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HAD...become unmanageable
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I don't spend all my effort worrying about the things I cannot change while ignoring the things I can change, and I am constantly seeking the wisdom to know the difference.
un·man·age·a·ble adj.
Difficult or impossible to manage, as:
Not submitting to discipline; unruly: an unma...
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wants....needs
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I find the more I need to do something the more likely I am to put it off
The bigger issue I need to address is that I do WANT to do this; I think I SHOULD do this, and I CAN do this; I even say I WILL do this and then don't. So why don't I? Why am I undermining my own self-respect?
something i read today...your p...
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What..
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is the only rule in AA? Not a tradition, concept or step......
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BB quote
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"How dark it is before the dawn! In reality that was the beginning of my last debauch. I was soon to be catapulted into what I like to call the fourth dimension of existence. I was to know happiness, peace, and usefulness, in a way of life that is incredibly more wonderful as time passes." Alco...
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21 Thoughts For The Day
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ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other. THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want. FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it FIV...
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Wendy...
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Wendy,I just started trying to get caught up on posts since I got back from my trip. Just read yours about the past and your family, regrets and then read that your boss gave you a car.Awesome!
All we have is today,and believe me people don't give people things when they are in acti...
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iS THIS A CLOSED OR OPEN BOARD ?
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JUST WONDERING ?
CAN I OR WE BELIEVE IN GOD?? Of my understanding or Sandiee's??
RELIGON??
IS THE CATHOLIC GOD ANY DIFFERENT THEN THE METHODIST, PRESYPERTERIAN, ETC
If you want to believe in a chair or a car who am I to tell you differetly??
And who are you to tell me what god to believe i...
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I'll save you the decision to delete or ban.....
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John:
I would like to respond to your post on religious beliefs......... And then will LEAVE your board permantely, as for you to prohibit ANYONE from choosing to talk about what it is they feel in their HEART is important to them for their recovery-- Alcoholic or NOT is pretty contradicting of wh...
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Votes Tallied
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10 Voters
10 No Ban
8 No Delete
2 yes Delete
Majority is in favor of allowing the religious natured post to remain on the board, and oppose banning the non alcoholic posting party.
Thank each of you for participating in this decision making process.
The results of this vote (this po...
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today is a great day for recovery-sept 26
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Today is September 26, 2005 A Great Day for Recovery!
PAIN
"You can't hold a man down without staying down with him." -- Booker T. Washington I know who was holding me down in my life. I was. I know who was bringing pain and sadness in my life. I was. I know who was making me the victim of a...
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Andrew R from Cornwall
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I have an email friend, Andrew R, from Cornwall. I haven't heard from him in a while although I have sent several emails. It is possible that he has a new email address. Does anyone know him?
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Judegement and Understanding
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JUDGMENT AND UNDERSTANDING On occasion, it is useful and necessary to make judgments about what other people do and say. Much of the time, though, it can be a waste of your time and energy. In fact, one of the biggest obstacles to effective listening is the habit of continually and immediately making j...
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All Resources....
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Isn't it a blessing that God gives us ALL RESOURCES to help in recovery? To limit the views to ONE recovery in itself can possibly contribute to limiting our resources in complete recovery. If it hadn't been for other resource material and how God worked in my life to get me through my recovery, I would h...
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TODAY'S THOUGHT
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There is no hope of joy except in human relations. --Antoine de Saint Exupery
It is hard to imagine being really joyful and excited without our family and friends. We can imagine a birthday party with no one but us attending. Even if we got many gifts, we would feel empty if there were no one around...
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TODAY'S GIFT
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Setting limits fosters recovery
The boundary lines we draw for ourselves delineate a safe area within which our recovery can flourish. We set limits on what we do and say, how we spend our time and money, whom we choose to be our friends.
Setting limits makes life more satisfying. Much of...
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big book
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SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE
The terms “spiritual experience” and “spiritual awakening” are used many times in this book which, upon careful reading, shows that the personality change sufficient to bring about recovery from alcoholism has manifested itself among us in many different forms.
Yet i...
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Peace With The Past
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Holding on to the past, either through guilt, longing, denial, or resentment, is a waste of valuable energy - energy that can be used to transform today and tomorrow.
"I used to live in my past," said one recovering person "I was either trying to change it, or I was letting it contro...
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Tradition 10
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No AA group or member should ever, in such a way as to implicate AA, express any opinion on outside controversial issues--particularily those of politics, alcohol reform or sectarian religion. The Alcoholics Anonymous Groups oppose no one. Concerning such matters they can express no views whate...
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Joe and Charlie Tapes
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Hi all,
I have learned alot listening to my group's Joe and Charley tapes. Do you know where I could order a set?
Thanks,
Nancy
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my day today
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just stopping in before i go to sleep tonight
had some good things happen today, for a change..:)
my sister dropped in, a surprise visit, didn't know she was coming to town, out of the blue she mentioned that my dad was trying to phone me on my birthday, well i broke down in tears. She hugged me and told...
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My Thoughts For Today.
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Trailers? Cars? hmmmm anyone got a pickup, and an RV? Im running away lol
Morning guys.
Slogan for today. "Somedays, its best, not to think.":)
Ive been told that I think too damned much. And as much, as Ide like to get defensive, about that one, I hafta agree.
We can get wrapped up, in t...
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TODAY'S GIFT
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As a child, I walked through the world with wonder and awe. Each day started with a question and ended with a question. I had the mind of a beginner. --Anonymous
Did you ever notice that children ask the best questions? Why are things the way they are? How do they work? How did we get...
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John - Re: I am a newcomer
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No one knows the author. The poem came from the alano club newsletter, last year. Sorry, I can't tell you more.
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Today I Pray
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At the suggestion of a long-timer in The Program, I began taking "recovery inventories" periodically. The results showed me - clearly and unmistakable - that the promises of The Program have been true for me. I am not the sick person I was in years past; I am no longer bankrupt in all areas; I have a new li...
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experience strength and hope
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i think that if we were to talk about our higher power we should keep it as personalized as we can.
and express that this has helped us not that this must be the end all be all to be sober.....somewhere in some part of the conversation.
for me when i first came around i was ang...
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LOVE
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As time passes in AA, we hear or read much about love: love is as simple as becoming always available. Love is a sincere interest in others. Love is a desire to be of service. Love is an ability to understand others and their problems. Giving love is more important than being loved. Love is always positiv...
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Doll and Cheri
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I see you guys...posting now.
Maybe we can meet up in the chat room.
What you think?
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Poem - "I am a newcomer"
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The wars, when we fight, cannot be won But they will not be lost if His will done Serenity and Acceptance these are the keys Humility and Gratitude will help set me free. I am an alcoholic this I know, "Easy does it," they say; "Let yourself grow." "I have no patience," I exclaim with a sigh, "Give it time,"...
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I can't do this anymore
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Yet I cant stop. I have tried so many times to quite drinking, yet I keep going back to it. I am in so much pain, and I am destroying my life and that of those I love and yet that is not enough to make me quit.
I just want to die.
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today's thought
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Things don't turn up in this world until somebody turns them up. --James A. Garfield
We could learn from the bears in the woods how to turn up opportunities. To nourish themselves, they turn over logs and stumps to get insects. When they smell honey, they will climb a tree after it, and when they s...
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12 Steps for everyone
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Hi, I'm Dan and I'm an alcoholic,
I have a minister friend who once told me that he felt that the rest of the folks in the world who are not in a "12 step" program, are sadly short-changed.
He even gave a sermon one Sunday on the 12 steps. His way of thinking is that ther...
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imagine this
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Saturday, September 24, 2005
Imagine this What if, instead of demanding that life were different, you simply set out to make it better by virtue of your own attitude and actions? What if, instead of placing limitations on your happiness, and holding it hostage until certain conditions were met, y...
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Have a good day
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Going to head out and try to skirt a trailor
Sunny but cold here. Fall is moving in fast. Time to button up some things, Grateful today to be sober and ready. Hope u all have a great day. One foot in front of the other--off the computeR and out the door --the first step---gotta push my...
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We Grow By Making Mistakes......
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" We cannot understand: Faith, without doubt; Peace, without war; Happiness, without sorrow; Hope, without despair; Trust, without betrayal; Light, without darkness; Love, without hate; Pleasure, without pain; Good, without bad. To understand, we must first realize that without the clouds,...
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Dealing With Insanity.
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It talks in the 12 and 12 about others, that are not in the program, being emotionally unstable, and sick to a certain degree as well.
Just sharing how I feel about some of this stuff. Went through some of it this morning.
As a recovering alcoholic--we are given the tools we can use in any situation, o...
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Reality and Acceptance
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“Since we cannot change reality, let us change the eyes which see reality”. Mikos Kazantzakis Oh, how we all try to control or change what happens in our lives. Never quite accepting life for what is has to offer. Acceptance has been a hard lesson for me to learn, as I expect it has been for others as well....
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Are my letters too big?
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I messed up my computer.
Phil's writing is taking up the screen.
Doll, Wendy,you guys are normal size.
What does my writing look like?
I dont want to scare you guys like I did in the past. This is something drastically wrong, I want to be able to write to ya'll.
Please let me know
Thanks
Nan...
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today's gift
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With history piling up so fast, almost every day is the anniversary of something awful. -- Joe Brainard
"History" is mostly a record of awful events - war, famine conspiracy, oppression, betrayal. But surely, every day is equally the anniversary of something wonderful. It's all in ho...
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today's thought
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Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, I have failed three times, and what happens when he says, I'm a failure. --S. I. Hayakawa
What happens to us when we call ourselves names like "failure" or "dummy"? We feel we're no good and never will be. We want to stop trying...
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yup...
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One reason I don't drink is because I wish to know when I'm having a good time. Lady Nancy Astor Always do sober what you said you'd do drunk. That will teach you to keep your mouth shut. Ernest Hemingway The sight of a drunkard is a better sermon against that vice than the best that was ever preached on that...
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DECIDE AND DO
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Life can be unfair, confusing, discouraging, and filled with all sorts of unexpected factors. Yet even in the most difficult situations, achievements of every kind are most assuredly within your reach.
Decide what you intend to do, and get clear on the specifics of what that involves. Then get go...
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interesting facts.....
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In the 1400's a law was set forth that a man was not allowed to beat his >>wife with a stick thicker than his thumb; hence we have "the rule of >>thumb". >> >> >> >>Many years ago in Scotland, a new game was invented. >> >>It was ruled "Gentlemen Only....
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I'll never look at my hands the same
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Grandpa, some ninety plus years, sat feebly on the patio bench. He didn't move, just sat with his head down staring at his hands. When I sat down beside him he didn't acknowledge my presence and the longer I sat I wondered if he was OK. Finally, not really wanting to disturb him but wa...
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Re: Rita
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Hi All, this is to anyone in the predicted path of Rita. We are praying for yourselves, your families and your property to be left undamaged.
May your God be with you during this time.
Bye for now.
Chris. -- Edited by Cabbageheadchris at 15:36, 2005-09-22
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This weekend...
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Tomorrow I will leave to go to a conference with a friend I've had since I was 12 years old. I will be on the road for 6 hours, but I need this break. I am so tired from the moving, the stress, the confusion of the last few months.
I still haven't told my Mom, who I live with that I'm going. I will t...
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Have a great Friday--you deserve it:)
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We have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with the needs of the partnership. The...
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Today I Pray
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For a considerable period of time after I reached The Program, I let things I couldn't do keep me from doing the things I could. If I was bothered by what a speaker or other people said, I retreated, sulking, into my shell. Now, instead of being annoyed or defensive when someone strikes a raw nerve, I try t...
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good morning
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When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or the life of another. --Helen Keller
It is a great loss when we underestimate the importance of our efforts in the life of another. One man, who had to spend some time in a hospital, waited day after day to receive a card or...
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gift 9/22
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One thing that keeps me rational is a sense of loyalty to the other members of my group. I know I'd be letting them down if I ever took a step backward again. When I was in turmoil, I wasn't loyal to anybody. I should have been loyal to my family, but I wasn't. I let them down by my disruptive behavior. When I ca...
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big book
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Chapter 11 A VISION FOR YOU For most normal folks, drinking means conviviality, companionship and colorful imagination. It means release from care, boredom and worry. It is joyous intimacy with friends and a feeling that life is good. But not so with us in those last days of heav...
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