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I thought I could buy his happiness
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He's an alcoholic, and I thought I was the problem. Why wasn't I enough to replace Mom when she finally left after 15 yrs of trying to get him to see the light? Why did he still cry? Surely, if I just cleaned enough, cooked enough, was a good little church choir girl, or looked pretty enough... it would s...
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Too Pooped to Puff
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Hey all ya'll Ex-smokers out there ... ... ... I am at, what? ... 31 days without a cigarette? ... yep, I couldn't handle the Chantix any more BUT, I stayed stopped so far ... Today it's almost 70 degrees and the enticement to work outside was overpowering, SO, I got to work outside cleaning gutters and...
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Took a Big Chance, Now Facing a Lack of Choices
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Good Morning MIP Family. I am facing a real crisis right now and could use some guidance. A friend of mine invited me to stay with her about sixty miles from where I work. She offered the use of a vehicle as well as the provision of childcare while I went to work. The day she picked me up, the loaner veh...
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Shoes in Church
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SHOES IN CHURCH I showered and shaved.............. I adjusted my tie. I got there and sat.............. In a pew just in time. Bowing my head in prayer......... As I closed my eyes.. I saw the shoe of the man next to me..... Touching my own. I sighed. With plenty of room on either side....
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Relapsed...sponsor trouble...guilt
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Ok so I relapsed last night and now I am feeling extremely guilty. I tried to tell my sponser this morning and I dont know if she was having a bad day the way it was and I didn't just come straight out and say it I was like I think I need to get my meds changed. She was like that's why you wanted me to call you and hun...
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Thank You MIP!
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When I first started my journey in sobriety I found MIP and read and posted as much as I could. This message board, and everyone here, was an absolute lifeline to me. So, I just wanted to say a massive thank you to John for the board and everyone who helped me in my early days of recovery. Today, I celebrate 7...
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Today's Gift 02-08
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Disappointment and Frustration Many of us, whether we are conscious of it or not, create much of the unhappiness we experience. Our disappointments are the result of our own negative or limited thoughts about ourselves and our world. What are some of those limiting thoughts, those subconscious be...
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PLS! MIP! ESH! on FAITH!
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Once there was a wonderful wise Queen. One day her prize mare leapt the castle fence, and disappeared into the forest. Her advisors tried to console her, "Dear Queen! We are so sorry this bad thing has happened!" The queen repli...
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How would you go about.....?
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How would you go about sponsoring someone who you might believe is seriously mentally ill? I mean not with a mood problem but a cognitive one? Like maybe psychotic? Say the person also has issues with drugs, sex addiction, poverty, illegal alien....etc... Now, if I took the tact that I can't spon...
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It was A Sunday Morning!
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This would have never happened without Sobriety ... Warning, the following may cause injury if you're not properly prepared ... or at the very least, it may cause a big mess ... Do not be drinking anything while reading this short little confession ... (True story of my yesterday morning): It was abou...
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Todays Grapevine
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February 7 "I am learning, when looking for signs of spiritual awakening in myself, to look, not for bright lights or emotional upheavals ... but for sobriety, stability, responsibility, meaning, satisfaction, joy....
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Today's Gift 02-07
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In music, in the sea, in a flower, in a leaf, in an act of kindness... I see what people call God in all these things. --Pablo Casals The Third Step refers to "God as we understood Him." The pathways to meeting our Higher Power and to our spiritual awakening are all around. Every tree and every l...
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Today's Gift 02-06
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It is a piece of great good luck to deal with someone who values you at your true worth. --Baltasar Gracian We have the ability to comfort and heal by recognizing each other's value. It's a pity that we don't often do that. Each time we recognize the worth of others as sons and daughters of God, we are ackno...
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Just checking in
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Hi folks. I don't have anything in particular to share, but wanted to check in. How is everybody doing today?
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Watching God work it...
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Picked my sponsee up this morning for a meeting and on the way he talked about what he needed to talk about...I of course did the sponsor thing...listened without interrupting. He told me about a serious condition in his life that require him placing himself in a safe condition which also meant that...
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Grapevine
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February 5 "If I simply let go of a character defect - release it - my Higher Power will replace it with a character asset. As I release anger, I find that I am friendlier. As I release hate, I become more loving. As I release fear, I...
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You know....
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I was at my homegroup yesterday and the lead, said He does not give the new guy a Big book, How does everyone feel about that..There was big....Jaw dropping..he said he says you dont need a big book you need a human i dont know about that..Alot of people disagrees...What do yall think?
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God
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"I saw God" she said. "Oh really?" I said. "What did he look like?" "Spinning." she said. "Everything spinning." My children, didn't know about any kind of God until recently, when we began saying the serenity prayer together in times...
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On my knees and lost again.
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I have been thinking a lot about this concept of codependent lately. Trying to merge it with my concept of my other disease of alcoholism. Is codependancy a disease? I'm confused on that. I suppose I have more reading to do. For now... I'm working really hard at trying to GET MY HUSBAND to not be a co...
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Help understanding
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What a great site and wonderful forums, I've learned so much by reading here, thank you all! My husband has 15 yrs sobriety and quit attending meetings regularly about 3 yrs ago when he began to get very active in our church and church organizations. He told me at the time he was still giving back and it w...
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Today's Gift 02-05
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When I am lonely, I try to think of angels. --Betty MacDonald We need comfort when we feel lonely. Loneliness is often coupled with fear. We wonder, Can I handle what faces me today? Often we think we can't. But we don't ever have to face any situation alone, or handle any painful relationship in isolati...
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Feeling grateful
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I've been thinking about you guys today. Had a great day and have been spotting little miracles ALL over the place lately! I am beginning to wonder if there is something wrong with me because I'm so super happy and gratefufl for my life today!!! Thank you so much for everything - my life - my love - my eve...
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Resentment Flow-Chart
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Hi all... It's been awhile, hope u have all been well. I came up with this little idea a few days ago -- a Google search did not turn up anything similar so who knows - maybe I've actually done something a bit original. Anyway, have a look and post your critiques if you would! [IMG]https://i1263.phot...
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Wisdom of the Rooms
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February 4, 2013 Quote of the Week "The bottom starting falling out faster thanI could lower my standards." The last few years of my drinking and using sure were ugly. It had stopped working long before I got sober, but I had failed to realize it. Instead, I obsessively pursued oblivio...
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Start the Day Right!
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This is a very short 3 minute video clip to give you inspiration ... It's very much worth the time to watch ... Enjoy!!! http://play.simpletruths.com/movie/first-thing-every-morning/?cm_mmc=ExactTarget-_-MO-_-02.04.13-_-FTEMmovie&j=48920&e=rgpapaw@gmail.com&l=35...
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Today's Gift 02-04
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Over and over, we begin again. --Banana YoshimotoNewcomer Yesterday was such a difficult day. But here it is, morning again somehow. I've gotten through another 24 hours, and without a drug. I wish I'd known yesterday that things wouldn't feel so bad this morning. Sponsor Yesterday, we did the bes...
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"It's better to ask some of the questions than to know all the answers."
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Today's thoughts from Hazelden are: "It's better to ask some of the questions than to know all the answers." --James Thurber "I believe the purpose of my life is to learn, grow, and be the best possible person I can be," said a group member. "In order to do that, I must ask big...
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Directions for the steps.
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I once heard the directions for the 12 steps broken down like this. Just curious if you've ever heard it. The directions for the 12 steps are contained in the 8 pages of The Doctor's Opinion and the first 103 pages of the Big Book. That's 111 pages. Step one is covered in The Doctor's Opinion and pages 1 thr...
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JUST AN URBAN COWBOY
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It was around the time that John Travolta made Urban Cowboy.. Here was this guy working at an oil refinery in Texas who is a regular at Gillys bar in Houston.. where he fathoms himself a cowboy riding a mechanical bull. .Mickey Gills hit.. Looking for Love.. was quite the song circa 1981. I had about 7 yea...
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Too busy to pray
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I spent the greater part of this year swimming the waters of recovery. I did very little else. I put every footstep into it, and my thoughts never left it. If I wasn't thinking about it, I was reading about it, sitting in it, meeting people about it, absorbing every thing I possibly could about it unti...
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So Confused
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I have been sober for 5 months today. I go to 3-4 meetings a week and feel great. Lately I feel as if my wife, who is active in al-anon, has been treating me as if I am still drinking, ponting out what I am doing wrong. I am trying to do the right things at work and at home. Being the responsible father and paren...
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Heard in a meeting last night...
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"Sobreity is not merely the absince of alcohol, but coupled with the presence of God".
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How do I ask...?
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I have been sober for 151 days and become a very active member in the AA community. My wife filed for divorce in April, 2012 after several druken blackouts and it will be finalized in April 2013. Although I realize it may be too late, I would like to ask her to go to an Al-Anon meeting with me. I feel it wou...
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Grapevine
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February 4 "The Twelve Steps are not steps to take progressively in order to arrive at a conclusion, but a code for living -- the constitution of a way of life."
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No more morphine...
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It is not necessary only acceptance. The day after he didn't die, he did die and my brother was leaving while in company of some of his family who would have before been much more comfortable being miles away. We all, the family were born within this disease and no one escaped being affected...some of...
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Seeing a Mystic
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In a dark and hazy room, peering into a crystal ball, the Mystic delivered grave news: "There's no easy way to tell you this, so I'll just be blunt. Prepare yourself to be a widow. Your husband will die a violent and horrible death this year." Visibly shaken, Laura stared at the woman's lined...
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Alcoholic husband believes he can still continue to smoke pot everyday
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Hello. My husband is a new member of AA. He has had trouble obstaining from alcohol since he joined. He also continues to smoke pot several times a day, everyday. There are times when I will think he has been drinking but he denies it therefore I think it must be the pot. Usually when he has had somethi...
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Heard in the rooms
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(On accepting responsibility) "All of my disasters had a common denominator - me. I was there for all of them."
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Pride Is Evil
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Pride is evilToday I had an epiphany of sorts.....a friend of mine, and fellow alcoholic pointed out a line from a scripture...."Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall." Proverbs 16:18. The epiphany comes in because the word "pride" virtually too...
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Today's Gift 02-03
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Reflection for the Day The experiences of thousands upon thousands of people have proven that acceptance and faith are capable of producing freedom from dependence on chemicals. When we apply the same principles of acceptance and faith to our emotional problems, however, we discover that only re...
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Weekly
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Weekly QuoteGod is the only one who can make the valley of trouble a door of hope. - Catherine MarshallWeekly ThoughtThink about it. If you had everything you wanted, if there were no challenges in your life, if you didn't have any questions about why things are the way they are, and if you didn't feel th...
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Today's Grapevine Quote
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December 14 "Life's formidable array of pains and problems will require many different degrees of acceptance ... Sometimes, we have to find the right kind of acceptance for each day. Sometimes, we need to develop accep...
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Simple program
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The only thing that I had was a desire to stop drinking. AA did not ask me anything else. After I entered the doors and listened to the speakers and read the AA book, the realisation became apparent to me that I was an alcoholic. After my 1st relapse, I found that I was powerless over alcohol, and no matter h...
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Sense of Humor ?
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GOD HAS A SENSE OF HUMORA woman received a call that her daughter was sick. She hurried to the pharmacy to get medication, got back to her car and found that she had locked her keys inside. The woman found an old rusty coat hanger left on the ground. She looked at it and said "I don't know how to use t...
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Wisdom of the Rooms
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December 10, 2012 Quote of the Week "Give all your problems to God - He'll be up all night anyway!" When I first heard this saying I instantly thought of all the nights I used to lay in bed worrying, rehashing, or trying to solve all my problems. In fact, before early recovery it was actuall...
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Welcome to MIP Joybear80!
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Welcome to the site...Look forward to hearing your story!
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My first post at miracles
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i am new to this and to aa just trying to get some help for this darn thing they call addiction............ (May 21st, 2005) That was my first post at this site, I was new with a few months of not drinking and no meetings. Last night I picked up my 8 year chip.. Miracles was a great safe place for me in those f...
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Step 2
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You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Step Two Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. We come to believe in a better life through the powerful gift of other people - hearing them, seeing them, and watching the gift of recovery at work in their liv...
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1st day and its hard!!!!!!!!
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well first day off the cigs and its so hard!!! Been a smoker since 14 and will be 40 this year,did give up for 1 1/2 years but stupidly started again. Its the snappiness thats hard,have to remember to take deep breaths and walk off for a few minutes to calm down.I have a steely resolve to quit,and it will no...
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Today's Gift 02-02
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Humility is our acceptance of ourselves. --Anonymous It is strange how we can go to school and learn a lot of facts, but never learn much along the way about ourselves. We can take up nursing, teaching, counseling, and giving ourselves to the needs of others, while never having our own needs met. Why do...
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