Been trying to get in to see my old psyche to talk to him about the issues I am having with depression after some years of reprieve in that department, but he is now a clinical director of a county-run agency, and I cannot see him because I do not qualify as someone needing serious "case management" (i.e. I am a functioning person in society).
I just do NOT want to have to go through another round of spilling my guts and going through all the wasteland of the past with a new doctor. So I looked up another doc I saw a few times years ago, and he is in semi-retirement and not taking on new patients. Will find out if I would qualify as being an "old" patient, even though I have not seen him in 10 years.
I do not want to wallow around in the bog of the past, which is what I endured 4+ years of therapy and have worked the Steps to get through. Enough, already!
My alanon aunt has suggested I ask about chronic fatigue syndrome as well. She says I have had all the hallmarks for years now. Whatever.....
I am NOT SAD, I am NOT WORRIED, and i am NOT emotionally depressed or hopeless or even stressed out that much. I am just BLAHHHHHH. I try upping meetings, new activities, social things, and the like, but nothing can stop me over the past few years form being chronically tired, achey and unmotivated. I am FLAT, and I cannot live my life on a round planet with this flatness consuming me.
So there it is for the night, back to square one.... but at least I got out and gave it the old college try.... now what?
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ya know, spilling your old guts to a new person can bring new insights. Square one is always there . and is something to build on. I can't believe I'm saying this, but the past is not necessarily a wasteland...I don't mean to be trite.
Existential dilemmas need attention; poetry works for me. The wisdom of those who have felt it before we did....
Billy Collins (poet laureate a few years ago) makes wonderful sweet words about life- try him. BG
Hey Joni I too have the blahs and it does start to drive you nuts! Interesting, I found a whole bunch of things on "blah" when I googled "feeling blah" Try it...Here is one interesting thing I found:
"While many of us can go through periods of feeling 'blah', a long term experience may signal other things taking place in your body, your energy field and psyche. You are looking for an 'answer', yet are coming up empty.
I sense within your energy that you are searching for passion and excitement, something that will make you feel alive. There are many steps that I could suggest, however within this context I will offer two.
First, visit your doctor for a physical along with a hormone test. Balance within the body is a key factor in how we experience our physical and emotional energy. When imbalance is happening, our responses also become imbalanced and out of synch. There is no enthusiasm or interest in participating in life activities in the same way you had in the past. Imbalance can also be a signal of depression. Talking with your doctor about what you are experiencing in a good start.
Also, I sense that while you may be searching for passion, you carry a deep sense of sadness within your heart chakra. Because this sadness is something you are not comfortable with and do not know how to handle, you have been unconsciously holding it at bay. This act of 'suppressing' or 'depressing' emotion can result in feeling depressed. Facing the sadness, even though it feels heavy and uncomfortable, would help you to move forward out of the rut.
There is a wonderful story called, "THERE'S A HOLE IN MY SIDEWALK", Autobiography in Five Short Chapters by Portia Nelson. The basis of the story is that we will continue to live in the rut, or fall down the same hole until we choose at some point to take a different action, or walk down a different street. Think about how allowing yourself to feel the sadness would be a different action that depressing it. I wish you all the best Robin. You can do it! "
Im interested in checking out the book myself!!! Good luck and I like the idea of finding someone new with perhaps a different twist on things.....
-- Edited by lani at 08:50, 2008-12-03
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Portia Nelson's "There's a Hole in My Sidewalk" is one of my favourite books ever. I found it by chance browsing in a bookshop, plucked it off the self & opened up its pages to a plethora of apt, hidden yet identifiable emotion & ironies in human nature. I smiled in delight & recognition throughout & it wasn't until years later that I realised it is held as a basic text for Addiction Studies in Minesota or Mineapolis or was it Massachussets? One of your M States anyways! A beautiful book & a great gift for Xmas if you have any friends in mind :) I hope you gain some sober comfort & ease soon, Joni ~ Godbless ~ Danielle x
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Thank you so much, ladies. It is really great to come here and get ideas, to be able to be outside my own cocoon and get some really good suggestions. I have to find that book and give it try. I also liked the idea that Beach Girl posed, that perhaps someone having a different "take" may indeed be helpful.
I like the idea of going ahead and feeling, seeking out, the sadness, if it is there. I started to write last night about all the things I am feeling, physically, and mentally as well. The lack of concentration, having "blank spots" and losing words at times... ear problems, fatigue, and general blankness.
I also realized through writing that I am not a hypochondriac; that my family and husband see the changes in me over the past months, and are very very supportive of me getting the tender loving care and help I need and deserve. I am so grateful to be supported and loved in this way. Without my realizing "why", my husband has been texting me for the past month, with reminders of how special I am to him, and what a good life we have together. I do have a wonderful life now, perhaps I just don't know how to cope with it. Perhaps I feel I don't deserve it? I will keep seeking help and writing and sharing my feelings. Thanks, gals. You are the BEST!
And by the way, even in the midst of all this, I did manage to put up a gorgeous new Christmas Tree. Bring the body and the mind will follow, right? Hope you enjoy. It was very therapeutic, making all those bows myself. :o)
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What a glorious tree! Very beautiful!!! I love the homemade bows and it looks like someone has been watching HGTV!!!! Love love love it!!! My tree has yet to be put up and all my ornaments are "hallmark" from memories in the past...Would like a grownup tree someday!!! lo but it is so fun saying "remember this one....." Put our lights up outside yesterday and they looked so great...for about 15 mins, until they all just went out! Shoot! Will have to work on those again today!!!
Joni, glad your trying new angles on feeling better! How sweet of your man sending you nice greetings...you soooo deserve it and having a great life is ok to do! Savor it girl!
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