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Self-Pity
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Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable. -- Maya Angelou Some days we grasp at self-pity like a blanket on a cold night, and we are momentarily comforted. However, extended periods of self-pity will undermine our primary purpo...
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Restless, Irritable, and Discontent
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How well those 3 words describe me right now... I dunno what's going on with me... Noticing some of my character defects/personality flaws/immaturity/whatever you wanna call it... Noticing how probably some people are right, that I'm not ready for any kind of committed relationship... or maybe I...
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Labels Limit Us
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"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be."-- Lao TzuHow do you define yourself, to yourself and others? Are you first and foremost a husband/wife? A mother/father? A bus driver, dentist, musician ... ? A Christian, Moslem, Jew ...? A nag, joker, dreamer ...?Be aware that any lab...
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Is this person an alcoholic?
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I grew up around major alcoholism and it was obvious because those people were at it all day and left a trail of destruction around them. I now am around someone who for some reason or other I can't make a decision about as to whether or not they are a true alcoholic. Maybe because it has been so hard to see...
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Regret
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Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can't build on it: it's only good for wallowing in. -- Katherine Mansfield Newcomer Someone I hoped would be an important part of my life for years to come has left. I'm devastated. I don't know how much of what happened is my fault; I keep thinking, "If on...
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Could use some prayers/support... even if this sounds silly...
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Way off topic from being even remotely related to AA... but I could use a bit of support, kind words, hugs... It's been a long very rough night... I guess overall I'm ok, but I'm hurting so bad... I did the hardest thing I've ever had to do... I had to put my tom down... by myself. I've never hurt an ani...
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It's difficult sometimes....It really is...
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To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outco...
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young alcoholic
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Hi everyone im on here cause i want to know if i am an alcoholic so you no more about me im 16 from scotland and i drink either everyday or every other day i drink things like fortified wines and super strength lager i drink to forget things and make me happy and because if i dont have a drink i feel edgy depress...
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Fear Of Intimacy
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http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/fear_of_intimacy
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We Are Responsible
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I am responsible for myself; my recovery, my well-being, my happiness, all these things are, ultimately, my own responsibility. -- Anonymous Our Higher Power does not lay claim to our free will. We can choose not to be responsible and make ourselves more miserable by going to new levels of despair an...
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Self Care
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When will we become lovable? When will we feel safe? When will we get all the protection, nurturing, and love we so richly deserve? We will get it when we begin giving it to ourselves. -- Beyond Codependency The idea of giving ourselves what we want and need can be confusing, especially if we have spent m...
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New Member
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I am a new member. I am trying to attend AA meetings but do not have the time or means to do it. I am hoping that I can gain the same kind of support and encouragement here. I don't know what to do so I will need a lot of help. Thank you to anyone willing to do so.
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Hello anyone out there?
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I've been asleep on this forum for a while. Just wanted to check in and say 'hi'. Hope all is well with everyone. Take care.
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The Unexpected
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Is there room in your day for the unexpected? Recovery works best for me when I'm open to what comes along each day. I used to set rigid schedules for myself, write long lists of things to do, and proceed through the day wearing the blinders of my preconceived scenario. Binges were my way of rebelling aga...
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Detaching in Relationships
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When we first become exposed to the concept of detachment, many of us find it objectionable and questionable. We may think that detaching means we don't care. We may believe that by controlling, worrying, and trying to force things to happen, we're showing how much we care. We may believe that contro...
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From A NewComer Asks
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Am I an alcoholic? If you repeatedly drink more than you intend or want to, or if you get into trouble when you drink you may be an alcoholic. Only you can decide. No one in A.A. will tell you whether you are or not.What can I do if I am worried about my drinking? Seek help. Alcoholics Anonymous can help.What...
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Happy Birthday Tim!!!
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Happy Birthday Tim!!!! Hope you're having a wonderful day 'cos you deserve it. Take care, Carol
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Cherish every moment
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Leave it up to a dog to remind me it's the simple things in life I need to cherish and be grateful for. YOu see, I have quite a zoo crew at home, including one dog now 14 years and 4 months old, Raven, the lab/hound dog mix. Raven was my oldest daughter's dog, with me her first four years of life, then several ye...
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Daily Reflections - August 18
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Getting Well Very deep, sometimes quite forgotten, damaging emotional conflicts persist below the level of consciousness. Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions.pp.79-80 Only through positive action can I remove the remains of guilt and shame brought on by alcohol. Throughtout my misadvent...
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We Are Responsible
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I am responsible for myself; my recovery, my well-being, my happiness, all these things are, ultimately, my own responsibility. -- Anonymous Our Higher Power does not lay claim to our free will. We can choose not to be responsible and make ourselves more miserable by going to new levels of despair an...
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Experiences Shape Your Reactions
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Our view of the universe is largely determined by our experiences. It is when we are caught off guard by the spontaneity of existence that we are most apt to respond authentically, even when our feelings do not correspond with those of the multitude. Events that arouse strong emotions with us or are su...
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Question
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Hello everyone. Today I have come to the tough realization that I am an alcoholic. I want to stop drinking and know I need to go to meetings to find some support. I'm nervous about going to a meeting because I don't know what to expect. Will I have to participate right away and tell my story? Or am I fre...
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New to the Board
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Hello group, For those who haven't had your second cup of coffee my name is Dean, I'm an alcoholic and drug addict, and I live in St. Pete FL. I also spend a lot of time in Boone, NC working on my retirement home. I got sober in Northern Va. in '89. For those in that area, I spent a lot time at the Unity Club in...
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steps and traditions
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Does anyone have a Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions index in a text file they could send me? I have one for the Big Book, and am making a bound copy for my home group, but can't seem to find one for ther 12&12. I have a hard copy of an old one, but I don't think it will scan too well... it's well-used!
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Valuing this Moment
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Detachment involves present moment living - living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day. -- Codependent No More This moment, we are right where we need to be, ri...
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Morning Thoughts - As Bill Sees It
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On awakening, let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity and from dishonest or self-seeking motives. Free of these, we can employ our mental faculties with assurance, for God gave us brains to use. Our t...
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emotion
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Hi everyone... I have a question... As I posted before I had my 6 months on Wed. Things are better than I have imagined in just 6 months... BUT I am missing something. I got my motivation and am back in school and have a much better relationship with my family and I know what I want to do with my life now (nursi...
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Owning Our Power
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Many of us have someone in our life that challenges our ability to trust and care for ourselves. When we hear that person's voice or are in his or her presence, we may forget all we know about what is real, about how to own our power, about how to be direct, about what we know and believe to be true, about how i...
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Know Your Motives
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"As long as one keeps searching, the answers come."-- Joan BaezWhy? Why? Why? Asking ourselves 'why?' helps us delve deeply into our main motives -- why we do what we do. This process helps us go deeper into our reasoning, habits and unconscious beliefs. Once we become aware of our underly...
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Healing Thoughts
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Think healing thoughts. When you feel anger or resentment, ask God to help you feel it, learn from it, and then release it. Ask Him to bless those who you feel anger toward. Ask Him to bless you too. When you feel fear, ask Him to take it from you. When you feel misery, force gratitude. When you feel deprive...
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Are you still with us Doll/Jen?
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I'm hoping that you are off somewhere on a well-deserved vacation and I just didn't see you post about going. I miss reading your posts. Jen? Jeh-enn? Ollie ollie in come free!...Tim
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Rescuing Ourselves
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No one likes a martyr. How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away. Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we want. It is our job to noti...
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Slogans
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Good morning everyone, I am doing a workshop later on this year in which we will be making God Boxes. I am looking for slogans that you like or have heard in your meetings that I might be able to print out for use on the God Boxes. Thanks for your help Barb
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Leaving Room for Feelings
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We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings. We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes - difficult ones, sometimes disruptive ones, and somet...
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Still Here
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Hi Just wanted to check in, still here and sober. Internet is down for a bit, but still pluggin away at her lol. Kids have been away for a bit, and well mama is taking some time for me. Taking it easy, over did it with my left side of my chest, pulled something in the outter wall of my chest. Other than that t...
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Thx all - for helping me get this far
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Greetings all,
I want to thank you, very sincerely, for being part of my sobriety - getting to the two year mark.
Two years ago, my husband (of 18 years) and I got sober together.
One year ago, he was diagnosed with the cancer that took him from this world within 3 months.
Thus, I missed my 1 year bi...
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Sharing a letter by Bill W. from many moons ago..
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This is the substance of a revealing letter which Bill Wilson wrote several years ago to a close friend who also had troubles with depression. The letter appeared in the "Grapevine" January, 1953. EMOTIONAL SOBRIETY "I think that many oldsters who have put our AA "booze cure&...
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step 2
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"came to believe that a power greater than myself could restore me to sanity" i went to a meeting last night that talked about this step. a fellow shared that he needs to read what is in black and white...that it doesn't say.. came to believe IN a power greater than myself...therefore he nee...
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Don't Sweat The Small Stuff...
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Let it go The trivial annoyances, even though they are virtually meaningless, can overwhelm you if you let them. Choose not to let them. Be diligent about the things that truly matter, and be very flexible about the things that don't. There's no sense in wasting your precious time arguing or agonizin...
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Changing
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You cannot build a house or a life without some foundation. While we were still drinking or using drugs, it seemed our lives could not change. There was no foundation to build on. We had no working principles in our lives. We found we could not become the good things we wanted to become. Until we quit drin...
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Have A Great Week !!!
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I just wanted to tell everyone hello, and that I hope all of you have a Great and sober week. Im so happy...I get to pick up my 2 mo. chip this week...provided that I dont drink. All of you have played a VERY important role in helping me get back on the right track. I started my new job last Thursday, and Im lovi...
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Sitting with Feelings
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It can take great courage to really sit with our feelings, allowing ourselves to surrender to their powerful energies. All too often we set our feelings aside, thinking we will deal with them later. If we dont deal with them, we end up storing them in our minds and bodies and this is when anxiety and othe...
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Friends
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Don't overlook the value of friendship. Don't neglect friends. Friends are a joy. Adult friendships can be a good place for us to learn to have fun and to appreciate how much fun we can have with a friend. Friends can be a comfort. Who knows us better, or is more able to give us support, than a good friend? A...
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Kindness
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The rain was coming down in sheets now, and she had no idea how to change a flat. As long as it was raining so hard she held out little hope of getting someone to stop and help her. Suddenly, a rapping came at her window, and she rolled it down slightly. "Need help?" "I've got a flat and...
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Letting Go of Perfection
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As I journey through recovery, more and more I learn that accepting myself and my idiosyncrasies - laughing at myself for my ways - gets me a lot further than picking on myself and trying to make myself perfect. Maybe that's really what it's all about - absolute loving, joyous, nurturing self-accepta...
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Directness
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Direct people are a joy to be around. We never have to guess what they're really thinking or feeling, because they're honest about their thoughts and openly express their feelings. We never have to wonder if they're with us because they want to be, or if they're there out of guilt and obligation. When t...
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One year today...
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Yes, it's been one year for me of straight sobriety as of today. I see that There appears to be some good company. Zster celebrates two years and, I believe, Destinydreamer (Jamie) celebrates six months. I guess this date must have been one of those serious "morning after" times for som...
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How I Did It
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Hi everyone, In my post a few days ago saying that I was eighteen months sober, somebody asked me to share on how I had done it. That got me thinking. When I first came to AA, I just wasn't ready to really accept that I was an alcoholic. I had to go back out and prove to myself once and for all, that I really was. T...
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Any advice ??
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After getting sober again this time, My Dr. Put me on some meds. One of them I take at bedtime to help me sleep, another is for anxity. I take it because I have A.D.D and I take a low dose of Adderall and the meds for anxity help calm me down some . It's a VERY low Mg. The other day I applyed for a new job. I passed th...
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FORGIVENESS
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True forgiveness only occurs when we treat the subject as a closed matter. If we bring up old hurts whenever feelings fly, then we have never really forgiven. To hold a grudge is to build a wall between yourself and another person. Forgiveness breaks down walls. My higher power came to break down w...
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