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Romantic Christmas Shopping Story
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I guess I'm just a softie----these romantic stories always get to me. > A couple was Christmas shopping at the mall on Christmas Eve and the mall was packed.> As the wife walked through the mall she was surprised to look up and see her husband was nowhere around. She was quite upset because they ha...
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GrapeVine
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December 5 "The most important factor in eliminating resentments is to know you have them. You can't fix something if you don't know what's wrong." La Verne, Calif., December 1966 From: "Caught...
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Today's Gift 12 - 05
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Recovery releases our creativity Creativity implies something new - feeling, thinking, acting in a new way. When we step out of a familiar pattern, we often feel anxious. We wonder if the new way will work or if a new venture will succeed. We take a chance, a risk, and that requires courage. If we refuse...
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Finally asked for a sponsor
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Ok. I took the plunge today and asked another womanFri be my sponsor. I can't take this misery anymore and I can't get the growth that I need from my temp sponsor. She is an awesome listener, but I need more right now. As soon as I asked she gave me assignments to keep me accountable. I need that. I am respons...
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Chaya
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Hi, New comer
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Hello, My name is Mylita and I am a new comer to AA. Today will be twenity three day somber. I went to my first meeting three week ago and I am so happy I join AA. I still have not found a sponcer but that okay. I will continue going to AA. I feel recharge all the time I leave AA. It have given me hope when I had non...
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law enforcement in AA
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Today is my 9 month birthday. I went to the group I've gone to weekly and spoke for the 3rd time in 9 months (briefly) and got my coin. I am a member of the local law enforcement group in a fairly small community and find it difficult to share at local meetings with people that I'm familiar with and who are c...
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Perspective
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Part of having an open mind is changing the way we look at things. An old Chinese proverb...change but your mind on what you want to see and the whole world changes accordingly. I had a hard time with this in early sobriety and someone suggested that I read "A New Pair of Glasses" by Chuck Cham...
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Today's Gift 12/4/12
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth. --Virginia Satir Virginia Satir was an internationally acclaimed therapist. She knew a lot about what people need to be healthy and happy and to live in...
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justadrunk
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Wisdom of the Rooms
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December 3, 2012 Quote of the Week "After 5 years of sobriety you get your brains back, after 10 you learn how to use them, and after 15 years you realize you never needed them anyway." What a cord of recognition this struck when I first heard it (at 10 years recovery). I remember the f...
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Today's Gift 12 - 03
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You Give Me Strength Lord God, thank You for loving me Even when I turn away from You. I am grateful for Your constant care and concern. Though I feel unworthy of Your great love, I thank You that through my weakness You give me strength, And in my wandering You show me the way. --Author unknownYou are read...
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Grapevine Quote of the Day 12/3/12
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December 3 "When life presents us with a racking conflict ... we cannot be altogether blamed if we are confused. In fact, our very first responsibility is to admit that we are confused." AA Co-Founder, Bill W., August 1...
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Service thread
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I took on a service committment today to be a GSR for one of my homegroups. I'm interested if any of you guys may have done this and can share what it was like. I also figured this would be a good way to start a thread on how many million ways there are to do service in AA. A couple of things are obvious which inc...
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pinkchip
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I don't do "Buts"
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because the consequence of that, for me, kills the lessons Ii should be learning. Aloha MIP family. Had a wonderful Sunday morning version meeting of AA at the Bay. We have a Saturday and Sunday version. Yesterday's group was beyond spiritual imagination nicely salted by the shares of new-come...
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Jerry F
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IN HUMBLE GRATITUDE!
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December 2nd, 1984 a cold morning, I came to on the floor of a farm house in Rhinebeck New York for the last time. I was 6 months into my 3rd marriage and was finally aware that the insanity of my life was doing the same thing again and again knowing what the results would be. I lifted my head and surren...
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The Care Of
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Tomorrow I will be in the presence of a toxic person in authority, a "see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil" avoidant person, and a self-serving climber. All of whom want my blessing--or at least not my obstruction--for moving money where it probably (keeping an open mind here) shouldn'...
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Today's Gift 12 - 02
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He that knew all that learning ever writ Knew only this - that he knew nothing yet. --Aphra Behn It's true that the more information we have about the world, the more clearly we see the shape of what we don't know. It's also true that we don't need to learn anything at all in order to deal fairly with others a...
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Random trigger
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So I'm sitting at home, relaxing and doing step work, when I get this text. From an old friend-mostly drinking buddy who I haven't heard from in over a year. This is a girl who drank like I drank- towards oblivion and insanity. She was actually one of those people I used to like to drink with because while I...
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Further to 'RT's' 1st meeting
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I NEVER want to forget this. At my 1st meeting. A bloke was speaking , when a man came into the meeting with a 'd&a' counciler . he had a small 'airlines' bag , nearly fell over me getting to th seat beside me . Th speaker kept talking , when this bloke beside me , stood up , pulled a wine cask out of his bag ....
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Your first meeting
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What was your first meeting like? I went yesterday, and I was surprised by how many people were there. I thought Friday at noon, maybe ten people... there were over forty people there for sure. It was a womens meeting. When the chair asked if there were any newcomers I didn't put my hand up until the last...
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Releasing
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I must slowly learn to lose control, to let go the petals when it is time...learn step by softly-treading step, that what I am, what we are, is the Power to move and be moved, to change and be changed. ~ Linda Roach Letting go doesn't mean releasing our grip on life and falling into the abyss below. Letting...
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Wren
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just another day in paradise
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hi there.. im not new to AA or to this forum just havent been back to the board yet.. Im pretty angry and annoied.. its been a week since i had a drink im pretty disgusted.. seems like my body knows the hour when i typicaly have a drink and i become and automatic asshole to everyone around me. I dunno how man...
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I'm stilll here
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I read a lot but dont post much. Tomorrow will be two weeks since my last drunk and it has been difficult (understatement of the century). I'm pushing through though! I havent been to a meeting every night but I have visited quite a few. I've made some friends, picked up my white chip, met a few potential s...
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Today's Gift 12 - 01
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Carrying the Message What we are always carries a stronger message than what we say. This is why we're sometimes turned off by people who seek to overwhelm us with charm. It's also why we can sometimes be drawn to people who are quiet and unassuming. However it works, there is a powerful message in one...
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When do you think is a good time to sponsor someone?
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My sponsor suggested when I was on step 7 or around 6 months, I personally think thats too soon as I would like at least a year and to have gone through the steps... thoughts? thanks
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When given the choice....
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One topic that came up in today's meeting for me was about what different folks did when given ultimatums about their alcoholism. It was pretty comical to all of us since everyone in the room was/is in recovery but in reality, it's sad and kind of scary. This came about from a story in the Come to Believe...
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Liquor whore
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I went to get coffee today and inside this coffee shop is also fancy liquor and other novelty items - kind of a hippie store/liquor mart/hang out type thing. Anyway - I've gone there many times for coffee - and many more times for liquor. They get all this really trendy stuff that no one's heard of - so no...
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Chaya Congrats 30 days!
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Congrats Chaya,
Some say getting 30 days can be more difficult than getting 30 years.
The difficult grind of the first weeks picking up tools along the way to help us become content in sobriety can be trying.
Watching new people recover makes this so rewarding for us all.
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Why I don't attend many meetings these days...
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Why I don't attend many meetings anymore - I'm disgusted with hearing people repeat the same bullshit over and over again, whether it be some cliche that they think makes them sound important, such as: "Meeting makers make it." (Make what?) Or the standard rehab-ese psychobabble, such...
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Caron?
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Hi, I had posted last week about my problem and wife's insistence that I go inpatient. My decision is made to go inpatient. It will be for at least a week, but we literally have no money to plan on anything longer. I have had alcohol twice in the past week but remain determined to stop once and for all. Does a...
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Finally
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Celebrating Sobriety Dates early? Need input gang, please-
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I am working with a sponsee. He has decided [without consulting his sponsor, which would be me] to 'celebrate' his 3 year sobriety date one day early. He is planning to do this at our local homegroup with a celebratory AA meeting; cake, guests, the whole 9 yards. Now guys, I am NOT the 'AA' gestapo, a...
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Worst. Meeting. Ever. California Group, Chicago, Tues 7PM AAAARRGGH
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I love AA and owe my life to it. But this BS makes me sick. That people would co-opt and distort our loving and tolerant and inclusive program into what i describe below makes me really angry. So I knew this was a "pacific group style' meeting (or a "real" meeting as they describe it). ...
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Husband back home from rehab
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Hello, I am a mother of 3 and married for 10 years. I can say the last 2 years of our lives have been devasting to say the least. My husband's drinking became unbearable. We seperated for 8 months then he decided to go to rehab. After much consideration we decided to have him back home once his 30 days was don...
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come and gone......
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I was just reading a bunch of older post from my start 7 months ago. I was suprised to see alot of people no longer post or visit the site. I hope they are all happy sober and safe during this holay season, and if not I hope the do find their way to soberity - aa or not- all I know is I can not beleive we all lived tha...
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Just reading
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Hello! I'm excited to be home and see everyone. Can't imagine I would have said that I would be excited to see my fellow Wisconsin AAer's 6 months ago! But I really am... no one in particular... just all the farmiliar people that are my close family here. I went to a meeting while in Virginia. It was d...
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justadrunk
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Today's Gift 11-30
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Looking for beauty It is important that we look for beauty. There are beautiful things in the world each and every day, if we only know how to see. In recovery, in serenity, beauty is everywhere even in pain and suffering if we only know how to see. Higher Power, help me to use my recovery, my new vision, to...
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Today's Gift 11-29
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One way to become enthusiastic is to look for the plus sign. To make progress in any difficult situation, you have to start with what's right about it and build on that. -- Norman Vincent Peale Beginning our days with a positive mental outlook is a great depression chaser. Simply lifting our heads and l...
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Ego and fear
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Hey all:) I have posted here a few times about my inability to open up to people, and although I'm working the rest of the program as suggested, this has been a huge roadblock for me in terms of getting connected to the program. Last week at a meeting a gentleman was speaking of ego and humility. Something...
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When will the hurt go away?
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Why does recovery have to be so hard? Being currently sober, a recovering addict that is just starting to feel again... Hard to explain, but the hurt won't stop. Lots of bad, disgusting memories that won't go away, along with the hurt. Especially if you aren't trying to numb it. People look down on my di...
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Had to quit playing God...
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Why? Because it didn't work. Got a call from a sponcee today, he came in the rooms about 2 years ago extremely distressed, facing his 3d DUI in 5 years. He is slightly mental handicap, but I have never seen anyone put as much effort into the program as he has. He calls 70-100 people a week and a lot of...
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Today's Gift 11-28
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"I was lucky," a man explained to me. "One of my first mentors in life made me practice serenity. Whenever I'd call him in full-blown panic mode or with that frantic tone in my voice, he'd refuse to talk to me until I calmed myself down."'Go get centered,' he'd tell me. 'Then we'll...
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mixed feelings......s
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Let me start by saying I am truely thank full for my soberity, and I wish all f you best and hope you all have a great holiday. That said Ive been having alot of mixed feelings lately, all are based on life being somewhat boring now. So I took 7 months to get myself on stable ground, family is happy, kids are he...
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I want to be sick?!
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Went to a good women's meeting tonight, but because I was new there and it was all women I think it really triggered my insecurity. After the meeting I started getting anxious for work tomorrow as well as obsessing over my ex (it's been a year already). I thought about what I will do with the next 15 minute...
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Chaya
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Daily Reflections ~ The Perils of the Limelight & 24hrs a Day
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In the beginning, the press could not understand our refusal of all personal publicity. They were genuinely baffled by our insistence upon anonymity. Then they got the point. Here was something rare in the world a society which said it wished to publicize its principles and its work, but not its indi...
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Today's Gift 11-27
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... satisfaction is a lowly thing, how pure a thing is joy. --Marianne Moore Our perfectionism generally dashes all hopes of self-satisfaction. But the program is here to show us that we can make progress. We can learn to believe that we are doing any task as well as we need to do it, at this time. Our job i...
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Grapevine Quote of the Day Nov 27
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November 27 "There is always grace for the days I'm helpless." Allyn, Wash., February 1997 From: "Another Hand to Help Me Along" Best of the Grapevine, Vol. 3
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I'm the partner of an alcoholic.. and I don't understand.
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First time poster here. Bare with me. My partner, my best friend and the love of my life is an alcoholic. I'll preffice this by saying - I have had no personal experience with alcoholism before. And I'm finding it difficult to understand this disease. A bit of back ground. High achiever. Smart and sel...
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Need help getting wife's support!
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I am a 40 something male married 12 years, 3 young children. I/my wife has been dealing with my alcohol problem since before our marriage. I have been good at times, but have been terribly impaired to the point of near disaster many, many times. I have managed to become and remain very successful in term...
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Finally
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Wisdom of the Rooms
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November 26, 2012 Quote of the Week "When you get to your wit's end, you'll findthat God lives there" Before recovery, when I got to the bottom I just moved over and started digging another hole. I would leave jobs, relationships, and even states looking for a different solut...
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Today's Gift 11-26
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OptimismWhat I think about surrounds me. What I allow to be entertained in my mind becomes a reality. If I think negatively, I will attract negativity in my life. On the other hand, if I concentrate on developing positive thoughts, I will attract positive people and events to my life. My potential wil...
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Trying weekend!!
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With out going into to much detail, I'm having a very trying weekend. My son (19, in college) made a very "unwise" decision Friday that could have caused legal issues. He was with his cousin, my wife's sister's son, and they did something very stupid. I am having great resentment toward...
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