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Been busy
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I've been very busy learning my new job. Stopped tonight to catch up on some reading and to say congrats to those with birthdays. Best I can say is keep it up it only gets better. My good friend and fishing buddy died a couple days ago. He used to be drinker also but had sobered up many years ago. It's al...
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moving
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As some of you know my parents moved down south last summer which forced me to get an apartment and partially grow up!I have lived on my own for a year now and only started becoming responsible a short time ago. My 6 month sober date is in a couple days and I realize that I have straightened out my life ALOT th...
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18 Months Sober Today
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Hi everyone, Well, today I have been sober for eighteen months! It seems amazing to me that I have managed this when I look back at my drinking days. And, how my life has changed. I just never thought it would be possible. I am so truly lucky to have found the rooms of AA. My sobriety really is all down to AA an...
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Sharing is healing.
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Sharing is healing. - Cathy Stone It's not easy to share the intimate details of our lives. We have guarded our secrets for years. But now it's suggested that we tell our secrets to people whose names we barely know. That's certainly not the way we were raised, and listening to others reveal their awful...
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A sober summer
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Hello all this summer has flown by I have my kids with me (they usually live 7 hours away ) I'm 4 and 1/2 months sober and I've had a wonderful time just hanging out with the kids its been great I'm clear headed, not depressed and just getting joy from being a dad. Here's the point of this post I went to over 1...
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just checking in...
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Hello all... just stopped by to say hey. Work has me pretty busy right now, but I had a few minutes this morning for a fly by... lol . hmmmm... I didnt see the daily reflection... it used to be posted here every day.
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Asking for What We Need
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Decide what it is you want and need, and then go to the person you need it from and ask for it. Sometimes, it takes hard work and much energy to get what we want and need. We have to go through the pains of identifying what we want, then struggle to believe that we deserve it. Then, we may have to experience the...
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Clinging to the Core
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When Our World Falls Apart There are times when our whole world seems to be falling apart around us, and we are not sure what to hold onto anymore. Sometimes our relationships crumble and sometimes its our physical environment. At other times, we cant put our finger on it, but we feel as if all the walls h...
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Saying Yes
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Yesterday we talked about learning to say no. Today, let's discuss another important word: Yes. We can learn to say yes to things that feel good, to what we want - for others and ourselves. We can learn to say yes to fun. Yes to meetings, to calling a friend, asking for help. We can learn to say yes to health...
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There's Hope
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No matter how painful our early experiences were, our Essence cannot be harmed. Our Essence is waiting for the opportunity to reveal itself. In a very true sense, we are waiting for the opportunity to become ourselves. Our spirit is yearning to break free, to express itself ... And yet, ironically, w...
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My Buddy next door, Mike
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As alot of you know, I went back out , but thanks to my VERY loving God , Im coming up on 2 Mos. ! As a result of me going back out, and coming back into the world of reality A.K.A. sober, my good friend and X drinking buddy next door Mike decided he wanted to get sober too. Yesterday he picked up his 1 Mo. chip. Im s...
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To all of you
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There are quite a few, on the board...achieving stepping stones..one day at a time, in sobriety. You are miracles. Most of us are living on borrowed time. We shouldn't even be here, when one thinks about it...and where we have all come from. Thanks to a "Higher Power" of our individual unde...
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Saying No
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For many of us, the most difficult word to say is one of the shortest and easiest in the vocabulary: No. Go ahead, say it aloud: No. No - simple to pronounce, hard to say. We're afraid people won't like us, or we feel guilty. We may believe that a "good" employee, child, parent, spouse, or Chris...
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Solving Problems
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Problems are made to be solved! Some of us spend more time reacting to the fact that we have a problem than we do solving the problem. "Why is this happening to me?" . . . "Isn't life awful?" . . . "How come this had to happen?" . . . "Oh, dear. This is terrible." ....
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Question on sponsorship
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I've struggled a lot with finding a good sponsor since I moved to Nebraska... and am having to look for a new one again.... and it's not the whole deal of finding one that will tell me what I want to hear, or anything like that... I think I've posted some about this before, the first one was controllin...
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Ive got to share this one because it is SO true
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A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After ma...
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Unfulfilled Relationship Expectations
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Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot! - Guy Finley Unfulfilled expectations always cause problems. Having expectations in our culture is...
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A celebration...
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Today is a celebration of love, laughter, life, tears, joy, and an incredible journey in recovery. It is by far the most important thing I have ever done, and continue to do, a day at a time. Today, I celebrate 17 years of sobriety. Without God's goodness, a LOT of help from my friends in the rooms of AA, an...
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Keep Smiling
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You can't let adversity get you down. Keep smiling. -- Violet Hensley Violet's smiles certainly fit this category. She lights up rooms with her joy and energy, her fiddle playing and storytelling. We don't all smile quite so easily. Why is that? Some naively assume one's easy; individual circumsta...
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Gratitude
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We learn the magical lesson that making the most of what we have turns it into more. -- Codependent No More Say thank you, until we mean it. Thank God, life, and the universe for everyone and everything sent your way. Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It t...
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Perfectionism
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We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measurin...
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Hello. I'm new here.
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My name is Mike, an alcoholic who has been associated with treatment programs since 1985. May 12, 2007 was a typical crisis event that led me to "in-patient" treatment for the first time. The difference between the past and the present is that (1) this is the longest I've been sober since 19...
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Vulnerability
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I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am. -- Anonymous Many of us feel that we can only show our strong, confident side. We believe the face we have to show to the world should always be one of politeness, perfection, calm, strength, and control...
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Some readings re Step Two
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How it Works When, therefore, we speak to you of God, we mean your own conception of God. This applies, too, to other spiritual expressions which you find in this book. Do not let any prejudice you may have against spiritual terms deter you from honestly asking yourself what they mean to you. At the star...
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Anxious Day
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I am having a very anxious day, for a bunch of little reasons. First, my in-laws, who don't live in the U.S. and only speak Spanish (which I can speak to some degree, but not completely comfortably) are here and hanging out at my apartment. When they are there, they sit and talk to my wife in Spanish and d...
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New on this forum
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Hi everyone, I am new on this forum. I am also new to realising that I am an alcholic. Its hard to say that! I want to stop drinking and often manage a couple of days but not more. If anyone has any strategies that have helped you when you first decided to quit I would appreciate your comments. Regards,...
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Owning Our Power in Relationships
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So much of what I call my codependency is fear and panic because I spent so much of my life feeling abused, trapped, and not knowing how to take care of myself in relationships. -- Anonymous No matter how long we have been recovering, we may still tend to give up our power to others, whether they be authori...
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How to be Humble
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How to Be Humble"It's hard to be humble," says an old country song, "when you're perfect in every way." Very few people, of course, actually think they're perfect in every way, but it can still be pretty hard to be humble, especially when you live in a society that encourages com...
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For all of us who ever wondered why we got here
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I love The White Stripes, a band, for those who don't know them. They have a song on their new album that I have listened to a lot in my first few weeks of sobriety, though I doubt they write their songs with that in mind. The lyrics are funny, but the point is, things have gone wrong when they have because o...
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A Humbling Story
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A TRUE STORY By Malcolm Forbes The Gingham Dress A lady in a faded gingham dress and her husband, dressed in a homespun threadbare suit, stepped off the train in Boston, and walked timidly without an appointment into the Harvard University President's outer office. The secretary could tell in a mo...
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Some Readings Re Step Ten
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We continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new mistakes as we go along. We vigorously commenced this way of living as we cleaned up the past. We have entered the world of the Spirit. Our next function is to grow in understanding and effectiveness. This is not an overnight matt...
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divorce
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My husband and I had been having trouble because of my drinking. I am on day 26 of sobriety, and was so happy. Tonight he told me he wants a divorce, that he is too emotionally detached at this point. We have one little 6 year old boy. I don't know what this will do to him. And, I don't know what I am going to d...
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Happiness
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Happiness is a mental habit, a mental attitude, and if it is not learned and practiced in the present it is never experienced. -- Maxwell Maltz If only I had a new bike, then I'd be happy. If only my family were more understanding, then I'd be happy. If only my hair were styled better. If only I had more frie...
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Desiderata
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Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive...
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Have Some Fun
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Have some fun. Loosen up a bit. Enjoy life! We do not have to be so somber and serious. We do not have to be so reflective, so critical, so bound up within the rigid parameters and ourselves others, and often ourselves, have placed around us. This is life, not a funeral service. Have some fun with it. Enter...
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I did it... can you believe it?? sorry, yes, it's a long ramble
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Well, I moved out, left my boyfriend... found out yesterday he was cheating on me this whole time when supposedly we were in a relationship, even just a couple of weeks ago he was bringing up marriage and kids and stuff like that, tryin to say all the right things I guess... yeah, well, not just one woma...
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The Art of Not Being Offended--long
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By Dr. Jodi Prinzivalli ========================== There is an ancient and well-kept secret to happiness which the Great Ones have known for centuries. They rarely talk about it, but they use it all the time, and it is fundamental to good mental health. This secret is called The Fine Art of Not Bein...
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Fill Up Your Tank
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How do we keep our inner fire alive? Two things, at minimum, are needed: an ability to appreciate the positives in our life and a commitment to action. Every day, its important to ask and answer these questions: Whats good in my life? and What needs to be done? -- Nathaniel Branden I have found theres a ve...
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The way it used to be....
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Letting Go of What We Want
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For those of us who have survived by controlling and surrendering, letting go may not come easily. -- Beyond Codependency In recovery, we learn that it is important to identify what we want and need. Where does this concept leave us? With a large but clearly identified package of currently unmet want...
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what is it worth to you
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for me, there is no price for my sobriety, my recovery! thought i'd share yesterdays meeting topics... whats the first thing you do in the morning? what is the key to recovery?
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When The Goin Gets Rough...
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DON'T QUIT!When things go wrong as they sometimes will When the road you're trudging seems all up hill When the funds are low and the debts are high And you want to smile, but you have to sigh When care is pressing you down a bit Rest, if you must, but don't you quit. Life is queer, with its twists and turns As...
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sweet cravings
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Hi everyone! I was talking in a thread below about how much I craved sweets and was losing weight. Well, the weight loss has evened out, although I need to lose more actually to be healthy. I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes at age 30, and I am really not a big girl. But I also have PCOS (Polycystic ovar...
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wow
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7 months clean and sober today by the grace of god, AA and you thankyou from the bottom , top and sides of my heart!
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Accepting Powerlessness
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Since I've been a child, I've been in an antagonistic relationship with an important emotional part of myself: my feelings. I have consistently tried to ignore, repress, or force my feelings away. I have tried to create unnatural feelings or force away feelings that were present. I've denied I was a...
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Pride
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Hi everyone, Rosco here and I am proud to say that I am celebrating 60 days sober. I feel so very happy to be involved with MIP and AA. One day at a time is definately working. I may not be on message board for a while, because I am leaving for rehab on 8/1/07. I have a blackout period but, as soon as it is ove...
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Fear
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One day, I decided to try something new. I took my ten-year-old son out on the St. Croix River on a Waverunner. A Waverunner is a small boating vehicle resembling a motorcycle. We donned life jackets and embarked on an experience that turned out to be both exhilarating and frightening; exhilarating w...
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food...newly sober
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I am 22 days sober now. Big deal for me because I was drinking daily for 13 years. I am 35. Went to my Dr. to be safe, and he gave me something for withdrawals. Two things I am noticing: 1. I want to eat nothing but sugary cereal. I have to force myself to eat protein. I have lost 10 lbs in a week. How long...
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How Y'all Doin Eh?
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"We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable." Who cares to admit complete defeat? Practically no one, of course. Every natural instinct cries out against the idea of personal powerlessness. It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have...
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Anyone got any information??
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Hi again all. I'm wondering if any of you know about finding AA meets abroad?. The reason for my asking is I was given a link lastnight by a very nice lady for AASpain, only to find that all the ones I would ever have any chance of getting to have now been closed along with the english speaking ones. Any ideas...
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