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I know that it's frowned upon but is it really that big a deal? I mean seriously, how many random strangers did most of us bump uglies with while we were drinking? A lot! So what's so knicker twistingly wrong with two sober consenting adults making each other happy...physically. Maybe it's even a good thing, I mean if it makes them feel good about themselves...it could be a real self esteem builder.

"Whatver it takes to keep em coming back" that's my philosophy.

Your thoughts?







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-- Edited by Tipsy McStagger at 12:36, 2008-11-24

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The way I see it if some kind AA girlie would have given me a little lovin I might have made this sobriety thing stick the first time.














*crickets*




































Feel free to completely agree with me

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BAAAAARFFFF...

You're pathetic.....
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TM, if two consenting adults, that have less than a year decide to have a relationship, it's not 13th stepping.

this is one of your typically provocative threads, and if I'm not wrong, you've already posed this question in a previous thread that you started. Wait... I'll see if I can find it.    Yep, that didn't take long, here it is biggrin  http://aa.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42735&p=3&topicID=17388726 





-- Edited by StPeteDean at 17:00, 2008-11-24

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Aside from the fact that obsessing over indiscriminate, random, unbridled "ugly bumping" (as you describe it) is just another addictive behaviour (because our brains are screaming for more endorphins), there is actually a pretty sound reason why people in AA are strongly advised not to get intimate with another person if either of you are new to the program. 

Quite simply, Tips old man, it will definitely place the sobriety of either or both of you in jeopardy.  

And, the idea that there will be no emotional involvement..??...well...have you ever lit the fuse on a large firecracker, and then held it between you fingers because you think there is at least a % of chance that it will not explode? 

I can guarantee you that I have seen it happen more than once, even in this underpopulated neck of the woods. 

PS.  If you really only want indiscriminate sex rather than a soulmate, I understand there are internet want ad sites for 'adult dating'. 

(I have to admit, I have found that working things out with my sweet little co-dependant of twenty years has led to much more gratifying intimacy.biggrin)





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