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Wife and Separation
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So in a furry, my wife leaves me two weeks ago. She said she wasn't happy and she thought divorce was the only way for her to find happiness. She never felt at home at the house, for several reason. We had been looking for a new house just a few weeks ago. She hadn't been able to find a job like she lost beca...
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Daily Reflections ~ A World of the Spirit & 24hrs aDay
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We have entered the world of the Spirit. Our next function is to grow in understanding and effectiveness. This is not an overnight matter. It should continue for our lifetime. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 84 The word "entered" . . . and the phrase "entered into the world of the Spirit&qu...
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Daily meditations - March 13
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GOD CALLING "Wait before Me, gently breathing in My spirit. That spirit which, if given a free entrance, and not barred out by self will enable you to do the same works as I did, which being interpreted... will enable Me to do the same works, and even greater than I did when on earth - through you.&qu...
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gladlee
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Someone listened
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After five years of being a sober alcoholic in an industry with so many active alcoholics ( painting and decorating ) it's not even funny, I was spell bound yesterday when an ex workmate of mine called me out of the blue 5 years after working with him I might add and said, " I'm in real trouble m...
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Jamie D
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Alano club lock-up
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Hi all. After a meeting I was talking to a fellow who is a board member for our local Alano club and he mentioned a debate about how to handle comings and goings for the club. I said I might ask here for feed back on how such things are handled at other clubs. Currently in our town there are keys to the club and...
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Daily meditations - March 12
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GOD CALLING - Simplicity "Simplicity is the key note of My kingdom. Choose simple things always. Love and reverence the humble and the simple. Have only simple things here. Your standard must never be the world's standard." A WALK IN DRY PLACES - Popular Gossip Higher Thinking The new...
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gladlee
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Decision taking while in crisis mode
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Talked to my sponsor again today. Poor bugger is so patient. So today he reminded me that I'm in the middle of a crisis and the best decision I could take is to decide to DO NOTHING. 3 hours later, with the relate counsellor for a one on one and what does she say? EXACTLY the same. But we also talked boundarie...
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bikerbill
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Tigers above, tigers below...
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I just got back from visiting my kids... back to the reality of my life, which is not at all what I want it to be. I think a lot about moving back, since I am so unhappy here, near my family of origin (what was I thinking?!!) Last night, I feel like I read something I was supposed to read by Pema Chodron, and...
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gladlee
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Amazing stuff!
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When I started counseling a couple of days after I quit drinking, I was in sad shape. I was in withdrawals, broken, filled with guilt and disgust for the man I had become. The counselor had great concern over my pain and suffering and spoke in depth about Romans 8:28: "And we know that all thing...
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Mad_Jasper
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Daily Reflections ~ Good Orderly Direction & 24hrs a day
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It is when we try to make our will conform with God's that we begin to use it rightly. To all of us, this was a most wonderful revelation. Our whole trouble had been the misuse of willpower. We had tried to bombard our problems with it instead of attempting to bring it into agreement with God's intention fo...
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God Calling ~ Seek Beauty
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" Draw beauty from every flower and joy from the song of the birds... Drink in the beauty of air and colour. I am with you. When I wanted to express a beautiful thought, I made a lovely flower. Reflect. When I want to express to man what I am... I strive to make a very beautiful character. Think of y...
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gladlee
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More proof that this program works
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OK, so it's the first sunny day in a long time where I live. I'm picking up little man at school, have got him a snack, all that good stuff. And bing, "wouldn't it be nice to have a pint of Stella in a pub beer gardenafter I take him home" just comes in from nowhere. Wow, just like that. On the blower...
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SteveP
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Anxiety at AA
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Hi everyone i'm an alcoholic with 8 months sobriety. Today I went to my home group meeting and we had our group concious after. I knew that nominations for positions were going to be made, however i wasnt sure exactly how it worked as i had not been apart of this before. I am an intravert and find it diffic...
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Me, me, mE, ME!!!
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Me has been my biggest obstacle. I had to have what I wanted, when I wanted it, no matter who it hurt. And for the most part, that's what I got. It came with a lot of baggage though. Ironically, I ignored the healthy side of selfishness. The are times when you have to put yourself first no matter how it a...
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Mad_Jasper
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Ever had someone say you weren't an alcoholic
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I recently shared with a long time sober member ( who is well ) and whom I have alot of respect and love for, a part of my experience that I have had in AA that has baffled and surprised me, and surprisingly enough concerning this issue he said he had, experienced the same thing. I'm talking here about p...
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Jamie D
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Happy Bellybutton Birthday, Dean!!!
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Happy Birthday, Brother! I hope you're celebrating in style! Recovery love & fellowship always 1Day@aTime, Danielle x
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Sobrietyspell
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Daily Reflections ~ Today, It's My Choice & 24hrs a Day
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. . . we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.62 With the realization and acceptance that I had played a part in the way my life had turned out came a dramatic change in my outlook. It was at th...
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Grease monkey
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I am working on my wife's BMW. Doing an engine transplant from a donor car. Reminds me of my early days of sobriety. I started a project with one of my sponsees. We started on a project to build a camper motorhome. For the first 18 months of my sobriety, I kept at it daily. It took me 6 months to rebuild the eng...
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gonee
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Daily Meditations - March 9
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GOD CALLING "Nothing is small to God. In His sight, a sparrow is of greater value than a palace, one kindly word of more importance than a statesman's speech. It is the life in all that has value, and the quality of the life that determines the value..." ACOA - DISCOVERY "I AM ON A JOURNE...
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gladlee
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Loss of bladder control
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Hello,
I'm in a bit of confussion, Ill tell you why.
The other nite I was out with friends having
acouple of drinks, knowing to all keep near a restroom.
After a few hours we went dancing, I lost total control of my
bladder on the dance floor, embrassed I left without saying goodbye
and I'm not sure i...
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Daffoni
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Work issues and my alcoholic personality -- is there a solution?
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Hello all- I'm new here, but hoping to find fellowship to talk over things I've never found much help for in the live groups I've attended. In fact, I've never felt tremendously connected to any of the regular groups I've attended over the past 5 years of my sobriety. Up till last fall, I tried to go at lea...
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NaninMinn
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ways to deal with medical care
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often drug addicts and alcoholics have a lot of medical bills and just things that are damaged that need repairing. i wonder how you cope with getting sober while you get to stare at the ugliness one might create physically on themselves? that might sound horribly vain, but i want to know.
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autumnspirit
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Daily Reflections ~ Turning It Over & 24hrs a Day
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Every man and woman who has joined A.A. and intends to stick has, without realizing it, made a beginning on Step Three. Isn't it true that in all matters touching upon alcohol, each of them has decided to turn his or her life over to the care, protection, and guidance of Alcoholics Anonymous? . . . Any wil...
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Sobrietyspell
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God Calling ~ Heaven-Life
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"The joy of Spring shall be yours in full measure. Revel in the earth's joy. Do you not think that Nature is weary too, of her long months of travail? There will come back a wonderful joy, if you share in her joy now. Nature is the embodied Spirit of My thoughts of beauty for this world. Treat her a...
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gladlee
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having sober date and birthday on same day?
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does anyone have their sober date and real birthday on the same day? not your original birthday obviously! is it a good idea? does it work well for you? -- Edited by autumnspirit on Thursday 3rd of March 2011 06:23:10 PM
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autumnspirit
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Truth comes out..
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Ok, lets see,,,,. lie or truth, temp high feelings or dealing with REAL feelings... here it all goes.. I did good for a while... well a couple months since last time.. but I drank tonight. as I type this its 11:50 my time so my new sobriety date is 3-6-11 kinda a weird date but Im kinda weird. with all the p...
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SoberSteve
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We are living in an alcohol obsessed society.
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It says in our authoritive text for living, that alcoholism is a mental obsession coupled with a physical compulsion. Accepted fact. What it doesn't say, that I have found to be absolutely true , is that I am living in an alcohol OBSESSED society, no wonder it's so easy to stay out there drinking an...
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Jamie D
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I got my licence back today
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A little over ten years ago I lost my licence for DUI and never bothered to go and get it back. What was the point? I would never have been sober enough to drive anyway and I would have just been caught again or killed myself or others. So back then I made a promise to myself that I would only get it back when I st...
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Frodo
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Today has had it's ups, but one major downer.
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A friend of my who is a alcoholic (he had been sober for years), has been a great source of encouragement for me the last few years. He is a devoted Christian and we have had some of the best talks. He helped with identifying my problem with alcohol and encouraged me to attend the first AA meeting. I love t...
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Mad_Jasper
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Alanons 60th
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I went to an Alanon 60th mini convention with my wife. She was beautifully dressed in a modern Indian sari. The strange irony of all this, is that my wife did not want anything to do with Alanon or it's recovery program when I came into AA. So much for the spouses support. In fact she always said that I was no...
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gonee
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Recovering Addict With No Where Else to Turn
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First, let me tell you about myself... My name is Richie, I am 28 and I am a recovering addict. I have a beautiful 2 year old son and four year old daughter and am trying to get better for them. When I talk to my children every evening they ask me when their Daddy will be coming back home... I do not know what t...
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Richie23
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Daily Reflections ~ The Key is Willingness & 24hrs a Day
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Once we have placed the key of willingness in the lock and have the door ever so slightly open, we find that we can always open it some more. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 35 The willingness to give up my pride and self-will to a Power greater than myself has proved to be the only ingredient absolu...
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Fellowship.
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The meeting after the meeting. The coffee at the coffee shop. The late night chat sessions. The coffee's at members houses. The picnic at the park on a Sunday with other members. The chat's for hours on the phone. Giving members a hand at work for a couple of days and then the impromptu AA meetings tha...
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Jamie D
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God Calling - Fear is Evil
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"Have no fear. Fear is evil and perfect Love casts out fear. There is no room for fear in the heart in which I dwell. Fear destroys Hope. It cannot exist where Love is, or where Faith is. Fear is the curse of the world. Man is afraid - afraid of poverty, afraid of loneliness, afraid of unemployme...
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gladlee
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Two weeks sober today... What a journey so far!
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It was two weeks ago today that I woke up realizing that I need to make changes in my life... the first being to quit drinking so much. That's right, I wasn't going to quit drinking entirely, just not every day. Or at least not 4-6-10-15 beers a day. Then came the anxiety, the night sweats, the confusio...
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Mad_Jasper
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First year of sobriety inquiry....
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I am only going on 3 weeks and probably a bit too optimistic, if that's possible, but I understand that there are several stages we go through the first year of sobriety. I know that everyone is different, but hoped some of you folks could share some of your experiences. I did some Google searches, but ju...
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fear or remorse
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so here i am going to meetings working the steps talking to my sponsor twice or three times daily and yet still fears of tommorow financial insecurities .starting fourth step and overwhelmed by remorse realizing that i am a self centered êrson ,its why i never fully applied the program as soon as pain c...
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attilio
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aa inclusive not exculise
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Speaking on panel and looking for some stirring conversation. I read some posts about "The Lord's Prayer" being said in meetings and loved the different views on that. So that's what I was gonna speak on a liitle, because I learned a bit from that. So any comments, reading, or suggestions w...
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God Calling ~ Love and Laugh
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"Work for Me, with Me, through Me. All work to last must be done in My Spirit. How silently My Spirit works. How gently and gradually souls are led into My Kingdom. Love and Laughter from the plough that prepares the ground for the seed. Remember this. If the ground is hard, seed will not grow t...
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Daily Reflections ~ The Idea of Faith & 24hrs a Day
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Do not let any prejudice you might have against spiritual terms deter you from honestly asking yourself what they mean to you. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 47 The idea of faith is a very large chunk to swallow when fear, doubt and anger abound in and around me. Sometimes just the idea of doing something dif...
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Thank you
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Hi, Thank you for the coda board. I have already started learning different ways of interacting. I was wondering, do you think we may be able to start an overeaters anonymous board here as well? At the moment I am unable to make it to meetings and I haven't found any online ones that are active. I'm sur...
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Tracey C
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Making Amends
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On my gravestone let it read that I passed in remorse for unkind deeds said or done to friend or foe richer or poorer youngest to old words lashed out unkind acts kinds of things never taken back let it be known my heart was not stone never taught how to give or recieve victims of victims were teachers to me
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erniej
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Great, simple description of alcoholism as an illness
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Sorry, if a re-post. From Barefoot's world.. http://www.barefootsworld.net/aaphenomcraving.html Just loved it. Makes it so understandable. Steve
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SteveP
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Glad to be here.
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I was just over 3 years sober before I would allow my sponsor to intimidate me into taking the steps of recovery. I was dying spiritually in AA because I never took the steps necessary to bring about a vital life changing spiritual experience. I discovered that I was suffering from an illness, tha...
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gonee
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I don't know how this works but it does.
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So last night I was up late learning the riff from Wish You Were Here. Posted about my Dad and this morning went to his headstone - about 80 miles north of me. For the first time in 11 years I felt the need to be with him as best I could. Bought a bunch of flowers and tidied the headstone, had a chat, told him I mis...
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bikerbill
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Fun with friends
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Enjoyed a lovely dinner & dance with all our favourite friends today. Simple, uncomplicated fellowship with love and respect for each other.
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gonee
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Desperately seeking mother's approval
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Guys, I need help. I'm struggling with a blatent alcohol dependency due to my life falling to bits around me. My girlfriend has left, my private information is being passed around the internets, and my mother just scoffs at any attempt I make to reason with her about my life! She hates the fact I took coc...
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McShae_615
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"Healthy Thoughts" (ACOA affirmations)
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"I SILENCE OLD NEGATIVE MESSAGES AND REPLACE THEM WITH HEALTHY THOUGHTS" "My beliefs affect my life. When my energy is expended on negative thoughts, I get the same old negative results. I have a very decided part in achieving the changes that I desire. I must silence the negativ...
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gladlee
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Just found my alcoholic uncle died from the disease..
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Ill be honest, im only on day 2 myself. And other than one aquaintance passing that I knew from AA, this is the first time I have to deal with this, Im not going to drink over it and this may be the final wake up I need. I am just so distraught. I dont know what to think. I was close with him most my life. Not lat...
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SoberSteve
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Daily Reflections ~ A Lifelong Task & 24hrs a Day
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"But just how, in these circumstances, does a fellow 'take it easy?' That's what I want to know." TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 26 I was never known for my patience. How many times have I asked, "Why should I wait, when I can have it all right now?" Indeed, when I was first p...
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