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The Inner Adult
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Much has been written about "The Inner Child" especially in the roaring 90s. I'm very much in touch with my inner child. My inner child is a selfish, indulgent, irresponsible, lazy, rip-roaring brat who is only sober by the grace of God. I'm still looking for my Inner Adult. I'll keep you...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 22nd May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ What impresses us most at an A.A. meeting is the willingness to share, without holding anything back. And pretty soon we find ourselves sharing also. We start telling our own experiences and by so doing we help the other person. And when we've got these things off our chest, we...
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Getting Needs Met
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I want to change careers . . . I need a friend . . .I'm ready to be in a relationship . . . Regularly, we become aware of new needs. We may need to change our behavior with our children. We may need a new couch, love and nurturing, a dollar, or help. Do not be afraid to recognize a want or need. The birth of a want or...
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Relationships...Dealing With Conflict
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With the physical and emotional closeness of a partnership, it is inevitable that there is sometimes conflict. It is often a sign that something is wrong or that someone is unhappy. Avoiding conflict or ignoring the problems could mean that you are choosing to avoid talking through important issue...
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Hope in Hardship
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Anything Can Be Overcome The journey that each human being makes through earthly existence can have hardship as often as it is touched by joy. When we encounter adversity, the stress we feel can erode our optimism, eventually convincing us that the issues we face cannot be overcome. In truth, there i...
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Daily Reflections May 22
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STEP ONE WE . . . (The first word of the First Step) TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 21 When I was drinking all I could ever think about was "I, I, I," or "Me, Me, Me." Such painful obsessions of self, such soul sickness, such spiritual selfishness bound me to the bottle for mo...
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The Evolving Relationship
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.... open up to hope and new possibilities... Some mornings we may awaken filled with thoughts of what is wrong in our lives. Perhaps we obsess about our failures or the limits of our relationships. If we let ourselves sink into self-loathing, we build a wall that separates us from those things that nu...
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found out what's wrong with my back...
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The doctor finally called me back over a week after having my MRI... I'm so sick of dealing with that dr's office... Anyway, they said the dr looked at my results, and I have a disc that is protruding but it's not herniated and said to stay on the meds they prescribed (muscle relaxers... that's going to he...
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Be Good To Yourself Therapy
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Trust yourself. You know what you want and need. Put yourself first. You can't be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself. Let your feelings be known. They are important. Express your opinions. It's good to hear yourself talk. Value your thinking. You do it well. If you don't value i...
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This is cute
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Click here: SINGING BUG Thought I'd share this thought it was cute but funny at the same time Enjoy your day!!! Don't forget to turn your speakers on
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Daily Reflections May 21
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A LIST OF BLESSINGS One exercise that I practice is to try for a full inventory of my blessings. . . . AS BILL SEES IT, p. 37 What did I have to be grateful for? I shut myself up and started listing the blessings for which I was in no way responsible, beginning with having been born of sound mind and body. I went...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 21st May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the day ~ One of the finest things about A.A. is the sharing. Sharing is a wonderful thing because the more you share the more you have. In our old drinking days, we didn't do much sharing. We used to keep things to ourselves, partly because we were ashamed, but mostly because we were self...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 20th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ If we get up in a meeting and tell something about ourselves in order to help the other person, we feel a whole lot better. It's the old law of the more you give the more you get. Witnessing and confession are part of keeping sober. You never know when you may help somebody. Helping...
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Just hello
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I just noticed that my last post was number 99, so I figured that I should start a post rather than reply for number 100. I've been around this site for some time now, but it has taken some time for me to get to 100. I'd just like to say hi from Boston to all those who add to my sobriety with your insightful an...
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Can someone advise me why,........
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I am in the wrong because I am upset that my partner has moved the telephone number of my friend in a.a i now cant find it and wanted to see him. She said she will not be blamed but the simple fact is I last sighted the paper it was written on last week then she did one of her "cleans" which means all...
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Robert
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Sponsor Relationship
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Hi, I was wondering, what is the sponser relationship supposed to be like? I mean, is she the teacher and I'm the student. Or is it not like that at all? The idea of giving authority to someone I hardly no is unappealing--I anticipate that I will be told to meet a lot of people and get a lot of numbers and mayb...
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Woo Hoo! Bike Week was awesome!
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Man! Oh! Man! What a glorious 8 days I spent in Myrtle Beach, S.C. We rode soooo much my rear is sore! Ate some great seafood, found a hamburger joint with the biggest onion rings I've seen! And saw about a go-zillion motorcycles......I had the pleasure of visiting a bar called "Suck Bang Blow&q...
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Emotional Sobriety
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http://www.emotionalsobriety.com/
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Sadness
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Ultimately, to grieve our losses means to surrender to our feelings. So many of us have lost so much, have said so many good byes - have been through so many changes. We may want to hold back the tides of change, not because the change isn't good, but because we have had so much change, so much loss. Sometim...
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just checkin in... rambling...
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25 days sober now... :) Getting my 1 month chip while I'm down in Memphis next week! I can't wait to go home and see everyone!!! I fly out on Tuesday, will be back the following Tuesday. I will have internet access down there, so I'll be able to check in... Haven't been getting to enough meetings late...
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Solving Problems
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"Shame is the first feeling that strikes me whenever I, or someone I love, has a problem," said one recovering woman. Many of us were raised with the belief that having a problem is something to be ashamed of. This belief can do many damaging things to us. It can stop us from identifying our pr...
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Mixed Messages
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Just curious on others views on this statement as regards to AA and its message to the alcoholic ? I am an addict, and have made no pretence to be anything else on this forum. Would also like to know your views on that, am i welcome or should i go elsewhere to find recovery? Thank you
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24 Hours a Day ~ 19th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Fellowship is a big part of staying sober. The doctors call it group therapy. We never go to an A.A. meeting without taking something out of it. Sometimes we don't feel like going to a meeting and we think of excuses for not going. But we usually end up going anyway. And we always g...
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GOSSIP
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One junior high school boy confided in another his love for a certain girl. The first boy asked the second one to keep his secret. By the end of the school day, the rumor was all around about the boy and girl. The first boy was mortified as others mocked him and teased the girl he liked. In shame, the bo...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 18th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We're in A.A. for two main reasons: to keep sober ourselves and to help others keep sober. It's a well-known fact that helping others is a big part of keeping sober yourself. It's also been proved that it's very hard to keep sober all by yourself. A lot of people have tried it and f...
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Second meeting
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I went to my second meeting tonight. I chose not to go to another meeting before this Thursday meeting. I've been dealing with my depression--it got pretty dark this week but it'll never be where it used to take me years ago. I mean, I still managed to choose to have beautiful moments, focusing my attent...
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Putting Power in Perspective
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As human beings, we cannot help but be subject to our preferences. However, we do have control over the manner in which these manifest themselves in our lives. Every value we hold dear is an expression of either support or opposition, and it is our perspective that determines whether we are for someth...
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Don't stop living your life!
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So often, when a problem occurs, inside or around us, we revert to thinking that if we put our life on hold we can positively contribute to the solution. If a relationship isn't working, if we face a difficult decision, if we're feeling depressed, we may put our life on hold and torment ourselves with ob...
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The Relationship Blame Game
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If you find yourself in the midst of any of the following, a dispute, argument, relationship breakdown, miscommunication, separation, divorce and so on then the very first questions you should ask is not "Why are you doing this to me" or "why are you treating me this way" but &q...
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Judgement Creates
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Judge not by appearances, but judge righteous judgment. -- Jesus We know the power of thoughts to create. Consider, then, the impact of our judgments. When we judge someone critically, those judgments have the power to affect the one being judged, if they are open to our perceptions. This is the case...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 17th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ A lot of well-meaning people treat alcoholics like the priest and the Levite. They pass by on the other side by scorning them and telling them what low people they are, with no willpower. Whereas, they really have fallen for alcohol, in the same way as the man in the story fell am...
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you may smile
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Now I'm the king of the swingers Oh, the jungle VIP I've reached the top and had to stop And that's what botherin' me I wanna be a man, mancub And stroll right into town And be just like the other men I'm tired of monkeyin' around! Oh, oobee doo I wanna be like you I wanna walk like you Talk like you, too You'll s...
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Enjoying the Good Days
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Good feelings can become a habitual part of our life. There is absolutely no virtue in the unnecessary suffering, which many of us have felt for much of our life. We don't have to allow others to make us miserable, and we don't have to make ourselves miserable. A good day does not have to be the "cal...
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A Gentle Reminder
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I recieved this, this morning, and felt it should be posted. >This board is not for those that wish to come here..and >judge..criticize...put down others....and tell others what they >should or should not be doing...and how they should be living their >lives.. > >It is a safe pl...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 16th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In the story of the Good Samaritan, the wayfarer fell among robbers and was left lying in the gutter, half dead. And a priest and a Levite both passed by on the other side of the road. But the Good Samaritan was moved with compassion and came to him and bound up his wounds and brough...
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To Thine Own Self Be True
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And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. --Shakespeare "To thine own self be true." "Live the life you were meant to live." "Be the person you were meant to be." These statements convey a wonder...
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naming my babies...
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Got 2 of my chicks named... the silver laced pullet is Arwen, she's the only one I know the sex of. The black and yellow bantam is Aiden. I've got 5 gender neutral names picked out for the others I can tell apart... Kaden, Cameron (Cammi for short), Devin, Reagan, Quinn... can you tell I like names that end...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 15th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In A.A. we find a new strength and peace from the realization that there must be a Power greater than ourselves that is running the universe and that is on our side when we live a good life. So the A.A. program really never ends. You begin by overcoming drink and you go from there to...
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Too Smart?
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I recently came into contact with an acquaintance who has been in and out of the program... mostly out. There isn't anything unique about his story... he told me a bit about his life since last time I saw him and over the course of the meeting before and after, I overheard him telling different people di...
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Still spinning on the roundabout....
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Hello all,
I would really like some insight. I did spend some time on this board a year ago, I dont know if any of you remember me.
Anyway, I would be in end stage alcoholism. Chronic and out of control. I desperately want to stop (as I have for years) but I am still struggling. I know now for sure its...
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8-10 years without alcohol
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I'm very curious to know what you all think about this. Because I have been in somewhat of a denial about my alcoholism (I was able to quit drinking without any side effects, without a court order, or without much difficulty) so why would I say that I'm an alcoholic. Well I think you all know the diseas...
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namaste'
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hope you all are well today.Happy may 13 th gee got so much to say.... i guess at the top of my list is a burning desire to get your imput on ways to do a step 4. lots of procrastinating going on in my world on that subject. i've been in a couple of treatment centers...doing step one twice was kind of like a 1,2,3...
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Whe to call . . .
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OK, so, I only want to attend women's groups, but there aren't that many around. Sound like an excuse not to go to a meeting? I don't think it is--I just wouldn't feel comfortable with men in the group . . .not right now, anyway; not when I feel vulnerable. So, there are a few women's meetings throughout th...
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Taking Risks
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Take a risk. Take a chance. We do not have to indulge in obviously foolhardy or self-defeating risks, but we can allow ourselves to take positive risks in recovery. We cannot afford to keep ourselves paralyzed. We do not have to keep ourselves stymied and trapped out of fear of making a mistake or faili...
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finally went
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I finally went to a women's meeting tonight. This was only my 4th meeting that I have gone to in my 96 days of sobriety... It is still hard to go.. but like I tell people "what do you have to lose".... I thought it was about time I went and took the advice!! The meeting itself was good. I enjoyed it a...
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I"m back
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I'm back, guess I had a lack of computer or something in my diet for the past few days. my damn computer decided to take a holiday on me. Damn stupid @%$*&^$$% thing.
I'm giving fair warning, going to do the written part of gettin my drivers license this wednesday, I've been parcrastinating to l...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 14th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Having gotten over drinking, we have only just begun to enjoy the benefits of A.A. We find new friends, so that we are no longer lonely. We find new relationships with our families, so that we are happy at home. We find release from our troubles and worries through a new way of loo...
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Powerless
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"We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable." Who cares to admit complete defeat? Practically no one, of course. Every natural instinct cries out against the idea of personal powerlessness. It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have...
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A different view of the 12 steps...
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"A Humanist Alternative to A.A.'s 12 Steps" by B. F. Skinner (Harvard University Scientist) From July/August 1987 Humanist Magazine. 1. We accept the fact that all of our efforts to stop drinking have failed. 2. We believe that we must turn elsewhere for help. 3. We turn to our fellow men a...
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working with others
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I just helped someone yesterday through their fifth step. You can tell when someone works this step honestly and completly. The task can be difficult... you sometimes hear things youd rather not hear. It's difficult to watch someone you care about sometimes, dredge up past memories. It can be very e...
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