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need an answer pleeze
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thanks for the real nice replies from befor. i dont have a new sponsor yet and i need to know somehting . i did my 5th step with a fellow AA that i trust which has lead me to start thinkin about the 9th one. but i cant ask them this questin cuz it might be stupid.
when i make amends to ppl do i have to tell them WHA...
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Patience
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Patience is the ability to: Sit back and wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration. Let go of your need for immediate gratification. Display tolerance, compassion, understanding, and acceptance toward those who are slower than you in develo...
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I am back (and sober)!
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I checked out of the detox center this morning and am celebrating my 4th day of sobriety! The first day was hell, but once I got the alcohol out of my system I started feeling better. They did not allow us to smoke at all and we were only allowed outside for 30 minutes a day which really&...
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To Lynn
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Your question about "Just saying sorry for all you did to that person, while you were drinking" keeps it pretty simple Lynn.
I know there are still times, I hafta talk to a sponsor about things, and get a second opinion.
Sometimes --2 heads are better then one.:)
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todays gift 9/18
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Young man, the secret of my success is that at an early age I discovered I was not God. --Oliver Wendell Holmes
Sometimes, in our families, we try to get parents or brothers or sisters to treat us the way we want them to, to do things we want them to. When they're upset or angry with us, we try to get the...
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108 AA Slogans
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1.... Easy does it 2.... First things first 3.... Live and let live 4.... But for the grace of god 5....Think......Think.......Think 6....One day at time 7....Let go and Let God 8....Kiss---keep it simple stupid 9....Act as if......... 10....This too shall pass 11....Expect miracles 12....I ca...
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Gammy Rose and Doll
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Its so nice to see your names again.
Seem to have everyone on my mind these days. You are like my extended family. I see ya's posting right now and though maybe you would see my message.
Doll you sure sound like you are doing good these days. So happy for ya.
Nancy Jo
Didn't intentionall...
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Fear & Loathing
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I've been in the program for 18 months now. I had a brief relapse in July, I think, because I was white-knuckling it. Just like before I came to the rooms I like to be in control of everything. I want others to think I'm in control of everything. Deep down, however, I am terrifie...
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Cool Way To Think
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A 92 year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is full dressed every morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.
His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.
Afte...
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today's gift 9/19
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We believe in Human Ecology, the understanding and care of human beings as whole persons in light of their relationship to God, themselves, their families, and the society in which they live. --The philosophy of Human Ecology
The philosophy of Human Ecology covers all three aspects o...
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thoughts
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I will, I will accept myself With hope and fear and wonder And what I have joined together Let no man put asunder. --Dory Preven
There is a wonderful freedom in acceptance. When we accept ourselves, with all our imperfections, we can then begin to accept others just as they are. This is especiall...
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Self Esteem
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What is self-esteem?
People with self-esteem:
Hold themselves as worthy to be loved and to love others, worthy to be cared for and to care for others, worthy to be nurtured and to nurture others, worthy to be touched and supported and to touch and support others, worthy to be listened to and to li...
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Scary eh?
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Letting the Good Stuff Happen
Before recovery, my relationships were lousy. I didn't do very well on my job. I was enmeshed in my dysfunctional family. But at least I knew what to expect! --Anonymous
I want the second half of my life to be as good as the first half was miserable. Sometimes, I'm afr...
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Thanks to all
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Good morning all! Especially good without the hangover or wondering what I might have said or done to hurt someone (emotionally) in an alcoholic haze.
I would like to thank everyone for your caring words and responses to my very first post on this message board. I was a little worried that it might...
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big book
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As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done." We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, se...
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Organ donation
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Found this when I was doing some research for the job that I'm hoping to get on Wednesday. Never really thought about this before. It makes sence to me at least! (this isn't written by me and I don't have a name to credit it to).
Give my sight to the man who has never seen a sunrise
The day will come when my...
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Goodmorning all ...
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Goodmorning, I haven't been on for awhile...just got my PC moved to my Mom's yesterday and phone service the day before. So I'll get caught up on reading the posts.
Today is going to be a busy day, I'm winding up the packing and my kids will be here tomorrow to help with thw physical moving.I'm so glad th...
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To Catherine
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Congradulations Catherine on 4 weeks-one day at a time. A big step forward.
Nursing home hu? I operate a taxi company, and I pick these people up, and return them to the nursing home, after they roam the streets, and run out of power, with those electric carts.
Some of these people dont need electri...
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I Read Your Post Chris
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My Grandpappy used to say "Sometimes, it takes a bigger man, just to walk away from some people, and things,-- that can send us into oblivion, and reactive insanity."
Easy to say-sometimes difficult to do.
There are still things today, that Ide like to react to.
Still situations, that Ide like...
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~~FRIENDS WITHOUT FACES~~
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~~FRIENDS WITHOUT FACES~~ We sit and we type, and we stare at our screens We all have to wonder, what this possibly means. With our mouse we roam, through the rooms in a maze Looking for something or someone, as we sit in a daze. We chat with each other, we type all our woes Small groups we do form, and gang up...
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Blessed with the disease fo Alcoholism
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When I first came into the AA program I had no idea that it had such a spiritual foundation. When I realized this, I had no problem at all. I actually welcomed it. I've always believed in a loving, caring, forgiving God. He never turned his back on me, I turned mine on Him because of the shame and guil...
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Trust Your Heart
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"We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us." BB pp 84 Call it what you will - trusting your heart, listening to your inner voice, going with your gut, relying on your intuition... any of these things. How do you feel about trusting your heart, or relying on your intuition...
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Loving Truth
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Loving Truth
Since it is truth that sets us free - free from our addiction and free from crippling fear - we come to love this truth, even when it hurts. It was mainly our fear that kept us from recognizing the truth about ourselves. We needed help and support from a Higher Power before we could face real...
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Used To Have A Lot Of This Crap
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The Faults of Anger
There is nothing more destructive than anger. It destroys our peace and happiness in this life, and impels us to engage in negative actions that lead to untold suffering in future lives. It blocks our spiritual progress and prevents us from accomplishing any spiritual g...
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Please Help
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I hope I'm doing the right thing by posting here. Truth is, I'm not real sure of anything I'm doing lately. But, I've learned that you can't get much help if you don't ask first. So, if you will, please hear me out and give any advice you may have.
I am a 43 year old, married, father of 3: Jesse (26) who was...
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Revenge
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Revenge
No matter how long we've been recovering, no matter how solid our spiritual ground, we may still feel an overwhelming desire at times to punish, or get even, with another person.
We want revenge.
We want to see the other person hurt the way he or she has hurt us. We want to see life de...
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its a great day for recovery-sept 17
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Today is September 17, 2005 A Great Day for Recovery!
PEOPLE-PLEASING
"I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure, which is try to please everybody." -- Herbert Bayard Swope Part of my recovery is not that I never "people-please" but that...
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thought
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Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul And sings the tune without the words And never stops at all. --Emily Dickinson
We often hum and sing to ourselves because it makes us feel content. It is the melody itself that makes us feel good--words and thoughts do not matter.
Having h...
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todays thought
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The sign must come like dawn. You cannot see its arrival, but know when it is there. --Diane Wakoski
Let us take a break, sit by the river, and watch the current quietly flow. Let's just think, for a moment, about where the current is going, the shores it will brush on its way, the clouds reflected o...
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yes,'tis a great day for recovery
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Today is September 16, 2005 A Great Day for Recovery!
DENIAL
"The worst vice of the fanatic is his sincerity." -- Oscar Wilde The disease of alcoholism is "cunning, baffling and powerful", and it manipulates us to believe "the lie". There is a point that we reach in our disease whe...
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today's gift
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Taking an inventory helps us know who we really are.
Before calling it a day, let's look honestly at who we were today. Were we thoughtful and courteous to our friends and lovers? Did we criticize them for not living up to our expectations? Did we put ourselves down for not measuring up to the...
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Goodbye and goodluck...
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Thank you all for your kind words and your support. I've decided that AA isn't for me...I feel pretty certain that I will be fine if I just use good judgement and self control. I know that probably sounds like a drunk who just wants to drink again but everyone is different and while some people must stop dr...
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big book
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How many time people have said to us: "I can take it or leave it alone. Why can't he?" "Why don't you drink like a gentleman or quit?" "That fellow can't handle his liquor." "Why don't you try beer and wine?" "Lay off the hard stuff." "His will power must be weak." "He could stop if he wanted to." "She's such...
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mornin
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hi to all just a note things are good here off to work, oh ya, celebrating my eight months birthday today!!!!!!!!!!!!! thanks to all of you here:: god bless u wagon 
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too many Zzz's
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For about the last 3 weeks I want to do absolutely NOTHING but SLEEP! I never, my whole life, slept more than 6-7 hrs in a night. And only napped when sick (or hungover). Now, I can take a 2-3 hour nap every afternoon and still hit the bed by 9-10pm and sleep thru the night 8-10 hrs (depending on when I MUST set...
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face life
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Thursday, September 15, 2005
Face life Fear is often much more destructive than that which is feared. Anxiety can often be far more harmful than those things about which you are anxious.
Avoiding effort can be more difficult and time-consuming than the effort itself. Worrying about a negative...
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big book
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More than most people, the alcoholic leads a double life. He is very much the actor. To the outer world he presents his stage character. This is the one he likes his fellows to see. He wants to enjoy a certain reputation, but knows in his heart he doesn't deserve it.
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Hey:) Eh?
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Sometimes, we cannot see a turn on our path, until we reach the bend.
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We must not worry about things which do not work. We must concentrate our energy on things which do work.
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Just because we have not experienced something, does not mean that something is not real...
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Lost For Words
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Yu know guys--A week ago, I was at a dead end. That word "Hope" wasnt in the vocabulary.
I wanted to drink. I wanted to drink bad!! And there some pretty negative thoughts going through this kids mind.
The support from this board and the people on it, is something, I cannot even put into words....
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today's thought
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felt frightened at being different from his brothers and sisters. It scared him to be different. --E. B. White
How ugly and wrong it makes us feel to be different: to be tall when others are short, slow when others are fast, black when others are white.
The miracle, and paradox, is that everyone is d...
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today's gift
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As a sponsor, remember you can carry the word, but not the person.
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When alcoholics are ready, you can't keep the program from them; when they're not, you can't give the program away.
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I didn't get what I wanted from AA; I got what I needed.
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It's a lot easier to stay s...
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Detox - What should I expect?
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I am going to be checking into a detox center within the next couple of days. I am curious as to what to expect. I am a smoker and want to be able to get outside to smoke. I am scared and want some assurances that I will be comfortable. Can anyone who has gone trhough a detox program...
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Help Please
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My husband will be celebrating his 1st birthday on October 10th and I want to do something very original and special for him...Any ideas will be much appreciated...
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today's thought
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Something can't happen every day. You get up, go to work, come back, eat again, enjoy some leisure, go back to bed. Now that's plenty for most folks. --Ntozake Shange
When we were all little kids, before we started school, the days felt so long it seemed like we had time for everything.
But when...
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Hey Tipsy
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You have come a long way fast!!
I thought u were a drunk yerk, F----ing with us.
we care--now u care---just wanted to say good work and glad to have you aboard
see how it works???????
See how we support and like each other ( we have never met...
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I post today's gift and todays thought alot.
do you guy's get these yourselfs or should i keep posting???????
No sense if you don't need them.
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Hare's another one.....
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What's invisible and smells like carrots?
BUNNY FARTS
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Am I an alcoholic?
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I know it's a strange question, and your thinking "if she doesnt know, than she probably is" and thats what I was thinking but everyone is telling me that I'm not. The thing is, my husband is and I have been a member of Alanon for a while now. I am pregnant and obviously havent had a drin...
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Back Home
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Hey guys,
Back Home!!!
My Family Emergency is over. It turned out to be a semi-vacation.
Its nice to get away....even better to get back home again.
I see we have a few newcomers. Welcome!!!
Missed ya"ll...Happy to be back on board.
Nancy Jo
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todays gift
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The smallest seed of faith is better than the largest fruit of happiness. --Henry David Thoreau
Life crises seem terrifying and endless when they are happening. As we reflect on these stressful periods, we begin to realize that they provide a chance for change and growth. We get a feeli...
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