I used to literally YELL at people to LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE.... because I did not want their help or their concern. It interfered with my self-destruction.
Today I am having a kinder gentler experience with the concept of wanting to be left alone at times. It is healthy, because it is a needed boundary I use once in awhile. This recovery business, and having a new life is hard work and is sometimes just downright exhausting.
I am glad that when I now ask people in my life to leave me alone for awhile or give me some space, it is not because I am running away from them. It is because I need to rest, or get grounded, or re-group. They know this now, and they respect my time and space that I need without fear.
My, how concepts can change with recovery.
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Thats funny Joni because my husband and I were just talking about that today! Same here.... I have a girl at work that just goes out of her way to get invovled with what I am doing(and everyone else)., Had a patient brought in from the ER who had no orders and was a mess...She runs to the director and says....yada, yada....I just let her do her thing and whatever! Go for it girl... No resentments towards her today but before I would have been like..get outta my business..... So, Yea for us!!! Hope work is well!!!
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I have a relatively new friend, who unfortunately, met me when I was at my worst. I was full of piss and vinegar; she sat with me thru many drunken times- why did I drink when it only made me bitter?- but even when I was not drunk, I threw up (pun intended) all kinds of rules that I said were just boundaries. She called spontaneously this AM to ask if I wanted to go buy some plants. I didn't do spontaneous then, but I do now. She says the change in me is amazing. I got all kinds of herbs to put in my container gardens
"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
My first marriage would've lasted longer if only she left me alone and let me drink. I was a peaceful drunk, and man did that girl like to fight. I left the house many times just so I could drink alone and listen to music in my hippie van . These days "leave me alone" means I'm not answering the phone today. Self employment is a beautiful thing.
LOL... Dean, self-employment is out of the question for this alcoholic!!!!! The bills would definitely not get paid, as I have far too many artistic hobbies thatwould take priority!!! Tee heee......
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