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Calmness
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Calmness is constructive of good; agitation is destructive of good. I should not rush into action. I should first be calm and seek guidance. Then I should act only as God directs me through my conscience. Faith and trust will keep me calm when all around me are agitated. Calmness is trust in action. I...
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Time for some honesty...
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Some of you guys know the story behind this, some of you don't. I feel like I'm taking someone else's inventory right now, so I am going to try and be honest without doing that, as much as possible.
My husband has been sober 15 years, me almost 5. He and I didn't reunite until I was sober for about 2 years.....
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Third Step Prayer
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God,
I offer myself to Thee - to build with me and do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of Life. May I do Thy Will always! Amen
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christine/catherine/CAM
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Hi everyone,
It's me, Christine. Otherwise, known as Catherine. I just redid my my account so I would be honest with everyone.
Somehow, the truth always sets you free, huh?
CAM is my initials & I also use this this acronym when in the chatroom. I go by Cam0914 (the...
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Much Love to you
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Thank you all soooo much for replying to my post. I know WHAT I have to do. God has answered my prayers on that one. Now I need to know WHEN to do it.... It can't be because I'm hoping he'll want to make a commitment, I know he won't. I can't make it an ultimatum, I know what he will ch...
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Change=Loss=Grief
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Change=Loss=Grief.
This means that:
1. A Change of circumstance of any kind (a change from one state to another) produces a Loss of some kind (the stage changed from) which will produce a Grief reaction.
2. The intensity of the grief reaction is a function of how the change-produced l...
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Just sharing stuff
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While there may be no concrete proof that a loving relationship is beneficial to one's health, it certainly seems to have a positive effect on one's overall well-being. It seems that those who are involved in a long-term relationship where each person is treated lovingly tend to be happier, more r...
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To Doll
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Well Doll. A freind of mine, on this board, shared something with me--not that long ago, and Im just sharing with you.
As much as we chase love, and wish to be loved, unconditionally--by someone else--sometimes we just hafta give up chasing and trying--where unconditional love does not fully ex...
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I will try to remember.....
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Heavenly Father, Help us remember that the jerk who cut us off in traffic last night is a single mother who worked nine hours that day and was rushing home to cook dinner, help with homework, do the laundry and spend a few precious moments with her children. Help us to remember that the pierced, tattooed...
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a great day for recovery-sept 21
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Today is September 21, 2005 A Great Day for Recovery!
ACTION
"I shall pass through this world but once. If, therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do, let me do it now; let me not defer it or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again." -- Etienne de Grell...
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Serenity Granted ??
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Good morning, all. I hope this post finds each of you happy, healthy and sober.
As most of you know I have been in a relationship for over 2 yrs and it's pretty much always been 1 sided. He's one of the "good ones", he's not in the program nor does he need to be, he cares for me, we enjoy each other and w...
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Check in
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Hi all. I'm a bit messed up at the moment, but still sober. Stress at work, anger, and depression are making life a bit hard. Just feel like sleeping or ranting all the time.
On the bright side, I've got a job interview on Wednesday for a job that will be more my type of thing.
Regarding the Slovak situa...
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HOW TO START YOUR DAY
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HOW TO START YOUR DAY WITH A POSITIVE OUTLOOK
1. Open a new file in your PC. 2. Name it "Housework." 3. Send it to the RECYCLE BIN 4. Empty the RECYCLE BIN 5. Your PC will ask you, "Are you sure you want to delete Housework permanently...
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today's thought
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Silently one by one in the infinite meadows of heaven Blossomed the lovely stars, the forget-me-nots of angels. --Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Tales told about the stars reflect a lot about the people who tell them. The constellation now called Orion was once called Hippolyta. Hippolyta was...
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today's gift
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A.A. Thought for the Day
Let us continue with Steps Four, Five, Six, Seven, and Ten. In taking a personal inventory of ourselves, we have to face facts as they really are. We have to stop running away. We must face reality. We must see ourselves as we really are. We must admit our faults openly...
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Urgency
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Letting Go of Urgency
One thing at a time.
That's all we have to do. Not two things at once, but one thing done in peace.
One task at a time. One feeling at a time. One day at a time. One problem at a time. One step at a time.
One pleasure at a time.
Relax. Let go of urgency. Begin calmly now. Take one...
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always in you
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Tuesday, September 20, 2005
Always in you You cannot hold on to any moment, for as soon as you know it is here it will be gone. What you can do, though, is to live each moment fully so its value will always be with you.
You cannot bring back the fondly remembered circumstances of the past. Yet what you ca...
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The Way It Used To Be
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Dr. Phil proclaimed the way to achieve inner peace is to finish all the things you have started. So I looked around my house to see things I started and hadn't finished; and, before leaving the house this morning finished off a bottle of Merlot, a bottle of White Zinfandel, a bottle of Baileys, a bottle o...
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mornin'
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had a busy few days,
my youngest daughter just stopped in, upset, to get some of her clothes, says her Dad won't let her come here anymore.
he can't do that, she's crying
she got a 'job' selling chocolates after school, got paid on saturday and bought herself a hat. he's mad that she spent her money...
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Humor for the day
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Two drunks were attending the funeral of another old drinking buddy. After viewing the deceased, one turned to the other and commented, "Old Dan actually looked pretty good, don't you think?"
The other replied, "Well, he oughta! He hasn't had a drink in 3 days!"
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A Biggy Y'all
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And acceptance is the answer to all my problems
today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some
person, place, thing, or situation—some fact of my life
—unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until
I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being
exactly the way it is...
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Today I Will Remember
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It's still not exactly a "piece of cake" for me to accept today's occasional pain and anxiety with any great degree of serentiy, but I'm increasingly able to be thankful for a certain amount of pain. In The Program, we find the willingness to do this by going over the lessons learned from past suffering...
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fourth step
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anyone got any suggestions how to approach this? i seem to have a mental block and cannot seem to get started.
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Relaps
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I have been in AA for two years. I quit going to meetings about a year ago. I felt like I was bored and joining a cult or something.I kept in contact with God and was doing great ,at least I thought. Gosh, was I wrong ! About a 6 wks. ago I got a bottle and I didn't stop for 3wks.I got in a fight with my...
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today's thought
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Education should be the process of helping everyone to discover his uniqueness. --Leo Buscaglia
We are each special, which means there is not another person just like ourselves. Nobody looks just like us. Nobody's voice sounds quite like our own. And nobody thinks through a story just like w...
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Phil
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Read your message down below.
My phone is out.
The Repair man was here but i was out , so he didn't fix it.
I tested it and The problem is outside the house, so I guess he wanted to visit or something????????
God only knows what might go thru ones head.
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today's gift
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Having realistic expectations.
Sometimes we expect much too much of people and things. We will never be happy if we expect our doctor to work instant cures or if we blame our teacher for what we failed to learn. We need to examine what's realistic to expect of others and what we are responsib...
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need an answer pleeze
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thanks for the real nice replies from befor. i dont have a new sponsor yet and i need to know somehting . i did my 5th step with a fellow AA that i trust which has lead me to start thinkin about the 9th one. but i cant ask them this questin cuz it might be stupid.
when i make amends to ppl do i have to tell them WHA...
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Patience
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Patience is the ability to: Sit back and wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration. Let go of your need for immediate gratification. Display tolerance, compassion, understanding, and acceptance toward those who are slower than you in develo...
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I am back (and sober)!
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I checked out of the detox center this morning and am celebrating my 4th day of sobriety! The first day was hell, but once I got the alcohol out of my system I started feeling better. They did not allow us to smoke at all and we were only allowed outside for 30 minutes a day which really&...
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To Lynn
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Your question about "Just saying sorry for all you did to that person, while you were drinking" keeps it pretty simple Lynn.
I know there are still times, I hafta talk to a sponsor about things, and get a second opinion.
Sometimes --2 heads are better then one.:)
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todays gift 9/18
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Young man, the secret of my success is that at an early age I discovered I was not God. --Oliver Wendell Holmes
Sometimes, in our families, we try to get parents or brothers or sisters to treat us the way we want them to, to do things we want them to. When they're upset or angry with us, we try to get the...
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108 AA Slogans
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1.... Easy does it 2.... First things first 3.... Live and let live 4.... But for the grace of god 5....Think......Think.......Think 6....One day at time 7....Let go and Let God 8....Kiss---keep it simple stupid 9....Act as if......... 10....This too shall pass 11....Expect miracles 12....I ca...
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Gammy Rose and Doll
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Its so nice to see your names again.
Seem to have everyone on my mind these days. You are like my extended family. I see ya's posting right now and though maybe you would see my message.
Doll you sure sound like you are doing good these days. So happy for ya.
Nancy Jo
Didn't intentionall...
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Fear & Loathing
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I've been in the program for 18 months now. I had a brief relapse in July, I think, because I was white-knuckling it. Just like before I came to the rooms I like to be in control of everything. I want others to think I'm in control of everything. Deep down, however, I am terrifie...
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Cool Way To Think
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A 92 year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is full dressed every morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.
His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.
Afte...
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today's gift 9/19
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We believe in Human Ecology, the understanding and care of human beings as whole persons in light of their relationship to God, themselves, their families, and the society in which they live. --The philosophy of Human Ecology
The philosophy of Human Ecology covers all three aspects o...
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thoughts
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I will, I will accept myself With hope and fear and wonder And what I have joined together Let no man put asunder. --Dory Preven
There is a wonderful freedom in acceptance. When we accept ourselves, with all our imperfections, we can then begin to accept others just as they are. This is especiall...
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Self Esteem
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What is self-esteem?
People with self-esteem:
Hold themselves as worthy to be loved and to love others, worthy to be cared for and to care for others, worthy to be nurtured and to nurture others, worthy to be touched and supported and to touch and support others, worthy to be listened to and to li...
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Scary eh?
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Letting the Good Stuff Happen
Before recovery, my relationships were lousy. I didn't do very well on my job. I was enmeshed in my dysfunctional family. But at least I knew what to expect! --Anonymous
I want the second half of my life to be as good as the first half was miserable. Sometimes, I'm afr...
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Thanks to all
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Good morning all! Especially good without the hangover or wondering what I might have said or done to hurt someone (emotionally) in an alcoholic haze.
I would like to thank everyone for your caring words and responses to my very first post on this message board. I was a little worried that it might...
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big book
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As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done." We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, se...
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Organ donation
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Found this when I was doing some research for the job that I'm hoping to get on Wednesday. Never really thought about this before. It makes sence to me at least! (this isn't written by me and I don't have a name to credit it to).
Give my sight to the man who has never seen a sunrise
The day will come when my...
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Goodmorning all ...
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Goodmorning, I haven't been on for awhile...just got my PC moved to my Mom's yesterday and phone service the day before. So I'll get caught up on reading the posts.
Today is going to be a busy day, I'm winding up the packing and my kids will be here tomorrow to help with thw physical moving.I'm so glad th...
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To Catherine
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Congradulations Catherine on 4 weeks-one day at a time. A big step forward.
Nursing home hu? I operate a taxi company, and I pick these people up, and return them to the nursing home, after they roam the streets, and run out of power, with those electric carts.
Some of these people dont need electri...
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I Read Your Post Chris
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My Grandpappy used to say "Sometimes, it takes a bigger man, just to walk away from some people, and things,-- that can send us into oblivion, and reactive insanity."
Easy to say-sometimes difficult to do.
There are still things today, that Ide like to react to.
Still situations, that Ide like...
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~~FRIENDS WITHOUT FACES~~
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~~FRIENDS WITHOUT FACES~~ We sit and we type, and we stare at our screens We all have to wonder, what this possibly means. With our mouse we roam, through the rooms in a maze Looking for something or someone, as we sit in a daze. We chat with each other, we type all our woes Small groups we do form, and gang up...
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Blessed with the disease fo Alcoholism
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When I first came into the AA program I had no idea that it had such a spiritual foundation. When I realized this, I had no problem at all. I actually welcomed it. I've always believed in a loving, caring, forgiving God. He never turned his back on me, I turned mine on Him because of the shame and guil...
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Trust Your Heart
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"We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us." BB pp 84 Call it what you will - trusting your heart, listening to your inner voice, going with your gut, relying on your intuition... any of these things. How do you feel about trusting your heart, or relying on your intuition...
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Loving Truth
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Loving Truth
Since it is truth that sets us free - free from our addiction and free from crippling fear - we come to love this truth, even when it hurts. It was mainly our fear that kept us from recognizing the truth about ourselves. We needed help and support from a Higher Power before we could face real...
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