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Me!
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-- Edited by Doll at 15:44, 2005-10-12
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boundaries rather than barb wire
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Hope for Today - October 12
When I think of boundaries, it helps if I think of a castle in a lake. Boundaries are the drawbridge connecting the castle with the world. Usually the drawbridge is down, and people can walk freely back and forth. However, when danger is sensed, the drawbridge r...
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An epiphany
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I've been observing people who seem to drink the same way that I do yet experience none of the guilt, remorse or shame that I do and I've come to a conclusion. They just don't care, they aren't hypersensitive suckholes who feel so darn bad about every little thing that happens. They seem to be able to acce...
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its OK to be imperfect
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Being Right
"When we admit that our lives have become unmanageable, we don't have to argue our point of view... We no longer have to be right all the time."Basic Text p. 56
#######ROSIE....oh yeah, when i realized that i could not was not going to *fight it anymroe*...all of a sudden, i d...
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Trusting
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Trust Is
Letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions, and having the confidence in them to respect you and to not take advantage of you. Sharing your inner feelings and thoughts with others with the belief that they will not spread them indiscriminately.Placing confidence...
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chocolate@coffee "oh my"
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hi there, ive been dry now for 40 days,eating like a horse,going to meetings (not as many as i could) getting on pretty well with my partner( she is still sceptical,) she has joined an on-line Al-anon group wich has been a help to her. I am at step 3, maybe i am avoiding the next step, i dont know,but i am un...
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Daily Reflections Oct 12
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to everyone
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Hi Everyone,
Just read the post that GammyRose shared about the father of three who took his life. My father took his life when he was 38. I was a year and a half old, and I don't remember him at all. He had been in rehab during his 20's but was not interested in any kind of recovery later. I would give...
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when sobriety is all you got
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been going through a time in my sobriety where i have been questing myself about everything and i don't mean my abstainance from alcohol and drugs. more so where i am in this world and where i want to be and how to get there.
sure i am suppose to live in the day....but i feel that i need to re-evaluat...
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passive agressive behavior
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can anyone elaborate on this.
would love opinions on this behavior.
been dealing with this a while and have seen my self fall into this behavior and would like suggestions on this and on how not to act like this and how to deal with others (or not) who hve these issues.
just want to hea...
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Howdy
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Hi Folks ... been away from the group for a while and just wanted to say I'm still alive and sober. I could probably use more than the one or two meeting a week I've been getting to ... but other than that life is wonderful. I never would have thought life could be be this good by putting down the drink and emba...
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The old hippie
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In case you've ever wondered what an old hippie looks like after he breaks the half century mark, and gets a haircut, check the attached link. (Not for the weak of heart!)
I figured that if Wendy could be courageous enough to stop being incognito, I should, too. ('course, shes a lot youn...
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Self Esteem
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What is self-esteem?
People with self-esteem:Hold themselves as worthy to be loved and to love others, worthy to be cared for and to care for others, worthy to be nurtured and to nurture others, worthy to be touched and supported and to touch and support others, worthy to be listened to and to list...
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Wish me luck!
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Hi gang!
Well, I'm off for my assessment and then admission into detox. I should be out by this weekend. I'm looking forward to the experience, but would be lying to you if I didn't confess I'm a tad anxious. I hope all of you have a great week and weekend, and I'll check in when I retu...
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unique, but NEVER alone
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Hope for Today - October 11
My method for dealing with the insanity and chaos while growing up in an alcoholic environment was *not* to deal with it. I escaped into a fantasy world of books and art and remained physically and emotionally removed from what went on around me. My family could ar...
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getting *right* with thy brother even when he is a dung heap
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Meditation for the Day
"First be reconciled to your brother and then come and offer your gift to God." First I must get right with other people and then I can get right with God. If I hold resentment against someone, which I find it very difficult to overcome, I should try to put something else constr...
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Phil
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Time is short. Last day to get ready. We leave tomorrow afternoon. I will have a cell phone thats works on the mountain tops. Theres a phone booth near the camp and I have my AA's phone #"s and a calling card. I'll try to give u a ring. Thanks so much for everything> You rest and take care. I know the...
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Daily Reflections Oct 11
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Reflection!
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I have lookt through this board for to days now. And I have reed a loot of hart breaking stuff.I don't now if this depends on my state of mind.
I have allso seen a great belife in the HP.
I Sweden you don't talk this mutch about HP. but I think its a great abillety to be abel to do it as op...
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such a horrible weekend!
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It's being such a horrible weekend for me! I am getting really upset. It's been raining here and the ceiling has been leaking in the bedroom, and it just all caved in, and some fell on my bed. I have a nasty landlord, who only got mad cuz I called him on the weekend. I feel an...
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Affirmations
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Before we can become self-affirming, we need to learn about the effects of negativism in our lives.
Negative self-scripts are the:Negative beliefs you have about yourself and of which you remind yourself daily.Negative statements about yourself which sprinkle your everyday conversation...
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WOW!! big lesson on surrender
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Hope for Today - October 10 Sometimes I need to work Step One backwards.I don't always recognize when I'm powerless, but I certainly notice when my life becomesunmanageable. Then I remember that usually when I'm feeling insane, I'm forgetting my powerlessnessand trying to control outcomes or oth...
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payoffs from bad relationships
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Payoffs from Destructive Relationships
Sometimes it helps to understand that we may be receiving a payoff from relationships that cause us distress.The relationship may be feeding into our helplessness or our martyr role.Maybe the relationships feeds our need to be needed, enhancing our s...
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A little humor I can relate to !
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"The Hangover"
1. You'd rather have a pencil poked in your eye than be exposed to sunlight. 2. Trying to gain control of the situation, you continue to tell your room to "stay still." 3. Looking at yourself in the mirror induces the same reaction as chugging a glass of fresh paint. 4. You're convinced...
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bending with the wind
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Sometimes it's worse to win a fight than to lose. --Billie Holiday
Our struggles with other people always take their toll on us. They often push us to behavior we're not proud of. They may result in irreparable rifts. They frequently trigger an emotional relapse. No battle is worth the damage to t...
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NancyJo or OP....?
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I was just wondering if anyone has heard from Op , it's been along time since she posted. I remember she was having PC problems.
And NancyJo, where are you?
(((Hugs)))
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Taking a Risk?
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Risk Taking is Free
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool, To weep is to risk appearing sentimental, To reach out for another is to risk involvement, To expose feelings is to risk exposing true self, To place your ideas, your dreams before the crowd is to risk their loss, To love is to risk not being l...
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Rick
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You have a good trip my freind. And stay sober hu? :)
If you find the need to make a call when youre gone-just pick up a phone, and call 1-519-369-5631.Collect-- Ile be around here somewhere, or one of my daughters will be. If no answer--keep tryin.
Been told by the Doc to d...
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help me to help!
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Hello!
I have a opportunetiy and a problem.
I have bean a memeber of AA for four years now and is wery gratful towards it and the members whitin it.
Now to the opportunetiy: I have the oppotunety to be granted a Scholarship. that enabels me to take a Trainee position for six months any where i...
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Daily Reflections Oct 10
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 If somebody hurts us and we are sore, we are in the wrong also.  
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Sharing...
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Hey guys, I need to share a little about a friend who killed himself this week. He was 30 years old, had 3 small children and this awful disease consumed his life.He had gone to treatment, but never was able to get sober, then he started doing drugs.
As I sat next to my daughter and so...
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not ready?
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i dont know if im ready to go to a AA meeting. im pretty scared too becuase then i feel like im really an alcoholic. when in reality i dont know. sometimes its very bad, but sometimes i can control it. or is it control? im kinda scared too that what will i do instead of drinking to numb my problems? that sounds...
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putting my house in order
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Order
"We emphasize setting our house in order because it brings us relief."Basic Text p. 93
Focusing on what others are doing can provide momentary relief from having to take a look at ourselves. But one of the secrets of success in Narcotics Anonymous is making sure our own house is i...
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Hi
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Just dropping in to say hi to everyone here-been outa commission for a couple days--could be a few more yet-but am home, and glad to be. My best to all of you.
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Today I Will Remember
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Today I will try to remember that when I feel down everything I do seems to come out wrong.
When my self-pity begins to build, I will stop, rest, gather my thoughts, and ask my Higher Power for help.
God reminds me there is a tomorrow and that I can begin anew by living one day at a ti...
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Over-Serious Anonymous 12 Step Program
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1. We admitted that we were powerless over seriousness -- that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that only by lightening up could we achieve a state of non-seriousness. 3. Made a decision to turn our constant self-criticism over to our sense of humor and learn to "lovingly and whol...
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Daily Reflections Oct 9
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I need a meeting
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I haven't been able to attend any meetings in the past week because of work and everything else.
I feel myself trying to make excuses to drink. I DJed a party tonight and had a lot of intoxicated folks in my face all night. Many offered to buy me a drink. I said "sure, a Pepsi or Coke would be nice." Some see...
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10/8 THOUGHT
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Learn what you are and be such. --Pindar
The most precious gift we can give those closest to us is honesty. Yet we often hide our true selves from friends, fearing we won't be accepted or loved if we let them see the real us. Often, we show parts of ourselves that hide who we really are. We have often h...
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10/8 GIFT
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People have a need to feel their pain. Very often pain is the beginning of a great deal of awareness. As an energy, it awakens consciousness. --Arnold Mindell
Better the Pain Than to Remain the Same
The Barbara I met at my high school reunion was not the same person I had known a dec...
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Today's Quote
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Someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality. -Les Brown
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hello from phil
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Phil called on friday night and ask me to say hello to all. He hopes to be back on soon. I am leaving for a hunting trip on WED and probably won't be online untill Nov 1 or so. I may try tp get in touch with him today but for now He's doing good.
I've been so busy trying to get ready th...
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serenity prayer
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The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sin...
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i want to KEEP what i got
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A New Pattern Of Living
"We suspect that if we do not use what we have, we will lose what we have."
Basic Text p. 75
Addiction gave a pattern to our lives, and with it a meaning - a dark, diseased meaning, to be sure, but a meaning nonetheless. The recovery program gives us a new pattern of living to r...
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addiction or envy it is still slavery
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There are two kinds of slaves, the prisoners of addiction, and the prisoners of envy. --Ivan Ilich
No emotion brings us more personal pain or wastes more of our time than envy. When we envy, we are never free from stress, because envy takes no holidays. Shakespeare called envy the green sickness....
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Hey! Dan?
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I'm intrigued by the fact you call yourself an old hippie. Just curious if you'd like to share what puts you in that catagory? I happen to be a "new" hippie. Found The Dead about 20 yrs ago and it changed my life!!
Hope you'll share.
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thanx
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i just wanted to thank everyone for ur help.
i found this site last night when i finished drinking my problems away for the night. after going through ur posts and web sites, i realized that yes i do have a problem. i just dont know how to fix it. im not a terrible alcoholic but im surly on my way there. its t...
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Worry
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Daily Reflections Oct 8
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question
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how am i supposed to knwo ifi have a driniking problem?
im 18 and i drink with friends at parties and such
i do however drink by myself sometime s before igo to bed
i love wine but i drink vodka to get drunk or jsut to fall asllep
kinda like now
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