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Is alcohol the problem or a symptom?
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When you first started drinking was it because you liked the feeling or was it a solution for other problems?
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The "dating posts"
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I really love this Board, thanks to everyone who posts, I havent posted much, but I do read a lot. Tonight when I signed on I was a little wound up because I have been spending a lot of time on the net posting my profile and looking at profiles on internet dating sites. And as soon as I started reading the po...
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We're only as sick as our secrets.
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Mine is I never finished college and few people knew this. I was up for a promotion at work, I'm qualified and after holding the position I have for more than 5 yrs, I have the experience. But because I don't have that piece of paper they gave it to someone who does! Soooo, I've decided to go back to school....
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Growing in Recovery
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First of all I would like to say hello to everyone. It has been quite sometime since I have been on the message board. I recently celebrated a year and it was a very good year. I know for some people the first year is hard. I found it to be much easier than drinking everyday. Thanks to my HIgher Power I h...
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Another thought on co-dependancy, counterdependency
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Hi, I have been mulling over the thoughts on co-dependency and counterdependency again and was wondering if this is actually why I am like I am. I have never thought about WANTING to be independant, or PROVING that im independant, its just the way it happened when i had to leave home. When I say that I li...
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Leaving Room for Feelings
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We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings.
We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes - difficult ones, sometimes disruptive ones, and som...
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Day 3
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Hi All, I have been sober for 3 days today and I am so grateful to not be hung over and feeling like my life is out of my hands. I helped my daughter in law with she and my sons budget and to teach her somethings about interest rates etc. This was yesterday. It was a great day and I played with my grandkids a bit a...
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People Places and Things
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Hi all, I have been fighting to stay sober for a number of months now and have had a hard time due to a breakup from an abusive relationship and not wanting to face the pain of it all and because that is my coping mechanism. One big problem that arises in me is dealing with certain people who drink and live in u...
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Whiteboard?
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Hi all It showed I had two white board messages but when I checked it only showed one. Do you know how that works anyone? Thank you Rosie
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Daily Reflections ~ Repairing The Damage
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We attempt to sweep away the debris which has accumulated out of our effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves. If we havent the will to do this, we ask until it comes. Remember it was agreed at the beginning we would go to any lengths for victory over alcohol. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 76 Maki...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 14th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "None of us like to think that we are bodily and mentally different from others. Our drinking careers have been characterized by countless vain attempts to prove that we could drink like other people. This delusion that we are like other people has to be smashed. It has b...
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Owning Our Power
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Many of us have someone in our life that challenges our ability to trust and care for ourselves.
When we hear that person's voice or are in his or her presence, we may forget all we know about what is real, about how to own our power, about how to be direct, about what we know and believe to be true, about ho...
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Day 2
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Hi All, I am going to post each day and talk about how things are going. Today I got up to dishes I had not done for a few days and things to do. I always hate it when I have drank and not taken care of myself, my finances and my home. I see so much damage in all those areas and know that when I am sober I excel and feel...
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I have a date.......
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I have finally met someone who can see me through the thin outerwrapping that encompasses myself. Someone who is willing to take a chance on me again. She knows I am in recovery. My question is this. I am not very willing to lay the whole story on my sleeve for her to digest on a first date. I think that would...
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A follow on from the "I have a date" post. Questions
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Hi, with reference to the replies in the "I have a date" post, could somebody explain to me the meaning of co-dependancy cos im not too sure I understand it properly. Because of my upringing, I have always tended to stay away from relationships and have been very independant in my throughou...
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Hello All
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Hi I am a new member. I'm not sue if there's a new member section.....A little about me, I'll be 29 in 1 week and I've been drinking heavily for about 6 years. I've ended up in the hospital numerous times-blacking out in the street, fights, etc. So I would drink after long stressful days at work Even great d...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Clean Sweep
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. . . and third, having thus cleared away the debris of the past, we consider how, with our newfound knowledge of ourselves, we may develop the best possible relations with every human being we know. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 77 As I faced the Eighth Step, everything that was required for s...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 13th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "We had but two alternatives; one was to go on to the bitter end, blotting out the consciousness of our intolerable situation as best we could, and the other was to accept spiritual help. We became willing to maintain a certain simple attitude toward life. What seemed at...
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Friends
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Don't overlook the value of friendship. Don't neglect friends.
Friends are a joy. Adult friendships can be a good place for us to learn to have fun and to appreciate how much fun we can have with a friend.
Friends can be a comfort. Who knows us better, or is more able to give us support, than a good frie...
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Newcomer needing help
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Hi All, I am an alcoholic and have been in an abusive relationship with a sex addict for 8 yrs. We broke up five months ago in March and he moved to Florida. I live in Vermont. I have not had any word from him at all since March. His abuse was nonstop. Verbal, emotional and physical. I became house bound after...
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The Battles Lost... The War's Won
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Hi Everyone, Just wanted to share a "feel good" story with ya. About a month ago I received an e-mail from a lady in upstate New York. Her brother had just passed away and she was wondering if I had ever written a poem about an alcoholic going to heaven because he had already spent his time in h...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Look Backward
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First, we take a look backward and try to discover where we have been at fault; next we make a vigorous attempt to repair the damage we have done; . . . TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 77 As a traveler on a fresh and exciting A.A. journey of recovery, I experienced a newfound peace of mind and the hori...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 12th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "There was nothing left for us but to pick up the simple kit of spiritual tools laid at our feet by Alcoholics Anonymous. By doing so, we have a spiritual experience which revolutionizes our whole attitude toward life, toward others, and toward God's universe. The cent...
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Greetings from the newly sober
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Well, I have learned from other posts that I should introduce myself and qualify - so here goes! I am a 37 year old single mom from the west coast. I have a beautiful 16yr old daughter and it has basically been just the two of us for that 16 yrs. My sobriety date is 8/2/8 - and so far so good! I have heard a lot o...
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Directness
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Direct people are a joy to be around.
We never have to guess what they're really thinking or feeling, because they're honest about their thoughts and openly express their feelings.
We never have to wonder if they're with us because they want to be, or if they're there out of guilt and obligation.
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Daily Reflections ~ Removing "The Ground Glass"
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The moral inventory is a cool examination of the damages that occurred to us during life and a sincere effort to look at them in a true perspective. This has the effect of taking the ground glass out of us, the emotional substance that still cuts and inhibits. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 140 My Eighth Step list use...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 11th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "While alcoholics keep strictly away from drink, they react to life much like other people. But the first drink sets the terrible cycle in motion. Alcoholics usually have no idea why they take the first drink. Some drinkers have excuses with which they are satisfied, b...
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Step Work
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http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42763
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Healing
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Let healing energy flow through your body.
The healing energy of God, the Universe, life, and recovery surrounds us. It is available, waiting for us to draw on it, waiting for us to draw it in. It's waiting at our meetings or groups, on the words of a whispered prayer, in a gentle touch, a positive word...
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Just Wanted To Share This With You All
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Hi Guys,
Someone sent me this link this morning in an email and I just wanted to share it with you all. It's so thoughtful and peaceful and I couldn't keep it to myself.
http://www.findingjoymovie.com/
Take care,
Carol
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QUESTIONS THAT HAUNT ME!!!!!
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Can you cry under water? How important does a person have to be before they are considered assassinated instead of just murdered? Why do you have to 'put your two cents in'... But it's only a 'penny for your thoughts'? Where's that extra penny going to? Once you're in heaven, do you get stuck wearin...
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Asking for What We Need
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Decide what it is you want and need, and then go to the person you need it from and ask for it.
Sometimes, it takes hard work and much energy to get what we want and need. We have to go through the pains of identifying what we want, then struggle to believe that we deserve it. Then, we may have to experience t...
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Happy 2nd Birthday Tim!!!
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Hi Tim,
Many congratulations on two years of sobriety!!!!
That is fantastic. Well done.
And, Tim, it's so good to see you posting again! How's life treating you? I do hope that everything is great for you.
Take care,
Carol
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Daily Reflections ~ Redoubling Our Efforts
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To a degree, he has already done this when taking moral inventory, but now the time has come when he ought to redouble his efforts to see how many people he had hurt, and in what ways. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS , p. 77 As I continue to grow in sobriety, I become more aware of myself as a person of wort...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 10th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "The tremendous fact for every one of us is that we have discovered a common solution. We who have found this solution to our alcoholic problem, who are properly armed with the facts about ourselves, can generally win the entire confidence of another alcoholic. We who a...
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A warning for the newly sober and a reminder for the veterans...
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I've been with a new company since getting sober and fortunately neither my superiors nor my coworkers were made aware of my little problem with the drinky drinky. It's never really been an issue since I've managed to avoid social functions and situations where alcohol has been involved. This time h...
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Alcohol and Relationships
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When I started going out with my first serious girlfriend, who I later fell in love with, I was pretty much drinking every night, for no particular reason other than the fact that I liked to get drunk. By myself or with others, it didn't matter. Alcohol caused me and her to break up, but that's another sto...
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12 Steps....my opinion
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The 12 steps of AA 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable. 1. We admit we have given power to alcohol - that we have lost control of our lives. 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 2.Came to believe that WE could r...
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Letting Go of Perfection
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As I journey through recovery, more and more I learn that accepting myself and my idiosyncrasies - laughing at myself for my ways - gets me a lot further than picking on myself and trying to make myself perfect. Maybe that's really what it's all about - absolute loving, joyous, nurturing self-accepta...
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Daily Reflections ~ "...Of All Persons We Had Harmed"
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and became willing to make amends to them all. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 77 One of the key words in the Eighth Step is the word all. I am not free to select a few names for the list and to disregard others. It is a list of all persons I have harmed. I can see immediately that this Step entails forgi...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 9th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "We have an allergy to alcohol. The action of alcohol on chronic alcoholics is a manifestation of an allergy. We allergic types can never safely use alcohol in any form at all. We cannot be reconciled to a life without alcohol, unless we can experience an entire psychic c...
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alky in the making.
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Hi, I am so tired this morning. My son who is 16 in a couple of weeks and was supposed to be staying at his friends last night, woke me up at 4.45am (U.K.) time, with a loud bang. I thought I had burglars but when I came downstairs, he is slumped over the table, unconscious through alcohol with his feet in th...
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GRRRRRR......
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As I sit here, so angry, avoiding phone calls to go out.... I just hate not having an answer that would be acceptable to not join my friends out tonight. I don't understand how my friends can go out and have a couple and not WANT to get completely smashed; or not have a couple before we leave to insure ...
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What to do with our sobriety??? Add YOURS!!!
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The World is OURS!!!! Any more ideas??..........
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Aversion Therapy
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I was curious if any of you have ever considered this treatment method to deal with your behavioral problems surrounding alcohol?
Aversion therapy is a form of psychiatric, mental health or psychological treatment in which the patient is exposed to a stimulus while simultaneously being subjec...
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so lonely
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Hi there, I am new to this site so forgive me if I get it wrong. I am currently on day 6 of sobriety and finding it really hard tonight. I split up with my boyfriend 3 weeks ago and am finding the lonleyness and depression making me want to drink even more. I know I probably sound like a madwoman but i'm not sure...
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My photo appeared in the Washington Post on Sunday
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OK, I'll relate this to sobriety as a gift. I basically couldn't/wouldn't travel when I was drinking because I often wound up in jail for DIP or DUI. I love traveling and as some of you know this weekend I was in Akron/Canton Ohio for a couple of reasons one of which is already the subject of a thread, the ot...
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I'm Back and 2 1/2 Years Sober!
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Hi Everyone,
I got back home late yesterday after a wonderful week with my parents. We all agreed that we've never been closer and it just feels great and I couldn't be happier.
The weather wasn't too bad and I spent time with Mum and the dog down on the beach most days. Then, Mum and I spent some of the e...
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Saying Yes
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Yesterday we talked about learning to say no. Today, let's discuss another important word: Yes.
We can learn to say yes to things that feel good, to what we want - for others and ourselves.
We can learn to say yes to fun. Yes to meetings, to calling a friend, asking for help.
We can learn to say yes to...
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Newb looking for courage.
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I decided to stop drinking three weeks ago after reading "Dry" by Augusten Burroughs (really good read). I am no doubt an alcoholic, but after reading his memoir I decided that enough is enough. I dumped all my booze and have been sober since. My problem is that I am scared to death to go to...
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