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Guilt and Resentment
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Be Free Of Guilt And Resentment
You can be free of guilt and resentment.
Guilt and resentment are states of mind that destroy love and create suffering. They seem to be caused by what happened but they're not. They are caused by how you relate to what happened.
Fortunately, since you created the...
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Daily Reflection Jan 20
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"WE PAUSE . . . AND ASK" As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.87 Today I humbly ask my Higher Power for the grace to find the space between my impulse and my action; to let flow a cooling breeze when I would respond with...
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Hey Chris Bud?
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Got this long distance thing for all of North America..
Shoot me your phone number..in private messaging..or email...and wele hook up from time to time...
Would be great chatting with you..
Im still trying to understand the U.S language ehh? But Im sure wele get through it somehow..ya...
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time to get a new keyboard...
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Well, I'm typing away, taking notes for a reasearch paper... I gaze down at the keyboard and notice a big white crystalline hunk under the Page Down Key... I took it out with some tweezers and threw it in the toilet and it indeed began to melt...
Just had to share that-
Here's to being clean and sobe...
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Insight from a Recovering A Plz?
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Hi, I'm just looking to see what a recovering A has to say about what my A is going through right now. He is going through outpatient treatment far away from myself and our kids, so we haven't seen him for awhile since he relapsed so bad that he had wanted to die. He is and was so scared fr...
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a reason a season or a lifetime
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People come into your life for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime.
When you know which one it is for a person, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through difficulty, to pro...
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Kinda Makes It All Easier..Doesnt It?
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Unconditionally Me
by Jim Messina
I am who I am
You cannot change me so please do not try
So let up with the criticisms, put downs and attempts to make me fit your "box" for me
Face it, it is easier for you just to accept me as I am
than to work at making me who you want me to be
Of course you do not...
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Rule 62 & my 2 Brain Cells
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I love this message board and all of you here. I've become comfortable with asking for help, with trying to share my ES&H and with sharing what goes on in my life. The key word is "comfortable". I look at this board as more than just an extension of my f2f AA. I view all of you here as my FRIE...
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Thursday
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A.A. Thought for the Day
On the foundation of sobriety, we can build a life of honesty, unselfishness, faith in God, and love of our fellow human beings. We'll never fully reach these goals, but the adventure of building that kind of a life is so much better than the merry-go-round of our o...
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links
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I've collected a few links relating to recovery 12 Step programs. Some of them are AA, and some are ACA.. I have them on my favorites so I can get back to them quickly when I need a reference... I'll share the AA ones here:
Sober Transitions: http://members.aol.com...
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It ain't easy, but it's simple.
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This is the best quote I got from my private messages! (about following the 12 steps etc.) as it was a `private' message, I'll not disclose the sender, but I think you know who it was <grin>
anyways, for everyone here just reading the forum just like before BEFORE quiting:
It...
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a "quicky" step 4..this is cool and it WORKS
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January 18 The Simple Inventory
" Continuing to take a personal inventory means that we form a habit of looking at ourselves, our actions, our attitudes, and our relationships on a regular basis."
Basic Text, p. 41The daily inventory is a tool we can use to simplify our lives. The most complica...
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POEM
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The lonely little girl,
That lives inside of me.
Please listen carefully to her,
she'll show you she's insecure..
Please try to be a friend to her,
and maybe you will see
That if you look deep enough,
you'll find the real me.
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VERY IMPORTANT WARNING
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> VERY IMPORTANT WARNING !!!!!! > Please Be Extremely Careful especially if using internet mail such as> Walla, Yahoo, Hotmail, AOL and so on. This information arrived this> morning from Microsoft and Norton. Please send it to everybody you know> who acc...
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Daily Reflection Jan 18
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WOULD A DRINK HELP? By going back in our drinking histories, we could show that years before we realized it we were out of control, that our drinking even then was no mere habit, that was indeed the beginning of a fatal progression. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 23 When I was still drinking, I co...
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St. Francis Prayer
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Prayer of St. Francis
Lord, make me an instrument of Your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
O, Divine Master,
g...
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Upsets
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Upsets Are Not Caused By What Happens
When you are full of fear and upset, you lose your effectiveness.
To have your dreams come true and to create a life that works, you need to take action. The challenge is to discover what action you need to take.
When you are in a state of fear and upset, you destr...
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i did it
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well guys 365 days sober today!!!!!! yep one year,wow what a ride thanks guys god bless wagon
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is it a CRIME for me 2 get MY needs met???
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ok, i am in the s*** house with my sister (we grew up as sisters but are BIO cousins)
anway, her hubby 2 weeks ago, had heart attack....i was at the very same time doing this AWFUL workbook and going into crying /grief mode....i put off MY work, for a couple of days ti...
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Daily Reflection Jan 17
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HAPPINESS COMES QUIETLY "The trouble with us alcoholics was this: We demanded that the world give us happiness and peace of mind in just the particular order we wanted to get it - by the alcohol route. And we weren't successful. But when we take time to find out some of the spiritual laws, and familiariz...
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MLK-quote
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Today's Quote
Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
-Martin Luther King, Jr.
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Robert E Lee
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Robert E. Lee was Born on:
January 19, 1807
Robert E. Lee's Birthday was celebrated in the South during the Civil war. Even today in the South, the day that Robert E. Lee was born is celebrated as "Robert E. Lee" day. It is a Southern Holiday in some areas. It is interesting that i...
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30 days mark! 30 x 24 long hours!
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It is sunday morning, 8:36, the sun is shining and I just woke up from my first real good night sleep (slept 4 hours in a row and then some hours with waking up in between) and I looked out the window and said: The sun is shining I made it to day 30! Thanks to zoomie for telling me about the 'coin' I would h...
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Where are you??
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It is 8 a.m. on a freezing, ice cold, minus nine morning in Ontario Canada!!!!
Where is everyone???
Later Jeannie
Bells won't be jingling today!
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The Camel
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The camel each day goes twice to his knees He picks up his load with the greatest of ease. He walks through the day with his head held high And stays for that day completely dry.
In the morning, the camel kneels down, and the camel-driver puts on his burden.
Then the camel kneels down in the evening and...
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REL-quotes
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Do your duty in all things. You cannot do more, you should never wish to do less
I cannot trust a man to control others who cannot control himself.
Whiskey - I like it, I always did, and that is the reason I never use it.
My chief concern is to try to be an humble, earnest Christian.
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Daily Reflection Jan 16
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HITTING BOTTOM Why all this insistence that every A.A. must hit bottom first? The answer is that few people will sincerely try to practice the A.A. program unless they have hit bottom. For practicing A.A.'s remaining eleven Steps means the adoption of attitudes and actions that almost no alcoholic...
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Jumping To Negative Assumptions
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What is jumping to negative assumptions?
When I jump to negative assumptions, I:
reach the negative, pessimistic judgment that things are not going to go my way and act accordingly.
am reacting to unresolved anger that gives power to people against whom I harbor anger.
am acting out of an...
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Hi...again
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Hi everyone,
My name is Mike and I'm an alcoholic in Boston. Thanks for the welcome back on the other thread Amanda. I visit here occsasionally and had saved the site on my favorites list, but i spilled water on my laptop and shorted it out. I've gotten back online regularly now an...
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Saturday
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In a culture where approval/disapproval has become the predominant regulator of effort and position, and often the substitute for love, our personal freedoms are dissipated. --Viola Spolin
Wanting others to approve our efforts, our appearance, our aspirations and behavior is perfectl...
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Introduction
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Hello everybody, you don't know me, but I `know' a lot of you already :)
I've been reading this forum for quiet a while now, and never registered... I finally did, to thank you all for your stories, suggestions, comments on eachother etc.
Without know it, you all have helped me through some rotten t...
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Step 10..from 12 and 12
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Step Ten "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it."
As we work the first nine Steps, we prepare ourselves for the adventure of a new life. But when we approach Step Ten we commence to put our A.A. way of living to practical use, day by day, in fair weather...
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twelve step prayers
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12 step prayers.....
12 step prayers
1-Dear Lord: I admit that I am powerless over alcohol. I admit that my life is unmanageable when I try to control it. Help me this day to understand the true meaning of powerlessness. Remove from me all denial of my addiction.
2-Heavenly Father: I...
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Daily Reflection Jan 15
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AN UNSUSPECTED INNER RESOURCE With few exceptions our members find that they have tapped an unsuspected inner resource which they presently identify with their own conception of a Power greater than themselves. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, pp. 569-70 From my first days in A.A., as I struggled for sobri...
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Hi all
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Hi all. Hello to all the newcomers, I will get to know you in time.
Hello also to my friends that know me here, it's great to be back!
It's been a wild ride for the last month, great times! We got married (myself and Julie), seen just about every Buddah in Bangkok and had a ride in a 'Tuk tuk' (suicidal 3 wh...
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Attitudes and Limitations
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Attitudes and Limitations
"My greatest limitations," a member said, "are in my mind." Until I came to this group, I wasn't even aware that many of the negative circumstances in my life were the direct result of my distorted attitudes.
I brought myself a lot of unnecessary misery by thin...
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today's gift
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THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
If we have some moral, religious, or spiritual aware- ness from our past lives, we are better prospects for this program. When we reach bottom, at this crucial moment of total defeat that prior awareness almost instinctively turns us to grasp whatever elements of fait...
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I guess I'm starting here.
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Stats:
1. I can drink anyone on this board under the table. (I'm not proud of that)
2. I'ts killing me.
3. Can anyone help me dig myself out of this hole that I jumped into about 10 years ago?
Or at lest tell me where to start? This has gone on too long, and it needs to stop. I can hide it so well, tha...
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Daily Reflection Jan 14
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NO REGRETS We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.83 Once I became sober, I began to see how wasteful my life had been and I experienced overwhelming guilt and feelings of regret. The program's Fourth and Fifth Steps assisted me enormously in healing those t...
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What if?
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I was talking to a friend one day about something I planned to do. Actually, I was worrying about how one particular person might react to what I intended to do.
"What if he doesn't handle it very well?" I asked.
"Then," my friend replied, "you're going to have to handle it well."
What ifs...
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CabbageheadChris ???
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Hey man! Are you back? I thought (thought) I saw you.......could have been my imagination!
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23rd Psalm 4 Recovering Alcoholics
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http://www.beliefnet.com/prayeroftheday/more_prayers.asp?paid=39&faid=76
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Balance
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Finding Balance
The goal of recovery is balance - that precious middle ground.
Many of us have gone from one extreme to another: years of taking care of everyone but ourselves, followed by a time of refusing to focus on anyone's needs but our own.
We may have spent years refusing to identify, f...
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grrrrr - arrggghhhh - OMG!
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Early in Dec. I had gone to a f2f, my mom called and my son, not knowing she didn't know, told her that I was at AA. I was not yet ready to tell her, if ever, she has a way of taking anything good and turning it into something horrible. So, after much thought, and talking with my sponsor, I f...
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Patience? What the "H" is that??!!
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Patience is the ability to: Sit back and wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration. Let go of your need for immediate gratification. Display tolerance, compassion, understanding, and acceptance toward those who are slower than you in developing matu...
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Daily Reflection Jan 13
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IT DOESN'T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85 The most common alcoholic fantasy seems to be: "If I just don't drink, everything will be all right." Once the fog...
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Newbie here... 25 months sober?
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A question to you all, i am new here and this is my first post.
I have not had a single drink for 25 months (to the day in three), although i do not step or do meets, i have much knowledge of alcoholism as it runs in my family in a big way...
My question is this; during my 25 months alcohol free, i take 2 x 1...
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Heeyyy Gammy ?
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Are you feeling better? The "crud" is going around these parts, my son came home from school today with I think the flu. So you take care of you and stay healthy......
Love you
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I am finally back into meeting!!!!
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Hi Everyone,
just a little update on my little stuggles I was having getting back into the feeling of belonging when I would go to an AA Meeting: The list was something like this: didn't know anyone, people were not very friendly, did not feel like I fit in, meeting was too clickey...
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Relationship Deterioration
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SOME REASONS WHY RELATIONSHIPS DETERIORATE 1. Lack of education in effective communication. We have not been educated in how to communicate openly and honestly. 2. Poor examples - Role models. We learn through imitation. We contain within us much more of our parents? programming than we are aware...
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