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The Steps
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Hi, In my experience it seems the Step's flow in a circular motion rather than in a straight line. Kind of fascinating how one connects to the other in order as the flow moves on. Skip a step the flow is broken. Some how the Twelfth Step is subtly preparing me for a new version of the First. Always fresh, alw...
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Head vs. Heart
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I *know* I can enjoy just one drink... a glass of red wine or a single, thick beer. I *know* I can, so what do I have to prove? I *know* I can have one, but I have one and immediately decide I'll have two. If I make that decision right away, it's conscious, not associated with the affects of alcohol, and tota...
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Daily Reflections ~ The Treasure of The Past & 24hrs a Day
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Showing others who suffer how we were given help is the very thing which makes life seem so worth while to us now. Cling to the thought that, in God's hands, the dark past is the greatest possession you have -- the key to life and happiness for others. With it you can avert death and misery for them. ALCOHOL...
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Went to an all women's meeting today
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I have one word for it... Wow. I've only been to two other meetings, neither of which thrilled me too much. This one was amazing. I could totally relate to these women (who were of all ages) and they were wonderful caring souls. I think there were 8 of us there and I felt completely at home. I'll be bac...
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Onion Rings
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How important are they in the scheme of things? Not important at all. Screw 'em. ------------ ------------ But I got all bent out of shape over 'em anyway tonight. Guess I have a looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong way to go. I mean really. The place I work at got some kick ass onion rings. I or...
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cut off times?
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This really I guess relates to K's earlier thread/share re. 'Has anybody ever heard this at a meeting?' but, I have only ever found one meeting in my area where we have cut off times for sharing ...as in 5 minutes or whatever the suggested time is.........so here, in sunny Manchester in some meetings...
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New member in St. Louis
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Hey, I'm Nikki. I'm 26 and I have 16 days sober this go around. I'm excited to be back. My only major roadblock is Step 2. Just thought I would introduce myself.
Also, I created a Yahoo group for AA's around St. Louis. The address is: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/stlouisaa/
Once it gets...
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stardigan
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Stepping outside the Rigerous Honesty....UGH
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Hi All, Well it was last week, I was in the middle of a conversation with someone that i had met a few weeks ago, and she is not in the program, does not need to be.....and so in this long conversation that we were having and I was really enjoying....then made a big old fat mistake....when talking about some...
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Just Toni
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Routine??? WHAT routine??
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Well firstly it is now 2:10am here in li'l old UK, and my head is still racing. Life is strange ain't it?? Just when you think you have all the answers they change the frigging questions. Long story short, I have just about got over a virus which lasted a couple of weeks, and my eldest daughter started...
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Daily Reflections ~ Freedom From Guilt & 24hrs a Day
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Where other people were concerned, we had to drop the word "blame" from our speech and thought. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 47 When I become willing to accept my own powerlessness, I begin to realize that blaming myself for all the trouble in my life can be an ego trip back into hop...
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My sister!
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My sister is just about to leave a detox unit to go to a rehab centre.Her husband left her before xmas and she has struggled ever since. I have struggled with her in the last few weeks but it is hard because i deal with my own drinking problems,although i would never let her know that.She has been given ulti...
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Daily Reflections ~ Rigorous Honesty & 24hrs a Day
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Who wishes to be rigorously honest and tolerant? Who wants to confess his faults to another and make restitution for harm done? Who cares anything about a Higher Power, let alone meditation and prayer? Who wants to sacrifice time and energy in trying to carry A.A.'s message to the next sufferer? No, t...
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Wife is HOME!!!
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After being gone for three weeks my wife has returned from field-studies far, far away. Now the feminine aspect of my HP has a clear and open channel to me. It's good to have my wife home. Me happy, kids happy, dog happy...my house is now a comfy and delicious home. Peace, Rob
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Has anybody ever heard this at a meeting...
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I was at my home-group today, and a lady I'd never seen before said something that got me thinking. Paraphrased, she said, "I don't like talking about my time 'out there, so I'm just going to tell you about my day..." and she proceeded to tell a story about how she slept late and had to drive he...
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Story I put on site1
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Hello family! JUST WANTED TO MENTION THAT 'the wet drunk" story was meant as a point of discussion and not a forum for discension.My process is about working 'recovery" and carrying the message and not to cause more confusion.My only point that I really thought about was the 'STFU' STATE...
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Controlling it
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It has been 23 days since my last drink and today is the first day that I actually woke up and didn't crave a drink. That is subject to change as the day progresses, and likely it will and that's ok because I can't really control that. Over the last two weeks or so, when the craving and obsession has been rea...
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Daily Reflections ~ Getting Involved & 24hrs a Day
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There is action and more action. "Faith without works is dead." . . . To be helpful is our only aim. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS , pp. 88-89 I understand that service is a vital part of recovery but I often wonder, "What can I do?" Simply start with what I have today! I look around to see whe...
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What became of Bill W. and Dr. Bob?
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Did they relapse? Did they die sober men? Did they publish or speak anything in their waning years that underscored their AA vision or contradicted it? If there are any AA history buffs out there that can shed any light on these questions....or just comments....
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Sometimes Mum's can be a real test of Patience and Tolerance
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...can't they though. Yesterday my Mum called me to ask a favour. She lives maybe an hours drive north of me and wants to go to my brother's who lives maybe 2 hours South of me. can I take her, as my sister (who lives about 2 miles from my Mum) can't because sister has fallen out with brother. other brother is...
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Being a mom..scared
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Hello Friends:It's been a while since I've been on the forum and I am doing well. Going to lots of meetings and feeling some interesting changes happening on the inside... I've so much to learn about addiction!!Someone help me please with this one.... my 22 yr old daughter is in her senior year at univ...
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Quitting Again
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In accordance with my new years resolutions, I gave up Coffee and Diet Coke last week. First few days were too easy, now I'm starting to get some mild headaches and lethargy.
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Daily Reflections ~ Let's Keep It Simple & 24hrs a Day
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A few hours later I took my leave of Dr. Bob. . . The wonderful, old, broad smile was on his face as he said almost jokingly, "Remember, Bill, let's not louse this thing up. Let's keep it simple!" I turned away, unable to say a word. That was the last time I ever saw him. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS COME...
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Attention, DEPRESSED alcoholics!
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Attention, DEPRESSED alcoholics! Hi all! I'm actually posting something in an attempt to help others instead of myself for once... what a concept. ;) So out of the blue, someone asked me to meet with him. I had no idea what it was about, but since he was late I started making a list that I'd been thinkin...
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How much of a problem do i have
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Hello this is my first post Im 30 years old now and always been a relatively heavy drinker since i was 18, My story is a simple one. Ihave a long term girlfriend stable job and a good general home life. However sometimes i go of the rails 1-2 a month ill go out on the piss with my work colleages. M y work is such t...
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New concept.
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Recently I've been living by myself, albeit I've been drinking. The situation is, one of my family (adopted mom!) has moved in and noticed that I've been drinking mouthwash, hand sanitizer, and and other shit because of the bottles she's found in the trash bins. My adopted mother has said she is try...
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Daily Reflections ~ Serving My Brother & 24hrs a Day
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The member talks to the newcomer not in a spirit of power but in a spirit of humility and weakness. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS COMES OF AGE p. 279 As the days pass in A.A., I ask God to guide my thoughts and the words that I speak. In this labor of continuous participation in the Fellowship, I have numerous oppor...
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things that did not work for me - post your own follies, too
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replacing alcohol with other obsessive behaviors keeping secrets from my spouse thinking i could stop drinking on my own if i just tried hard enough internet shopping on ebay like a fiend drinking odouls like an alcoholic drinks beer isolating so i wouldn't have to talk about my failures or problem...
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How to handle it?
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My father drank on and off since I was a child. It would be a problem for awhile and then he seemed to have a handle on it. Now, 40 years later, he had a bad fall at home and said, "enough". He said, "I'm an alcoholic and I want help". It's the first time I've ever heard him say that. ...
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My Part
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HI, I was watching some really neat looking birds at my bird feeder this morning. Just all busy with pecking around, taking turns, almost seeming happy. It came to mind that if I wanted to continue to enjoy those little critters I would need to continue putting food in the feeder. My part in My joy!. Putt...
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Really down in the dumps
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Terrible night tonight. Had someone say some pretty tough things about parts of my personality I already hate (basically about me being insecure). Was like salt in a wound. I'm so sick of feeling vulnerable and weak. My heart is absolutely leaden.
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runnergirl
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Meeting Makers Make It
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Just got home from a meeting. It's funny how change still can affect others no matter how long they have been sober in a negative manner. I hear a lot of people say God won't give me more than I can handle. But what happens when things get out of control? How long do I wan't to control things? How long do I wan...
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NEED SOME FEEDBACK!
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I have been going to AA meetings for about 3 years and i have a question to ask people on this site who maybe able to give me their thoughts.On some occasions at various AA meetings in different locations i find there can be a certain amount of,(how will i put it) people who i know of that are not happy with pe...
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What was it like your first time?
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Get your mind out of the gutter... I'm wondering what it was like for you all the first time you said out loud, "I'm X and I'm an alcoholic." I might be ready to say those words soon and I'm afraid. Very afraid of what that will be like.
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Daily Reflections - We Pause... And Ask + 24hrs a Day
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As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.87 Today I humbly ask my Higher Power for the grace to find the space between my impulse and my action; to let flow a cooling breeze when I would respond with heat; to interrupt fi...
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Tonight Online Meeting
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Hi All I plan on being on at both times 8 PM and 9 PM. Reason being some people forget the different time zones and daylight savings time changes. I do not know about a chairperson, if needed just chat and see where people are at or get out a 12 and 12, Daily Reflections. Or just questions, concerns, and lif...
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4U Newcomers, Lurkers and Questioners
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This forum we use here is very intriguing, as it is utilized not only by people actively working the AA recovery process, but also those who are testing the waters of sobriety and in the exploratory process of their behaviors, trying to determine if they are an alcoholic and if so, if AA is a suitabl...
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Diseased thinking
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I have sort of learned not to pay too much attention to the thoughts that run through my head cuz they are so nutty most of the time. However, as more time passes, I do sometimes get scary thoughts that I know is my disease talking to me. This would come in the form of "You were only drinking so much th...
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Dropping in
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Good morning all Just wanted to drop in and say hi, I'm doing fine. Have had alot going on, and working more. Hope all had a good holiday, I'm slowly getting back into meetings as much as possible although my job takes up my time, along with kids. Had some legal matters to attend to and hopefully the matte...
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still tired but feeling ok
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Hi all, Today I had these waves of tiredness and slept a lot on the couch. I am in good form but a little worried about how tired I am at times, though I am assured by my fellow members that this is ok. I am down to 2 boxes from 28, all sorted. I have to go to recycle tomorrow. 5 bags of stuffy. I have the filing cabi...
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Daily Reflections ~ Would a Drink Help? & 24hrs a Day
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By going back in our drinking histories, we could show that years before we realized it we were out of control, that our drinking even then was no mere habit, that was indeed the beginning of a fatal progression. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 23 When I was still drinking, I couldn't respond to a...
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The Promises Coming True...
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"Fear of people and economic insecurity will leave us" Well, I just gotta share this... So, today was my annual review. They started out by saying, "Congrats on your work in AA. There's a big difference and it shows. The first six months of last year you were stressed-out, drunk or hu...
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A Message of Hope x
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Dear Newcomers@MIP I want to share a little of how I was & a message of hope for the difference A.A., this program & the fellowship have made in my life. When I first came into recovery I had been treading water for seven years in the hope life would get better. My heart despite its feist & self...
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Daily Reflections - Hitting Bottom + 24hrs a Day
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Why all this insistence that every A.A. must hit bottom first? The answer is that few people will sincerely try to practice the A.A. program unless they have hit bottom. For practicing A.A.'s remaining eleven Steps means the adoption of attitudes and actions that almost no alcoholic who is still dri...
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GOODBYE FOR NOW
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Well, the time has finally come when we have to start moving. Tomorrow we're renting a truck and packing a big load to haul to Chattanooga. Part of that load will be our computer. I'll be "unplugged" by this time tomorrow. Depending on how long it takes to get settled in, I may not be online for...
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Anyone read this?
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I'm reading a good book right now that is helping me a bit with my negative self-talk... It's called A Path with Heart by Jack Kornfield. Just curious if any of you have read it...
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but it is more important to list the things that DID work!!
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Saying the serenity prayer to regain sanity finding favorite reads in the big book telling the committee to shut up and then play my favorite music real loud call my sponsor or AA friend someone who has more sober time than me vacuum the heck out of the carpet paint something
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Daily Reflections ~ An Unsuspected Inner Resource
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With few exceptions our members find that they have tapped an unsuspected inner resource which they presently identify with their own conception of a Power greater than themselves. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, pp. 569-70 From my first days in A.A., as I struggled for sobriety, I found hope in these words...
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How We Get Here
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After reading today's Daily Reflection, I got to thinking about the various ways people find their way into AA. Some people hit bottom and seek help, others are court-ordered, some are trying prove to themselves they aren't alcoholic, some homeless folks are looking for free coffee and a warm spot...
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My turn to fess up
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I'm so pissed at myself. How can I type an e-mail telling you all that I've been drinking, and feeling pretty down about it, while staring at a glass of wine. I left the store, then went back in... "I don't have to drink it. I can just get it." WTF? Not the first time that has happened. All...
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The Courage To Change the Things I Can (and yet more sponsor angst).. a little rant I think
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I live in a city that I absolutely love, I moved here from San Francisco (another city that I absolutely love) about 2 1/2 years ago. When I got here I was sort of desperate for an apartment, looked around & settled- yes, settled- for the one I took. Where I've been ever since. The place is run by a slu...
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