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Letting Go
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Stop trying so hard to control things. It is not our job to control people, outcomes, circumstances, and life. Maybe in the past we couldn't trust and let things happen. But we can now. The way life is unfolding is good. Let it unfold. Stop trying so hard to do better, be better, and be more. Who we are and t...
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What are your difficulties?
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In the third step prayer in the Big Book, it says..."take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love,and Thy Way of Life. After some time in the program I had to ask myself, what difficulties am I having that are keeping me from turning m...
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Ugh, I need to stop worrying...
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Went to the dr again yesterday... he's still trying to put me on anti-psychotics, gave me samples, but I'm not taking them. He lectured me on the smoking, refused to see again unless I quit, and bf jumped in on it a bit too but not so bad... well, I pretty much broke down... threw the cigs away... prob...
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Daily Reflections July 26
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THE "WORTH" OF SOBRIETY Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. TWELVE AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 160 When I go shopping I look at the prices and if I need what I see, I buy it and pay. Now that I am supposed to be in rehabilitation, I have to straig...
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Clarity
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I know better than to not trust God. But sometimes, I forget that. When we are in the midst of an experience, it is easy to forget that there is a Plan. Sometimes, all we can see is today. If we were to watch a weaver sewing a tapestry for only a few moments, and focused on only a small piece of the work, it would...
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It isn't easy :(
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Hi all again, it's the sad one back, just wanted to let you know I read all you replys to my last post and I am truelu greatful. I'm trying i am, but things aren't always as easy as they seem. Time will tell, Sorry if I seem or come across as flippant, I don't mean it, I'm british! Kate.xx
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Hi Folks, 18 months sober
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Just browsing through my favourites and thought I'd pop in and say hello. I'm still coping with the fact that sobriety doesn't bring; riches, success, spiritual enlightenment, but that's cool, that's why it's called being sober, aka being realistic. Hope everyone is OK. Pauly
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Daily Reflections July 25
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THOSE WHO STILL SUFFER For us, if we neglect those who are still sick, there is unremitting danger to our own lives and sanity. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 151 I know the torment of drinking compulsively to quiet my nerves and my fears. I also know the pain of white-knuckled sobriety. Today,...
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Cravings
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Hi I need to share loads just need to get it out. I have allways been a binge drinker thought since i have started AA i now notice i get cravings. I had a great day today then 5pm sat down reading feeling good and next minuite my mind is thinking of drink. From no where. Then it,s like having two voice...
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It's a Third Step Kind of a Day
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Hi everyone - I've been reading everyone's posts over the last few weeks, and it has been very helpful to me. I'm having "one of those days", so I thought I would write about it and just get over it. The funny thing is, "one of those days" really isn't that bad anymore. At least I'...
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Be careful of what you ask for when you Pray
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Since coming back into recovery, Iv been having a hard time putting down the big stick Ive been beating myself with for picking up where I had left off 13 years ago. Last night, I was REALLY down on myself and thinking what a looser I was for what I had done. All that self-pity we read about in the Big Book wa...
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Keep at It
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Keep practicing your recovery behaviors, even when they feel awkward, even when they haven't quite taken yet, even if you don't get it yet. Sometimes it takes years for a recovery concept to move from our mind into our heart and soul. We need to work at recovery behaviors with the diligence, effort, an...
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Language of the Soul
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The Paradox Of Spirit Each of us has a spiritual self that animates our bodies and infuses our thoughts and feelings. Our language is limited to the world we know for descriptions of something that perhaps cannot be fully comprehended by the human mind. Therefore, only metaphors approach the expres...
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Long Strange Trip.
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Last Tuesday I turned 52 but today the 23th I turned 11. In some ways it seems like yesterday and in others it seems like a lifetime ago. I'd been trying off and on to quit by my on will for quite awhile and on July 14th I had my last drunk, on the 18th I had my last drink a bottle of Bass Ale and I knew that I needed o...
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Denial
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Denial is a powerful tool. Never underestimate its ability to cloud your vision. Be aware that, for many reasons, we have become experts at using this tool to make reality more tolerable. We have learned well how to stop the pain caused by reality - not by changing our circumstances, but by pretending...
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Hi just me
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Just wanted to check in I'm doing fine, been a little busy but keeping myself from that negative thinking, surrounding the aniversaries of my parents death. But I guess in do time it gets easier to deal with. My daughters been away quite a bit since schools been out, she's on her second week of camp, and...
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Blackouts during new sobriety?
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I don't know what is wrong with me. For those unacquainted with me, I am in my eighth day of sobriety. Realized at 30 that I am an alcoholic. Although I was not an everyday drinker, giving it up for good seems to be really messing with my head. On my first day sober, I was out of town (that's where the epiph...
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Off the board for a few...
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A saying I heard somewhere..... Take care of yourselves and each other... And keep on going forward....one day at a time Love...
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Making It Happen
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Stop trying so hard to make it happen. Stop doing so much, if doing so much is wearing you out or not achieving the desired results. Stop thinking so much and so hard about it. Stop worrying so about it. Stop trying to force, to manipulate, to coerce, or to make it happen. Making things happen is controlli...
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Given Choice
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Freedom of choice is more to be treasured than any possession earth can give. -- David O. McKay I want to choose the details of my life. Fortunately, Ive come to appreciate how important it is to give others the freedom to choose their own paths. None of us wants our choice robbed from us. I cant know whats...
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Dependency
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Dependency (on another human being) is the inability to experience wholeness or to function adequately without the certainty that one is being actively cared for by another. -- M. Scott Peck No matter what we may think, overdependence on another can be very unloving because it drains others of any c...
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Learning to Trust Again
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Many of us have trust issues. Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never to be kept. Some of us tried to trust people for the impossible; for instance, trusting a practicing alcoholic not to drink again. Some of us trusted our Higher...
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help!!!
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Hi, I'm new to this forum, but not to recovery. I have been in rehab 3 times, and do ok for awhile, but when I start working on my personal inventory, I recall all the things I have done to people in my life, and I get so overwhelmed with guilt and such unbearable shame, I relapse. I am now on my 17th day of bein...
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New Here
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Hi All, I am Janet. I am new here to AA and this board. I have a little over 60 days sobriety and am so grateful to have found AA. I look forward to get to know others here.
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New in New York City (long, but need a group)
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Hello to everyone. My name is John. I am an attorney in New York City. As of Sunday, I am a recovering alcoholic. I don't know exactly how this is supposed to go, so I will tell my story. I began drinking at 16, and am not sure when exactly things became out of control. I always had, and still did have, eve...
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McStagger
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McStagger, Youv'e been silent for a while. That is okay. We all need "quite time" to reflect and we all "journey" at our own individual pace. Just want to let you know that you were not forgotten. Wishing you well and hoping you are finding the blessings that only sobrie...
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Sharing
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It is such a joy, to see the young people, that have shared on this board, come into AA and grasp a new way of life... I was 29 when I went to my first AA meeting, and wasnt ready to give up... It took another 8 years of hell, before surrendering.. Ive been in AA for quite a number of days....and as each day goes b...
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Daily Reflections July 20
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SHORTCOMINGS REMOVED But now the words "Of myself I am nothing, the Father doeth the works" began to carry bright promise and meaning. 12 & 12, p. 75 When I put the Seventh Step into action I must remember that there are no blanks to fill in. It doesn't say, "Humbly asked Him to (fill...
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Courage and Patience
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Courage is not grim determination, boastful arrogance, or uncontrolled aggression. True courage comes from quiet conviction, which shows itself in self-control, calm assurance, and patient persistence. It takes courage, for example, to resist lashing back at others who hurt or offend us. It t...
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And Acceptance Is The Key...
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"When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation--some fact of my life--unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. "--Alcoholics Anonym...
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Found this funny
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Mgla1CyMAU
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A Reminder
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To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outco...
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Wife Keeps Talking About Travel
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As some of you know from reading my first post, I am new to this forum and to AA. My wife and I have always loved to travel. She is obsessed with the idea that we will go to Italy. On my first day of sobriety, I said, "I'm not touring Tuscany." She took that OK. However, when she brought up Rome...
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Daily Reflections July 19
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FALSE PRIDE, p.209 Many of us who had thought ourselves religious awoke to the limitations of this attitude. Refusing to place God first, we had deprived ourselves of His help. 12 & 12, p. 75 Many false notions operate in false pride. The need for direction to live a decent life is satisfied by the h...
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Opening the Heart
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Everything is made of light; everything is alive. The Great Mystery of life has little to do with intelligence. The universe is not an intellectual process. The intellect is helpful; but our hearts are the wiser part of ourselves. -- Mellen-Thomas Benedict Heart is a word that refers to many differe...
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More Good News
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Hi everyone, this is Rosco here to share a bit of good news. I have been accepted into a alcoholic program in south Jersey. I've been out of a 25 day program since 06/22/07. Iam proud to say that I have been making meetings and following the AA program. I have never been more happy than I am right now. It has b...
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30 months
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I have been sober 30 months today. One day at a time. Thanks u all!!!!! If this board wasnt here, i would still be out there, You helped me get to my first aa meeting, and still walk with me, Wagon
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Jul 18 Daily Reflections
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GRATEFUL FOR WHAT I HAVE, p.208 During this process of learning more about humility, the most profound result of all was the change in our attitude toward God. 12 & 12, p. 75 Today my prayers consist mostly of saying thank you to my Higher Power for my sobriety and for the wonder of God's abundance, b...
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Time to Get Angry
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It's about time you got angry - yes, that angry. Anger can be such a potent, frightening emotion. It can also be a feeling that guides us to important decisions, sometimes decisions difficult to make. It can signal other people's problems, our problems, or simply problems we need to address. We deny o...
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Love, in Words and Actions
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Many of us have confused notions about what it means to be loved and cared about. Many of us were loved and cared for by people who had discrepancies between what they said and did. We may have had a mother or father who said, "I love you" to us, and then abandoned or neglected us, giving us confu...
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The OldTimer & The NewComer
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His name is Bill. He has wild hair, wears a T-shirt with holes in it, jeans,and no shoes. This was literally his wardrobe for the past four years of life He is brilliant. Kind of profound and very, very bright. He became a alcoholic while attending college. Things have only gone down hill since. Across t...
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Back to the basics
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Hi all Went my second meetin since friday, sure felt good to get to them. Seen alot of fimiliar faces and well felt home. Thankful that this forums here too and well couldn't be more at ease with myself now and all is will with my kids. thanks tina
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Does this seem strange?
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Hi guys, It's been a while since I have checked in. I had an interesting thing happen to me the other day and I'd like to run it by you all. I have been primarily in al-anon and in one of my meetings I have an older gentleman friend who works both programs. Ocasionally after meetings some of us will get to...
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Wedding Video
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Hi everyone, What an experience getting married has been after 15 years of being solo. Rose really worked hard to put it together. Actually built our wedding cake piece by piece, purchasing what she needed for it over a 4 week period over ebay. The reception food was prepared by members of the Miracle...
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Main message for humanity
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ˇ Only by the grace of god, the ego can be dissolved and eternal happiness can be achieved. ˇ To smilingly accept the will of God. ˇ Selfless service of humanity is the true worship of God. ˇ Women deserve the same respect as men. ˇ Truth is highest of all, higher still is truthful living. I like that though...
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New to this forum
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Hello. I'm new to this forum and glad I found it. I'm 8 years sober and love the sober life. I don't get to as many f2f meetings as I used to so I decided to look on-line.
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Just popping in
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First, let me say to ya like we say down here in South La. "Hey y'all !" Hope everyones doing good. If not, dont drink anyway! Things are going good here. working on week 6. (Mike's on week 2). Both of us are really trying. I found out he has a little problem with reading, so, him living next door,...
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Daily Reflections July 17
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SURRENDER AND SELF-EXAMINATION My stability came out of trying to give, not out of demanding that I receive. Thus I think it can work out with emotional sobriety. If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency and its consequent unheal...
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Daily Reflections July 16
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SURRENDER AND SELF-EXAMINATION My stability came out of trying to give, not out of demanding that I receive. Thus I think it can work out with emotional sobriety. If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency and its consequent unheal...
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hey y'all, just checkin in...
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Hey y'all, Life's been busy to say the least... bf and our friend have been cleanin up the farm, scrapping metal... our friend got his semi and trailer over here the other day, had the trailer loaded up with junk cars to haul in, about 7 I think, piled 3 high... lol We've been out workin in the garden... we l...
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