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Wondering about Sponsors
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I'm wondering what the qualities of a "good sponsor" are. I am needing guidance on how to begin working the steps, but the only answer received from the sponsor I have is "I don't give advice".
I'm not asking for the steps to be done FOR me, I know it doesn't work that way. But what I a...
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Thank you all :)
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Thank you all for your support in my post below.
No, Doll, I haven’t hit a meeting YET. I will do it soon.
After my post last night, about my A family, I received a crazy phone call from my A. Just what I needed, huh?
It’s been one hell of a weekend emoti...
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for the FIRST time, honesty with me
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Being Honest with Ourselves
Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships.When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others.Whe...
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Wish me luck!
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Hi gang!
Well, I'm off for my assessment and then admission into detox. I should be out by this weekend. I'm looking forward to the experience, but would be lying to you if I didn't confess I'm a tad anxious. I hope all of you have a great week and weekend, and I'll check in when I retu...
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New to this site
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Let me start by saying hello I'm Donnamaria and I'm an alcoholic, I have been a active member , i've been sober now for 2 1/2 years. I am into the steps and big book. Hope to get a chance to jion in on a meeting here.
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Another Big Fear Thing
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The greatest struggle for human beings is between their desire to overcome isolation and loneliness and their simultaneous fear of close, intimate contact with another being. Often the desire and the fear are equally strong, so that people are pulled and pushed in opposite directions. This cause...
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rosie
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Counting our blessings
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"When the heart grieves over what it has lost, the spirit rejoices over what it has left." -Old Sufi saying
I know that many of my friends on this site are dealing with issues of loss right now. Just thought I'd share this with you.
I remember a reply poste...
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thanks to you!!!
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thanks to u all,i get my 9 month chip tomorow night thanks again!!!! god bless u wagon
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i gotta love ME before i can love others
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History provides abundant examples of . . . women whose greatest gift was in redeeming, inspiring, liberating, and nurturing the gifts of others. --Sonya Rudikoff
Part of our calling as members of the human community is to unconditionally love and support the people emotionally close to us. W...
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no matter what..its a great day for recovery!!!
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Today is October 16, 2005 A Great Day for Recovery!
CULTURE
"The great law of culture: let each become all that he was created capable of being." -- Thomas Carlyle We are capable of great things. This history of man, although surrounded by wars and unspeakable acts of violence, is...
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Daily Reflections Oct 16
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OK, Im A Softy. Sue Me.
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True love is not a bargain made, and not a thing to deal or trade. For love's a gift that has no strings, as free as songs the bluebird sings
Unconditional Love seeks only to give, and expects nothing in return. When there are no expectations, there can be no disappointments or hurts. When we can give Lo...
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i am a magnet for all things good
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We know about remorse and death. But do we know about hope and life? I believe in life after birth! --Maxie Dunham
We do not need to create difficulties and pain in our lives. They come with the package of human existence. Some of us even feel bewildered when we aren't pressed by trouble. As we grew in...
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Family visit....
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Just got back from a family visit with my sister & her family. I went with my folks, Dad is a recovering A over 10 years, Mom, well, let’s just say Mom feels sorry for herself A LOT.
Well, after driving over an hour in the backseat with Mom & Dad in front (I felt like I was n...
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heart
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wow!!! really begining to see the heart on this board. Been viewing this site (as well as acoa) for past several days and something about tonights posts and responses have been quite touching and inspiring. Good to see and encouraging!!!! I will continue my search here.&...
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NOW i have a choice
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Choices
"We did not choose to become addicts."Basic Text p. 3When we were growing up, all of us had dreams. Every child has heard a relative or neighbor ask, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Even if some of us didn't have elaborate dreams of success, most of us dreamed of work, families, and a...
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Flip....ooops! I Mean PHIL !
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Hi, gotcha. Just had to drop in and say hi. I haven't forgot you. I remember all the time how "We" and I mean all of us would work the 12 Steps on the Boards. Wow, I am so grateful for having been able to do so with AA members/alanon members alike! ...
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Poem from 1640 England
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Not feeling to good.
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Hi,
Things between me and my partner are at an alltime low just now, I love this Lady very much, we have been together for nearly 2 years now, i realise she is still very angry with me, ive been in trouble with the police arrested 7 times through drinking, most of her family dont speak to her, ive spent her...
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To: Doll, Bob, Wagon and the rest...
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In response to your comments about me being "weak", or that I'm "not a real man", or Dolls sarcastic commented on how "my disease is progressing nicely", or how I'm in denial, etc, etc...
I have some news for you people, your lives don't appear to be all shits and giggles. Most of you who post on her...
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Klynnenicholas...
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I just wanted to say it's great to see you posting. I remember your first post. How have things been going?
I hope you have a sober week-end.
(((Hugs)))
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can i get some support please????
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CAN I GET SOME SUPPORT PLEASE?????
this past two days, i had a wonderful visit from my OLD babysitter, i mean my first 11 years of life i was very close to him....we stayed in touch, kinda *hit and miss*....but always kinda in each others thoughts....
he was driving back to calif. (his home now) fr...
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Hello, I am your disease
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Hello, I am your Disease
I Hate meetings...I Hate higher powers...I Hate anyone who has a program. To all who come in contact with me, I wish you death and I wish you suffering. Allow me to introduce myself, I am the disease of addiction. I Am cunning, baffling, and powerful. Th...
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Daily Reflections Oct 15
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MY CHECKLIST, NOT YOURS
Gossip barbed with our anger, a polite form of murder by character assassination, has its satisfactions for us, too. Here we are not trying to help those we criticize; we are trying to proclaim our own righteousness. ...
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big book
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The alcoholic is like a tornado roaring his way through the lives of others. Hearts are broken. Sweet relationships are dead. Affections have been uprooted. Selfish and inconsiderate habits have kept he home in turmoil. We feel a man is unthinking when he says that sobriety is enough....
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hello friends
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hey gammy, i got your message,
i've actually been home since late monday night and i've been reading the posts here as a guest
My weekend would have been wonderful if i wouldn't have screwed up
i've been too ashamed to post
i broke everyones hearts
i just read your post Rosie, welcome by the wa...
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Surrender - Hope - Power
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Surrender Beaten into complete defeat by alcohol, confronted by the living proof of release, and surrounded by those who can speak from the heart, we have finally surrendered. And then, paradoxically, we have found ourselves in a new dimension, the real world of spirit and of faith. Enough willing...
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Twenty years of Sobriety
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The twenty years of sobriety gratitude list:
Grateful I found a Higher Power, who I call God, who loves me unconditionally unlike some of the people in my world.
Grateful that through working the steps of AA,I was able to find out who I am, what made me who I am, how I could improve on&nb...
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Sharing
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Time only moves forward. It leaves the past behind. Yet we forget to move forward, out of the past. Disappointments, might-have-beens, old sorrows stack up in our consciousness. We store files of old memories, returning sometimes to open them. To be liberated is to switch our minds from th...
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Do I have a drinking problem?
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Hi - I was hoping for some advice. I currently have about 4 drinks (between 3 to 5), usually wine, a night. I tend to skull the drinks just before bed. Do I have a problem? I don't think I can stop, but am worried about health issues in the future. I managed to stop when I fell pregnant and while I was breastfee...
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The Promises
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If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far...
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Peace
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I apologize for the tone of my recent posts. I was reacting to comments that I took offense to and was somewhat hurt by. No one likes to be told they're wrong, or weak or that they aren't sincere...especially when the comments are coming from strangers who are far from perfect themselves. I've read the b...
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To Tipsy
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I owe you an apoligy Bud. I had no right to criticize you, or judge you in any way-so I apoligize for my part.
The rest of it?
Im addicted to alcohol. As an alcoholic--thats what I do. I drink. I cant control it--and I cant predict what Ile do if I pick up a drink.
To arrest the addiction, I hafta go to mee...
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My quote for the day, that I hafta practice.:)
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"Sometimes, the best reaction, is no reaction."
Y'all have a good serene evening-eh? :)
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Daily Reflections Oct 14
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Prayer
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A Prayer for a Hard Day
Grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change.
The courage to change the things I cannot accept,
And the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people
I had to dispose of today because they peeved me off
And also,
Help me to be careful of t...
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Hey Guys??
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Just got on after a few days off the computer...seems there is alot of anger floating around. Please remember what we read before each meeting
..."If you want what we have and are willing to go to any lengths to get it, than you are ready to take certain steps. At some of these we balked, we thought we cou...
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An epiphany
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I've been observing people who seem to drink the same way that I do yet experience none of the guilt, remorse or shame that I do and I've come to a conclusion. They just don't care, they aren't hypersensitive suckholes who feel so darn bad about every little thing that happens. They seem to be able to acce...
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To Tipsy regarding your epiphany
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Ok, Man, I'm tired of tip toeing around you, fear of offending you has kept my replies to your post "nice". Had someone tip toed around me, I'd probably be 6 feet under right now, and my son would be without a mother, So, here's the truth !
From this day forth, if you want to drink, you'll drink, y...
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Alcohol warning - Truth in Humor
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The consumption of alcohol may lead you to think people are laughing WITH you.
The consumption of alcohol may leave you wondering what the hell happened to your bra.
The consumption of alcohol may make you think you are whispering when you are not.
The consumption of alcohol is a m...
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The recovering atheist
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barebones honesty---total willingness
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Rigorous Honesty
As we work the program, we find that we cannot be rigorously honest about what we are adicted to unless we are rigorously honest about our other actions as well. Once our Higher Power takes charge of our lives, a general housecleaning occurs. Gradually, we see that the attitudes...
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Its a "Turn off the brain" day
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A grown-up is someone who suffers from responsibility. They who are afraid to ask are ashamed of learning. Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting. Sermons and biscuits are improved by shortening. If your parachute doesn't open up for you, you've obvi...
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working on my SUBSTANCE
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Substance over Form
I'm learning that for a variety of reasons, I've spent much of my life focusing on form rather than substance. My focus has been on having my hair done perfectly, wearing the right clothes, having my makeup applied perfectly, living in the right place, furnishing it with th...
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Alcohol wants me Dead
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Does anyone know where I can find a copy of the article online where the disease is talking and wants me dead?
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Daily Reflections Oct 13
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chocolate@coffee "oh my"
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hi there, ive been dry now for 40 days,eating like a horse,going to meetings (not as many as i could) getting on pretty well with my partner( she is still sceptical,) she has joined an on-line Al-anon group wich has been a help to her. I am at step 3, maybe i am avoiding the next step, i dont know,but i am un...
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Today I Will Remember
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Pain
My attitude toward the pain in my life will determine how I experience it. Pain is not the worst thing which can befall me.
Not being able to feel is worse.
Pain is a natural part of life. It is not meant to diminish my life or me. Only if I resist it is my life made smaller and my misery incre...
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Me!
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-- Edited by Doll at 15:44, 2005-10-12
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