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As Bill see's it
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Who is to Blame At Step four we resolutely looked for our own mistakes. Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened? Though a given situation had not been entirely our fault, we often tried to cast the whole blame on the other person involved. We finally saw that the inventory sh...
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Acceptance
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And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation, some fact of my life, unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be...
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Overcoming Self-Will - Daily Reflections - 3/3
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OVERCOMING SELF-WILL So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us! AL...
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24 Hours a day - March 3
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A.A. Thought for the Day
After we've made a surrender, the drink problem is out of our hands and in the hands of God. The thing we have to do is to be sure that we never reach out and take the problem back into our own hands. Leave it in God's hands. Whenever I'm tempted to tak...
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One AA Miracle - Daily Reflections - 2/29/08
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ONE A.A. MIRACLE Save for the brief moments of temptation the thought of drink has never returned; and at such times a great revulsion has risen up in him. Seemingly he could not drink even if he would. God had restored his sanity. Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 37 The word "God" was fr...
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Accepting Ourselves
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While driving one day, a woman's attention focused on the license plate of the car ahead. The license read: B WHO UR. How can I? she thought. I don't know who I am!
Some of us may have felt confused when people encouraged us to be ourselves. How could we know ourselves, or be who we are, when, for years, ma...
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It's been a while
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Just thought I'd drop in and say hi let you I'm doing fine, and the kids are well. Settin things up for my son to get back into school, and well next month will be 1 year for him beening clean of meth. i'm proud,,,,,. Daughter got 71.5 % on first semistier and well one day at a time. Bye now and check in soon. T...
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One week!
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I can't believe I've made it this far. One week without drinking. I owe a lot to all of you here, and to the people from meetings who have given me their numbers. I've called someone every day.
I've wanted to drink every day. It's only been the past two or three days that I haven't felt sick. The fact that i...
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Wow, this is heavy....
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This is a video of a fellow on Oprah, who is dying. Very powerful messages in it.
http://video.stumbleupon.com/#p=ithct48cqw
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As Bill see's it
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We Cannot stand still In the first days of A.A.. I wasn't much bothered about the areas of my life in which I was standing still. There was always the alibi: "After all," I said to myself, "Im far too busy with much more important matters." That was my near perfect prescription for...
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24 Hours a day - March 2
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A.A. Thought for the Day
Over a period of drinking years, we've proved to ourselves and to everybody else that we can't stop drinking by our own will power. We have been proved helpless before the power of alcohol. So the only way we could stop drinking was by turning to...
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As Bill see's it
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True ambition-and False We have had a much keener look at ourselves and those about us. We have seen that we were prodded by unreasonable fears or anxieties into making a life business of winning fame, money, and what we thought was leadership. So false pride became the reverse side of that ruinous coi...
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HOPE - Daily Reflections - 3/2
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HOPE Do not be discouraged. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 60 Few experiences are of less value to me than fast sobriety. Too many times discouragement has been the bonus for unrealistic expectations, not to mention self-pity or fatigue from my wanting to change the world by the weekend. Discouragement...
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Feelings about the Job
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I'm furious about my job. Another man got a promotion that I believe I deserve. I'm so mad I feel like quitting. Now my wife says I should deal with my feelings. What good will that do? He still got the promotion. -- Anonymous
Our feelings at work are as important as our feelings in any other area of our li...
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You Are Lovable
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We go back and back and back...through the layers of fear, shame, rage, hurt, and negative incantations until we discover the exuberant, unencumbered, delightful, and lovable child that was, and still is, in us. -- Beyond Codependency
You are lovable. Yes, you.
Just because people haven't be...
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The Power of the 3rd Step Prayer
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I am a grateful alcoholic. Early in my recovery my HP gave me a therapist who was truly a "gift from above." She understood the power of the 12 steps and kept drilling it into my head that sobriety could never last without a strong foundation with the first three steps. And through almost a yea...
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My computer's broken still
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Hey y'all, The night I got my birds, I broke my computer... well, the power cord... I was lunging after my cat who was going after my birds, and I pulled the cord out of the computer, something messed up in the cord. I have 2 desktop computers I tried to get working, both are screwed up. So I've been goin...
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24 Hours a day - March 1
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A.A. Thought for the Day
When I find myself thinking about taking a drink, I say to myself: "Don't reach out and take that problem back. You've given it to God and there's nothing you can do about it." So I forget about the drink. One of the most important part...
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Letting Go of Anger
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In recovery, we often discuss anger objectively. Yes, we reason, it's an emotion we're all prone to experience. Yes, the goal in recovery is to be free of resentment and anger. Yes, it's okay to feel angry, we agree. Well, maybe . . . .
Anger is a powerful and sometimes frightening emotion. It's also a...
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Day 7
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So its the 7th day, and also a friday.I have got 2 days ahead of me for myself, I have two choices: I carry work home, and pretend I am still in office and two, I sit in my own silence fighting the battle of refusing the drink.Cannot think of a third option at the moment.Perhaps it will come to me once I realise...
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Are you Coffee...
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A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled thre...
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First Post--Struggling as a college student at a top party school
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This is my first time here. I looked for a message board like this and signed up promptly because I'm worried about tonight. I'm at a major party school and the main reason I came here honestly was because I knew there would be oceans of alcohol.
I was right. I've made many friends (or at least a lot of dru...
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24 Hours a day - Feb 29
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A.A. Thought for the Day
Getting sober was a long and painful journey, but we can truthfully say it was worth it. We know now that all we've been through led us to A.A. and was part of our spiritual journey. We found in A.A. what we had been vainly seeking in the bottle. We'...
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roller coaster
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One minute I'm up, the next I'm down. Last night on the drive home (when I often used to drink, I'm ashamed to admit), I started feeling a lot of negative stuff. I was angry at my husband: after all, if he hadn't been such a meddler about my drinking, I wouldn't have been forced to hide it, right? It's no...
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As Bill see's it
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"Most of us thought good character was desirable. Obviously, good character was something one needed to get on with the business of being self-satisfied. Without a proper display of honesty and morality, we'd stand a better chance of getting what we really wanted. But whenever we had to choos...
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Letter to a Member After Returning back from Hell
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Today is my first day at work after the turmoil.Am feeling little shaky.Pressing deadlines,my own nerves not just right, a big uncertain future.I tried not to think about negative things and about HIM last night when I reached home. But couldn't help remembering the time I had, felt lumps in my heart...
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24 Hours a day - Feb 28
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A.A. Thought for the Day
We should be free from alcohol for good. It's out of our hands and in the hands of God, so we don't need to worry about it or even think about it any more. But if we haven't done this honestly and fully, the chances are that it will become our problem a...
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The Petulant One Returneth
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Thankyou all for the love, patience & forbearance you reciprocated to my wanting to run around in the boundaries. There were thoughts of 'I'm not an alcoholic.. well I might not be.. I won't know unless I try.. I'm sure I could drink differently now.. I can be normal' yadda & so forth but really...
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Daily Reflections 2/28
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WHAT? NO PRESIDENT? When told that our Society has no president having authority to govern it, no treasurer who can compel the payment of any dues. . . . our friends gasp and exclaim, "This simply can't be . . ." TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 132 When I finally made my way to A.A., I cou...
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Letting Go of Denial
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We are slow to believe that which, if believed, would hurt our feelings. -- Ovid
Most of us in recovery have engaged in denial from time to time. Some of us relied on this tool.
We may have denied events or feelings from our past. We may have denied other people's problems; we may have denied our own pr...
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Still sober
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Hi everyone. Just popping in to say Im still sober. I have to be honest though, I havent been to a meeting since before Christmas. Didnt help that I was in a bad car wreck 2 week's before Christmas and destroyed my truck, (not my fault..gave me a good reason to fly to Houston and buy that 4Runner sport Ive be...
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24 Hours a day - Feb 27
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A.A. Thought for the Day
When we came into A.A., the first thing we did was to admit that we couldn't do anything about our drinking. We admitted that alcohol had us licked and that we were helpless against it. We never could decide whether or not to take a drink. We alway...
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A Unique Stability -- Daily Reflections - 2/27
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A UNIQUE STABILITY Where does A.A. get its direction? . . . These practical folk then read Tradition Two, and learn that the sole authority in A.A. is a loving God as He may express Himself in the group conscience. . . The elder statesman is the one who sees the wisdom of the group's decision, who holds no r...
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My drink
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BTW, I REALLLLLLLLLLY do LOVE iced tea! I like it fresh brewed, straight with no sugar or maybe with a little lemon. I can drink two 12oz glasses with a meal! Thank goodness that about 99.9% of all restaurants serve it. (My wife is pretty happy about my tastes as well; I don't even glance at the wine m...
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Today I DID go to a meeting
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So I went to a noon meeting near my office. A few people figured out that I was new -- I guess I still look pretty crappy, despite my best efforts. It was a good meeting. The leader of the meeting read from the book (which at first I thought was the Bible and I was ready to bolt!). It was a passage about how alcoh...
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People-Pleasers
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Have you ever been around people-pleasers? They tend to be displeasing. Being around someone who is turned inside out to please another is often irritating and anxiety- producing.
People-pleasing is a behavior we may have adapted to survive in our family. We may not have been able to get the love a...
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Dry Drunk Syndrome
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Hi AA's, Any literature (books, websites, chapters in a book) that you know of about the dry drunk syndrome. Anything would be helpful. An Alanoner Nancy
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day 6
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I hope you all aren't getting sick of me yet. It helps me to post here, so here I am again. I had a hard time sleeping last night. I keep thinking about the fact that I can't drink, ever. I know I'm supposed to take it one day at a time but the point of AA is not to drink, ever, isn't it? I can't imagine life wit...
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The 20 Questions
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Take this 20 question test to help you decide whether or not you are an alcoholic.
Answer YES or NO to the following questions.
1. Do you lose time from work due to drinking?
YES __ NO __
2. Is drinking making your home life unhappy?
YES __ NO __
3. Do you drink because you are shy with other peop...
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SHARING MY STORY
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Thought I would take the time, in between my studies today for class, to share my story, in a general way. What it used to be like: I enjoyed drinking in my early college-age years. I had grown up feeling a bit inferior to my peers, even though I seemed to have had all that a young lady would need to make it in t...
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24 Hours a day - Feb 26
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A.A. Thought for the Day
When we came into A.A., we came to believe in a Power greater than ourselves. We came to believe in that Divine Principle in the universe, which we call God, and to whom we can turn for help. Each morning we have a quiet time. We ask God for the power...
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No Ordinary Success Story - Daily Reflections - 2/26
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NO ORDINARY SUCCESS STORY A.A. is no success story in the ordinary sense of the word. It is a story of suffering transmuted, under grace, into spiritual progress. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 35 Upon entering A.A. I listened to others talk about the reality of their drinking: loneliness, terror and pain. As I li...
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sorry
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Hi All i am sorry i have not been here for a few weeks but i went back to work on the 7th feb . And i have been tired when i get home.But i must be getting back into it now as i dont feel so tired today.I hope your are all well and looking after yourselfs. Linda
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Twelve Step Programs
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"I was furious when I found myself at my first Al-Anon meeting. It seemed so unfair that he had the problem and I had to go to a meeting. But by that time, I had nowhere left in the world to go with my pain. Now, I'm grateful for Al-Anon and my codependency recovery. Al-Anon keeps me on track; recovery h...
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I WANTED to drink...
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But I didn't....Nothing unusual is going on. Life is pretty steady these days. I'm feeling better physically.... It started last Friday. I wanted to drink! It was a little better Saturday, but I still thought of chugging a beer or 2. Then by yesterday I had thoughts of how I could hide it from John! I wa...
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didn't go to a meeting
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After I read all of the replies to my most recent post I looked up a meeting and found one at 10 PM about 45 minutes from my house. I told my husband I wanted to go. He begged me not to -- he was afraid it was too late, too far, maybe in a bad part of town, that I would go get drunk instead. Also, he asked me why I thoug...
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yep, thats me....
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So Im totally board! Hubby's at work, kids went to a school dance and took MY car, so Im here all alone! Went to the bierut, a lebanse restaurant here in ohio, YUMMMMM!!!! with the girls and my daughters friends parents. Nervous at first cause they have the BEST wine! But hey, Im alright....So, as I was ta...
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The Challenge of Failure -- Daily Reflections - 2/25
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THE CHALLENGE OF FAILURE In God's economy, nothing is wasted. Through failure, we learn a lesson in humility which is probably needed, painful though it is. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 31 How thankful I am today, to know that all my past failures were necessary for me to be where I am now. Through much pain came ex...
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24 Hours a day - Feb 25
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A.A. Thought for the Day
Some people find it hard to believe in a Power greater than themselves. But not to believe in such a Power forces us to atheism. It has been said that atheism is blind faith in the strange proposition that this universe originated in a cipher and...
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Seasonal Affective Disorder???
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Anybody else experience this? It sucks. February is one of the hardest months for me. Not merely in staying sober, but just in functioning to a decent capacity. It is very dark here in Ohio most days from November through the middle of April. That is a long time to be inside and in hybernation mode. Just w...
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