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When Things Don't Work
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Frequently, when faced with a problem, we may attempt to solve it in a particular way. When that way doesn't work, we may continue trying to solve the problem in that same way.
We may get frustrated, try harder, get more frustrated, and then exert more energy and influence into forcing the same solut...
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Evening
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Just wanted to drop in and say That the new job is going well and that things are slowly up, and well, guess I bumped into a situation. And need some advice, now here is how it is but not sure I should bring it up on the board.... And it scares me somewhat, but not sure if i did the right thing. I feels rite and...
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Achieving Harmony
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When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he or she does not sit down and instantly play it perfectly. A pianist often needs to practice each hand's work separately to learn the feel, to learn the sound. One hand picks out a part until there is a rhythm and ease in playing what is difficult. Then, the musi...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Gift That Grows With Time
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For most normal folks, drinking means conviviality, companionship and colorful imagination. It means release from care, boredom and worry. It is joyous intimacy with friends and a feeling that life is good. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 151 The longer I chased these elusive feelings with alcohol, th...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 26th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We must know the nature of our weakness before we can determine how to deal with it. When we are honest about its presence, we may discover that it is imaginary and can be overcome by a change of thinking. We admit that we are alcoholics and we would be foolish if we refused to accep...
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Surviving Slumps
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A slump can go on for days. We feel sluggish, unfocused, and sometimes overwhelmed with feelings we can't sort out. We may not understand what is going on with us. Even our attempts to practice recovery behaviors may not appear to work. We still don't feel emotionally, mentally, and spiritually as go...
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Withholding
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Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. We're not available to participate in the relationship.
We shut down.
Sometimes, it is appropriate and healthy to shut down in a relationship. We may legit...
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OMG!!!!! In trouble with the LAW?????
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I stopped at the gas station close by yesterday (where I know everyone who works there by now), I bought some stuff, and then went outside and realized I needed gas. So I pulled up to the pump and got some gas. Apparently I drove off without paying!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL I would NEVER do something like tha...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Spiritual Kindergarten
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We are only operating a spiritual kindergarten in which people are enabled to get over drinking and find the grace to go on living to better effect. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 95 When I came to A.A., I was run down by the bottle and wanted to lose the obsession to drink, but I didnt really know how to do that. I decide...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 24th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Alcohol is our weakness. We suffer from mental conflicts from which we look for escape by drowning our problems in drink. We try through drink to push away from the realities of life. But alcohol does not feed, alcohol does not build, it only borrows from the future and it ultim...
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Glastonbury
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Anyone going to Glastonbury? (music festival in the UK to any non-Brits).
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Detachment
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Detachment doesn't come naturally for many of us. But once we realize the value of this recovery principle, we understand how vital detachment is. The following story illustrates how a woman came to understand detachment.
"The first time I practiced detachment was when I let go of my alcoho...
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Daily Reflections ~ Trusting Others
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But does trust require that we be blind to other peoples motives or, indeed, to our own? Not at all; this would be folly. Most certainly, we should assess the capacity for harm as well as the capability for good in every person that we would trust. Such a private inventory can reveal the degree of confide...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 23rd Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ No chain is stronger than its weakest link. Likewise, if you fail in the day-by-day program, in all probability it will be at your weakest point. Great faith and constant contact with God's power can help you discover, guard, and undergird your weakest point with a strength n...
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Fed Up, Tired, Aggravated, Angry, Frustrated, But SOBER
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Argh!!! Double Argh!! Have I been to a meeting this past week? No. There is the solution, right there, and will get to one today. Children can sure be emotional at times, and my 2 (stepsons) who are here for summer vacation are testing my limits. Their father is as well. THANK GOD HE IS AT WORK TODAY, OR HE M...
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Don't drink, don't smoke, what do you do?!
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Well, MIPers, it's been a while since I've posted. Had a serious case of the "F it's" . My disease kept asking me what am I doing this for. Seemed as if me staying sober hasn't changed a thing. The shit is still hitting the fan and I am still covered in it! It has occured to me that I stay sober tod...
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Work Histories
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Just as we have relationship histories, most of us have work histories.
Just as we have a present circumstance to accept and deal with in our relationship life, we have a present circumstance to accept and deal with in our work life.
Just as we develop a healthy attitude toward our relationship hi...
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The Cause and Effects of Alcoholism
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The Cause The causes of alcoholism are due to several factors. Most people use alcohol to change how they feel because they want to feel better or different. They use alcohol for the perceived benefits, or the benefits experienced, not for the potential harm. People use alcohol to relax, have fun, to...
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Letting Go of Old Beliefs
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Try harder. Do better. Be perfect.
These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done.
Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their go...
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AA. coffee
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Now I realize that AA meetings can't afford espresso machines and fresh ground beans and this topic is meant as a light hearted rant. But the coffee at the umbrella group that I attend is vile stuff, brown water made from stale coffee and generic creamer. I've done several stints as coffee maker over th...
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Sunday Meeting IS ON!!!
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Ok, everyone :) It's my first & I'll be in there handy ready & waiting with preamble & open forum for everyone to share their ES&H amongst ourselves. Newcomers are the most important members in the room so feel most welcome to come in & join in or just even to be there. It may take a...
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Daily Reflections ~ Fear and Faith
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The achievement of freedom from fear is a lifetime undertaking, one that can never be wholly completed. When under heavy attack, acute illness, or in other condition of insecurity, we shall all react to this emotion - well or badly, as the case may be. Only the self-deceived will claim perfect freedo...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 21st June 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Intelligent faith in that Power greater than ourselves can be counted on to stabilize our emotions. It has an incomparable capacity to help us look at life in balanced perspective. We look up, around, and away from ourselves, and we see that nine out of ten things that at the mo...
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Going away for a week
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Finally leaving tomorrow for the NC mountains. Moving into a (new to me) house here has keep me from going already. I usually begin my dozen or so trips up to build my house in april, so it feels really strange to just be going up there now. My weeds are probably knee high and the mice in my travel traile...
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By the way (new Job)
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new job, In regards to the new job, goood possibility that it could turn out to be a reall postive, I enjoy customer service and well always have. Could turn into Assistant Manager position. Leaving it in GOD's hands and hopefully things will work out. Thanks again Tina
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The Good Feelings
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Let yourself feel the good feelings too.
Yes, sometimes, good feelings can be as distracting as the painful, more difficult ones. Yes, good feelings can be anxiety producing to those of us unaccustomed to them. But go ahead and feel the good feelings anyway.
Feel and accept the joy. The love. The...
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Daily Reflections ~ Release from Fear
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The problem of resolving fear has two aspects. We shall have to try for all the freedom from fear that is possible for us to attain. Then we shall need to find both the courage and grace to deal constructively with whatever fears remain. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 61 Most of my decisions were based on fear. Alcoho...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 20th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ You should be ready and willing to carry the A.A. message when called upon to do so. Live for some purpose greater than yourself. Each day you will have something to work for. You have received so much from this program that you should have a vision that gives your life a directio...
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For everyone who needs an uplifting story. Why you have to find your higher power, and proof that A.A. works.
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I don't get to post here as often as I would like to. Life has been good, and very busy since I chose to leave the bottle alone. I am living proof and testament that this program works. And why life is so much better without alcohol as a crutch. I live in Onatrio,Canada and work for the largest privately held...
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Relationship Martyrs
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Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships.
We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, whether we're talking about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. We all need to interact with...
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Daily Reflections ~ A.A. Regeneration
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Such is the paradox of A.A. regeneration: strength arising out of complete defeat and weakness, the loss of ones old life as a condition for finding a new one. A.A. COMES OF AGE, p. 46 A thousand beatings by John Barleycorn did not encourage me to admit defeat. I believed it was my moral obligation to con...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 19th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We have this choice every day of our lives. We can take the path that leads to insanity and death (and remember, our next drunk could be our last one). Or we can take the path that leads to a reasonably happy and useful life. The choice is ours each day of our lives. God grant that we t...
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Making Life Easier
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Life doesn't have to be hard.
Yes, there are times we need to endure, struggle through, and rely on our survival skills. But we don't have to make life, growth, recovery, change, or our day-to-day affairs that hard all the time.
Having life be that hard is a remnant of our martyrdom, a leftover from...
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Hey y'all
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Well I had my second ultrasound, the first one the baby's heart beat was slow so they wanted to check it again, it was normal the second time I'm 7 weeks pregnant, due date is Feb 4th, and the baby is 4 cm long now, looks like a little peanut lol Still making my plans for school, as soon as I have the money for...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 18th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ The A.A. way of living is not an easy one. But it's an adventure in living that is really worthwhile. And it's so much better than our old drunken way of living that there's no comparison. Our lives without A.A. would be worth nothing. With A.A., we have a chance to live reasonabl...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Fellowship of Freedom
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. . . if only men were granted absolute liberty, and were compelled to obey no one, they would then voluntarily associate themselves in the common interest. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 50 When I no longer live under the dictates of another or of alcohol, I live in a new freedom. When I release the past and all the ex...
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Just saying hi
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Hello everyone, My name is Nell. Sorry it took so long to introduce myself, but I use works computer and I don't alway have time to stay on it long enough to post. I'm thirty nine plus shipping and handling. I married and I have three grown children. On July 2nd I will have 18 months sober and I'm loving li...
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Waste of time
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Keep It Simple Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely. Rodin When we first start our recovery, it hurts a lot to look at our past. We feel sad. It feels like our life was a waste. But it wasn't a waste. The program promises that if we practice the Steps, we'll not reget the past nor wish to s...
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Being Vulnerable
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Part of recovery means learning to share ourselves with other people. We learn to admit our mistakes and expose our imperfections - not so that others can fix us, rescue us, or feel sorry for us, but so we can love and accept ourselves. This sharing is a catalyst in healing and changing.
Many of us are f...
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Surrender
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Master the lessons of your present circumstances.
We do not move forward by resisting what is undesirable in our life today. We move forward, we grow, we change by acceptance.
Avoidance is not the key; surrender opens the door.
Listen to this truth: We are each in our present circumstances for...
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new here, Hello
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Hi I just found this message board. I just got to 6 months of sober time and it's all getting better. I'm from Miami but currently in Cancun....dangerous city to be in but thankfully I have no desire to drink. I just need to stay away from bars and drunks. I found the AA meeting in Cancun which I have bee...
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Daily Reflections ~ Deep Down Within Us
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We found the Great Reality deep down within us. In the last analysis it is only there that He may be found . . . search diligently within yourself . . . With this attitude you cannot fail. The consciousness of your belief is sure to come to you. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 55 It was out of the depths of loneline...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 17th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We in A.A. have the privilege of living two lives in one lifetime. One lifetime of drunkenness, failure & defeat. Then, through A.A., another life of sobriety, peace of mind & usefulness. We who have recovered our sobriety are modern miracles. And we're living on bo...
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still here
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Hello, folks Been awhile, I'm still kicking. Things have been kinda glume as of late and reall tight, but managed. started a new job today, and its something I enjoy. Hope all goes well, and well folks I have 5 years coming up next month July 14th and still hanging in there and never felt stronger and b...
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7th Step Prayer
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My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding. Amen. Pg.76 of Chapter 6 ~ Into Action, Alc...
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map of the board
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just out of curiosity: Where is everyone located and what is your home group? I'm from Miami but currently in Cancun. My home group in Miami is South Miami Men's group and Sabal Palm. In Cancun it's Friends of Bill W. which is the only English speaking group in the city.
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Daily Reflections ~ Openmindedness
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We have found that God does not make too hard terms with those who seek Him. To us, the realm of spirit is broad, roomy, all inclusive, never exclusive or forbidding to those who earnestly seek. It is open, we believe, to all men. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 7 Open-mindedness to concepts of a Higher Power can open d...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 16th Jun 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ But even faith is not the whole story. There must be service. We must give this thing away if we want to keep it. The Dead Sea has no outlet and it is stagnant and full of salt. The Sea of Galilee is clear and clean and blue, as the Jordan River carries it out to irrigate the desert. To b...
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Exercise to set me up for the Day
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On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We consider our plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. Under these conditions we can employ our mental faculties wit...
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some things lost forever ?
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Hi All Just need to talk. Its my daughter's 16th birthday and she's having a party @ our home as I'm writting this. Lot of 16 and 17 year olds, music...and alcohol. Not "on the sly"- in the open and bought and provided by my wife. Not discussed with or even mentioned to me. I suppose I forfeit...
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