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Lois Wilson Story
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Hi All Did anyone else catch that Hallmark Special on CBS last night on Lois Wilson? I hate to say it, but there were some parts that were very flaky. I have read a few stories and books about both of their pasts. Some was probably believeable but some not. The film focused mostly on his drinking and how s...
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1940 AA Preamble
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Waiting...Waiting...
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Every time the phone rang today my heart leapt up into my chest. False Positive? Real Positive? Real Positive and Really Bad? It rang. Results may take up a WEEK!!!! GGGGrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!! Not in a good place. I know...could be worse...LOTS worse. We all want perfect, healthy kids and that's what we...
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Let's Discuss This- KINDNESS
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We have collectively revealed this past week or so, a whole lot of stuff that goes on among AA folk once in awhile, whether in the meetings or one on one, or at clubs.... which is petty and unkind, as we can often be, as we are humans (and rather emotionally sick ones, at that). Lets talk about kindness, an...
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Who pushes my buttons?
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Walk in Dry Places -- HazeldenWho pushes my buttons? Personal Relations AA old-timers would be mystified today to hear program members talk about people pushing their buttons. (They can't get your goat if they don't know where it is tied) This expression wasn't around when the early AA members pull...
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Eeks! It's been two weeks!
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Well I had myself a busy weekend. Lotsa meetings and fellowship. And cooking. Here are the ups and downs. Friday I went to a meeting that I really like called "Fearless" where the focus is, well, fear and the role it plays in alcoholism. It was cool as always. Afterwards I got asked to go...
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Regret is an appalling waste of energy
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can't build on it: it's only good for wallowing in. --Katherine Mansfield Newcomer Someone I hoped would be an important part of my life for years to come has left. I'm devastated. I don't know how much of what happened is my f...
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Relocation-seeking support
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I am new to this forum and thought this would be the best place to network. I am relocating to Fayetteville North Carolina and am looking for a contact person when I get there. Any females able to help me? I have some contacts in Southern Pines that are available and a couple in South Carolina but it wou...
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PAGGLES
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A brother in fellowship uses this acronym extensively and, until tonight, when I needed to hear it, it used to irritate the face off me. PAGGLES - Pride, Anger, Greed, Gluttony, Lust, Envy and Sloth - the seven deadly sins that as an alcoholic, I fell prey to and sometimes still do. But I know when the sin...
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Mistakes are for learning
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Walk in Dry Places -- Hazelden Mistakes are for learning_____Personal growth. One sign of an alcoholic's immaturity is revealed in responses to personal mistakes. We take each simple mistake as further proof of our inadequacy. As one person observed, "I can handle a general catastrophe, bu...
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HOLY- "I Haven't got a CLUE"......................
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There they are again.. the "I can't believe this" emoticons. I have truly lost my mind this time. For starters, small thing--- and then it gets bigger and snowballs...... I have not been able to concentrate all weekend on a paper due tomorrow (and trust me, I LOVE school and what we study and...
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Help .. I need a word of encouragement
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ok, I am getting nervous. My sponsor is out of the country, I am getting strong urges to drink, maybe not today but I feel like it's in my plan but not consciously, but I remember in the past this is how the relapses would happen.. in the mind - over time. There will be a big celebration in my life next week,...
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Singleness of Purpose
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Why Does AA Insist upon "Singleness of Purpose"? Why do they insist only alcoholics can become members? (and yes they do, read the long form of Tradition Three, it is stated and restated in AA literature that only Alcoholics can become members over and over again) Visitors are welcomed a...
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Why do I do what I do?
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Reflection for the Day Why do I do what I do? Why did I say what I said? Why on earth did I put off an important responsibility? Questions like these, best asked of myself in a quiet time of meditation, demand honest answers. I may have to think deeply for those answers, go...
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The Root of our problems
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Selfishness, Self centeredness, that we think is the root of our problems I used to think that selfishness meant greedy, and I didn't relate, I am generous, not greedy, but it turned out that that's not what that meant at all Among other things, it means "I am not much, but I am all I think about&quo...
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Emotional Sobriety by Bill Wilson
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"The Next Frontier: Emotional Sobriety" by Bill Wilson I think that many oldsters who have put our AA "booze cure" to severe but successful tests still find they often lack emotional sobriety. Perhaps they will be the spearhead for the next major development in AA -- the devel...
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30 Days!
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I got my one month chip at one of my favorite meetings tonight.... it hasn't been easy, but worth every ounce of effort. Tonight I'm enjoying the warm glow of gratitude. My sponsor says: "Whatever you're doing right now, just keep doing it a day at a time." That would be the following:1. Gett...
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The Simple Approach to the 12 Steps
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The Simple Approach to the 12 Steps Step 1: There's a power that will kill me. Step 2:There's a power that wants me to live. Step 3:Which do I want? (If you want to die, stop here. If you want to live, go on.) Step 4: Using examples from your own life, understand that selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, a...
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Slipping? - Hazelden
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Slipping A common rationalization about not making the program goes like this: "Harry over there slipped ten times before he made it. So what if I slip a few times?" What is overlooked is that the last time Jack slipped, he slipped into a coffin; the last t...
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Should I speak up during a meeting if I think a tradition is being violated?
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There's a meeting that a lot of people tend to avoid because they feel unwelcome for some reason. I rarely went to it before because it was further from my house, but just moved and so today I went. Several people, while sharing, made dismissive comments about people (such as myself) who got to AA by wa...
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Disease or Cure?
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Let me preface this by saying that I know the answers I am going to get about whether this thought is a "disease" thought or I am "cured." What I'm interested in is the feeling I'm having. Is it common? Have any of you felt it? Anyway... I took a test for school last night that reli...
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we will not regret the past.........
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....often this little phrase causes me so much trouble. Sometimes I have a good sit on the pity pot and can't think of anything but the bad stuff I did which was a product of a sick mind in a sick body and I forget all about the good stuff I did. then I remember the good stuff and wonder if it was all manipulativ...
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I Don't Know What to Title This
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Our little newborn, little River Rose, may have a medical condition that could range from treatable with daily inconveniences to treatable with years and years of special care...or if it's something with an eventual expiration date. Carnitine Uptake Disorder. A genetic condition at the cellul...
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Things That Are Difficult To Say When You’re Drunk:
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Things That Are Difficult To Say When Youre Drunk: 1. Innovative 2. Preliminary 3. Proliferation 4. Cinnamon Things That Are Very Difficult To Say When Youre Drunk: 1. Specificity 2. Anti-constitutionalistically 3. Passive-aggressive disorder 4. Transubstantiate Things That Are Downright...
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When am I manipulative?
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Walk in Dry Places from Hazelden When am I manipulative? Personal relations. Without understanding our motives, we can easily lapse into behavior aimed at manipulating others. Sulking is a means of letting others know we are displeased and forcing them to attempt to win our approval. Flattery is a...
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Daily Reflections ~ Happiness Is Not The Point & 24hrs a Day
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I don't think happiness or unhappiness is the point. How do we meet the problems we face? How do we best learn from them and transmit what we have learned to others, if they would receive the knowledge? AS BILL SEES IT, p. 306 In my search "to be happy," I changed jobs, married and divorced, too...
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What causes a binge?
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Walk in Dry Places - from Hazelden What causes a binge? Understanding honesty. In the foggy world of drinking, we were sometimes confused about cause and effect. A person might think of a binge as having been caused by a fight with his or her spouse. The real truth, however, is that he or she provoked the...
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Why is it so hard to accept praise?
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I recall early on when someone would give me praise I would often say no , it's nothing, so then they would reinforce the praise. It was pointed out to me that I must really like praise, becuase I keep on asking for it. I was told to accept the praise with a straightforward thank you. This is what I try to do. O...
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The future you shall know when it has come
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: The future you shall know when it has come; before then, forget it. -- Aeschylus The Fellowship keeps us grounded in the current moment. We learn to live today. Our planning and scheming and dreaming about tomorrow becomes less time consuming. The idea of living one...
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Avoiding emotional whirlpools
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Walk in Dry Places - from Hazelden Avoiding emotional whirlpools Serenity If we were rattling down a rough river, we would try to steer away from whirlpools and rocky rapids. Living each day requires the same alertness. We're asking for trouble if we drift into malicious discussions about other peo...
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Can't get comfortable at meetings
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I'm eight months sober, which is a miracle considering my disease, and although I started using alcohol years ago to cover my shyness and general discomfort with people, I do OK without it in the real world. However, meetings still scare me to death even after I've been going to them for six months. I...
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Frustrated, Angry Rant
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This is not a "share" in the strict sense of Experience, Strength & Hope. For all I know, this rant is from delusion, weakness and rage. These feelings and words do NOT come from a good place, but they do come from an honest place. My wife is the child of an alcoholic. After years and years o...
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Freaking out...
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Had an alcohol evaluation done today. Was not at all what I was expecting; more like a kick in the stomach. The counselor I met with was fantastic; a very kind and knowledgeable man with 17 years sobriety. After completing the paperwork, we talked for over an hour and, much to my surprise, he recommende...
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Just dropping in
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Hi Just thought I'd drop in and say hello, hope all is well with everyone. Its been a while and to let you know I'm doing well, went out Tuesday and got my G1 drivers license. Went out for the first time in 10 years to drive last nite, and no I didnt' hit anyone, lol. Kids are doing fine, we have our days. Got...
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Daily Reflections ~ Learning to Love Ourselves & 24hrs a Day
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Alcoholism was a lonely business, even though we were surrounded by people who loved us... We were trying to find emotional security either by dominating or by being dependent upon others . . . We still vainly tried to be secure by some unhealthy sort of domination or dependence. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 252...
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Am I going crazy?
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I have been sober since January 31, 2010. I have been feeling better, making better decisions, and getting back into the process of life that the higher power intended. Sounds good? It is! I just dont feel well today. I had a bad day at work and am reverting back to negative thoughts that always lea...
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Daily Reflections ~ Entering a New Dimension & 24hrs a Day
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In the late stages of our drinking, the will to resist has fled. Yet when we admit complete defeat and when we become entirely ready to try A.A. principles, our obsession leaves us and we enter a new dimension - freedom under God as we understand Him. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 283 I am fortunate to be among the one...
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Day 7.
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I'm on day 7. Losing my mind. Tried calling some friends from the program but they are either out of town, in rehab, unavailable or male. I'm not opposed to calling guys (and I know a few pretty good), but have been told it's not a good practice to get into. Took an ADD inventory today at my therapist's off...
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Happy St. Georges Day
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It's Shakespeare's birthday too. Contrary to popular myth, St. George did not slay any dragons and he wasn't an English Knight. He wasn't even English. 1707 years ago today a Roman soldier was executed by his tormentors before the walls of Nicomedia, after suffering terrible tortures. Tribunus Ge...
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Sorrow And Gratitude
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We have no right to ask, when sorrow comes, Why did this happen to me? unless we ask the same question for every joy that comes our way. --Philip S. Bernstein All of us have reasons to be grateful. Usually, the word implies we have received something. We often think of gratitude as that warm feeling we get...
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How Do Others at AA Help?
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I'm just having a hard time understanding how these complete strangers will make me feel welcomed to meetings? I don't know them... they don't know me... I've spent too much time being judged by other people for my drinking I'm scared this will happen at a meeting too. Help?
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the core values of the program
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the core values of the program in my opinion are clean house trust in a god of own understanding and help others and practice the principle in all of your affairs and the work the steps with rigrous honesty and work or must have sponser to help u
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day 12
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I think I'm being a bit of a dry drunk. I feel irritable and have lots of mood swings. While I am not actually being snippy with people, I am in my head, you know? One of my employees said that a client had a question. He asked what he should tell them. "Tell them I hate them." I responded. Ye...
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Busy night's sleep
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Good morning everyone. Last night I had some of those crazy dreams I have had before when I tried to get sober. The first was a horrible drinking dream. I woke up and felt that awful intense shame and fear and then sweet relief when I realized it wasn't real and there I was in my bed completely sober! It was s...
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Make it true
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Make it true What you tell yourself most frequently, you will believe. What you truly believe, you will incorporate into every aspect of your life. It doesn't matter if it is objectively true or not. What you continue to tell yourself, day after day, becomes true for you and has a profound effect on you...
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Other people have problems too.
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Larry's post on how does a binge start got me thinking about some of my civilian friends and the problems they have dealt with..... Like the guy who's daughter left home on her 16th birthday and moved in with a 33 year old, married him 6 months later, divorced him 11 months after that. Like the guy who'...
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Sponsorship helps me Focus
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I've blundered along sponsoring people for a wee while now, but just recently I've had sponsees who WANT TO GET ON WITH IT! I don't chase after sponsees, it's a two way street, I'll help when asked, but I don't make house calls. The sponsees I've currently got, two of them, want to get to grips with the pro...
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Bare minimum
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"Some of us don't like Step Two because we think it asks us to believe in somebody else's idea of God. It doesn't. It doesn't even ask us to believe in our own idea of God. The most important thing is to find a Higher Power not necessarily the Highest Power to help us stay sober, one that can teach us to s...
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womens meeting...
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Just thought I would post about a new meeting I have gone to lately. Its a womens meeting. I have been going to the same meeting week in, and week out. Dont' get me wrong I love those meetings! But a woman told me about an all womens meeting on Wednesday evenings. At first I thought how boring, but I nee...
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No Conditional Sobriety
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Walk in Dry Places - From Hazelden No Conditional Sobriety Admission of Powerlessness Sobriety in AA is unconditional. This means that theres never been a reason for drinking, no matter how bad our circumstances may become. As the AA pioneers were fond of saying, THERES NOTHING THAT DRINKING WON'...
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