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Thought ~ for today.
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"The greatest achievement of humanity is not its works of art, science, or technology, but the regonition of its own dysfunction, its own madness." ~ Eckhart Tolle
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Day 8 and another "mini-relapse"
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Irritated with myself, to say the least! We headed down to Georgia for my mother's birthday party (82). Beautiful drive, great visit with the entire family, wonderful drive back. Hubby says to me "would you be mad if I picked up some beer?" "no, of course not, and I sure won't drink a...
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Accepting Our Best
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We don't have to do it any better than we can - ever.
Do our best for the moment, and then let it go. If we have to redo it, we can do our best in another moment, later.
We can never do more or better than we are able to do at the moment. We punish ourselves and make ourselves feel crazy by expecting more than o...
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Detaching with Love with Children
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It's one thing to let go of my husband and let him suffer the consequences. But how do I let go of my children? Isn't it different with children? Don't we have responsibilities as parents? -- Al Anon member
We do have different responsibilities to our children than to other adults. We are financially...
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Questions about Rehab
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First let me say this. I am neither an alcoholic or drug user. I was in a relationship with someone that has fought these addictions most of his life. Usually he lost the fight though. We are both in our 30's. Our relationship ended about 6 months ago because of reasons not directly related to his add...
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Offline To Do a Step4
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Dear Sobervibers, a little note to let you know I'm going offline for however long it takes me to complete a fearless & thorough Step4. Would anyone like to take over posting the 24 & Daily Reflections? You can copy & paste them if you use google to find them. I have to disappear as being a ter...
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Daily Reflections ~ Finding "A Reason To Believe"
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The willingness to grow is the essence of all spiritual development. As Bill Sees It, p.171 A line from a song goes, ". . . and I look to find a reason to believe . . ." It reminds me that at one time I was not able to find a reason to believe that my life was all right. Even though my life had been saved...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 1st Sep 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "Be careful not to brand new prospects as alcoholics. Let them draw their own conclusion. But talk to them about the hopelessness of alcoholism. Tell them exactly what happened to you and how you recovered. Stress the spiritual feature freely. If they are agnostics or...
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FLIPPER!
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What I wanted to write was $&^#%$.....anyhow, first day. I had a few last night. I get around a month and boom. I felt fine...again, drank like a normal person. EVen though I had a few beers, my anxiety kicked in today. My psychiatrist told me I most likely have alcohol induced anxiety. So this is the...
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It must be "Talk About Sponsor" Day......
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I love my sponsor. She's my friend. She's loved me when I couldn't love myself. She's given me wonderful suggestions. But something has happened as of late.... She was sober for 8 yrs, went back out for 8 yrs and has been back the last 4. She and I have much in common, i.e. single mothers, hard workers,...
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new here
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Hey y'all, new here, 18 nights sober, since I was a night drinker. I'm hanging in there. Didn't drink growing up. Drank rarely at parties, always the designated driver and was happy to do so. I guess I started drinking more about 1998. Had been taking care of special needs twin since they were 6yrs old th...
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Patience
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Sometimes we get what we want right away. At other times, we wonder if our desires will ever be fulfilled.
We will be fulfilled in the best way possible and as quickly as possible. But some things take time. Sometimes, we have lessons to learn first, lessons that prepare us so we can accept the good we d...
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Whew! By the Grace of God I made it!!!
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I fell away from AA for a few years, though I remained sober my life was slowly getting back to the insanity of active addiction. I saw the red flags and am so grateful that I began going back to meetings instead of a bottle. Things are slowly returning to a "comfort zone," that brings peace an...
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Dave Harm
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Four Days from Two Years Sober (Long Post)
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Hello A.A. Family: I just wanted to check in, and share some E, S & H. It was on this day (Friday before Labor Day) two years ago, that I finally surrendered again. Here's what happened to me: I got sober through A.A. on July 10, 1986 at the age of 24. I was completely bankrupt at that time in all areas...
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every one.
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to all of those living on planet EARTH, be alert, the world needs LERTS.
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Just to say hi and thanks for being here x
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Hi my name is Linda and i am a Alcoholic i am one of the very lucky ones as i have been sober for 8 years and i also think we are so lucky to have the 12 step recovery programe as i dont think i would of stayed sober without it .
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The roller coaster rider
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Hey all, bout time I got back here,lol!
Funny how time flies, it definitely has been interesting over the last several months. I'd say that since rehab in January, 2/3 of my time has been sober so far, a few relapses during the stint. I have some good ideas about what has been happening with my brain and a...
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Squirrely, Angry, Sad, Hurting.....just down right feeling CRAZY!
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Waaaay too friggin' much going on in my life right now.....Trying to figure out how I'm gonna go back to school, keep working, keep up my meetings, find time for my sponsor, BB study, take care of the house stuff, yada, yada, yada....... My son finally called, wanting money. I had to remind myself that ...
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What my sponsor says, need advise
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Hi, I have a lovely sponsor who I get on really well with but she has a control problem which she openly admits she has to work on daily. Up untill a few weeks ago, I wasnt going to many meetings and as is good advise she kept telling me I needed more. Then, as I shared on here, something happened and I started a...
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Thought For The Day
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If you can smile when things go wrong, you have someone in mind to blame.
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Daily Reflections ~ A Unique Program
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Alcoholics Anonymous will never have a professional class. We have gained some understanding of the ancient words Freely ye have received, freely give. We have discovered that at the point of professionalism, money and spirituality do not mix. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 166 I believe...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 31st Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "Call on new prospects while they are still jittery. They may be more receptive when depressed. See them alone if possible. Tell them enough about your drinking habits and experiences to encourage them to speak of themselves. If they wish to talk, let them do so. If they...
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Denial
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I've been recovering many years. I've used denial many times. It has been a defense, a survival device, a coping behavior, and, at times, almost my undoing. It has been both a friend and an enemy.
When I was a child, I used denial to protect my family and myself. I protected myself from seeing things to...
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Question about children at meetings?
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Hi all just wondering, we have a situation at our meeting. one of our members has been bringing her 3 year daughter to the meeting. the first time this happened she said it would be a one time thing, well that was 4 months ago. It really hasn't been a problem because the child has always been very quiet a...
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Horse Races...
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Hi all. Just wanted to share a success. I went to the horse races tonight. I take my kids 1-2 times a a year. I live nearby the track. Anyhow, this was the first time I didn't have a drink. I went with others who do not drink. They offered to buy me a beer...but I was fine. I ate ice cream instead. HMMM. No wonder...
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Reaching out is such a blessing
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Hi All, I am so blessed. I was able to meet with the group of ladies who do the substance abuse program and we are meeting again tonight. We also, with the help of my mentor, have figured out a way to all be able to go to the city for AA meetings. I read what I wrote about the first step and all of my feelings about...
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Owning Our Energy
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Learn to keep your energy inside. -- From Women, Sex, and Addiction, Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D.
For many reasons, we may have mastered the art of giving away our energy. We may have learned it when we were young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel, and we did not know how to proce...
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Day 15/ relapse
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Hi All, I got to day 15 and had been feeling like a new person until I got up yesterday morning and just felt like crap. I was feeling just totally out of place. I had been doing all the right things thinking and feeling wise. But I had not gone to AA meetings or reached out to anyone in person to stop the feelin...
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behavior......
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I am totally burnt out on my kids and hubby. I don't want to drink...I want to go to meetings. I can't make it because of family. Thankfully, I am fine at the moment. However, I just totally wigged out today. I am back at work...I feel like the world is always on MY shoulders-mortgage, work-kids. I want ot g...
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DAY 5
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One day at a time! For any of you still struggling thru a detox phase, do keep it up, however you do it! The wonderful real sleep is so worth it! I try not to look in the rear view mirror (thinking of and hating much of my past), but remembering those anxiety filled nights, sweating, shaking....) This is...
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Our Bank Account
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A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is > fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. > His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessa...
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Daily Reflections ~ Lightening The Burden
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Showing others who suffer how we were given help is the very thing which makes life seem so worth while to us now. . . . the dark past is . . . the key to life and happiness for others. Alcoholics Anonymous, p.124 Since I have been sober, I have been healed of many pains: deceiving my partner, deserting my bes...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 28th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "We must continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new mistakes as we go along. We should grow in understanding and effectiveness. This is not an overnight matter; it should continue for our lifetime. Continue to watch for selfishness, dishone...
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Reading & getting to know all of you.
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Heading to a meeting. I'm going to try 30 in 30 but I don't put much in that because it isn't in the big book. So if I do miss one I won't beat myself up, and after I get to know you all better, I will start replying to your replies. I've read some very eye opening and kind hearted advice. I Very much appreciate t...
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Picked a home group
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Last time working the program it took me 6 months or better to find a home group. I went to a closed meeting and felt very welcome. My Grand-sponsor started the group. I found so many people in that group working the program. Question I read were it takes three days for the alcohol to leave your system, Wh...
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Acceptance
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Hi All, I posted this to Doll on her thread but I wanted to post this to you all also. Acceptance (AKA Page 449, Page 417 or acceptence) Acceptance was an idea in a personal story introduced in the 3rd edition and stories are not included here. It was not part of the original book. See page 449 in the 3r...
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Well Darn
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So, at 19 days I drank. Went out of town on business - the meeting was at a Casino - and though it was uncomfortable - I wanted to play and drink - I didn't drink. Headed home, in a restaurant in the airport - and ordered 2 martinis. Didn't feel guilty, didn't get drunk - didn't worry about it after. I was jus...
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Procrastination
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Procrastination - not acting when the time is right - is a self-defeating behavior. It produces anxiety, guilt, disharmony, and a nagging consciousness of the task that life is telling us it's time to do.
We are not always procrastinating when we put off doing something. Sometimes, doing a thing b...
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I'm not gonna post every day-'Day 32,596 and 14 hours'. It's just I'm feeling good and although I never tried to quit and then relapsed, I really think this is it for me. I played a little pool with a friend I haven't seen in a while, and after a few games we did our usual 'loser buys beer.' I won and got a coke...
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Daily Reflections ~ Centering Our Thoughts
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When World War II broke out, our A.A. dependence on a Higher Power had its first major test. A.A.s entered the services and were scattered all over the world. Would they be able to take the discipline, stand up under fire, and endure . . . ? As Bill Sees It, p.200 I will center my thoughts on a Higher Power. I...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 27th Aug 08
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ "We must be willing to make amends to all the people we have harmed. We must do the best we can to repair the damage done in the past. When we make amends, when we say: 'I'm sorry,' the person is sure at least to be impressed by our sincere desire to set right the wrong. Sometime...
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Mentor called!!
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Hi all My mentor called who I have known for 12 yrs. She is a recovering alcoholic and an addiction counselor that took me on during the 4 yrs I got sober. She understands the feelings I have toward AA due to the rape and not trusting the women here to sponsor me due to the woman who sponsored me and told all my...
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pains
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i think ill have to quit all alcohol i get pain maybe in prostrate guess i should see a doctor anyone ever get this? it seems after i have abeer the pain gets worse
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Surrender, Powerless, Acceptance
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Having a tough weekend so far, I am trying to surrender, accept about how powerless i am to people places and things, Right now, I am focusing on a past relationship that I need to let go of. Part of me keeps hanging on when I know that i have no power. I don't know how to. I am praying to God for help and I still...
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PJ - Day 4 (should be Day 13!)
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Hey you all! Day 4 and feeling on top of the world - I woke up and what a great feeling to feel good! And energetic and excited about the day (not doing anything all that exciting or important) - I'm back working some and this helps tremendously - reuniting with friends and not feeling that there's talk beh...
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Impatience
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One step at a time may seem too slow some days. -- Kay Marie Porterfield
Impatience is certainly not a virtue. However, we frequently display it as though it were; if we don't get some task done right now, we will have failed for all time. How many backfired circumstances must we have before we get the m...
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Found a great Sober Hotel
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There is great place That I have Discovered in the caribbean that offer a safe enviorment for people not wanting to get caught up in the drinking part of it all, the prices are good and its right on the beach www.sobersands.com The (owner) lady helps with directions to a.a. meetings and sober ways to...
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Mini-relapse
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I am not going to beat myself up. Saturday night, my husband went out and got himself a bottle of wine. I did not want any. I drank diet cola while he drank wine and got stupid and slurry. He's very stoic when he is normal, and a little alcohol makes him romantic, talkative, and loving. ha. Anyway, he w...
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Day 14 Rosie
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Hi all, I have made it to the two week mark! It has been a very healthy and freeing two weeks. I am blessed. I have the wedding on Sunday and I talked to my sister who made a designated drinking area way away from the area where my family members who do not drink will be. Mostly it is the brides family and the you...
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Day 3
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...which should be day 12! But it is day 3. Feeling wonderful; I just read all the new posts which empower me! Thank you all. I had been so scared that I would be hung over or shakey (or sneaking alchohol with me in my suitcase to prevent the shakes) when I go down to see my family this Labor Day weekend an...
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PJ Tucker
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