
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have had a rubbish week
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I have been abusing stuff that we do not talk about in AA and I feel very tired old and depressed, I have to stop this, each week i say i will quit at the weekend. I just feel like dying
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What was the deal?
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What in the world was up with the page last night? It connected to a completely different site, and it had my computer all froze up. It went to a page called MIP, that had a picture of two half-way houses on the front?? That has happened to me before. Am I crazy....again??!!! LoL
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Sorry dudes....
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..I drank. Was the longest off it for a while. Don't intend to do too much more, but until I'm there with Step 1 I dunno how genuine I can be. Feel pretty shit about it all actually. Was doing well and your support helped. On the plus side; yesterday I ordered The Big Book and the Living Sober one. Watched My N...
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Malta's 4th International A.A. Convention ~ 6th-8th Nov 09
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Please peruse the following for your interest & entertainment. Carl & I are already booked & will be staying for the whole week 5th to the 12th! Will any of you being joining us? Recovery Love, Danielle XXX AA MALTA & GOZO 4TH INTL CONVENTION 2009 "ACCEPTANCETHE ANSWER"...
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My Glasses
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My Glasses By Anonymous My glasses tell a story that only I can see Of all the joys and sorrows that are happening to me Those that know me best own pieces of my heart And I had the best intentions always from the start I have made mistakes and I hurt a few But sometimes I never knew And others made mistakes and...
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Cool sayings we hear at meetings
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I heard a good one tonight.... You know how its been said that we are all just an arms length away from a drink....? This guy said he's NOT an arms length away....he's actually 12 steps away.
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I'm confused......
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There has always been a girl on this site that posts often, and her sobrity date was just after mine. She is also close to my age. For the life of me I cannot remember her online name. Where are you? Maybe I'm just crazy today. But I always enjoyed her posts. Where are you....who are you...??? LoL. ...
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Headaches
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I have never had headaches, occasionaly in the morning during my years of daily drinking but they went away pretty easily (especially if I didn't have to work and could start drinking again). My wife and I got sober about the same time 18 months ago, neither of us had much in the way of physical DT's or pro...
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I'm still here...........................
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So sorry if I worried anyone!! Shame on me for leaving that desperately serious post, and then not coming back for a few days!!! All your replies were so wonderful, so caring, speaking the "Language Of The Heart". Friends, I am ok, still sober. It has just been a really rough few weeks. I am st...
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Daily Miracles
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If you stick around long enough you will see miracles every day. The first I see each morning when I shave. I used to hate the guy in the mirror. All that changed due to the 12 steps of AA. Today the guy in the mirror is a pretty good fellow and I enjoy seeing him. Next are the daily miracles at m...
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Not a relationship board......
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I know this is not a relationship board, but I want you all to know that I have made a decision to myslef to get out of my current relationship. It is toxic for me. And though I try and say it does not threaten my sobriety, it does. Please wish me luck, he isn't the nicest man when he doesn't get his way : (
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Me Too Bill...You're Not Alone
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Hi BB, Thought seriously about copying and pasting you entire Post, and just putting my name on it! I have an injury from an Auto Accident, many years ago, that slammed my 5th and 6th vertibre together, never to seperate again. I have over the years learned how to deal with it. Last week, I did some reall...
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My slip up.....
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Bikerbill's post reminded me that I never fully explained my stumble in sobriety road...On Septmber 11th, 2009 which was coincidently the date of my last drink in 2008. I live in Indiana and my dad decided to plan a vacation to the Smokey Mountains. Boy was I excited. Growing up, we weren't able to...
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New here....
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Hi I'm new here. I've been lurking the boards for a while and thought now is as good a time as any to come on and see if there's anyone who's been in a similar boat, or knows someone who has. I pretty much need help. I'm currently coming out of a 4 day binge, haven't been drunk for 2 days but still feeling terrib...
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Not so much pre anniversary jitters............
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.......but maybe a bit of self pity mixed with reflections on the past. I read the last 7 days of another member a few weeks ago which struck a chord and as I'm in the anniversary of my last week of drunk my actions are coming back into my mind. I couldn't really remember them at year one and two, but they seem...
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I do have some (a little) control
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I debated on posting this here, but then I thought that I have brought up this subject at various AA meetings. So I thought I'd give it a try. ******************************************* I learned with every 12 Step group that I've participated in that I am powerless... that I need to surrender all...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Program For Living
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When we retire at night, we constructively review our day. . . . On awakening let us think about the twenty four hours ahead. . . . Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self pity, dishonest or self seeking motives. Alcoholics Anonymous Page 86I l...
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Acceptance is the Spiritual Key to Non-Judgment
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by: Richard Blackstone The paradigm of love, unity and oneness teaches us to neither judge nor condemn because there is no right or wrong. There only is what is. It is in our judgments that the concepts of right or wrong become so real to us. Now think of this. What if we viewed the people and events in our...
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Bit Off waayyyy more than I can chew...
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Today was the closest I've come to a relapse YET and I think it's because I started my amends not with something like like "Hi, sorry I sat on your sunglasses when we were drunk in the boat. Can I buy you a new pair?" but with apologizing to my ex-fiance for the last years of our relationship; lie...
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Just a quick hello
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Hi all. Im an alcoholic named Julie. Im on my way to a meeting, but I just registered and I wanted to say hello. Looking forwrd to meeting you all as we "trudge the road of happy destiny"
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very new' to a lot of 'new things.
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Hello, I am new to this message boards. But I am very glad I found it. And the reason for searching for it, was because tonight after my nightly AA meeting I had a little trouble at home. And that was when the struggles kicked in. And well, I cant go back to AA so I looked for this. And just what I was looking for...
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A Chat with God (I understand)
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One guy had a chat with GOD. God : Hello. You called me. Me : Called you? No, who is this? God : This is God. I heard your prayers. So, I thought I would chat with you. Me : Sure, I pray. Just makes me feel good. Actually, I am busy now. In the midst of something you know. God : What are you busy with? Ants are busy, t...
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Feels impossible......
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I'm sure most of you remember my struggle with my on-again, off-again boyfriend. Well, not a lot has changed in that area. He still does not accept, nor does he try to understand an alcoholic. As I have said before, he thinks it is all about being head strong. I tried to help him understand in the begi...
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Temptation Tonight
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Have not had one in a while, but I have a serious brain problem tonight, where the thought of hitting the streets keeps finding its way into my mind. Sponsor is not available tonight, but I told someone else in AA about the issue. I do not intend to do anything of the sort. I am leading tomorrow. I will have 2...
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Today is Thanksgiving Day in Canada, and also my first visit with my son in 10 months.
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Hi Friends ! What a gift I received today ! It was so lovely to see my son today. I was able to hold him, hug him and give him a kiss. It felt so good to have him in my arms. We talked and played in the park even though it was a chilly 7 deg. Celsius. We Canucks are a hardy lot, EH ? Parting with him did not bring sadn...
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I don't even remember what I was screaming about.
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Although the fact that I posted my "Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!" thread both here and the Al-Anon board gives me a clue. Anyway, sorry about the hit & run, didn't mean to make anyone worry. Will be doing 5th step with sponsor this coming Tuesday, still sober. I'm worried about the coming...
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Turning it over
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Went to a good meeting today, really felt meaningful, got home to a letter which I need to deal with on monday but because of the meeting, feel I can cope and not have a washing machine head the entire weekend, I normally always get my post in the morning so its really great that I did not get this until this e...
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Oldtimer New to MIP
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Just wanted to say Hello to all members. I just registered and I am looking forward to sharing experience strength and hope and receiving the same. My home group is "The Eye Opener South" in East Aurora, NY we meet 7 days a week at 7 AM including all holidays. I sobered up in Honolulu, Hawaii...
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Got A Favorite "Guy walks into a bar" Joke?
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One good thing came from years of riding a whiskey-saddle at the bar...a fair collection of "guy walks into a bar" jokes. My favorite? A baby seal walks into a bar and the barman asks "what'll it be?" and the baby seal says, "anything but a Canadian Club." Next?
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Question RE: Christian Overtones
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Hi, My homegroup is in northeast Iowa (pop. 8000 with two Lutheran churches) and a member of our group brought up a concern to me, on the side. He's "out" gay and feels okay talking to me because while I'm straight, I'm not narrow. The issue he brought forth was about the strong Christian ove...
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Drinking problem vs. Alcoholism
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Hey all, I hope everyone is doing wonderfully today. I have also been posting on another AA related forum and have received some slighty confusing feedback. Some of the members of that group had hinted one has to evaluate wether he/she is truly an alcoholic or if he/she has a drinking problem. While a...
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hello to everyone...New and looking for guidance
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Hello, I am in my mid 20's and have decided i need to take a look at AA. This is my first post. I'm not really sure if I need to go to meetings or not yet and thought maybe the online atmosphere might be helpful. I have for almost 10 years been the "life of the party" among friends. While, I don't hav...
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90 Day Chip!!
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Got my purple chip today! Employer bought me a bouquet of three yellow roses; one for each month. Thanks, ya'll! Now I'm gonna take myself out to lunch. Rob
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Great Job Reffner on 6 months!!!!
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Hi Brian, Just happened to read about your 6 months. Not an easy task, but you did it. That first year in my own experience is the most difficult, and getting to that half way point. Just felt so happy for you and wanted to say that. Congrats! Toni
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My very first meeting
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ummm anyone welling to help me out here im new at this.......? -- Edited by bubblegum on Monday 5th of October 2009 10:14:44 PM
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Congratulations of getting over the 90 Day Mark Angela!!!
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Good Morning Angela, Just saw where you wrote that you did not know if it was worthy of mentioning - just getting over 90 days. Angela, we have written to each other, and just watching you grow the way you have in these 90+ days, getting a great Sponsor, getting to all the Meetings, and doing so much work,...
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Just Toni
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Alcohol - The Great Remover
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Alcohol is a product of amazing versatility.It will remove stains from designer clothes, and will also remove the clothes from your back.If by chance it is used in sufficient quantities, alcohol will remove furniture from the home, rugs from the floor, food from the table, lining from the stomac...
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Happy One Year On, Pinkchip!!!!!
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Mark, I trust you're safe & well in the sanctuary of your Steps & Fellowship. We love you so dearly. Thankyou for joining this wonderful kinship in sobriety I love so dear also. You've made A.A. your own & I love how you work your program. You're hardly even half way through & look at You...
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Daily Reflections ~ Facing Ourselves
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. . . . and Fear says, You dare not look! TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 49 How often I avoided a task in my drinking days, just because it appeared so large! Is it any wonder even if I have been sober for some time, that I will act that same way when faced with what appears to be a monumental job, such...
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Daily Reflections - A Spiritual Axiom & 24hrs a Day
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It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us. 12 & 12, p. 90 I never truly understood the Tenth Steps spiritual axiom until I had the following experience. I was sitting in my bedroom, reading into the wee hours, when suddenly...
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Allow me to introduce myself
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Hello guys and gals, I hope I am OK to post this intro here, I looked for an intro topic, but couldn't see one, so here goes. I am Avril, from Barnsley South Yorkshire, Homegroup Barnsley Romero Centre Thursday lunchtime, which is a Living Sober meeting which attracts clients from the local detox unit...
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Pretty Cool
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I usually attend only one 12-step meeting a week because of the drive to and from the town that its held in. They have a variety of meetings throughout the week, but they all start at 8 PM and by the time it's over and you have your chit-chat afterwards and you drive home and relax. It's getting pretty late....
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Dave Harm
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Scared and angry
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I need to share. I need some strength from my fellow A.A.'s. The last 2 days have been sheer and utter hell for me. Very bad fights with the wife, and a short fuse lately has me flying off the handle at my entire family for very petty things. Self has gotten in the way, I seem to be giving it up to my HP only t...
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Reffner
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