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Taking Care of Ourselves
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We often refer to recovery from codependency and adult child issues as self-care. Self-care is not, as some may think, a spin off of the Me generation. It isn't self-indulgence. It isn't selfishness - in the negative interpretation of that word.
We're learning to take care of ourselves, instead o...
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Strange Recovery
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Hey All, I am an alcoholic that has just slipped and I am sober today. Since 1984, I have had long sober periods (like as in 5 years) and then a one day slip, followed by remorse, then conviction, and then a very happy life. Its like I need to prove to myself how bad it is to slip. My first and only "gro...
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AA is Not a Cure-All
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April 23, 2008 Daily Reflections A.A. IS NOT A CURE-ALL It would be a product of false pride to claim that A.A. is a cure-all, even for alcoholism. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 285 In my early years of sobriety I was full of pride, thinking that A.A. was the only source of treatment for a good and happy life. It certai...
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Coping With Stress
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Inevitably, there are times of stress in our lives, no matter how long we've been in recovery.
Sometimes, the stress is outside or around us. We're feeling balanced, but our circumstances are stressful. Sometimes, the stress is within; we feel out of balance.
When the stress is external and int...
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Happy Earth day
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Something cool happened this am. Got home from work and made my kids lunches and some french toast for breakfast. We were hanging out in the kitchen and I told my daughter before you know it our plum tree in the back yard would be blooming! Got up a while ago and was making some coffee. Looked out the window...
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Opening Ourselves to Love
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Allowing ourselves to receive love is one of the greatest challenges we face in recovery.
Many of us have blocked ourselves from receiving love. We may have lived with people who used love to control us. They would be there for us, but at the high price of our freedom. Love was given, or withheld, to co...
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6 months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Well lo and behold I have six months today! Woohoo! Nothing like hitting 45 years old and being sober!!!! Where has the time gone! Its flying by so fast!!!! Random thoughts: I was thinking last night, what if I died right this second! Would I have said my life was full? Did I touch anyone's life by listeni...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 22nd April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ People believe in A.A. when they see it work. An actual demonstaration is what convinces them. What they read in books, what they hear people say doesn't always convince them. But when they see a real honest-to-goodness change take place in a person, a change from a drunken to...
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clueless doctors
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As many of my posts are, this one is LONG. Be warned. I've mentioned before that I have some health crap going on. I have a chronic disease that causes lots of pain. Being a stubborn bitch, I don't wear my brace or use any other aids; the more infirmed I feel, the more I do to prove that I'm not (hey! I thin...
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Mixed Feelings about Moving.
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Well as some of you know, I've been house shoping for the last 4 months. Home prices have fallen by close to 50% here in some areas, especially waterfront homes. So I've been waiting on this short sale house, that I made and offer on last December. The bank took 9 weeks to decide to accept the offer, which w...
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Change
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April 21, 2008 Change How many of us would presume to declare, "Well, I'm sober and I'm happy. What more can I want or do? I'm fine the way I am." We know that the price of such self-satisfaction is an inevitable back-slide, punctured at some point by a very rude awakening. We have to grow or els...
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Waiting
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Wait. If the time is not right, the way is not clear, the answer or decision not consistent, wait.
We may feel a sense of urgency. We may want to resolve the issue by doing something - anything now, but that action is not in our best interest.
Living with confusion or unsolved problems is difficult. I...
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From The Heart
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Today I got up a little early in the morning and found my mother still asleep.Not used to the kitchen, I went there to make my up of tea.I found some preparations for morning breakfast lying on the kitchen slab.Wandering around, also saw some uncleaned dishes.Decided to clean the kitchen, make tea fo...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 20th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ The satisfaction you get out of living a sober life is made up of a lot of little things, but they add up to a satisfactory and happy life. You take out of life what you put into it. So I'd say to people coming into A.A.: "Don't worry about what life will be like without liquor....
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She Died Thursday
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My best friend of 29 years lost her mother on Thursday. She was 63 yrs old and they found her lieing on the living room floor. Waiting for the autopsy to tell the story...this woman was a mother to me beginning when I was a teen. She opened her arms and her home to me on many occasions when life at my own house w...
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Deadlines
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I don't know whether I want in or out of this relationship. I've been struggling with it for months now. It's not appropriate to let it hang indefinitely. I will give myself two months to make a decision. -- Anonymous
Sometimes, it helps to set a deadline.
This can be true when we face unsolved probl...
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Asking and Recieving
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Prayer And Meditation Prayer and meditation are similar practices in that they both offer us a connection to the divine, but they also differ from one another in significant ways. Put simply, prayer is when we ask the universe for something, and meditation is when we listen. When we pray, we use langu...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 17th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Every time we go to an A.A. meeting, every time we say the Lord's prayer, every time we have a quiet time before breakfast, we're paying a premium on our insurance against taking that first drink. And every time we help another alcoholic; we're making a large payment on our drin...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 19th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Since I've been putting sobriety into my life, I've been taking out a lot of good things. I can describe it best as a kind of quiet satisfaction. I feel good. I feel right with the world, on the right side of the fence. As long as I put sobriety into my life, almost everything I take o...
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This says it all......
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No Reservations We have seen the truth demonstrated again and again: "Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic." Commencing to drink after a period of sobriety, we are in a short time as bad as ever. If we are planning to stop drinking, there must be no reservation of any kind, nor any lurking...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 18th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ As I look back over my drinking career, have I learned that you take out of life what you put into it? When I put drinking into my life, did I take out a lot of bad things? Hospitals with the D.T.'s? Jails for drunken driving? Loss of job? Loss of home and family? When I put drinking in...
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Accepting Change
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The winds of change blow through our life, sometimes gently, sometimes like a tropical storm. Yes, we have resting places - time to adjust to another level of living, time to get our balance, time to enjoy the rewards. We have time to catch our breath.
But change is inevitable and desirable.
Somet...
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Yooo Hooo QUETZEL.....
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Missing you, girl!! Where are you at???
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LEAVE ME ALONE SYNDROME
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I used to literally YELL at people to LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE.... because I did not want their help or their concern. It interfered with my self-destruction. Today I am having a kinder gentler experience with the concept of wanting to be left alone at times. It is healthy, because it is a needed boundary...
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Freedom
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Many of us were oppressed and victimized as children. As adults, we may continue to keep ourselves oppressed.
Some of us don't recognize that caretaking and not setting boundaries will leave us feeling victimized.
Some of us don't understand that thinking of ourselves as victims will leave us...
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Expectations
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AA Thought for the Day April 18, 2008 Expectations Acceptance is the key to my relationship with God today. . . I must keep my magic magnifying mind on my acceptance and off my expectations, for my serenity is directly proportional to my level of acceptance. When I remember this, I can see I've never had...
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Deception
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Deception I need to remember each day that deceiving myself about myself is setting myself up for failure or disappointment in life and in AA. A close, honest relationship with a Higher Power is the only solid foundation I've found for honesty with self and with others. Reprinted from Daily Reflecti...
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question
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My kids reset my computer, somehow, and now I would like to know how to have the messages I havent read to be in bold. Anyone remember how to do that?
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Tornado
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Tornado Sometimes we hear an alcoholic say that the only thing he needs to do is to keep sober. Certainly he must keep sober, for there will be no home if he doesn't. But he is yet a long way from making good to the wife or parents whom for years he has so shockingly treated. Passing all understanding is the p...
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chaos
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AA Thought for the Day Children of Chaos Over the years, every conceivable deviation from our Twelve Steps and Traditions has been tried. That was sure to be, since we are so largely a band of ego-driven individuals. Children of chaos, we have defiantly played with every brand of fire, only to emerge u...
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secrets
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Secrets It's the side of myself that I refuse to look at that rules me. I must be willing to look at the dark side in order to heal my mind and heart because that is the road to freedom. I must walk into darkness to find the light and walk into fear to find peace. By revealing my secrets -- and thereby ridding my...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 16th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In A.A. we have insurance. Our faith in God is a kind of insurance against the terrible things that might happen to us if we ever drink again. By putting our drink problem in the hands of God, we've taken out a sort of insurance policy, which insures us against the ravages of drink...
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Letting Things Happen
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We do not have to work so hard at gaining our insights. Yes, we're learning that painful and disappointing things happen, often for a reason and a higher purpose. Yes, these things often work out for good. But we don't have to spend so much time and energy figuring out the purpose and plan for each detail...
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Self pity
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April 14, 2008 Self-pity Poor little old me. I had the 'ploms' and almost died from them. . . Things grew worse. I fought tears, and when I had successfully swallowed them, anger and hostility toward everyone and everything welled up in their place. . . despairing loneliness enveloped me. . . What can I...
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mistakes
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My last 2 relapses had to do with entanglements with well intentioned married men who could not, ultimately- leave either the lifestyle or the wife. Dynasty is more powerful than passion- I get that. Wives out there- I hope I'm not offending you. The analogy I am drawing is that what seems to be go...
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AAAAAAACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You know how I have been trying to minimize STRESS in my life lately wherever possible???? Well, try THIS one on for size!!!! I was at clinicals all day, and I mentioned an interview i have Wednesday morning at a practice I would LOVE to work for, plus it is only 3 10-hour days a week, which would be PERFEC...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 15th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Terrible things could have happened to any one of us. We never will know what might have happened to us when we were drunk. We usually thought "That couldn't happen to me." But any one of us could have killed somebody or have been killed ourselves, if we were drunk eno...
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24Hrs a Day ~ 4th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When I came into A.A., I found men and women who had been through the same things I had been through. But now they were thinking more about how they could help others than they were about themselves. They were a lot more unselfish than I ever was. By coming to meetings and associat...
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Liver failure at age 14
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http://www.mailonsunday.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=559589&in_page_id=1770
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Scary
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So what I am up against now? I am getting mad and distrssed at the thoughts of yester years.While I had already accepted most of the big destructive moments and events in life, I can't stand the small ones which led to them. I am reading and rereading 3 steps as Tugg suggested.Its very scary.I am unable t...
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NYQUIL?
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is it a no no for me since I'm an alcoholic?
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 14th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ A police captain once told about certain cases he had come across in his police work. The cause of the tragedy in each case was drunkenness. He told his audience about a man who got into an argument with his wife while he was drunk and beat her to death. Then he went out and drank som...
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Perfectionism
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Recovery from codependency is an individual process that necessitates making mistakes, struggling through problems, and facing tough issues.
Expecting ourselves to be perfect slows this process; it puts us in a guilty and anxious state. Expecting others to be perfect is equally destructive...
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No Progress
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Its more than what, perhaps 10 days since I started my journey to write things down.But haven't moved beyond 4 lines.And to make matters worst, I am now attracted towards an alcoholic not in the program. I am consciously trying to stay away from him, but seems I feel I want an emotional anchor. I know he c...
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Walk in dry places
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Walk in Dry Places No Conditional Sobriety Admission of Powerlessness Sobriety in AA is unconditional. This means that theres never been a reason for drinking, no matter how bad our circumstances may become. As the AA pioneers were fond of saying, THERES NOTHING THAT DRINKING WON'T MAKE WORSE. How...
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Howdy
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The Daily Practice of Steps One, Ten, Eleven and Twelve -- From the very beginning of my recovery, my sponsors let me know (in no uncertain terms) that there were four steps of the program that were to be PRACTICED EVERY DAY ... that I was to TRY to the very best of my ability ... They are the 1st, 10th, 11th a...
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"Living Sober"
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7 Using the Serenity Prayer On the walls of thousands of A.A. meeting rooms, in any of a variety of languages, this invocation can be seen: God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, The courage, to change the things we can,...
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AHHHHHH i need to talk to someone!
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My mom just said that she hasn't been drinking for 2 weeks! AHHHH I.....I ....I need someone to talk to! Lanchas
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 13th April 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Having found my way into this new world by the grace of God and the help of A.A., am I going to take that first drink, when I know that just one drink will change my whole world? Am I deliberately going back to the suffering of that alcoholic world? Or am I going to hang onto the happin...
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I need to slam on the BRAKES!
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I swear, I get going through the week, and then the weekend comes, and I keep going all weekend long, making messes and cleaning them up... running to and fro, losing my freAking mind. I am only 4 months past my last drunken episode, and I need to slam on the brakes.... this is how I get, I am a slug for months...
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