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Standing Up for Ourselves
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We learn some behaviors have self-defeating consequences, while others have beneficial consequences. We learn we have choices. -- Beyond Codependency
It is so easy to come to the defense of others. How clear it is when others are being used, controlled, manipulated, or abused. It is so easy to fi...
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Thank you
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I am so grateful for all of you sharing your adivce and your own experiences with me. I am trying to understand my A's problem and to read your stories makes me truly understand that I can't "save" him but i can do my best to be there for him, that it isn't my fault and that i need to take care of mys...
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"a members eye view of AA"
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Cool pamphlet my husband found has this to say, I rather like it... "I am personally convinced that the basic search of every human being, from the cradle to the grave, is to find at least one other human being before whom he can stand completely naked, stripped of all pretense or defense, and trus...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 14th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When we first came into A.A., a sober life seemed strange. We wondered what life could possibly be like without ever taking a drink. At first, a sober life seemed unnatural. But the longer we're in A.A., the more natural this way of life seems. And now we know that the life we're l...
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Daily Reflections 1/14 - NO REGRETS
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NO REGRETS We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.83 Once I became sober, I began to see how wasteful my life had been and I experienced overwhelming guilt and feelings of regret. The program's Fourth and Fifth Steps assisted me enormously in healing those t...
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Post 4th & 5th Steps... ES&H needed.
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I did my first 4th & 5th step last Saturday. As I posted before, I was exhausted for a few days afterwards, but then began to feel so much better...Now....Not feeling so good. I've started having very colorful, crazy dreams ! AND I've had 3 or 4 drinking dreams, too! I, again, am exhausted. Just don...
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I'm Back & Have Good News!!!
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Hi everyone,
I got back from my trip late last night and it is so good to be back home. But, it was a super break and my parents are looking well. I saw lots of my relatives and that was good and I spoke to so many more of them over the 'phone.
On the second day there I told Mum that I was an alcoholic and attend...
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A thankfull alcoholic
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Thnkyou all for all your love.I went to a meeting tonight it was nice seing old friends. Any way thats all from me today i need to put this foot up. Love and fellowship to you all xxxx
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 13th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When we were drinking, we were living an unnatural life physically & mentally. We were punishing our bodies by loading them with alcohol. We didn't eat enough and we ate the wrong things. We didn't get enough sleep or the right kind of rest. We were ruining ourselves physi...
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Good Feelings
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When we talk about feelings in recovery, we often focus on the troublesome trio - pain, fear, and anger. But there are other feelings available in the emotional realm - happiness, joy, peace, contentment, love, closeness, and excitement.
It's okay to let ourselves feel pleasurable feelings too...
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"It Doesn't Happen Overnight" Daily Reflections 1/13
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IT DOESN'T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85 The most common alcoholic fantasy seems to be: "If I just don't drink, everything will be all right."...
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12 Signs of a spriritual awakening
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12 Signs of a Spiritual Awakening 1. An increased tendency to let things happen rather than make them happen. 2. Frequent attacks of smiling. 3. Feelings of being connected with others and nature. 4. Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation. 5. A tendency to think and act spontaneously rath...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 12th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ The longer we're in A.A., the more natural this way of life seems. Our old drinking lives were a very unnatural way of living. Our present sober lives are the most natural way we could possibly live. During the early years of our drinking, our lives weren't so different from the...
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Keeping your mind off it.
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Hi again all, well i'm on day 2 and things are pretty tough. The desire to drink is on my mind all the time, but suprisingly enough I do notice a difference even between just the first 2 days of not having liquor in my body. I'm just wondering some of the strategies or things that some of you did to keep your mi...
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Finding Balance
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The goal of recovery is balance - that precious middle ground.
Many of us have gone from one extreme to another: years of taking care of everyone but ourselves, followed by a time of refusing to focus on anyone's needs but our own.
We may have spent years refusing to identify, feel, and deal with our...
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Being feed up with me
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It seems to me i cant stop feeling this way i am at home at the moment sick with uclsers on my feet so i cant go to work' And i cant see them geting anybetter so thats why i feel like this. I know i am lucky because i am sober today thankgod but i cant help the way i feel anyone out there with any idears thanks Linda x...
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Sponsee of 7 years died, it hurts
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Hi Everyone, I'm really feeling bad tonight. A sponsee of 7 years that I truly got to know, befriend and cherish died about 2 weeks ago, after a really short bout with cancer. He died clean and sober. He was a true friend in recovery. We worked steps together, did 12 Step calls together, went to AA and...
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Where in the world is Quetzal
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Well, its been a week + that our fine friend has left us! An early welcome home to you!!!!! You were sure missed by all, especially me!!!!!! Hope your trip was a good one! Cant wait to hear the details!!!! Lani
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~as Bill Sees It~ We Cannot Stand Still
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We Cannot Stand Still In the first days of AA, I wasn't much bothered about areas of my life in which I was standing still. There was always the alibi: "After all," I said to myself, "I'm far too busy with much more important matters." That was my near perfect prescription for com...
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Hey all! Here's a me update!
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I just thought I'd drop you all a line and tell you that I'm doing well. I hope you all had a great holiday and new year. I also wanted to ask you guys to vote for me on CKNW's Talk Idol. It will take literally 2 seconds and your vote could get me my own radio talk show on one of the most respected radio stations in...
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Letting Go of Guilt
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"There's a good trick that people in dysfunctional relationships use," said one recovering woman. "The other person does something inappropriate or wrong, then stands there until you feel guilty and end up apologizing." It's imperative that we stop feeling so guilty. Muc...
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First time AA meeting experiences
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Hi, I am planning to go to my first AA meeting this weekend, I just wanted to get an idea of peoples reactions to their first time at an AA meeting and also what occurred at their first meeting. Just kind of nervous about going. Also wanted to know if it is good to take someone with me the first time or not.(i'...
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hello!
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happy new year to you's may it be filled with good health, happiness and prosperity! I just wanted to say that i have not deserted you's, i spend majority of my time on the NA side of MIP. I do however, come here often to read your posts. Nice to see lots of new faces :) I recently celebrated my 1st birthday an...
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Boundaries
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Thought I would start a new thread on boundaries.... Im not quite sure what they are or what mine are. "The purpose of setting boundaries is to take care of our self. Being forced to learn how to set boundaries is a vital part of learning to own our self, of learning to respect ourselves, of learnin...
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Just me
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Just wanted to check in, and say all is going ok. Just been busy checking into some things is all hopefully all will go well this week. Hit a few bumps along the way, but managing to deal with them one thing at a time. At one point, I thought i was gonna explode which wasn't good. Managed to kick myself in th...
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Daily Reflections 1/12
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ACCEPTING OUR PRESENT CIRCUMSTANCES Our very first problem is to accept our present circumstances as they are, ourselves as we are, and the people about us as they are. This is to adopt a realistic humility without which no genuine advance can even begin. Again and again, we shall need to return to tha...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 11th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When we were drinking most of us never thought of helping others. We liked to buy drinks for people, because that made us feel like big shots. But we only used others for our own pleasure. To really go out and try to help somebody who needed help never occurred to us. To us, helpi...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 9th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When we were drinking, most of us had no real faith in anything. We may have said that we believed in God, but we didn't act as though we did. We never honestly asked God to help us and we never really accepted His help. To us, faith looked like helplessness. But when we came into A.A...
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Daily Reflections 1/11
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THE 100% STEP Only Step One, where we made the 100 percent admission we were powerless over alcohol, can be practiced with absolute perfection. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 68 Long before I was able to obtain sobriety in A.A., I knew without a doubt that alcohol was killing me, yet even with t...
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Good Afternoon! Share...
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I am just finally getting around to posting here again after my trip to Fla with dad. It was so wonderful, and the weather was great, at high 70's to 80's every day I was there except for the last day. I fished a lot and swam in the ocean, and got tan and collected shells like a little girl. It was so peaceful,...
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Fear
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Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. What if they are a little coarse, and. you may get your coat soiled or torn? What if you do fail, and get fairly rolled in the dirt once or twice? Up again; you shall never be so afraid of...
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Hey
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Hey y'all... I haven't been on here in awhile... I've more or less been not functioning lately... getting to meetings at least, but other than that... my sleep is all screwed up, not sleeping then sleeping way too much... I slept from about 4 or 5 last night till almost 8 this morning, after being u...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 10th Jauary 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When we were drinking, most of us were full of pride and selfishness. We believed we could handle our own affairs, even though we were making a mess of our lives. We were very stubborn and didn't like to take advice. We resented being told what to do. To us, humility looked like we...
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Please help!
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I am a new member and new to seeking help, not for myself, but for my long-time boyfriend. He has been drinking since he was 14 and it has taken him down some bad roads in the past. He has admitted to me that he is an alcoholic and has tried AA in the past, but eventually he decided that it was only a problem if...
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Daily Reflections 1/10
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UNITED WE STAND We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. This is the first step in recovery. The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed. Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 30 I came to Alcoholics Anonymous because I was no lo...
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Easier softer ways? Tried em all..:)
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How it works Excerpt from the fifth chapter of Alcoholics Anonymous Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally inca...
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Responsibility for ourselves
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We have been doing the wrong things for the right reasons. --Codependent No More Caretaking: the act of taking responsibility for other people while neglecting responsibility for ourselves. When we instinctively feel responsible for the feelings, thoughts, choices, problems, comfort, and de...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 2nd January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ What makes A.A. work? The first thing is to have a revulsion against myself and my way of living. Then I must admit I was helpless, that alcohol had me licked and I couldn't do anything about it. The next thing is to honestly want to quit the old life. Then I must surrender my life to...
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thankful
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Hi all: As some of you know I had some serious issues I needed to tell my husband. I was sooo scared and kept putting it off because of fear.Fear of being judged, getting "yelled" at, and him just plain kickin me to the curb. Last night I finally spilled the beans. We went to have coffee together...
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St. Peter Joke
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A man died and went to heaven. St Peter asked, "What denomination are you?" The man replied, "I don't belong here, I don't go to church." St. Peter said "Well, we don't make mistakes, you belong here, let's just walk around and you can see where you'd like to stay. So they wa...
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Stages of Grief
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My sponsor (best friend) died Oct. 10th. Since then I have been going through all the stages of grief. I have now hit a tough one,, Anger. I have been lashing out at everyone. Nothing seems to suit me anymore. Everyone seems to be pissing in my Wheeties latley. Last night in a fit of rage I quit my hom...
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Daily Reflections 1/9
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AN ACT OF PROVIDENCE It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have warped our minds into such an obsession for destructive drinking that only an act of Providence can remove it from us. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 21 My act of Providence, (a manifestation of divine care and directio...
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Dealing with Painful Feelings
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Feelings of hurt or anger can be some of the most difficult to face. We can feel so vulnerable, frightened, and powerless when these feelings appear. And these feelings may trigger memories of other, similar times when we felt powerless. Sometimes, to gain a sense of control, we may punish the people...
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Vulnerability
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Some of us may have made a decision that no one was ever going to hurt us again. We may automatically go on "feelings freeze mode" when faced with emotional pain. Or, we may terminate a relationship the first time we feel hurt. Hurt feelings are a part of life, relationships, and recovery. It...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 8th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Everyone who comes into A.A. knows from bitter experience that he or she can't drink. I know that drinking has been the cause of all my major troubles or has made them worse. Now that I have found a way out, I will hang onto A.A. with both hands. Saint Paul once said that nothing in t...
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Daily Reflections 1/8
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DO I HAVE A CHOICE? The fact is that most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure, have lost the power of choice in drink. Our so-called willpower becomes practically nonexistent. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.24 My powerlessness over alcohol does not cease when I quit drinking. In sobriety I still have no c...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 7th January 2008
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When temptation comes, as it does sometimes to all of us. I will say to myself: "No, my whole life depends on not taking that drink and nothing in the world can make me do it." Besides, I have promised that Higher Power that I wouldn't do it. I know that God doesn't want m...
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I'm Baaaack!!
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good movie
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Hi all: Wow! Just watched an incredible movie..."peaceful warrior" A bit slow at first but what a message! You'd think this guy's in AA (isnt) but what wisdom to behold. Based on the author Dan Millman...You'll have to check him out online and the movie! (feel like Im doing a book report!) S...
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New Sobriety
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Hello, Just thought I would introduce myself. My name is Kelly and have been sober since Friday. It isn't my first time but hope it is my last. Things feel different this time and I don't know why. I guess sometimes when you are done you just know it. But I am definitly trying to just worry about today. Any h...
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