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Chaos where there is none
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This was brought up in another thread and has been the topic of meetings I have been to. I noticed myself doing this so so much in the first few months of sobriety. I lived in chaos so long that my brain created it and still does to an extent because it is used to drama, misery, and chaos. I wanted to post ab...
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Please say a prayer
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My grand sponsor is dying of lymphoma. It is a kind that does not respond well to treatment. My sponsor is very upset (and so are all of us in the "sponsorship family of women"). My sponsor said to me, "I have to face the fact that the woman who showed me how to stay sober so I could live, is no...
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Riotous Living
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LOL.... My husband was getting out of the shower tonight, singing a song that had me rolling. He sings these old-school country songs in the shower, often with hilarious themes most of which I have never heard. Tonight's was something like- "If me and my wife get to fussin' tonight, Me and that wo...
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Struggling To Survive
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I'm new to this message board and thought I would introduce myself and give you a brief version of my current story. I'm 31 years old and have been trying (unsucessfully) to be sober for just over a year now. I have good days and bad days. This time around I've been sober since June 26th. I was in denial for...
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Relationship Progress
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My wife went to visit her Mum in the old folks home at the weekend, taking my son and daughter with her. Son and daughter were dreadfully upset at the state of their Nan and were very withdrawn after the visit. My wife got talking to the daughter on Wednesday - explaining her Mum's condition and asking wha...
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HI
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Hi all Just thought I'd drop and say hi and well just returned yesterday from Toronto. Went down for some legal stuff and did what I wanted to do, but what a disappointment with some family members. Just at a lost for words, the self pity party and blaming everyone else. Sad Really I went to see if my brot...
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Hi everyone
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I just wanted to say hello to all, I hope everyone is well. With school starting in only a few weeks here, and my youngest son getting ready to leave for college, I have a little uneasiness to having the empty nest. I guess i still have some problems with change lol.Maybe a few more meetings will help with t...
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Meeting Question
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Do you have to speak at a meeting? Can you just sit there and listen. Then leave once it is over?
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Another one out the door sober.
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Aloha MIP family Saw the wife, or now I say widow, of an old friend of mine from program. We first met in another program for a problem we shared as a result of our drinking. I was able to give him something about his anger that he was very grateful to have and helped him in his family, program and community r...
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Anniversary Week
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It's with great gratitude, joy, and humility (in that order ) I report that this Saturday is my anniversary. This Friday, in 1989, I called up my best friend Steve whom I'd known (and drank with) since I was 16 (29 yo at that time) to ask him to go out drinking with me. It was a Monday night and he asked me...
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daily meditation and prayer
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Hi everyone, I'm wanting to add daily (or hourly) meditation and prayer to my step work. I already do this some without specific words, but I'm feeling that a conscious and focused effort would be helpful. There's a prayer in the Eleventh step, 12X12, which I came across while reading my for step wo...
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it's Sunday, I have no get up and go!
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I've had a really maniac couple of weeks what with (mostly) work and all. I work next week but then I get a week holiday time (with the weekends that makes 9 whole days) i've been on the road at site meetings for 9 of the last 10 working days and done around 2500 miles since the beginning of the month. Fortun...
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Borrowed from the Archives,2007 /Dean's Post on AA's view of Dealing with Resentments
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Thanks Dean for .....all of this.
1. They sound like the philosophy of the man who, having a headache, beats himself on the head with a hammer so that he can't feel the ache. If you draw this fallacious reasoning to the attention of an alcoholic, he will laugh it off, or become irritated and refuse to t...
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I Attended My First Ever A A meeting Last Night.
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First off, thank you all very much for replying to my post yesterday. Your thoughts, opinions and encourgment were all appreciated. The meeting was held in a catholic church 10 miles from where I live and it started at 7:30pm. I arived at 6:45pm, yes, 45 minutes early because there was no way I was going...
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Hi all -- coping with frustration in recovery
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Hi all, Steve here, alcoholic. Great forum and thanks for letting me be part of it. I've been in the Fellowship in Feb and had a had a slip while on holiday in April so that my last drink was around early May. Things on the one hand seem good. Yet on the other hand, my clumisness, impatience, carelessness a...
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I need to come back to AA
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I have been really silly I hadn't drank for 2 and a half years, then I started feeling like I was missing out, and recently I have been out drinking and I feel really depressed again. I know I need to come back to AA. -- Edited by StPeteDean on Monday 20th of July 2009 09:01:05 PM
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Please help me deal with this.... very serious
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Hi MIP Family. I am having a really hard time right now, accepting a big change in a dear friend's life. She has the same sponsor I do, but I haven't seen her in over a year, as I just assumed she was "doing her thing", and I was just doing mine. i had going through a bit of a depression last winter, a...
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Coincidences, coincidences.
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I live in a small city of about 100,000 people (I moved there 4 years ago from a much larger city). A month or so into my AA experience, one of the big head honchos from the job that I moved here to take (and have since lost due to my DUI) showed up at a meeting. Now, tonight, I just found out that he is my sponsor'...
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It's very difficult to believe in a higher power when some unexpected crap happens to you.
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The immediate reaction is, "um, God? WTF!" I'm thinking, hey. I've already lost my job, will soon be completely broke, I'm going to meetings every day, trying to work the program the best I can, and now this? What I'm referring to is that I have just developed an unexpected, out of the blue...
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My First Ever A A Meeting.
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Hello, my name is Shaun and I am a new to this site. I am currently 15 days sober and tonight at 7:30pm I will be attending my first ever Alcoholics Anonymous meeting...I'm scared, I'm very shy and suffer from anxiety, I'm not looking forward to it. I dont know why I feel the need to join this site and share t...
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7 days done
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Dear all, seven days down, feeling tetchy but hanging in there, avoiding functions for the next while if possible, have explained to people that it was tiring me out and that energy levels low because of drinking, not to gone into it further than that as I don't know what to say, I think I got such a shock w...
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NEW HERE! Fresh out of detox, 96 hours without a drink, FEELS GREAT!
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Hi all, My name is Steve, I have a lot to tell if anyone is interested. Just saying Hi for now, just got out of 4 day Detox. Sorry for the weird spacing, my space bar is being real touchy lol, gotta fix that soon. I am from Salem Oregon and wondering if anyone is from arou...
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Sponsor??
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How do you find a sponsor? I am going to a newcomers AA tomorrow and was suggested to find a sponsor, I am naturally shy and my biggest fear is asking someone and being rejected, any tips? Thanks Steve
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Hello, I am new to this board
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Hello, My name is Ann and I am an Alcoholic. I am hoping today is my last hangover. I am disgusted and ashamed with myself. Last night while my husband was at work I drank an entire bottle of wine plus Vodak. I hid both bottles and can not only find one. I have looked all over the house and I can not f...
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Recovered vs Recovering....and I do not care which side you are on
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Hey All, There was a thread on another board where someone posted a poll on whether you considered yourself recovered vs recovering. Typically for that forum there were people insulting others beliefs in an effort to prove their opinion was correct. What say you? I come under the notion that I wil...
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My Surroundings
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Have any of you reached the insight in early sobriety just how much you do whatever everyone else around you is doing? This didn't hit me with my drinking, though I guess I instinctively knew this because I haven't been to a bar in over 9 months now, but I noticed I can go almost a whole day without smoking...
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Back from NC
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I was away from the internets this week (dial up in the mountain trailer isn't working ). I certainly missed you guy and gals. Lots of activity and a rare appearance from John our founder. Hello John, and class of '89 represent! -- Edited by StPeteDean on Sunday 7th of June 2009 06:31:43 AM
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Gotta give kudos to God, he came thru today
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It was a little thing, but sometimes those little things can seem very big in your mind. I just wanted a friggin' pair of scissors. I scoured the entire house for 'em, have several pairs but couldn't find a single one. I was thinking, "My kingdom for a pair of scissors!" Then I texted my wif...
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Just seen CLEAN AND SOBER for the first time today! Can anyone recommend any other inspiring films like this?
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While in detox they started Clean and Sober for like 10 mins then a AA meeting came and the movie never got put back on, so when I got out yesterday I rented the movie today and watched it and was really moved by it. I think Micheal Keaton did a great job and even though the ending is sad I think it was a good mov...
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CONGRATULATIONS FLYING SQUILLEL ON 5 MONTHS of SOBRIETY!!!
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Hi Glenn,
With all that you are going through, and you have just latched on to the Program and doing all the things we need to do,
So proud of you for Keeping the Program and you Sobriety, first and ahead of any other life stuff, that is how we do keep it.
Great great efforts, bring great great results...
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glad to be home...
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I started off looking for a meeting in the town I am vacationing in and ended up finding you. So I decided to come home. As soon as I logged on, the first entry reminded me of my home group. Thanks- I was beginning to feel a little out of sorts. Come to find out I was homesick. Thanks for being there for me. I wil...
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New Here.. Dependancy recovery.
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Granted I'm only 28 years old, but here's my story. I've been told I'm a functional alcoholic before while I was in the Military, and I've also been told that I have a dependency. I'm doing well, but I have MAYBE 1 or 2 beers a week now, IF that.. __________________________________________________ M...
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update on week
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Dear all, Have spent the week at the course and haven't drank, though it is full of events to drink at. Thanks for all message of support, I have found an online version of the Big Book online and am reading same. I suppose I feel quite shocked as I didn't think I was the one with the problem too until recentl...
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Does anyone know where I can get a free Big Book???
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I am 6 days sober now and fresh out of detox. I am 28 years old and never been to detox or tried to quit drinking in my many years of heavy drinking. I dont have much $$ at all and was wondering if someone could perhaps donate me a big book out of good faith and karma, hopefully the Higher Power can lead me to th...
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Getting Married
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Someone I care a great deal about is getting ready to do something I would normally advise against... she's going to marry an alcoholic... me!! I was married before. 5 years drinking, then 5 years sober. Then 15 years sober and single, over 12 without being in any kind of real relationship. We've b...
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BB Up For Grabs
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Sent to the first person to email me: one Big Book, hardcover, 3rd edition.
xdrunkard@gmail.com
No charge for the book, free shipping.
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Too many meetings?
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I dunno. At first I was going to about 1 a day, sometimes less sometimes more trying to average 90 in 90. Lately I'm going to 2 or 3 a day every day. I just can't seem to function in real life, so I'm going to meetings instead. I should be trying to get a job, figuring out my financial situation (which is ve...
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Happy 6th Soberversary, Tina!
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Enjoy every moment of this 24hrs, Tina. Thank you for sharing your Recovery with us here@MIP. Godbless You 1Day@aTime ~ Love & Fellowship, Danielle xxx
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Fear.....
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I am just amazed at where my mind goes sometimes...the fear and anxiety that I actually manufacture on my own self! Gotta let go - let my HP take care of things, it's always the same answer.... Serenity is the goal, right? One day at a time! Best to everyone - Christine
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Just wanted to share
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Hi Just want to share an experience I had this past Monday, which fellow by my soberity date On Tuesday July 14th. 6 years ago to the date fell on Monday July 14th 2003, My day started out alright but had vibes I couldn't explain until I spoke to a family member today. It was like I was reliving the day of my m...
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Relationship Issue- Part II
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Look for guidance/suggestions. I wrote about my current relationship with my wife back on 7/2/09, titled: "Relationship Issue; what to do?" Different subject, same wife. About 4 months ago my wife confessed to me that she was talking with a friend(male)of ours and they became each ot...
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Wahey.. 2000! Thankyou MIP
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Thank you all for being here with me & to each of you for all you contribute. I'm a woman of few words but I love that I can stay close here with you while you share & help me to stay sober too. It means more than I can say though I hope you feel me present with you always 1Day@aTime. In unity, service &am...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Nourishing Ingredient & 24hrs a Day
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Where humility had formerly stood for a forced feeding on humble pie it now begins to mean the nourishing ingredient which can give us serenity. 12 & 12, p.74How often do I focus on my problems and frustrations? When I am having a good day these same problems shrink in importance and my preoccupat...
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newcomer
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Dear all, I am new to this board and have only slowly woken up to the fact that I have a serious drinking problem. My life is quite a mess. I am full of fear and feel very vulnerable at the moment, I will be starting meetings this coming week as I know I would not make it without them,
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Hello family!
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I am new to the board and happy to know about you folks. A little background: I live in Kerrville, TX, am married with 4 kids, and have been continuously sober just under 2 years. I am a Big Book "Fundamentalist" and have yet to find one lie in between the title page and page 164. I only make on...
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Think I just bonded with the tree in my front yard
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I was standing there smoking a cigarette (I do that occasionally when I really want a drink) and thinking about how arrogant I am, looked up at the tree and thought, it would take me an entire lifetime to try and count the needles on it and I wouldn't be able to come up with an accurate count. But God knows e...
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Codependency: Sound Familiar?
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Codependency involves a habitual system of thinking, feeling, and behaving toward ourselves and others that can cause pain. Codependent behaviors or habits are self-destructive. We frequently react to people who are destroying themselves; we react by learning to destroy ourselves. These hab...
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PROFESSOR AND THE PARADOX
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PROFESSOR AND THE PARADOX 1. We SURRENDER TO WIN. On the face of it, surrendering certainly does not seem like winning. But it is in AA. Only after we have come to the end of our rope, hit a stone wall in some aspect or our lives beyond which we can go no further; only when we hit "bottom" in despai...
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Struggling.....
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I've really been struggling these past few weeks. But was able to get rid of my boyfriend....which was very much needed. Would like to talk a little more about it, but not ready quite yet. Thanks for listening. I'll write more soon.
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So I sat at the bar tonight....
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Hey all, I am in a job where I am in a hotel a lot and many times its just easier to eat at the hotel. Tonight was no different from any other night, where when I went down to eat, my co workers were at the bar. So I sat at the bar and ordered dinner and a coke, and I sat there eating with company that was slurring w...
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