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Giving advice
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There's only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self. So you have to begin there, not outside, not on other people. That comes afterwards, when you've worked on your own corner. --Aldous Huxley
Taking responsibility for our own attitudes, acti...
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leaving the board..i'll never forget you all
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hi guys,
after careful thinking about it, i feel i don't belong on this board.
i am going to stick with the alanon/coda/acoa boards, because , basically my issues are codependency
i came here because i DID, B4 recovery abuse alcohol...i wasn't ready/able to face my demons...
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last night i cried AND had minor slip
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hey y'all, i just gotta share this with you guys
last night i saw this movie about a guy who had lived with this woman, she had a baby, a boy, whom the guy thought was his...well he wasn't, she had fooled aroudn on him while they were living together, an...
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Live and let live.
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Reflection for the Day
The slogan "Live and Let Live" can be extremely helpful when we are having trouble tolerating other people's behavior. We know for certain that nobody's behavior - no matter how offensive, distasteful or vicious - is worth the price of a relapse. Our own recovery is...
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Congratulations jb
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Way to go jb, two weeks sober!  
I know that it is a miracle, we only have to do it one day at a time.....Keep doing what your doing.
(((Hugs)))
GammyRose -- Edited by GammyRose at 10:08, 2005-11-10
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are you grateful??????
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I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels.
SORRY--THIS POST WAS BETTER--CAN'T GET THE WHOLE THING TO GO -- Edited by Rick at 05:11, 2005-11-09
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My Life on life's terms
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Just because I'm in recovery and sober today, does not mean my life is a bed of roses. It does not mean I'll get a raise at work and be running the company soon, that my kid won't get into trouble, that I won't lose someone I love, that financial difficulties will go away, or that I'll be "miss happy su...
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LIFE
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Question????
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Hey guys, Mikel brought up something in the post below that I'm wondering about. Does anyone else know anyone else that's in the program who admits to having a glass of wine everynight?(Sorry, what Mikel said was every Friday night,but still?) I mean in the program of AA...I just have ne...
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Daily Reflections Nov. 9
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Alcohol KILLS
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My 42 year old friend will be buried tomorrow. Just thought I'd share an article regarding alcohol and the liver. It also causes kidney failure, heart failure, bleeding ulcers, and on and on.........
Alcoholic Liver Disease
By Howard J. Worman, M. D.
Alcohol abuse is a leading cause of morbid...
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todays gift11/8
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I have become quite good at blocking out what I don't want to hear or notice.
I have become such an expert at this that, even when not in crisis, I don't hear what other people are saying, including my children. I can be looking straight ahead at the television and not know what I'm watching. Th...
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today's gift 11/7
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So when you are listening to somebody, Completely, attentively, then you are Listening not only to the words, but also To the feeling of what is being conveyed, To the whole of it, not part of it. --J. Krishnamurti
Most of us are better talkers than listeners. When someone is talking we of...
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Back In! (really frickin' frustrated)
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Thanks gang- I'm happy to say that we got things straightened out at the meetings. I vented there as I did here and it was understood.
I probably pissed a few off in the process but there is nothing I can do about it right now. I apologized for my outburst. It was suprising to me that many of the "oldtime...
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Forgiving Yourself
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FORGIVING YOURSELF -- Richard B. Patterson The ultimate spiritual challenge may be to forgive. But years of talking with struggling souls has convinced me that there is one person whom many of us have particularly great difficulty forgiving. That person is oneself. You may have had the expe...
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Good night....
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This is the first time I've read the board today. I had a misreable day, first killer migraine in awhile. Don't know what brought it on, maybe the weather changes or could be a little bit of living life on lifes terms.Stress, I keep saying the Serenity Prayer, I pray for God to lead and guide me, direct my f...
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TODAY i am free to change my thoughts
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THOUGHT "There is no place in active life on which thought is negligible." -- T. S. Eliot
It is not a crime to think. It is not a sin to have a brain. To think is human.
However, so much of my past thinking was destructive and negative. The disease of addiction permeated every aspect of...
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A Hard Look at AA
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Hi, everyone.
I would ask you to read the review written by Jason Gold with an open mind. This review is of the Big Book, as it appears on Amazon.com:http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/customer-reviews/1893007162/ref=cm_rev_prev/102-3364057-4522565?%5Fencoding=UTF8&c...
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Step 4...
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There are well meaning people in the program who sometimes say things that would be better left unsaid. I know they want to help by preparing a beginner for the pitfalls and such but it isn't always helpful.
I have had a few AA veterans comment on my current state of happiness by saying things like "j...
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10 days...
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I've been going to plenty of meetings, sometimes two a day. I've been participating any way I can, sharing when asked, helping clean up, etc. I found a temporary sponsor and have been talking with him daily. I am in the process of finding a beginner meeting and joining a step group and I feel like I actual...
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today's gift 11/6
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The art of life is to show your hand. --C.V. Lucas
Newcomer
I've been thinking about talking to another sponsor. Not to replace you -- our relationship is important to me, and I get a lot from it -- but in addition to you.
Sponsor
We're lucky to have such an abundance of s...
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one more day sober
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Hey-
I have 11 days now, after a really vicious cycle of 2 months on the run from everything, which included several visits to the ER- I've been to abt 20 meetings, got a sponsor, calling lots of people- I almost drank on day 2 but God and keeping myself busy seem to hav...
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gratitude/ even for the "pains in the butt"
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Relationships
There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way.Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our power in another way.Some relationships trigger healing in us - healing...
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revenge....short term high...long term low
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A.A. Thought for the Day
I have lost many of my resentments. I have found that getting even with people doesn't do any good. When we try to get revenge, instead of making us feel better, it leaves us frustrated and cheated. Instead of punishing our enemies, we've only hurt our own peace of mind. It do...
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my mom is not in my refridgerator
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Food Is Not Mother
In the mind of a baby, "food" is synonymous with "mother." As the baby grows, the two concepts become differentiated, but perhaps never completely separated. We compulsive overeaters may still be confusing food with mother.Often we feel a great deal of hostility and resentm...
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Today...
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Just for today, I will stay sober, I will live life on lifes terms, I will be grateful for the small things and if anything big should happen, that's the icing on the cake.Today I will work a program, one of recovery and spirituality, I will turn my will over to the God of my understanding. Today I'm glad to...
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Prayers and thoughts please
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Well, guys. Alcohol has taken out another one. A dear friend, 42 yrs old, passed away tonight as a result of 25+ yrs of heavy drinking. Some friends and I were heading down to Charleston in the morning to see him, so, instead we will take the bikes out for a ride in his mem...
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i liked this one
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If you only quit one day at a time, every day that you don't drink will be an accomplishment. If you quit forever, you won't have accomplished anything until you're dead. take care wagon
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Rosie?
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Hi Rosie. I have a question for you. I read your posts and I identify with your feelings, however I'm a bit confused as to where you are. Are you an alcoholic? One post you said "mental addiction, not physical" regarding alcohol. You talk about food alot and being co-dependent, who...
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if i were given a change of life
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If I were given a change of life, I'd like to see how it would
be to live as a mere six footer......Wilt Chamberlain
In childhood many of us dreamed of being somebody else, anybody but who we are. As time went on, and we lost touch with our feelings, we also lost who we were. We hung in limbo, not being w...
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Badger? Doll?
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Just wondering if anyone has heard from Badger? I hope he checks in soon.
And Doll how are you doing? I saw that Phil was headed your way. How are things with your son today? I remember those kind of things with my kids, I was thinking about some of them today, they were not easy to deal with at the time,&nb...
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What the Hell.......
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OK, MIP family. What the Hell is in the air today? Seems to have been an intense one for a lot.
I contracted the heeby-geebys (how do you spell that??!) around 2pm today. A customer was talking to me about his favorite mexican restaurant which happens to be mine also and my favorite place...
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Taken a mini vacation
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Some of us need a break guys. See yus in a few days. With Love.
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'tis a great day for recovery!
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Today is November 5, 2005 A Great Day for Recovery!
FEAR
"The spirit of liberty . . . is the spirit which is not too sure it is always right." -- Judge Learned Hand I am free to make mistakes. It is okay for me to be wrong. I can say or do something that proves to be incorrect. I am not perfec...
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what a day!
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i made a promise to myself that i was going to a meeting today...no matter what
i talked to a fellow member last night and we agreed to meet at the meeting....so i called the next morning to confirm...found out there was no meeting. Our detox here is apparently putting in new windows...so no meetings t...
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Standing at the edge
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There are times in my life that I feel as if I am standing at the edge of an abyss...so wide that I can't see the other side, so deep I can't see the bottom and so dark that no light can shine through. As I stand there I find myself wondering if I should turn back and pretend that I never reached that point, if I sh...
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ive blown it guys i am sorry
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im sitting here, writing this its 11.38 am ive just been to the off-licence and bought a bottle of smirnoff vodka, wich im drinking now, the lady offered me a bag but i said id put it in my pocket as i didnt want to look like an alkie walking down the street...she laughed..how easily the pretence starts aga...
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Getting really frickin' frustrated!
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Hey all-
I'm sure that this topic has come up more than once. I really get tired of this labeling bullsh*t at meetings. Being a "newbie" makes my opinion of less merit???? Being an "oldtimer" makes a person some kind of "higher power" (for lack of a better word)
Us "newbies" have opinions and feelin...
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The AA Traditions
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THE A.A. TRADITION
To those now in its fold, Alcoholics Anonymous has made the difference between misery and sobriety, and often the difference between life and death. A.A. can, of course, mean just as much to uncounted alcoholics not yet reached.
Therefore, no society of men and women ever had...
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how MUCH is enough????
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How Much Is Enough?
We continue to weigh and measure our food when we are maintaining as well as when we are losing. Since we are compulsive overeaters, we do not have a built in concept of how much food is enough. Exact measurements relieve us of the anxiety of deciding how much is enough. Since we ar...
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Letting Go
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I am willing to trust. I know that to the degree I am willing to give up my search for a healthy love relationship, I can have it. I know I can have whatever I am ready and willing to receive. Individual receptivity is everything. Without it, nothing changes. With it, all things are possible. I no longer...
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Step ten and anger.
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"When we were wrong..promptly admitted it"
Yu know guys.....it just doesnt matter how many days, that we have in this program.. we never get it perfect....
Ive been in AA a lotta days, and still have those days where I screw up. Its a good job we are human eh?
I guess if we didnt screw up, there would...
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been here before
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do i stick it out,
its my partners house, or make a break, i have to play the system now, get drunk.. threaten suicide in order to get help, unless i want to sleep on the beach tonight.. pester my doctor?
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the truth.....my PAINFUL pal
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Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise. --Sigmund Freud
The truth is our friend. It is a rough and humble kind of friend--but a friend nonetheless. Each of us will need to learn to spend time with this friend because it is one that is not easy to escape. It is always turning up when we le...
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today's thought
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Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise. --Sigmund Freud
The truth is our friend. It is a rough and humble kind of friend--but a friend nonetheless. Each of us will need to learn to spend time with this friend because it is one that is not easy to escape. It is always turning up when we...
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10/3*today's gift
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Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success. --Henry Ford
One of the biggest problems of addiction began with the initial desire to increase and continue to use an addictive substance. All of us who have gotten to the point of overdoing th...
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A DAILY DISCIPLINE
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A DAILY DISCIPLINE
 
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Badger, Thank you.
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Just a "thanks" for posting your blog site. It inspired me to start my own. My sponsor wants me to put pen to paper, but I just can't seem to do it. I prefer typing. I tried keeping a file on my PC, but wasn't comfortable with that. My son uses the PC alot and I was a afraid he'd find it. Blogging is...
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Forgiveness And Blame
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FORGIVENESS
Part I. Forgiveness of Others
At the root of the difficulty in learning to forgive someone is mistaking the action of a person for their being, and not seeing that the two are separate. Actions th...
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Difficult situations...
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I had a very tough time walking away from a drink yesterday. At about 3 o'clock my boss asked me and a co-worker to come with him for a few beers and something to eat while we went over some reports. This was a very common occurrence with my boss, we have spent many a night boozing and carousing over the years...
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