|
|
UGH.....
(Preview)
Well, in the very short course of 3 days the guy I sponsor left his wife and kids, moved in with a crazy girl in the program, and got drunk. As hard as I try, I can't seem to stay detached from the guys I've sponsored. I hate it, it hurts, and I just want to go and give him a good shot in the pills and tell him to ge...
|
Klaatu
|
13
|
919
|
|
|
|
|
Housemates
(Preview)
Hi all, Now that I'm unemployed, I really need to get a housemate. My place is large and moving alone to a smaller apartment isn't really an option because it's nearly impossible to find someone who would rent a, for example, 1 bd/1 bath to someone with 2 dogs and a cat! I don't keep alcohol in the house (al...
|
TwelveSteps
|
8
|
904
|
|
|
|
|
Gifts and aids to help/promote/represent recovery
(Preview)
Hi, I am not normally one to 'promote' things when I see them, however I came accross this website that sells some beautiful items that represent so much. Its so lovely to be able to have something that I can see and wear each day, that other AA members will see me in and know, yet those they are not will nev...
|
innerpeace
|
1
|
572
|
|
|
|
|
AA Failure rate 90-95% ???????
(Preview)
Gotta be quick, so I don't get caught I overheard some people at work discussing AA, for whatever reason. One said AA has a 90-95% failure rate.........I wanted to jump into the conversation, but held back for obvious reasons... What would your thoughts be if you overheard this? ~ They tell me my elect...
|
Doll
|
29
|
6243
|
|
|
|
|
one week
(Preview)
I have made it through my first week It has been a long time since I have went a week w/o drinking. I feel really accomplished right now. I have started sharing with my co workers that i am an alcoholic most of them had no clue. Some even said but you come to work everyday and even work overtime. And yes I do i do...
|
loretta
|
11
|
853
|
|
|
|
|
The Alcoholic And Grandiosity
(Preview)
Disclaimer: This is not my writing but it is interesting and as an Alcoholic I can identify with it. Larry, ------------------- The Alcoholic And Grandiosity The alcoholic is a classic case of "an egomaniac with an inferiority complex." This apparent contradiction in terms com...
|
Larry_H
|
7
|
10440
|
|
|
|
|
Size and Weight of 1st Edition "Big Book"
(Preview)
I am reading "Dr.Bob and the Good Oldtimers" Great stuff. I heard a conversation by newcomers knocking AA. One guy said "They even call their book the Big Book, like it is the "Bible" or something". Even though that's my feeling I humbly restrained myself from telli...
|
jelODG
|
17
|
9963
|
|
|
|
|
Daily Reflections ~ Thinking of Others & 24hrs a Day
(Preview)
Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 20 Thinking of others has never come easily to me. Even when I try to work the A.A. program, I'm prone to thinking, "How do I feel today. Am I happy, joyo...
|
Sobrietyspell
|
0
|
501
|
|
|
|
|
if a mere code of ethics
(Preview)
Bill recovered alcoholic ,how many times did I say to myself that I am not gonna life like this any more ! And mean it with every thing in me. And go right back and pick up one drink.just like that. I jusr new that I was a good guy, wake up and do it again.the obsession was killing me and it got to the point where I...
|
mental defect
|
2
|
1037
|
|
|
|
|
Panicked & Depressed
(Preview)
Having a bad day, despite that great news I'm not drinking today or this week (so far). Or maybe BECAUSE I'm not drinking I am having a bad day in the sense that I am sober and I'm feeling EVERYTHING acutely and it hurts. The positives that I was feeling before (the job I loved, the anticipation of a beau...
|
ABETTERWAY
|
10
|
986
|
|
|
|
|
Location, Location, Location
(Preview)
December 12 If our God, as we understand Him, is a personal God, then it is reasonable to assume that He is so close to us that He is residing in us. He is then part of us and we are part of Him. As we cannot have two different personalities at the same time, we can assume we are either wordly or Godlike, dependi...
|
Rainspa
|
0
|
3332
|
|
|
|
|
finding a sponsor
(Preview)
How do I find a sponsor do i ask someone at a meeting to be my sponsor over the last few days I have just called a friend when I felt the down so far that has worked. But this is only day 5 for me. Outside of having a cough and sore throat and not feeling well I am having a good day today. I have to take my son to the Doc...
|
loretta
|
7
|
1041
|
|
|
|
|
The 12th Step
(Preview)
We learn that selfishness, self centeredness is the root of our problem, so helping others is the answer to that selfishness, from selfish to selfless, that is the difference between sitting in a meeting telling others about our problems and our day, and offering the solution and looking for someon...
|
LinBaba
|
9
|
1104
|
|
|
|
|
Gratitude to AA
(Preview)
Yet another AA miracle in action today. This AM: Terribly delayed getting into work, late for a meeting, Blackberry going crazy, conflicting demands for time, this needs to be done yesterday, needing to say to demanding people that this cannot be done even today, etc. This PM: Work Christmas lunch,...
|
SteveP
|
10
|
962
|
|
|
|
|
This too shall pass.
(Preview)
I need to remember that 'this too shall pass' applies to the good times as well as the not so good times. I've been on a good level playing field for a long while now. No problems or issues that I can't deal with in the day. Yesterday got a serious congratulations from senior management whcih made me feel go...
|
bikerbill
|
6
|
2245
|
|
|
|
|
Help that Works
(Preview)
December 11 Every man is both human and divine, both good and evil, strong and weak, wise and foolish. The body, soul and mind are the battleground of our conflicting natures, and while these conflicts rage, we can have no peace. It is only when we bring our conflicting emotions under control that vict...
|
Rainspa
|
1
|
3432
|
|
|
|
|
good day
(Preview)
I have had a good day today I have made it through day 5 of sobriety. I talked to a couple of people about babysitting so I can attend meetings so far I know i can make 2 meetings a week. I called for a list to be sent to me of all the local meetings. I know 2 meetings a week isn't much I am goung to try to work in more....
|
loretta
|
4
|
885
|
|
|
|
|
Growth
(Preview)
December 10 It is hard for us at times to understand the misfortunes that befall us when we are doing the very best we know how, to live right by both God and man. It is only in times that try men's souls that the soul develops and grows stronger. Like a muscle, it develops with hard work. If you would produce...
|
Rainspa
|
0
|
2888
|
|
|
|
|
Resentments
(Preview)
Keeping a resentment is like being stung to death by a single bee.
|
Dan B 76
|
4
|
709
|
|
|
|
|
long story
(Preview)
It was 5 yrs ago I met this guy his name is kevin and we started dating all was good for awhile he moved in with me. But then he got on the internet a meth abuse board he was a recovering meth addicted. He started getting distant from me it seemed like the people on line were more important. Then he started havi...
|
loretta
|
10
|
907
|
|
|
|
|
The Other Directions
(Preview)
December 8 Have you ever noticed those old expressions: "Sit down and cry;" "Prostrate with grief;" "Wallowing in pity;" "Bowed down with troubles," etc? Truly troubles in all their forms get us "down," so the only antidote would appear to...
|
Rainspa
|
1
|
2555
|
|
|
|
|
...and call me in the morning.
(Preview)
December 4 Sometimes people say, "I tried AA but, somehow, it just didn't seem to work for me." They had lost faith in the Program, but a careful analysis of the situation would show that they had not been failthful TO it. No medicine will cure a sick man unless he takes it regularly and accord...
|
Rainspa
|
6
|
691
|
|
|
|
|
The House Where I Live
(Preview)
December 9 Remember when they used to tell us, "If you don't stop drinking, you'll go straight to Hell?" What a laugh that is - trying to tell us about Hell when we had been living in it for years! If we had told them about the Hell we knew, it would probably have scared them into drinking.
|
Rainspa
|
0
|
3101
|
|
|
|
|
It's winter
(Preview)
and I'm at home, got the car dug out so can get to a meeting tomorrow and have lit the fire. I'm 54 and no-one has ever shot at me, no-one has ever tried to kill me. I've still got both arms, both legs and an undamaged face. I'm just watching a documentary about an 18 yr old soldier, no legs, one arm, facially di...
|
bikerbill
|
12
|
1402
|
|
|
|
|
Daily Reflections ~ Love with No Price Tag & 24hrs a Day
(Preview)
When the Twelfth Step is seen in its full implication, it is really talking about the kind of love that has no price tag on it. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 106 In order for me to start working the Twelfth Step, I had to work on sincerity, honesty, and to learn to act with humility. Carrying the me...
|
Sobrietyspell
|
0
|
626
|
|
|
|
|
Been here in spirit!
(Preview)
December 2nd, Thursday night,my anniversary actually,I started feeling funky at a meeting but figured just tired out.Next night Friday im running 103..temp and chills like I never had.By Sunday night ,We decided emergency room,which I never do doctors,let alone emergency rooms,but the consis...
|
mikef
|
3
|
692
|
|
|
|
|
when is infomation enough
(Preview)
I am new here I love the newness and all the information that is available from all the members.its fantastic.the coolest thing is speed to cross reference and cut and paste sames a lot of time.I miss the sound of my voice when I am sharing.narsasistic still. But like my regular groups I get tired of my ow...
|
mental defect
|
5
|
1167
|
|
|
|
|
First meeting
(Preview)
I go to my first AA meeting in 3 hours I am really nervous and scared but I am going. There may be people there I know I have lived in this town off and on for since I was a Teenager. I don't really know what to say or do maybe I will just observe I read what everyone posted about 1st meetings but I am still really ne...
|
loretta
|
6
|
749
|
|
|
|
|
i am new here
(Preview)
Hi my name is loretta I am new here and have no clue how to use this board or what i am doing. But I am a Alcoholic and want to get sober and stay sober. I found a local AA meeting thatI am going to start going to. I am a single mom to an 8 year old boy. I have tried to get sober on my own numerous times w/o any support an...
|
loretta
|
16
|
913
|
|
|
|
|
What is up in my little life today....
(Preview)
Hi Everyone, I have a tumor, that is right in the area next to my heart, next to my esophagus, and right lung...it carries many risks, of each of this vital organs...so it is fear of death, not from drinking, but of the radiation not honing into the microscopic area, this is a new tumor, stage 1, so I do ha...
|
Just Toni
|
15
|
964
|
|
|
|
|
Daily Reflections ~ Service & 24hrs a Day
(Preview)
Life will take on a new meaning. To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you. to have a host of friends - this is an experience you must not miss. . . . Frequent contact with newcomers and with each other is the bright spot of our lives. A...
|
Sobrietyspell
|
0
|
561
|
|
|
|
|
Prayer to Higher Power - Serenity and More
(Preview)
During the wee hours, mind abuzz, I have often used the Serenity Prayer to gain the calmness I need to sleep. During the fall when I was going through a particularly bad patch, the Serenity prayer was not enough. I began to wonder what other things my higher power might grant me and so extended the pray...
|
jvian
|
2
|
965
|
|
|
|
|
experience can benefit others
(Preview)
Hi my name is Bill I am a recovered alcoholic. How many times I say that in a day.I never wonder what people think when I say that . I also never care what they think when I sit down open my book and start studying.Or if I have some thing heavy and I had to write on it forth step style.the people who have shown me p...
|
mental defect
|
3
|
794
|
|
|
|
|
Beauty and Power
(Preview)
December 7 Every person at some time in life has a spiritual experience of some kind. It may have been no more than a soul-stimulating experience after hearing a beautiful hymn, beautifully sung. Perhaps it is only an undefined hunger within when viewing alone a star-studded sky, or an awe-inspiris...
|
Rainspa
|
1
|
3524
|
|
|
|
|
Awsome AAA weekend.
(Preview)
Had a wonderful weekend with my AA family. The beauty of going on these retreats is that we know so many people. The 400 odd people that fellowshipped had such a nice time. Some I have known for the last 22 years. The Alateens have grown up and many now have children of their own. For me this is recovery at it...
|
gonee
|
3
|
655
|
|
|
|
|
Struggling
(Preview)
That's all I gotta say. I'm struggling. No sponsor, no support at home... Lots of books, got a car to get me to meetings... but my head is playing games w/ me today. Essentially lost my jobyesterday due to the economy... good side of that: Plenty of time for meetings; bad side: feel like a failure even...
|
Jeanne
|
22
|
1236
|
|
|
|
|
2 months today!
(Preview)
and what a great feeling! my homegroup (fairly new one we're just getting started) is also doing the Back to Basics. I am very excited to start this process as I haven't really started taking the steps, except Step 1-3...and have struggled with finding a sponsor. Has anyone on the board done this 4 week...
|
Jupiter76
|
14
|
1017
|
|
|
|
|
The JayWalker
(Preview)
Our behavior is as absurd and incomprehensible with respect to the first drink as that of an individual with a passion, say, for jay-walking. He gets a thrill out of skipping in front of fast-moving vehicles. He enjoys himself for a few years in spite of friendly warnings. Up to this point you would lab...
|
LinBaba
|
2
|
9378
|
|
|
|
|
Upon Awakening.
(Preview)
Upon Self Seekin Give me mine, dam yu and the world Selfishness , Avoid discomfort i was was burned up i saw that it was my -> Self Esteem, ambitions ,pocketbook ,personal relationships - Sexual - security being hurt or threatend bottom of 64 roll over to 86 explore my life with god and expose m...
|
Full Flight
|
4
|
876
|
|
|
|
|
looking at my life on a daily ?
(Preview)
As I opened my eyes this morning.and thanks God that one never get tired .lol I hope you are pleased that I will be bragging on you all day again But first before I get started can you direct my thinking please divorce it from self pity < the fact that I am out of work only gives me more time to serve you and n...
|
mental defect
|
4
|
667
|
|
|
|
|
Satisfaction: I can't get no...
(Preview)
December 6 If you are satisfied with your progress in AA, you are not only an exception but you may be headed for trouble. Remember One Day at a Time, and Easy Does It. Before you measure your advancement, be sure you have an accurate yardstick. Nature is always slow in its development of good things...
|
Rainspa
|
5
|
4369
|
|
|
|
|
When you were new to AA...
(Preview)
Did you expect people who had your number to call and check on you? Or...did you take initiative and call them. I think a lot of newcomers don't understand that they need to get phone numbers off the bat and actually CALL THEM. WE want to hear from you. I have given out my phone number to a bunch of newco...
|
pinkchip
|
17
|
1095
|
|
|
|
|
Daily Reflections ~ True Ambition & 24hrs a Day
(Preview)
True ambition is not what we thought it was. True ambition is the deep desire to live usefully and walk humbly under the grace of God. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, pp. 124-25 During my drinking years, my one and only concern was to have my fellow man think highly of me. My ambition in everything I d...
|
Sobrietyspell
|
1
|
1302
|
|
|
|
|
A young man dies.
(Preview)
A young man committed suicide by hanging himself. This has become almost a daily statistic in our area. My heart breaks everytime I think of the pain and suffering that family must endure for the rest of their lives. Alcoholism is killing a lot of younger people today. Our Monday night group consists o...
|
gonee
|
5
|
1052
|
|
|
|
|
Human Power
(Preview)
Won't keep us sober I loved what Steve wrote in another thread SteveP wrote:Reason is a human power and no human power can cure me of my alcoholism. Steve Meetings are a human power The minute we put our work on a service plane, the alcoholic commences to rely upon our assistance rather than upon God. He c...
|
LinBaba
|
2
|
690
|
|
|
|
|
Resentments = Dumb
(Preview)
December 5 A man once ridiculed me in front of a large class in school, and I have hated his guts ever since. That was 35 years ago and I do not know whether he is dead or alive. If he was aware of my intense dislike, it certainly never bothered him. But it certainly bothers me even now. His face springs up in my...
|
Rainspa
|
3
|
4003
|
|
|
|
|
I want to drink beer and right now
(Preview)
I had my last drink last night and now I want to go to the bar and get more beer. My head has been messing with me all day, saying, go get the beer. I want to drink. I think no, I can't. I just want to relax with 6 or 7 beers. I want to go to the bar and right now. I have been praying to God and reading the big book. I stil...
|
aprilleaves
|
21
|
7536
|
|
|
|
|
AA - 3 kinds
(Preview)
I saw this article and thought it was worthwhile. Does anybody have an opinion on this? Gresham's Law and Alcoholics Anonymous by Tom P., Jr.Editor's Note: Gresham's law is commonly stated as: "Bad money drives good money out of circulation". A more correct rendering of Gresham's Law is...
|
Rainspa
|
3
|
956
|
|
|
|
|
Will AA sustain itself?
(Preview)
Why is AA dying slowly? I have wondered about this in recent years. Many who were on fire for the fellowship have now burnt out. Many who vowed to serve until they die are not even vaguely interested in even attending meetings. For myself I had found very early in my recovery, that if I relied on own power a...
|
gonee
|
27
|
1202
|
|
|
|
|
I am powerless
(Preview)
Greetings from Maine. My name is Thirsty1 and I am an alcoholic. We are powerless over alcohol, our lives have become unmanageable. I am powerless because: I will never be cured of Alcoholism. I will never out grow of being an alcoholic. I will never graduate from Alcoholics Anonymous. Be...
|
Thirsty1
|
8
|
1005
|
|
|