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Still relapsing and need help
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Hi all. I posted last March about relapsing after 22 years of sobriety. I am still struggling and in the depths of despair. Everyday I wake up and say I am not going to drink. Everyday for the past month I have. I am depressed. Can't seem to shake this thing. I feel alone and scared. You all were encouraging...
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If one has the mental compulsion without the allergy is he an alcoholic?
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In the first paragraph of We Agnostics (Chapter 4) is states, "If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking, you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic." As I read this, I can have either one or both maladies (that is...
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Alcohol- amazingly powerful
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Left my sober-living ranch that I've lived at for 18 months. Left my GF, flew 2,000 mi basically for a drink. Amazing. Alcohol never ceases to baffle me. Been home for like two+ weeks and wish I could stop drinking..it's bad. knowing what the solution is doesn't make it easier to put the drink down. Been...
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Had a good week
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I had a good week, got to lots of meetings and am off to a convention day tomorrow. Hope you all are keeping well.
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Sailing-Part Two
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Hi Guys, well I'm off tomorrow for another month of sailing, this time just my partner Jane and me. We are going to do a boat master course while we are away so that will be a challenge and next week, weather permitting I will celebrate my AA birthday at a lovely meeting I discovered in Nelson. I really enjo...
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Overtalking in meetings
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I love my "home group" of women. Yes, we tend to talk perhaps more than guys, but it is always mentioned (by the leader) that we are to limit our sharing to 2-3 min. Our group has grown but we don't break off into groups. There is one woman in there who is (sort of) a local stand-up comedian. She's...
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Just a hello to everyone
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Hi everyone I am sorry I don't post more, but I do read a lot of what is shared here, and review the birthdays, and AA stories shared here. Such a wide range of things people share about. I am so very thankful that Dean does such a good job responding to people, welcoming them, acknowledging their birthd...
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God Calling - Practice Love
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"Want of love will block the way. You must love all, those who fret you and those who do not. Practice love. It is a great lesson, and you have a great Teacher. You must love; how otherwise can you dwell in Me, where nothing unloving can come? Practice this, and I will bless you exceedingly, above...
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Newbie
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So glad I found this. I've been alcohol free for nearly 5 months. I've picked up many white chips (I've abused other substances) and two red (picked up last red last week). I have a great home group and sponser although it's been hard to get together so I'm starting Step 2 this week. Looking forward to get...
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Day 102
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Feels good to hit triple digits again. Grateful. Grateful. Grateful. Thanks, all my Friends. Best - Rob
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away from home and very anxious
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Hi all,
Thank God for this board, am away from home right now and very anxious. Got a meeting yesterday and hope to get one tomorrow. I am returning home on friday so this is good. I just feel that I need to connect and breathe deeply. Stupid things are putting me off my stroke. I got a call from a previous bo...
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Inheriting Alcoholism
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I was reading the chapter of the AA big book: A Vision For You and I noticed a really interesting part. Somewhere in the chapter it was saying that suppose your drinking is inherited by 3 families. It really got me thinking about how alcoholism is an inherited disease as well. My entire family has bee...
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addiction alcohol/drugs
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Our meeting included using other addictive mind-changing substances and coming to meetings. They state that they are done with alcohol. People walked out. Touchy subject. How to approach.
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Daily Reflections ~ Would a Drink Help? & 24hrs a Day
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By going back in our drinking histories, we could show that years before we realized it we were out of control, that our drinking even then was no mere habit, that was indeed the beginning of a fatal progression. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 23 When I was still drinking, I couldnt respond to an...
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Daily Reflections ~ Freedom From.. Freedom To.. & 24hrs a Day
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We are going to know a new freedom. . . . ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS p. 83 Freedom for me is both freedom from and freedom to. The first freedom I enjoy is freedom from the slavery of alcohol. What a relief! Then I begin to experience freedom from fear fear of people, of economic insecurity, of commitment, of fa...
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New to the forum
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Hi everyone. I'm new to the forum, and just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Paul S, and I'm an alcoholic.
I'm sober 18 years now, but haven't been to a meeting in about four years. Life got busy and I haven't put AA or my sobriety first. The last time I did this, my dry drunk ended my marriage. I've be...
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God Calling ~ Love Anticipates
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"None ever sought Me in vain. I wait with a hungry longing to be called upon; and I, who have seen you heart's needs before you cried upon Me, am already preparing the answer. The anticipatory love of God is a thing mortals seldom realize. Dismiss the thought of a grudging God who had to be petiti...
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Trying to get over obsession with new meeting practice.
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Hi all, I've been trying to get over something that really BUGS me, and I thought posting about it might help -- I can't share about it in my meetings for reasons that will become obvious! I'm a consultant, engaged for a few months at a company about 50 miles away. That means during the week I've started at...
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Adult Alcoholic Child
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I am the 61 year old mother of a 31 year old alcoholic child. She's been drinking 2-3 forty o's per day for several years now. It has wrecked both of our lives. Everything is my fault including her drinking according to her. She seems unable to focus on her own problems. I have health problems and she goats...
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God Calling - I Clear the Path
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"I can see the future. I know better than you what you need. Trust Me absolutely. You are not at the mercy of fate, or buffeted about by others. You are being led in a very definite way, and others, who do not serve your purpose, are being moved out of your path. Trust Me for all. Your very extrem...
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How to Drive Yourself Crazy in an AA Meeting
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How To Drive Yourself Crazy in an AA Meeting If you've been sitting in meetings lately feeling quietly irritated, I have something to tell you: Considering all the personalities involved, the routine, the suggestion that you give back and actually participate as a part of the regular 12 Step meetin...
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I need help, particularly with sponsorship & whether to get a new one
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My name is Jeri, I'm 1 day away from having 4 months sober, but I'm at a crossroads with my sponsor. We've been working together for 3.5 months now, but I feel very stuck; as if I'm making no progress whatsoever. She's a very busy person and taking on tons of sponsees, but the main concern is that she has no t...
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Miss drinking, deathly afraid of it.
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I'm sober for 3 weeks. It's been great to say the LEAST. This morning I did some baking, and reading... played with my kids. Good morning. Now all of a sudden, as I sit down at the piano, I'm just realllllllyyyy missing my glass of wine! ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I just knew this was going to happen. It...
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New to Forum
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Hi, Im a member of AA who is now using the online forums. Ive been sober for 50 days and have been using the program since spring 2010 (I Recount sobriety after each slip). I enjoy reading the bigbook online and learning as much about the program as I can, I work the 12 steps each day and am hoping to be ab...
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Binge Drinking
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My sponsor and I have been discussing binge drinking and cannot remember where/if it is mentioned in the AA literature. We have both searched our Big Book and 12 & 12 and cannot find it. Of course now it is driving us crazy! Anyone know? Thanks so much.
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Amy Winehouse.
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Was anyone else really saddened by her death? I didnt know squat about her or listen to her music but I remember hearing what happened 6 months ago. I just read the google page now and it was in fact alcohol that she lost her life to. I Remember feeling affected by her death when I first heard it on the t...
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A Strange Dream
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I had a dream this morning - the kind of vivid dream I have when I keep waking up repeatedly so I remember it. I'm recovering from a "medical prodedure" that forces me to go to the bathroom frequently. Like every half hour... so the environment was perfect for one of those vivid dreams. It ha...
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Got a few days off.
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Got a few days off work. Today was day one, so me and a friend went to a bootmaker in North Yorkshire to buy a pair of hiking boots each. 10 years ago i bought a pair of Hogg All Weather motorcycle boots and mentioned to the bootmaker that they seem to have got a bit tight. The bootmaker explained that over tim...
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Going to see Ron White on Friday Night!
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It'll be like a speakers meeting, that never gets to the "what happened and what it's like now".
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STEP BOARD ESH NEEDED
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Hi fellow travellers, The 12 steps are AA and Dan B has been leading a study on the steps board. Going by the number of views on each step so far, many of the members are keen to learn about the steps, but going by the replies, not many are willing to teach. Dan is putting in a power of work on this which can only...
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Question for people with longstanding sobriety.
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Hi, I was wondering if anyone who has remained sober for a long time could share the time when they noticed the most positive changes. Im aware of the chips you get at different times like 1 month 6 months etc, but at what time of your sobriety did you notice the most positive changes, I remember my 30 day m...
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Daily Reflections ~ Freedom From Guilt & 24hrs a Day
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Where other people were concerned, we had to drop the word blame from our speech and thought. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 47 When I become willing to accept my own powerlessness, I begin to realize that blaming myself for all the trouble in my life can be an ego trip back into hopelessness. As...
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I draw the line...
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I went to my first meeting the other night after joining this forum, It had been a year since I attended the meeting. Of course my defects were glaring and I was spinning out of control, trying to BE in control of everything in my life. You know, I could see these behaviors and no I didn't like them, nor want...
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Hello, I'm new.
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Hello, I am new to these forums, they were recommended by a friend. I have 220 days sober today. I'm just now learning the extent of how horrible a person I had become. Even during my sobriety, my character defects have been damaging and hurtful to the people I love most in this world, and to the person I l...
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Daily Reflections ~ What We Need - Each Other & 24hrs a Day
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. . . . A.A. is really saying to every serious drinker, You are an A.A. member if you say so . . . nobody can keep you out. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 139 For years, whenever I reflected on Tradition Three (The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop drinking), I thought it valua...
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Down ,but never out!
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Morning and blessings of the day! Been battling walking pneumonia and bronchitis since New Years,but God is good. Been starting to feel the "healing Power in last couple days and sure is a reminder that we may have a lot of things going on but how important OUR HEALTH IS. Man I can think back to t...
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Daily Reflections ~ Getting Involved & 24hrs a Day
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There is action and more action. Faith without works is dead. . . . To be helpful is our only aim. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS , pp. 88-89 I understand that service is a vital part of recovery but I often wonder, What can I do? Simply start with what I have today! I look around to see where there is a need. Are the ash...
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Please help
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I posted on here a while ago about being at a sober bottom, it has gotten better, than worse, then better, then worse. I want to articulate this the best that I can. I came on on fire, with all of the willingness in the world. Worked through the steps with my sponsor, and got the corresponding promises with...
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Do not be discouraged.
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So many become discouraged because things are not going our way. But I found that God has a plan for me, which my limited mind cannot see. If I just submit and allow Him to do the work that has been planned for me, then when I look back I find that it was the best. Many things that I wanted, if I had got them would...
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Joke for just us.
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My sponsor told me this one yesterday: If I were a normal drinker.... I'd drink all day!!!!! -- Edited by Tasha on Monday 16th of January 2012 04:24:25 PM
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Honeymoon
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So me and the new Mrs. SoberSteve went to Seaside (the beach) this weekend for our little honeymoon. WOW so much alcohol there. It started right away when we checked in the clerk gave me 2 complimentary certificates for free red wine. I showed my wife she ripped them up. We went to breakfast the next...
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"It's not that I say things I don't mean..."
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It's not that I say things I don't mean, it's that I say things that I really do mean, but I absolutely do not need to say. Sometimes it's funny, sometimes it's not. I don't realy need to tell my wife about the imperfections with tonights dinner...everytime she cooks, or strike up a good argument ever...
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Keys of Sobriety
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We hear a lot about the "Keys of Sobriety" Can anyone give me a comprehensive list of what they are? I know there are a few places in the 12&12 where some are listed pg 34 Willingness pg 153 Humility I know there are more but I would like to know what they are and where they are listed. Thanks...
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Natural Highs
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Sent to me by a new member (and old friend) Don "You should get high just reading this! Don" Natural Highs 1. Falling in love. 2. Laughing so hard your face hurts. 3. A hot shower. 4. No lines at the supermarket. 5. A special glance. 6. Getting mail. 7. Taking a drive on a pretty road. 8. Heari...
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What happened? (sorry, long post)
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I still don't know. I share this for my brothers and sisters in sobriety and those maybe wondering about sobriety. I'm not the first and won't be the last. I drank after 7 months of really great sobriety. I mean to tell you, I thought I had this sobriety thing down to a science. I was doing it all right, chai...
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The last few 24 hours-Read if your bored.
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I have been sober since 12/09/2009. I got out of jail that day and by the grace of God walked straight up the hill to a morning meeting. I had a beard and long hair from months of "being down". I took a friends anti-whatever pills while I was in jail so I could sleep, so I wasn't actually sober ti...
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took 2.5 years, but i got 90 days!
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i'm happy to share this day with my community - you. thanks all. no caps, sick baby on other arm. this practice of rigorous honesty has a price. my wife has now been told of my hidden relapses and isn't taking it very well. won't seek help for herself and is resentful of my serenity. time takes time, i guess...
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Coffee
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I'm thinking about getting a coffee roaster and was wondering, What makes a cup of Coffee good to you? Some like it Black and strong, and some like weak and loaded with cream. I like mine black and mild with a nice light roast, occasionally I'll put a scoop of sugar or two but mostly black. What makes a cup...
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The Addiction Club
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What does this mean to you?
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I've heard this recently at meetings and thought it would be a good topic to post here. 'You can be right or you can be happy, but you can't be both." Prior to working The Program it was really important for me to be right. I guess it was for selfish reasons and a way to boost my pride and ego. Simple...
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Alcoholics Anonymous big book and TRIGGERS???????????????
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Does Alcoholics Anonymous big book acknowledge that somethings may trigger you to want to drink again?
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