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lani


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Monday, August 4, 2008

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Vulnerability

I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am.
--Anonymous

Many of us feel that we can only show our strong, confident side. We believe the face we have to show to the world should always be one of politeness, perfection, calm, strength, and control.

While it is certainly good and often appropriate to be in control, calm, and strong, there is another side to all of us - that part of us that feels needy, becomes frightened, has doubts, and gets angry. That part of us that needs care, love, and reassurance those things will be okay. Expressing these needs makes us vulnerable and less than perfect, but this side needs our acceptance too.

Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable will help us build lasting relationships. Sharing our vulnerabilities helps us feel close to people and helps others feel close to us. It helps us grow in self-love and self-acceptance. It helps us become healing agents. It allows us to become whole and accessible to others.

Today, I will allow myself to be vulnerable with others when it's safe and appropriate to do so.



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Thanks for posting these, Lani. There have been times in the past when it hasn't always been appropriate for me to show my vulnerable side. I've often found it quite easy to confide in others throughout my years but today I am learning how to do it without putting on others or revelling 'too much!' in selfpity. I have been learning what it means to tell my truth without manipulating others & being honest about myself without expecting rescues in return. It has been hard for me to show vulnerabilities in meetings & sometimes in one to ones with my Sponsor but Fellowship has always taught me that this showing of my humanity is rewarded with a sharing of how others can be too & a uniting in strength through 'seeming' weaknesses. Today I feel brave to show my vulnerable points & to know that with them I am still lovable, loving & loved. I feel so much safer & less demanding these days in the care of a compassionate & unconditionally loving Higher Power. Thanks for being here MIP & sharing your vulnerabilities with me. You all inspire me, Daniella x

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Its funny because I too was willing to share anything and everything with anybody! Of course I probably did it for attention or so they would think, "poor girl!!" Of course I wasnt willing to take any advise or try to change some things I needed to change!

Today I share a piece of myself with certain others so I can find a solution to change! I finally trust people and have also learned to listen to others!!!

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