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24 Hours a Day ~ 6th April 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ All alcoholics have personality problems. They drink to escape from life, to counteract feelings of loneliness or inferiority, or because of some emotional conflict within them, so that they cannot adjust themselves to life. Alcoholics cannot stop drinking unless they find...
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Daily Reflections Apr 6
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A LIFETIME PROCESS We were having trouble with personal relationships, we couldn't control our emotional natures, we were a prey to misery and depression, we couldn't make a living, we had a feeling of uselessness, we were full of fear, we were unhappy, we couldn't seem to be of real help to other peop...
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Patience
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How sick and tired we may become of people telling us to be patient or to learn patience. How frustrating it can be to want to finally have something, or to move forward, and then not have that happen. How irritating to have someone tell us to wait while our needs have not been met and were in the midst of anx...
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A Prayer
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mood swings
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I intend to ask my doctor about this but thats a week or two away so i just wanted to know are mood swings normal I go from happier than i've been in years to sad to nervous to craving with reallly no reason or warning don't get me wrong much of the time i feel good then are thos other times
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Daily Reflections Apr 5
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TRUE BROTHERHOOD We have not once sought to be one in a family, to be a friend among friends, to be a worker among workers, to be a useful member of society. Always we tried to struggle to the top of the heap, or to hide underneath it. This self-centered behavior blocked a partnership relation with any one...
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But what about the real alcoholic?
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"He has a positive genius for getting tight at exactly the wrong moment, particularly when some important decision must be made or engagement kept." Man arrives at DUI hearing drunk
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24 Hours a Day ~ 5th April 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ People often ask what makes the A.A. program work. One of the answers is that A.A. works because it gets people away from themselves as the center of the universe. And it teaches them to rely more on the fellowship of others and on strength from God. Forgetting ourselves in fell...
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Detaching in Love
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Detachment is a key to recovery from codependency. It strengthens our healthy relationships - the ones that we want to grow and flourish. It benefits our difficult relationships - the ones that are teaching us to cope. It helps us! Detachment is not something we do once. It's a daily behavior in recov...
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Pics... Off topic... just wanted to share :)
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Thought I'd post some pics of green acres... haha... here's our critters, and our old farmhouse... Our old farmhouse... it's not much... lol 100 years old... only 3 main rooms, well, there's a bedroom upstairs but the roof needs to be fixed and stuff before we could use it... lol Chickies... walked ou...
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Priorities
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April 4, 2007 Redefining Your Priorities Your Last Breath Procrastination is an almost universal human habit and one that infiltrates nearly every aspect of our lives. Modern existence is so complex, and much of what we long to do is left to wait by the side. We know what is important but tend to let the...
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Step 9 question
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Hi all I usually post on the Alanon board, but have a question that I think can be better answered by AA folks. I understand from step 9 that not all amends should be completely direct and honest, and it specifically says especially where a third party is involved. So my struggle is regarding an affair t...
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writing
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I do some writing now and then. I have a piece I wrote a few weeks back about the life of an alcoholic and recovery. Its rather lengthy, but if anyone wants to read it, Ill post it.
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24 Hours a Day ~ 4th April 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ When I came into A.A., I found men and women who had been through the same things I had been through. But now they were thinking more about how they could help others than they were about themselves. They were a lot more unselfish than I ever was. By coming to meetings and associating w...
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Daily Reflections Apr 4
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CRYING FOR THE MOON "This very real feeling of inferiority is magnified by his childish sensitivity and it is this state of affairs which generates in him that insatiable, abnormal craving for self-approval and success in the eyes of the world. Still a child, he cries for the moon. And the moon,...
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What Is Detatchment?
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The ability to allow people, places, or things the freedom to be themselves. Holding back from the need to rescue, save, or fix another person from being sick, dysfunctional, or irrational. Giving another person "the space'' to be him or herself. Disengaging from an over-enmeshed or depend...
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hi SJ
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hi SJ... i just saw you wrote on a different post and you are new here... I am sure everyone agrees that only you can determine if you are an alcoholic and I am glad you are recognizing that you may have a problem... welcome and i hope you keep posting!!!
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Transformation
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"The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones." -- William Faulkner Longing for a miracle that will transform your life? Miracles happen, and if we dont want that magic to disappear on us, we need to learn from each epiphany -- to integrate it, apply it, and build on it...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 3rd April 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ When I was drinking, I was absolutely selfish, I thought of myself first, last, and always. The universe revolved around me at the center. When I woke up in the morning with a hangover, my only thought was how terrible I felt and about what I could do to make myself feel better. And the...
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hello again
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Hello again... I visited here a while ago when I first got sober ( well actually, a LONG while ago)... I just picked up my two year medallion Thursday. What an amazing journey it has been. Without the program and AA, I would not be here to visit this board again. Im sure for those also in the program, I don...
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Courage
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Courage is the price that life exacts for granting peace. -- Amelia Earhart We have learned from experience that a wave of peacefulness washes over us after we have successfully finished a task that was difficult to face. Courage has its reward. However, from time to time, and from task to task, we fin...
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Daily Reflections Apr 3
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ACCEPTING OUR HUMANNESS We finally saw that the inventory should be ours, not the other man's. So we admitted our wrongs honestly and became willing to set these matters straight. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 222 Why is it that the alcoholic is so unwilling to accept responsibility? I used to drink because of th...
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Thoughts
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Nobody can change my thoughts but me. The first of the Twelve Steps asks us to admit we are powerless. Our first question might be, why? Shouldn't we try to change the conditions in our lives? Shouldn't we try to influence others to change too? If we put ourselves in good hands in this fellowship, we will...
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Daily Reflections Apr 2
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CHARACTER BUILDING Demands made upon other people for too much attention, protection, and love can only invite domination or revulsion.... TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 44 When I uncovered my need for approval in the Fourth Step, I didn't think it should rank as a character defect. I wante...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 2nd April 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ Since I've been in A.A., have I made a start towards becoming more loving towards my family and friends? Do I visit my parents? Am I more appreciative of my spouse than I was before? Am I grateful to my family for having put up with me? Have I found real understanding with my children? D...
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sponsor
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So I met a nice woman about a week and a half ago and we talked for awhile after the meeting... she answered some questions I had and gave me her number. She mentioned that she would be a temporary sponsor for me - but that was it. I didn't respond to that comment and we just kept talking. I know that you can cal...
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Mornin just checking in
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I know it's been a few days since my last post, just lettin the process sink in and letting things go and puttin my son in god's hands. He is adjustin well, to the livin in toronto and kept in contact with him. He has made some progress and improvements and I'm glad that there is a chance of him becoming a bet...
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Self-Deception
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"The first and worst of all frauds is to cheat one's self." -- Phillip James Bailey Are you hiding in some way from your own inner light? I wouldnt dream of stealing things but I do steal from my own potential. I can be a master at rationalizing, at justifying why its not the right time to do so...
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Experiment
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Experiment. Try something new. Try stepping out. We have been held back too long. We have held ourselves back too long. As children, many of us were deprived of the right to experiment. Many of us are depriving ourselves of the right to experiment and learn as adults. Now is the time to experiment. It is...
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Forgiveness
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Forgiveness is all-powerful. Forgiveness heals all ills. -- Catherine Ponder Getting mad at someone, a friend perhaps, is normal. Everybody gets mad sometimes. But when we stay mad for very long, it ruins all the fun we'd planned on having throughout the day. Staying mad multiplies. Sometimes it s...
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hey y'all...
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Hey everyone... well... seeing a new doctor on Tuesday, thankfully it's a lot closer than driving into Lincoln... still in quite a bit of pain... at times my back seems to be a little better, then it gets worse again. And it's always worse at night, sharp pains and twinges. Been taking the Aleve as presc...
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Prayers Please......
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For my ex husband.......I had such hi hopes that court appointed AA would somehow get into his head. Instead, he spent his time there sharing about OUR DRINKING DAYS TOGETHER and all the fun we had (what he didn't mention was how MOST of those days turned into knock down drag out fights) - I had to stop g...
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friendships
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Is it common to lose most of ones old friends. One friend clearly doesn't get why I'm doing this he was heavy drinker and he was able to walk away from it, I lied even to my former and current drinking budies about the extent of my drinking and he believes my lies over the truth even now . another friend w...
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Great Advice
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There is some great info here I found some a little while ago I that I didn't even know I needed. I was craving something I was very antsy, I couldn't decide if it was a liquor craving or even a cigarette craving ( I quit those a couple months ago) or what. Its a rainy saturday where I'm at so I was reading pos...
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People Pleasing..Having Trouble Saying No?
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by Kali Munro, M.Ed., Psychotherapist, 2001(originally published at BodyTalk Magazine.com, Aug. 2001) Do you have trouble saying NO? Do you do things for other people but almost never ask anybody to do things for you? You may be a people pleaser. People pleasers think of other peoples needs before...
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I don't always get to know why
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I don't always get to know why. I may find myself caught up in wondering why something happened while asking myself, "What did I do wrong?" or "Why did this happen to me?" If the situation is something I can change, I can plan how to change it. I can look at my options or ask someone el...
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GOT A QUESTION
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((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))) I have a question for you. been to an AA meeting the last two weeks. It is NOT a closed meeting. And I have been welcomed by every member I have spoken to. Given hugs and shaking hands. This has been good for my recovery. Listening to the shares has helped me to unders...
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Accepting Powerlessness
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We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable. --Step One of Alcoholics Anonymous Accepting powerlessness is a prerequisite of recovery. As adult children, the very idea may seem puzzling or even laughable. Haven't we felt powerless all along? Shouldn&...
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Daily Reflections Mar 31
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NO ONE DENIED ME LOVE On the A.A. calendar it was Year Two . . . . A newcomer appeared at one of these groups . . . . He soon proved that his was a desperate case, and that above all he wanted to get well. . . . [He said], "Since I am the victim of another addiction even worse stigmatized than alcoholism, you...
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Day 6
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This is day 6 of sobriety for me . I've been to a meeting every day since monday and I already feel my life changing I have hope again and I love it. I like message boards I knew there had to be some like this and I'm glad to have found it
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Inquirin minds
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Put up a few posts in regards to my situation with my son, and well he seems to be adjusting well and gettin on his feet. Just one thing that concerns me a little bit, Yes he has lost considerably amount of weight and well didn't look to good when he left. Spoke to him tonite and he seem a little excited...
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Daily Reflections Mar 30
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OUR GROUP CONSCIENCE ". . . sometimes the good is the enemy of the best." ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS COMES OF AGE, p. 101 I think these words apply to every area of A.A.'s Three Legacies: Recovery, Unity and Service! I want them etched in my mind and life as I "trudge the Road of Happy Destiny&...
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Telling people
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So I'm very interested in "hearing" your replys. When or do you tell people you're an alcoholic even if it's a recovering or non-drinking alcoholic. When I get offered a drink at a social function and I say "NO". People look at me weird. I mean it would be much easier to take a...
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Rambling....
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Hi there! Been busy working, writing, etc... But just wanted to pop in and share something. Things are good, totally cool with being the sober guy. Eating a lot of cookies and milk, reading a ton. Going to meetings, etc... Haven't got a sponsor yet because I'm being my usual remedial self, but...
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high blood pressure? after quitting?
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I haven't completely quit yet, but cut down drastically since last week and my blood pressure has gone up. Is this common should I be worried?
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24 Hours a Day ~ 29th March 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ Before I met A.A., I was very dishonest. I lied to my spouse constantly about where I had been and what I'd been doing. I took time off from my work and pretended I'd been sick or gave some other dishonest excuse. I was dishonest with myself, as well as with other people. I would never fa...
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Broken Promises
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OK, so I have come to realize that I make promises that I don't follow through with. It could be something very simple. It seems like when my husband ask's me to do something, I automatically say "yes" because I feel scared of letting him down. Like "no" is not an option, well the...
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The Freedom Of A Sense Of Humor
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You grow up the first day you have the first real laugh - at yourself. -- Ethel Barrymore Infants chuckle and gurgle and find the world amusing, but apparently they rarely laugh at themselves. Perhaps that's because they're still very much the lord and master of their world. Even when they see themsel...
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Daily Reflections Mar 29
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TRUSTED SERVANTS They are servants. Theirs is the sometimes thankless privilege of doing the group's chores. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 134 In Zorba the Greek, Nikos Kazantzakis describes an encounter between his principle character and an old man busily at work planting a tree. &quo...
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To Milo
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Welcome to a fantastic site for aiding in recovery from addiction to alcohol. I saw your first post on the "New Here" thread below and thought I would bring it out in the open. Hope you don't mind. You sound as though you have a good amount of conviction to get sober and "be in control&quo...
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