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Nisha · Veteran Member

No Progress

Tuggboat · Senior Member

Just write, don't judge. Its just a rough draft. Just start writing about anything at all and if something reminds you of what you are trying to write about...continue. :)

After your done you can judge it. Mark the stuff you'd share and the stuff you wouldn't. On the stuff you wouldn't share just never say never. Something like. I don't thinkI'll share this today. Maybe tomorrow.

Experience taught me this stuff is probably more important but I had to hold onto it for a while. eventually it became painful but in that amount of time I was able to find somebody to share it with.

A lot of this at this stage is just self Discovery Nisha. Reread the first three steps over before and while you do this. You'll see they are conclusions we come to moreso than things we do. See in your writings if you can see if the first three steps are the truth or not.

StPeteDean · MIP Old Timer

Hey Nisha,

you might want to check your motives for wanting to be in a relationship. You've indentified a couple. Ask yourself why you would be attracted to an alcoholic, when many would consider it repulsive. Being in a relationship with an alcoholic almost guarantees getting abused. Do we feel comfortable in this role?
Dean

-- Edited by StPeteDean at 13:47, 2008-04-12

Nisha · Veteran Member

I had a thorough storming of my head for reasons that are making me get to the idea of seeing this alcoholic guy, n must say whatever I got there(in my head) is just too crazy.I feel I am really insane!!

StPeteDean · MIP Old Timer

If it feels this bad now, how can it get better later?

lani · MIP Old Timer

Good job on staying away from the booze!!! Thats progress my friend! As far as relationships go, either an AA or non-AA is said to be bad at this point in your sobriety! I guess because we forget to work on us and clear away the wreckage of our past!!! Keep writing and working on you!!!

Good luck!
Lani

Nisha · Veteran Member

Point taken Dean....am off that course now

StPeteDean · MIP Old Timer

That must feel good Nisha. Your genuine self will appreciate that. The relationship that we must desperately need is with ourselves. Our recovery requires it/ facilitates it. Learning to forgive and to unconditionally love ourselves is necessary, before we can truly love anyone else. Also growing to recognize and accept the love from our higher power will remove the neediness that we feel, and change the way that go about our relationship with others. It will be less about "them" or "us" and more about "we".

Dean