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Moving this to the top Gem...
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alligot wrote: I am always working on this one ! it is the silly little things i have to watch, only this morning i was preparing for breakfast i got out the bowls and plates and my husband ( who was ready early ) began to cut the fruit and put it into the bowls i use the plates for fruit and the bowls for cereal h...
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check out the bruise
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Relationship Martyrs
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Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships. We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, whether we're talking about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. We all need to interact with pe...
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Really bad way
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Hi Ya all, well as some of you may remember me you´ll know I haven´t been around for a while. Well what can i say? I moved to spain as i said i would and it has been one hellish ride after the other, I´m drinking like there´s no tomorrow, I even thought about taking my own life thursday morning just to stop the p...
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went to the "other side" lol
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"other side" being alanon... that's what we said down in Memphis if an AA went to alanon... lol there was a lot of anymosity between AA and alanon there... Anyway... finally got up the courage to try an alanon meeting... all this going on with my bf... and seeing those alanon tendenci...
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Accepting the Journey of Others
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Each of us, in life, walks on the special path that the soul is destined to undertake. Our journeys are very different and we progress at different rates. The pitfalls and blessings we encounter are unique, yet we are all learning and no one form of knowledge is more important than any other. Even so, wh...
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WANT OR A NEED
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Guys In reading the BIG book, I came across this sentance. "We are taught to differentiate between our wants (which are never satisfied) and our needs (which are always provided for).....Page 559. This Is confusing me... As you know I have a Recovering A in my life.. Who's working the programm...
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Smile its the start of another day.........
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I came across this wee story a while back, thought it may give you all a little cheer to start your week............. An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always del...
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Hey folks
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Just thought I'd check in, I'm still alive and sober. Been keeping busy and well gonna be a busy week this week. company coming from Toronto on thursday for my daughters graduation. And wow working lots. My son is doing extremly well and well our relationship is turned out positively better, I go se...
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Making Life Easier
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Life doesn't have to be hard. Yes, there are times we need to endure, struggle through, and rely on our survival skills. But we don't have to make life, growth, recovery, change, or our day-to-day affairs that hard all the time. Having life be that hard is a remnant of our martyrdom, a leftover from old w...
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Don't Claim Baggage Pain!!
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One of the greatest enemies to experiencing true love is one of the most widely known but least understood. It is commonly classified as baggage. Everyday this seemingly invisible monster corrodes the best of relationships, marriages and intentions. Distressingly, some men and women, unwittin...
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Being Vulnerable
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Part of recovery means learning to share ourselves with other people. We learn to admit our mistakes and expose our imperfections - not so that others can fix us, rescue us, or feel sorry for us, but so we can love and accept ourselves. This sharing is a catalyst in healing and changing. Many of us are fea...
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Why We Lash Out
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Each one of us has experienced situations where we've found ourselves lashing out at someone without meaning to. We later berate ourselves for losing control and feel guilty for treating the other person badly. And while it is human nature that our emotions and moods will get the better of us from t...
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Happy Fathers Day!!!
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Have a good day tomorrow...Guys.... And a great weekend, also. That goes for all the gals here too... Some of us, are Fathers AND Mothers.... Mine are grown up now....and I'm the one thats leaving home.... Yahoo!!! Onward!!!!
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Surrender
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Master the lessons of your present circumstances. We do not move forward by resisting what is undesirable in our life today. We move forward, we grow, we change by acceptance. Avoidance is not the key; surrender opens the door. Listen to this truth: We are each in our present circumstances for a reaso...
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I need help
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after being sober almost 14 years, I started drinking. I dont have Inc. so I cant go into detox . I want my life back. Ive even thought of ending it all because I feel like such a looser. I want to detox myself. ANY advice would help.PLEASE., pray for me.
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PISSED off! Yet, still grateful
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That's it! -- Edited by Doll at 08:52, 2007-06-16
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Transformation
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"The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones." -- William Faulkner Longing for a miracle that will transform your life? Miracles happen, and if we dont want that magic to disappear on us, we need to learn from each epiphany -- to integrate it, apply it, and build on it...
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sad
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.... hello family with a great big hug my nieces's daddy died this week, he would have been 42 this year. he was drunk...and home alone...we believe he had an asthma attack..they say that an asthma attack can go into cardiac arrest. my niece is 19 years old and has been named beneficiery. All decisions r...
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The Prescription
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We see so many people in meetings, and out on the streets, still stumbling around with the program, hurting, whining and crying, still all covered up with the Great 3 S's of our disease, Self-pity, Self-righteousness, and Self-Bullshit, and wondering why they can't get "IT" . . . In every...
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Feeling Good
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Having boundaries doesn't complicate life; boundaries simplify life. -- Beyond Codependency There is a positive aspect to boundary setting. We learn to listen to ourselves and identify what hurt us and what we don't like. But we also learn to identify what feels good. When we are willing to take som...
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need encouragement
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i want to quit. i quit for a year and went back. then i quit for about 7 months and went back. i want and need to quit for good. also, i feel ashamed that my twin sons have seen me drink at inappropriate times and places. please help.
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Demolishing Anger's Walls
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June 14, 2007 Demolishing Angers Walls Resentment Anger, when channeled into the pursuit of change, can be a useful tool in our emotional palette. Anger is experienced by most people, some more than others. It is when anger has no outlet and morphs into resentment that it carries with it the potenti...
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Change
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I can change only myself, but sometimes that is enough. -- Ruth Humlecker Happiness is more fleeting for some of us than for others. We may ponder this notion but fail to grasp the reason. However, careful attention to how "the happy ones" go through life will enlighten us. We will note how s...
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Daily Reflections June 15
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MAKING A. A. YOUR HIGHER POWER ". . . . . You can . . . make A. A. itself your 'higher power.' Here's a very large group of people who have solved their alcohol problem. . . . .many members . . . . have crossed the threshold just this way. . . . .their faith broadened and deepened. . . . transformed, they cam...
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Daily Reflections June 14
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WHEN THE GOING GETS ROUGH It is a design for living that works in rough going. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 15 When I came to A.A., I realized that A.A. worked wonderfully to help keep me sober. But could it work on real life problems, not concerned with drinking? I had my doubts. After being sober for more th...
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June 14 - A.A. Thought for the Day
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In A.A. we have to learn that drink is our greatest enemy. Although we used to think that liquor was our friend, the time came when it turned against us and became our enemy. We don't know just when this happened, but we know that it did because we began to get into trouble-jails and hospitals. We realize n...
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Steps made simple
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step 1-- accept the truth step 2 --have faith in the truth step 3 --commit to the truth step 4 -- examine the truth step 5-- share the truth step 6-- want the truth step 7 -- be the truth step 8 --find the truth step 9-- recover the truth step 10 -- be aware of the truth step 11 -- live the truth step 12 -- give the t...
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does this sound dodgy to you guys?
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(email from the seller of an item i won on ebay): Item: Korg Triton Rack - Excellent Condition - Extra RAM () This message was sent after the listing closed. "Your item is in the mail, sorry for the delay... I have an unusual request. There is a grey plastic bag attached to the outside of the box...
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REMEMBERING SEX....LOL
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(((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))) I read a post about Intamacy, and wow, It has given me some food for thought. For the last few years, I have not gone near sex..Because I never trusted anyone enough to let them close to me. Last year I started having sex, as you all know. And It was like learning...
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Guilt and Shame
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Two distinct ways of feeling "bad" afflict every human being. How those afflictions work -- and how they can be healed -- find clearest expression in the lives of alcoholics and addicts. Neither experience is unique to the alcoholic, but each has a special place in the process of recovery...
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Letting Go Of Timing
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"When the time is right, child." When the time is right. How often have we heard those words - from a friend, a sponsor, our Higher Power? We want things so badly - that job, that check, a relationship, a possession. We want our life to change. So we wait, sometimes patiently, sometimes anxio...
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man im in pain
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Howdy folks. I was assulted today, some person who I shall call THUG decided that it would be a good idea to throw (like a frisbie) a car hub cap at me. It shocked me as if my calculations are correct the hub cap travelling at say 20 and me at 50= a sore chest. The only snag was I was on my motorbike with no jacket...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 12th June 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ When we came into A.A., we made a tremendous discovery. We found that we were sick persons rather than moral lepers. We were not such odd ducks as we thought we were. We found other people who had the same illness that we had, who had been through the same experiences that we had been th...
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Empowered Perspective
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When someone has hurt us, consciously or unconsciously, one of the most difficult things we have to face in resolving the situation is the act of forgiveness. Sometimes it feels like it's easier not to forgive and that the answer is to simply cut the person in question out of our lives. In some cases, en...
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Change
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"I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacations with better care than they plan their lives. Perhaps that is because escape is easier than change." -- Jim Rohn "Slowness to change usually means fear of the new." -- Philip Crosby Just as the tumultuous chaos of a thu...
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Depression and Despair
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Do we go about our daily work dutifully but joylessly? Have we settled for less in our jobs, homes, or relationships than we want? Have we substituted financial security or physical comfort for the freedom to pursue our heart's desires? Very few of us give ourselves the opportunities to explore our r...
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Owning the Roots~OM
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Leading By Example We all know from experience that we cant change other people, yet most of us have a tendency to try. This is because we naturally feel the need to do something to change situations that we find troubling. It often doesnt occur to us that the best way to create change is not to try to convi...
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Daily Reflections June 13
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LIVING OUR AMENDS "Years of living with an alcoholic is almost sure to make any wife or child neurotic. The entire family is to some extent, ill." ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 122 It is important for me to realize that, as an alcoholic, I not only hurt myself, but also those around me. Making ame...
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rough day... not much serenity right now...
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Started off the day checking on my babies out in the barn... and I lost 2 turkeys... I left them loose in the barn last night, I really think something scared these 2, or at least one of them, he was between 2 cages with his wing stuck through the bars of one, spread out, and his head twisted around in the ot...
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Website difficulties ???????
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I've gotten some PM's and a couple emails asking if I'm OK, "you don't post the Daily Reflections anymore" - Just wanted you all to know it's due to this site. I usually posted the DR from work on my break, but over the last month or so it takes forever to sign on, start a new topic etc.......It's...
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Hanging on to Old Relationships
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We want to travel baggage-free on this journey. It makes the trip easier. Some of the baggage we can let go of is lingering feelings and unfinished business with past relationships: anger, resentments, feelings of victimization, hurt, or longing. If we have not put closure on a relationship, if we c...
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first timer
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Hello. This is my first post here. I found this site after being fortunate enough to hear from 5 members of AA last week. I was pulled over in January and received my first DUI. I have been attending a drunk driver program to get my license back. It was suspended for 90 days. One of the guys said something th...
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Spontaneity and Fun
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Practice being spontaneous. Practice having fun. The joy of recovery is that we finally get to experiment. We get to learn new behaviors, and we don't have to do them perfectly. We only need to find a way that works for us. We even have fun experimenting, learning what we like, and how to do what we like. M...
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I felt sorry for myself before
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Sometimes I like a little emotional feedback for mental (& perhaps ego stimulation). I've been allowing my stories & attitude to unfold in response to other people's posts & not starting very many of my own at all. Is it a faux pas to share of yourself in reply to another's post & then e...
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Ten Months WAS Today
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That didn't sound right. No, I didn't fail at 9 months, thirty days...It's just that I was so busy today I didn't realize it until I came here a few minutes ago. Cool! Life is good. And in the last post from Quetzal about the Five freedoms, Thinktank had mentioned something about the ability to reali...
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Daily Reflections June 12
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FORMING TRUE PARTNERSHIPS But it is from our twisted relations with family, friends, and society at large that many of us have suffered the most. We have been especially stupid and stubborn about them. The primary fact that we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with an...
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Just for today...and Keep on truckin!!
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"When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation--some fact of my life--unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment."--Alcoholics Anonym...
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depression when quitting drinking?
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hi all, a month ago, my A has deceided to get back into AA. (was very involved for 3 years then fell off the wagon for a while) since returning to AA he is so quiet. doesn't talk much. i am just wondering what he is going through. is this usual when someone stops drinking? thanks and have a good one........
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Worries
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Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, but only saps today of its strength. - A. J. Cronin There is always something to worry about. What if it rains tomorrow on the family picnic? What if the baby gets sick and we can't go? What if we can't find a shady spot for our lunch table? Will the water be too cold fo...
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