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Happy 66th Bellybutton Birthday, Larry!
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You Oldbird! What a beautiful age to be, Larry. Thank you for being here. You've made yourself most welcome :) Have a wonderful & bright sober birthday for Tuesday 24hrs. Yours, wishing you recovery love & happiness on your very special day, Danielle x
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Books for Teenage Children of Alcoholics?
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I did a google search and saw some out there, but none that seemed suitable for my daughter. She tried Ala-Teen and didn't like it. She didn't even think I was an alcoholic, so she initially resisted all of this and I think right now she still doesn't really know what to think (I'm 17 months sober). I re...
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I read this in an old AA Magazine
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I read a share in an old AA magazine. I thought that maybe there was no-one else in the same position I'm in who would be willing to share it, until I read this share. Part of it mirrored exactly my experience. the sharer finished by saying to the effect that once amends have been made as best as possible, th...
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My Dog goes in for surgery tomorrow
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Please keep her in your prayers... she is my LOVE, my little baby, my daughter, my confindant, my very best friend in this world. She gets skin cancers, and has several which need to be removed tomorrow. God, please bless my pup with a safe trip to and from the vet, and keep your hand on her.
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WOW... BIG INTERVIEW
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.... with a surgeon, for a new assistant, this Wed. morning at 7:30am.... I have been working part time only for the practice I worked at for 2 years... and the doctors split up and parted ways, so I began being the one who went back and forth, and scheduled all over the place, which was fine at the time.......
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Non-sticky: No One will be offended
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Hey, I'm an alcoholic so I don't like what I perceive as being talked to from on high, and then not given any chance to respond. I don't much like the idea of posting some kind of guideline for a message board and then having the topic immediately closed so nobody has the chance to put in their two cents exc...
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Advice on being a sponsor for the first time
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I have talked with my sponsor, and am going to follow what he did with me in a general way, but I'd like to get some thoughts from the group here. Any mistakes you made or things to watch out for?
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The Sword
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Ok, someone help me boil this down please...
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I know that there are about a zillion character defects at work here. But there's only so much I can do about that right now.So I'll keep it simple:Just give me advice on what course of action you think would be most likely to help keep me sober.'Cause right now I'm on the verge of saying the "**** it&...
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Night Light
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If you have knowledge, let others light their candles at it.~ Margaret Fuller We are seen as powerful examples every time we speak at a meeting, offer encouragement, and give supposrt to those in need. The knowlege we've gathered from the strength and hope of the program is a gift to share with others....
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Reactive...but not nuclear any more.
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Aloha Fellowship...It's time to input and be responsible. I had mentioned that I was backing out for a while in reaction to how another share was shared. I took responsibility for how I thought others would think about it and feel about it instantly coming to the conclusion that my own thoughts and f...
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Daily Reflections ~ Shortcomings Removed & 24hrs a Day
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But now the words "Of myself I am nothing, the Father doeth the works" began to carry bright promise and meaning. 12 & 12, p. 75 When I put the Seventh Step into action I must remember that there are no blanks to fill in. It doesn't say, "Humbly asked Him to (fill in the blank) remove ou...
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Gratitude is a way of life.
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Gratitude is a way of life. Saying thank you from the heart makes us feel full. Perhaps we don't really know we have something until we express our thanks for it. There are different levels of gratitude. There is the polite, automatic response when someone opens a doo...
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Hello
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Hello It has been awile ,,just found my old log in info I started a new name last year but like i do i forgot it ( Bluesman ) Join this board about 6 years ago it was very helpful to me because i was very ill today my health is great ,,,i very busy with AA alot of service work ,,and i love it I hope everybody is O...
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What I got
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I "got" a lot today. Today I drove to Delray to pick up and take a sponsee to a fundraising event. My first sponsor was there and I sat back and looked at what has become my family of choice down here and felt very satisfied at giving that gift to someone else. So, I "got" that gift...
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Changing our attitudes
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Changing our attitudes Our prayer is, "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." We say this prayer at least once a day because, although we must accept th...
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Strange evening... difficult
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Went to my homegroup.... I always get sad afterward lately, because I would like to go out for coffee or do something interesting, but all my female friends are married and have kids and busy with that these days...... Found myself driving to I don't know where.... food on the brain... SubWay? Mr. Her...
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DON'T QUIT
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This is an old poem and probably kinda simplistic-sounding, but when I relate it to my drinking and the destruction and despair in my life (and damage to others lives) on a line-by-line basis, it really helps me lift my spirits. DONT QUIT When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, When the road youre...
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EEKS ex on the way down here
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We had planned this before, he got a new Elkhound puppy because he missed our Elkhound Scouty who now lives with me... it is the cutest little thing, and he is bringing Scooter down to visit, and also pick up fish and chips from our favorite restaurant for that.... my aunt (Al Anon/my pseudo-mom) will b...
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Messed up last night
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I had a sober date of 7/10/10. I never thought of myself as an alcoholic but went to AA twice since then and felt at home, welcomed, and have been reading the literature. Even in listening to the stories, I always felt that I wasn't that bad, that I could quit on my own and didn't need to be at the meetings. I...
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Trying to look up AGO.....
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I guess he has deleted himself.....or was deleted?! I enjoyed his perspective....guess I missed some interplay........Am I wrong?!
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How will you dream if you don't sleep?
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: How will you dream if you don't sleep? How will you hear yourself? --Michael Dorris Sleep is a wonderful gift in our lives. For eight hours, we rest our bodies. We let the thoughts, feelings, and events of our lives tumble through our sleeping minds as they sort themse...
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Just checking in
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Hi Just thought I'd drop and maybe share a little, don't get me wrong I'm quite content with where I'm at in sobriety and love my children very much so. Daughter is off on her first real job she worked so hard to get on her own, and loves being at camp this year she gets paid for doing what she loves and I'm so pr...
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Hey all... It's been a long time.
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Was just poking around on here and decided I should say hello and give you all an update. Just finished Phase 1 of my outpatient program, which I really liked. It was a small women's-only group adn the facilitator was fantastic. I've made a few good friends on the program and we now have a weekly dinner...
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What does this mean to you?
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Chapter 5: How it works- Selfishness, self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly wit hout provocation, but...
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Hi, I am ready to start recovery
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Hey people. My name is Katie and I am new to these boards. I am at a very critical point in my life where I need to make some serious life changes. I dont think I have hit rock bottom (yet, or again or at the moment) but I know that my quality of life is definatly suffering due to my extreme drinking binges. Its t...
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Backing out for a while....
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Taking a vacation for a while been getting the impression from attitude and language that I'm just outside the door of the bar and about an hour late from that start. Sounding way tooo familiar to me....Carry on.
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Jerry F
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The 4 Absolutes-- from the Oxford Group/ and AA
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The 4 Absolutes of AAForewordSpelled out as such, the Four Absolutes are not a formal part of our AA philosophy of life. Since this is true, some may claim the Absolutes should be ignored. This premise is approximately as sound as it would be to suggest that the Holy Bible should be scuttled. The Absol...
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Coming Out of the Shadows
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Sober now 9 months and lately feeling waves of shame come over me over things I've done in my past. The voice in my head says things like ...."Look at you, everyone knows what a loser you are.""People know your secrets and shameful things you have done""Your history is not...
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Tee hee... cartoon tickled me
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I wish I could find this cartoon online. It was in the May 3, 2010 New Yorker. The cartoon had no caption (and didn't need one) - the article in which it appeared had nothing to do with alcoholism - not even sure what it was about. I cut out the cartoon and put it up on the bulletin board at my home group, af...
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Getting very restless.
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Hey all I tell you being laid off and not having any driving privileges and also being out in the country by myself most of the day, drives me insane at times. I do, 2 days a week get a ride to noon meetings and hafe an acre yard to take care of but running out of projects to do with the tight cash flow. I have five...
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No One will be offended...
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Hi everyone, At the begining of every meeting here in North Carolina, USA, the chairperson makes a few basic annoucements related to parking, smoking and profanity. I'm a smoker and a cusser... so while it wouldn't bother me if every AA room in the world was smoke filled and every one used foul languag...
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John
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Am I destined to die at an early age from this disease? (seriously)
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only on 72 hrs right now :( I hope one day I can get a true 90 day coin, but Im sober right now and God willing will stay sober tomorrow... This time I affected another person who I truly cared about in the program, I dont want to get into much detail right now but she had a lot more sobriety time than me (years) a...
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So tonight my wife asks...
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"When will you be done with recovery? How long are you going to have to keep being selfish and putting your sobriety first? These days it's all about you." No. I'm not kidding. I know I have issues; hell - I have subscriptions to some of them. However, I'm amazed at the man I'm becoming, but I gu...
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Hello
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Hi, Just thought I would Introduce myself. My SD is 28/5/2008 and from the UK. How do I access the online meetings ? Up until recently I have been doing 1 meeting a day, Which is great at the start, but as things have settled down, and life is growing as it does, doing daily meetings is getting harder, so im l...
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Vacation.
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Well Im back from a week in the Mountains of Lake Tahoe. Sad to see it end. But lots of good lessons were learned. Went to a running camp. Ran every morning at 6 am ( ok i slept in once.) Hiked most afternoons. Funny thing. The people out there have no idea that im an alcoholic. Went to dinner with them...
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Congratulations on SEVEN Years SOBRIETY 1Day@aTime, TINA! XXX
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Lucky Number *7* aye! Have a wonderful 24hrs for 07.14.10, Tina. Godbless babe, Danielle xxx
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Conflicts with others belong in PM..
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Good Morning all, Well read the whole board this am....and saw two seperate conflicts.... My own feelings are really directed at the folks that might be reading that are nervous, but contemplating a life without alcohol. I share some "Private opinions" of the conflicting stuff, but the...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Measure of Humility & 24hrs a Day
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In every case, pain had been the price of admission into a new life. But this admission price had purchased more than we expected. It brought a measure of humility, which we soon discovered to be a healer of pain. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 75 It was painful to give up trying to control my life...
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I still believe in coincidences, but it gets harder and harder.
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Background: My wife and I have been separated for two years now, but we still love each other and communicate daily. We are both in the program. We are both singers, and love music. We met in a bar singing karaoke. One song she likes, "It's Too Late" by Carly Simon, has some lyrics that took...
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FlyingSquirrel
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Living in the Present
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Today's thoughts from Hazelden are: Living in the Present One day at a time, This is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past. For it is gone. . . And do not be troubled about the future. For it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful. That it will be worth remembering.
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Larry_H
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Update
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Figured I owed an update after being MIA for awhile.... things are going.... spent a few weeks considering the old "F--- It All" solution, and isolating to the point of not even getting on the computer.... worked a little, watched a lot of t.v., did a lot of stupid inebriating... not a good w...
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jonijoni1
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No tap dancing around problems
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: No tap dancing around problems Our program calls for a "searching and fearless" moral inventory, not only in the beginning, but as we continue to follow our new way of life. What this means is complete honesty about who and what we really are. We should not...
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Larry_H
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Awww, why didn't I think of this before? I'm gonna run out of pages!
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Fun exercise, if you're bored: 1) Calculate how many days you've been sober 2) Turn to that page in the Big Book 3) See if anything jumps out at ya or there's anything you can learn or re-learn 4) If it's a personal story, count how many similarities there are between you and the person whose story it is. Me...
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I don't want a drink...
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,,,but I've recognised that some of my character defects have come back. I've been assissting a colleague on a project. He's been over whelmed with work. He's now on leave for a fortnight and so I'm managing the project, which was teetering on a spiral out of control. So my perfectionism has led me to wo...
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I hate drinking
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Yet I continue to drink. I hate waking up at 3 AM with a skull-busting headache and dying of thirst. I hate how fat it makes me. I hate having to pretend I know what people are talking about, when I don't have a clue. I hate feeling like a fake, a fraud, and a scumbag. I used to be a fairly serious distance...
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Working With Others Passively?
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I've never been what you'd call an aggressive 12th-stepper. I don't shun newcomers, but I don't get in their faces either. I don't think I'm alone - seems like only 1 in 10 of us, or even fewer, really jump deep into working with others as sponsors, doing 12th step calls, etc. I've never said no to any r...
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The Cure
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I know this is considered an outside issue but anybody else see the commericals of the guy promoting his "Cure" book? He says right upfront that it isn't based on the 12 steps or the desease concept. Does this person really believe this or is he trying to take advantage of those looking for t...
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Our Newest Old Timer, Mikef!!!
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Thank you for 500 posts of beautiful experience, strength & hope, Mike! Thank you for taking your recovery as seriously today as you did 25 years ago when you first got clean & sober. Thank you for being here & sharing your faith to our newcomers that all of us can have what you have if we do as...
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Biggest trigger yet
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Home Improvement Bu**shit. I haven't wired a simple outlet in 15 years, much less did a switch-thru or whatever the hell you call it and I don't even know if it's legal! I'm trying to solve the "outlet+extension cord+surge suppressor+another six extension cords+air conditioner DOES NOT equa...
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Learning from my mistakes
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Guess I need to slow down a little bit huh ... I hit the wrong button on my own profile of ljc and deleted my whole self . So, now Im back as happycamper . Dean, you can make my status a newcomer if ya want to, cuz Im sure it wouldnt hurt me any to go back to basics, lol. thanks, The poster formally known as ljc -- Ed...
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