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Self Care with Family Members
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I was thirty five years old the first time I spoke up to my mother and refused to buy into her games and manipulation. I was terribly frightened and almost couldn't believe I was doing this. I found I didn't have to be mean. I didn't have to start an argument. But I could say what I wanted and needed to say to t...
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Tina had FOUR YEARS Yesterday
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May you have many more....one day at a time... Onward!!
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An Article Re: Emotional Pain
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(Hurt - Bitterness - Injustice - Abused Pain) We feel emotional pain when we do not get what we want, need, or expect. We might feel hurt, rejection, bitterness, abuse, injustice or simply emotional pain. In such cases, we have not received the behavior or outcomes we expected or believed we deserve...
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Insisting on the Best
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We deserve the best life and love has to offer, but we are each faced with the challenge of learning to identify what that means in our life. We must each come to grips with our own understanding of what we believe we deserve, what we want, and whether we are receiving it. There is only one place to start, an...
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Good News!
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Hi everyone, I had an appointment with my GP earlier today to get the results of some heart tests that I have had recently. I was worried and anxious about it. But, it's good news from the GP and I wanted to share that with my cyber-family. The problem that I have is an excessive heartbeat. It's beating abo...
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Congrats Jamie
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Would you all join me in giving a round of applause to our friend "Destinydreamer" aka Jamie who celebrated 5mos. sober on July 8th. Contiued success to you!!! (Can you hear the crowds roaring and clapping? LOL) Wanda
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New Beginnings
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Hello my name is Rosco. I am new to AA and this site. I have 45 days sober and already I have never felt better, Thanks to the people and support of AA. It is truly the best thing that has ever happened to me. ONE DAY AT A TIME!!
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Parts that don't want to heal-Shedding light on ourselves
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In almost every case, we know what is best for us in our lives, from the relationships we create to the food we eat. Still, somewhat mysteriously, it is often difficult to make the right choices for ourselves. We find ourselves hanging out with someone who leaves us feeling drained or choosing to eat fa...
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Happiness
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Happiness is not a matter of events; it depends upon the tides of the mind. - Alice Meyvell It's thought that Abe Lincoln once said, "We're as happy as we make up our minds to be." In other words, we decide to be happy. Bad weather, lost toys, broken plans, even angry friends don't have to ruin o...
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Welcome
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I just want to say "welcome to MIP" to the new people I've seen on the board this morning. Whether you're posting or no, it's good to see you here. I hope you keep coming back and keep sharing as the spirit moves you. with blessings, Chris
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Bursting Emotions
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Just wanted to share with everyone, that I am bursting at the seams with happiness over the birth of my first grandchild. Thomas J. was born yesterday afternoon. What a miracle to witness! I feel very blessed that my daughter WANTED me there with her and her boyfriend to see this new life come in...
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My name is Jennifer & I'm an alcoholic
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Today has been a pretty good day, I suppose. Work was a bit less stressful than usual and I've actually been completely pain free for the last 4 hours. But cringing at every twinge, wondering when the pain will return, as it always does. MRI and X-Rays showed NO new herniated disks, that's the good news...
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Daily Reflections July 13
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HUMILITY IS A GIFT, p.203 As long as we placed self-reliance first, a genuine reliance upon a Higher Power was out of the question. That basic ingredient of all humility, a desire to seek and do God's will, was missing. 12 & 12, p.72 When I first came to A.A., I wanted to find some of the elusive qualit...
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God as We Understand God
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God is subtle, but he is not malicious. -- Albert Einstein Recovery is an intensely spiritual process that asks us to grow in our understanding of God. Our understanding may have been shaped by early religious experiences or the beliefs of those around us. We may wonder if God is as shaming and frighte...
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The Agnostic 12 steps
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1. We accept the fact that all of our efforts to stop drinking have failed. 2. We believe that we must turn elsewhere for help. 3. We turn to our fellow men and women, particularly those who have struggled with the same problem. 4. We have made a list of the situations in which we are most likely to drink. 5....
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Living the Adventure
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I do not accept any absolute formulas for living. No preconceived code can see ahead to everything that can happen in a mans life. As we live, we grow and our beliefs change. They must change. So I think we should live with this constant discovery. We should be open to this adventure in heightened awaren...
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O.K. , so I wont make cover of NewsWeek....
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But thanks to God, you guy's and Ladies and AA, Today I am sober 1 Month !! Maybe to some , thats not much., But for this alki to stay sober 1 DAY is a mindblowing !! For those of you who read this and are new, Im living proof that it works. ! month ago , I made my first post. I was down to the point of ending it all for...
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Letting Go of Fear of Abandonment
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"Where are you, God? Where did you go?" So many people have gone away. We may have felt so alone so much. In the midst of our struggles and lessons, we may wonder if God has gone away too. There are wondrous days when we feel God's protection and presence, leading and guiding each step and event...
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aa tapes
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http://www.aaprimarypurpose.org/rotation/speakers2.htm
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Daily Reflections July 12
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GIVING UP CENTER STAGE, p.202 For without some degree of humility, no alcoholic can stay sober at all. . . Without it, they cannot live to much useful purpose, or, in adversity, be able to summon the faith that can meet any emergency. 12 & 12, p.70 Why do I balk at the word "humility"? I am n...
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experience with canabis>?
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I have a friend in aa who has started smoking canabis apart from looking like he as put on 3 stone he dont seem too happy. my head is going crazy! every time i see him i want to smoke too i know i should not tho plz help
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Going with the Flow
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Let go of fear and your need to control. Relinquish anxiety. Let it slip away, as you dive into the river of the present moment, the river of your life, your place in the universe. Stop trying to force the direction. Try not to swim against the current, unless it is necessary for your survival. If you've b...
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surrender
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To some people, surrender may have negative connotations, implying defeat, giving up, failing to rise to the challenges of life, becoming lethargic, and so on. True surrender, however, is something entirely different. It does not mean to passively put up with whatever situation you find yoursel...
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Many many moons ago...
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We started a post on here Re: Where everyone was from.. I would like to start one again.... Its amazing how close, that we can be living to some that share on this board, without realizing it...and its also amazing, just how small the world becomes in the fellowship of AA. My name is Phil.....from Ontar...
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A better way than drinking when anxious or depressed
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How to Fight Depression and AnxietyBy Hara Estroff Marano for MSN Health & Fitness Q: What is the best way to deal with depression and anxiety? A: Quickly and definitively. Whatever kicks them off, depression and anxiety both are maintained by styles of thinking that magnify the initial insult...
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how did you do it??
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step 4 i seem to have no confidence in doing step 4 the big book way A fellow member at a meeting the other night said in order for him to do his steps he really had to simplify. He said if you do it simply, it can be done on a napkin... don't need to have a thousand written pages. if I tend to stretch the truth..L...
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Daily Reflections July 11
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TURNING POINT, p.301 A great turning point in our lives came when we sought for humility as something we really wanted, rather than as something we must have. 12 & 12, p.75 Either the A.A. way of life becomes one of joy or I return to the darkness and despair of alcoholism. Joy comes to me when my atti...
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Bad Day
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I managed to stay sober 5 days last week which is getting better so i am proud of that and today i have got up and got back on the wagon and working on just today. Health wise i feel rubbish and very emotional cant stop crying which does not happen hardly ever as i dont show my feelings i know it,s just the d...
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Offerings of the Day
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Finding Gifts In All When we have good days, we often find ourselves going over the details later, enjoying them a second and third time as we feel the joy of our good fortune. When we have bad days, we may find ourselves poring over the details of our misfortunes. However, we can reframe those bad days by...
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Bring Any Request to God
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Bring any request you have to God. No request is too large; none too small or insignificant. How often we limit God by not bringing to God everything we want and need. Do we need help getting our balance? Getting through the day? Do we need help in a particular relationship? With a particular character d...
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Newbie Intro and share
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Hi i am 34 years old my name is fletch. I wanted to introduce myself to the forum and say Hi to everyone and am so pleased to find this site. I have been using drinking as a boost for self esteem, confidence and courage it also makes me feel good baout myself, or it did. My first drink was around 14 and i wo...
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Daily Reflections July 10
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TOWARD PEACE AND SERENITY . . . when we have taken a square look at some of these defects, have discussed them with another, and have become willing to have them removed, our thinking about humility commences to have a wider meaning. 12 & 12, p.74 When situations arise which destroy my serenity, pa...
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Using Today's Tools
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Are we becoming stuck in the "if onlys"? "If only I had more money." "If only I were more attractive." "If only my parents had listened to Dr. Spock." The "if onlys" will get us nowhere. We would do better to think about what we have to work with to...
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Hi all
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Just thought check, Went on holidays for a week, and of course went to visit my son. He is doing so well and daughter graduation went well. Also was long week as well, with legal matters in regards to my mom's accident. hopefully someday soon things well, work out for the best and every one can move past...
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I will not die an unlived life
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ArticlesDiscussionsUser InterestsUser LocationUser NameUser Email I found this particularly beautiful this morning and wanted to share it---chris From "I Will Not Die an Unlived Life: Reclaiming Purpose and Passion" by Dawna Markova Posted by: DailyOM Living Wide Open: Landsc...
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Be Who You Are
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See who you are. Own who you are. Be who you are. Don't apologize. -- Jerry K. At some point in our recovery, we need to admit to ourselves and others who we really are. Looking inside and pondering our shortcomings is not the most comfortable thing the program has asked us to do. In the past it's been mor...
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aa big book
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There is a solution. Almost none of us liked the self- searching, the leveling of our pride, the confession of shortcomings which the process requires for its successful consummation. But we saw that it really worked in others, and we had come to believe in the hopelessness and futility of life as we h...
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Forgiving Yourself
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Releasing Guilt We all know what it feels like to feel guilty about something and many of us struggle with feeling guilty all the time. Guilt makes us feel that we are somehow unforgivable. While this experience is common, it is detrimental to our overall wellbeing. Feeling guilty generally promote...
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Please God remove my self~centred fear x
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Hello my lovely on~liners. Missed you all & been very busy with work. I'm checking in for some much needed AA love&help since I know you're here & have always been there for me when I've needed so THANKS so much in advance. I'm going out to a meeting with my Sponsor & go to a meeting shortl...
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Sometimes, life can be Cool !!
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As some of you know, Im getting back on track being that I took a deture for a few Mos. after being sober 13+ years. In a earlier post, I told about my buddy next door coming over with 2 Ice cold long necks and offered me one. (at the time I had 3 days clean). Well, to make it short,He told me today He got into som...
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July 9 Daily Reflections
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I AM AN INSTRUMENT Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. 12 & 12, p.70 The subject of humility is a difficult one. Humility is not thinking less of myself than I ought to; it is acknowledging that I do certain things well, it is accepting a compliment graciously. God can only do for me what He c...
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John and Rose
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may your day and your life together be all you hope it to be and more wishing you a lifetime of heart smiles, happiness, health and prosperity God bless Wendy
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update on the critters..... and question on sponsorship?
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Still no sign of Cammi, my missing chicken, I'm sure something got her :( managed to catch my little pheonix roo in the trap this morning lol set it again tonight... wondering which one gets the treat of bologna and bread and pays the price of sitting in a trap till we get up in the morning lol My guine...
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Walking Through
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When Doors Open When a door opens, walk through it. Trust that the door has opened for a reason and you have been guided to it. Sometimes we have a tendency to overanalyze or agonize over the decision, but it is quicker to simply go through the door and discover what's there as that's the only way to know. E...
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Getting It All Out
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Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out. Once we begin recovery, we may feel like it's not okay to gripe and complain. We may tell ourselves that if we were really working a good program, we wouldn't need to complain. What does that mean? We won't have feelings? We won't feel overwhelmed? We won't need to blow...
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1/3 Americans were alcoholic
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This is from today's Bakersfield Californian courtesy of California wire services: Nearly one-third of Americans were alcoholic, study says. (I like the term WERE...TE) More than 30 percent of American adults have abused alcohol or suffered from alcoholism at some point in their lives, a...
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Daily Reflections July 6
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IDENTIFYING FEAR . . . . The chief activator of our defects has been self - centered fear. . . . . TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 76 When I feel uncomfortable, irritated, or depressed, I look for fear. This "evil and corroding thread" is the root of my distress: Fear of failure; fear of...
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changing sponsors
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Not to long ago my sponsor of almost 7 years came to me and asked me if I would work the steps with her. She has been really struggling with "life" stuff - a year ago she died on the operating table and was brought back to life, and dealing with this wonderful gift has been actually quite difficu...
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Forgiveness
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Forgiveness is all-powerful. Forgiveness heals all ills. -- Catherine Ponder Getting mad at someone, a friend perhaps, is normal. Everybody gets mad sometimes. But when we stay mad for very long, it ruins all the fun we'd planned on having throughout the day. Staying mad multiplies. Sometimes it s...
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Spirituality
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Spirituality is the sacred center out of which all life comes, including Mondays and Tuesdays, rainy Saturday afternoons in all their mundane and glorious detail . . . The spiritual journey is the soul's life commingling with ordinary life. -- Christina Baldwin (Life's Companion [1990]) My heart...
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