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Our disease is bad but............
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Hey All, I am on some breast cancer forums with my wife due to her recient diagnosis. While on those forums, I will read posts from women who just have weeks to live. These are tragic tales of years of battle and yet there is defiance and determination. The difference between our disease and their dise...
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Help
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I have been in this confused, hungover, regretful, self-hating place so many times and I'm sick of it but afraid it will never change for good because of all the doubts I have. I know I would be happier if I never drank. I've quit before (pregnancies and one year post a DUI) but I'm stuck in the same mind gam...
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Doing service...
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Aloha family...I spent part of the day at a "Day of Recovery" presented by a local substance abuse program I once counseled for. All of the fellowships + were there and since we are on and island most know each other and who we don't we meet, greet and exchange info in the hope of being coopera...
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Self Knowledge
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Aloha Family... Did the lead this morning at a daily local meeting and ended with a topic for further discussion by the membership of "Self Knowledge" being important to good recovery. My early sponsors helped me to know and understand the one person I had lived my entire life with up until...
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Missing my AA meetings after having a baby
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I'm so glad that I found this site again! I first registered for this site over a year ago now back when I was under a month sober. I have over 15 months sober now. My soberity date is June 26th, 2009. I got pregnant when I was 5 months sober and have remained sober ever since. I just had my son 2 weeks ago by...
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How to handle having extra money
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Well, it's been a month since I asked for help with my budgeting. Each week I have money left over and I just can't figure out why I couldn't/didn't before. I know I am not going to the store as often, it's just once a week now. The kids are adjusting to me telling them that they don't need this or that. Bu...
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Process of Brokenness!
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Well 15 wonderful days away from work and in travel with my wife coming to a close for this summer.One more long weekend scheduled to visit my mom in Rockport Mass. soon and then get set for a few Fall Road running events,Deer Hunting Season(Bow) opening on 10/15 and then Battening down the hatches for W...
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Has anyone heard from Glenn AKA FlyingSquirrel??
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FlyingSquirrel Glenn, Where are you? I miss your postings. Larry, --------------- Arguing about how to practice AA always seems to be a lot easier than actually practicing it
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So I am in the period of waiting for my wife's double mastectomy. They are going to take and check her sentinel lymph node tuesday and if that turns out well the following week they will do the double mastectomy and breast reconstruction at the same time. So, the house needs to be made ready and I am blah...
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To desire personal happiness is normal and healthy
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: To love is to place our happiness in the happiness of another. --G. Wilhelm Leibniz To desire personal happiness is normal and healthy. Most of our plans, choices, and dreams about the present and future regarding jobs, relationships, and hoped-for achievements...
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With all the negativity that surrounds us, it is easy to become overwhelmed
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness. -- Chinese Proverb With all the negativity that surrounds us, it is easy to become overwhelmed. It is also tempting to fight against the negative or to declare war on it. Yet a master teacher offered a better way...
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Larry_H
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Daily Reflections ~ Exactly Alike & 24hrs a Day
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Frequent contact with newcomers and with each other is the bright spot of our lives. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 89 A man came to the meeting drunk, interrupted the speakers, stood up and took his shirt off, staggered loudly back and forth for coffee, demanded to talk, and eventually called the group's...
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Biker Bill--Get your limey butt back here!
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Of course I say that with all due respect. Tom
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Hey all!
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Haven't been here in an age. Wanted to drop by and see how everyone's doing. I'm still sober by the Grace of God and still getting to as many meetings as I can. Am co-sec of my home group now, which is great. Going to try and get here a lot more often. Hope any other AWOLs will drop by too! In sobriety Steve
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The joy of recovery is that we finally get to experiment. We get to learn new behaviors, and we don't have to do them pe
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Practice being spontaneous. Practice having fun. The joy of recovery is that we finally get to experiment. We get to learn new behaviors, and we don't have to do them perfectly. We only need to find a way that works for us. We even have fun experimenting, learning what...
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This is a simple program but it isn't easy
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Self-knowledge and self-improvement are very difficult for most people. It usually needs great courage and long struggle. --Abraham Maslow This is a simple program but it isn't easy. We cannot take the principles we learn and thereby possess them as if we were tak...
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Sometimes, especially in early recovery, we concentrate on our losses instead of our gains
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: When one door closes, fortune will usually open another. -- Fernando De Rojas Sometimes, especially in early recovery, we concentrate on our losses instead of our gains. We see a chapter in our life closing, and we mourn. We must leave some friends behind, or say goo...
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Daily Reflections ~ Love Without Strings & 24hrs a Day
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Practical experience shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 89 Sponsorship held two surprises for me. First, that my sponsees cared about me. What I had thought was gratitude was more like love. They wanted m...
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e.s.h.
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so forgiving the monsters in my past meant letting go of the family members that still made me wrong and had no respect for my boundaries. i learned what love really was in recovery, that it was an action word. i can tell u love me by your action that supports it. Most importantly i learned that love makes m...
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Home From Hospital
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Hi I am back home now. What an interesting experience--makes me feel better that I can get away--if I had still been drinking who knows how bad this would of been--what with the alcohal hiding the real problem. My Boyfriend even brought my mail to me and the Grapevine was part of it. I was reading it whil...
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Daily Reflections ~ Our Children & 24hrs a Day
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The alcoholic may find it hard to re-establish friendly relations with his children. . . . In time they will see that he is a new man and in their own way they will let him know it. . . . From that point on, progress will be rapid. Marvelous results often follow such a reunion. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 134 Wh...
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Update on my son
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http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42735&p=3&topicID=38132427).
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6 Months Sober!
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Hi, everyone! I haven't been here in quite some time, even though this message board was a great help to me in my first 30 days of sobriety. I just wanted to come back and let you know that I'm doing great and celebrating 6 months of continuous sobriety! Thank you God, thank you AA! My initial 30 in 30 commit...
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Inspiration...
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A group called Flogging Molly sings this and I simply love it. Hope you find a little inspiration in it too. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CnTGX9GlFPE Brian
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Hi
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Hey Just dropping in I know it's been a while, but doing ok. Still trying to take things 1 day at a time, and working out the rough edges. We all know what that's like, I have been getting prepared to see my daughter off to College next September, and excited for her and at the same time watching grow up.....
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To the ones you have hurt in the past from your alcoholism.
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How do you prove to someone you have changed when you no longer speak to them? Should you try, or has your past alcoholic behaviours ruined that chace? Was just curious. I would like to regain a friendship back, but I'm too scared of the rejection. I did ruin the relationship with my alcohol problems, so...
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Lack of self-love is the soil in which envy grows
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: A thousand eyes, but none with correct vision. --Isacher Hurwitz William Shakespeare referred to envy as the "green sickness." There are only losers in the game of envy. When we envy someone else, we have judged ourselves and found something lacking. L...
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When our past is strewn with tragic and abusive experiences
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: I believe that every single event in life happens as an opportunity to choose love over fear. --Oprah Winfrey When our past is strewn with tragic and abusive experiences, it's not easy to recall events as opportunities to love. Yet today we are safe, and we have come t...
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Outside Issue? Please consider...
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Hi everyone, I have been nominated by someone (anonomously) to to go to jail "FOR GOOD" in an effort to help the MDA raise funds for "Jerry's Kids". My bail will be 2500.00 dollars and all of it will go directly to the MDA. I accepted this opportunity to make a difference in the life of someone else. I...
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John
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That DANG Comittee!!!
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Ok Fessing up to a test that I did undergo yesterday, I was doing my reseach, I am a research junkie of sorts, and when I focused on "The Risk Factors" cancelled the test, thank goodness only in my head.....there was a risk of some stuff that could have been life threatening, and I do have a DNR i...
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Just Toni
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The Legal STRESS begins again...
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... and I am sooo glad to have a program of recovery to work, in the midst of it. The legal crap has begun regarding the divorce. With both sides not wanting to pay for anything as far as all the fees and added B.S. goes.... and yes, I am feeling hurt and resentful that this man is sitting on a pile of money (mak...
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Daily Reflections ~ First Things First & 24hrs a Day
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Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job -- wife or no wife -- we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 98 Before coming to A.A., I always had excuses for taking a drink: "She sai...
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I Cant Escape
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Alcohol has destroyed my life. Everything is beggining to make sense. I started to see a psychiatrist for stress/anxiety/OCD. I drink. A lot. To get away from the anxiety I get. Ive lost many friends and boyfriends due to alcohol. (actually all the EX BF's) My whole paycheck goes apying credit card bi...
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Step 4 my part in it.
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OK here goes, and this is hard for me. Not because I am embarrassed but because it still hurts at times to think about the little girl I was and how fast she grew up when it happened. When I was around 8-10 I was molested by my twin uncles. I have done my resentment list like the BB says to do. And I have made my...
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Frustrated!
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I think one of the biggest problems I have is that I get bored so easily. I find movies, friends, games fun only when I'm drinking. How do I enjoy these things while sober? I must have some sort of ADD as well, and the alcohol was disguising this. I used to have a good stiff drink while watching some of my favo...
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Things just keep getting better!!!
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I got a new, better job. I'll still be working as a D/A counselor, but at the private 90 day treatment center that I went through. I never would have imagined on the day I walked in there that I would be giving back at the exact place it was given to me. I'm so grateful that God is still at work in my life in su...
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Balance.... taking on yet another new meaning
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It has come to my realization that it is not neccesary for me to get a 4.0 in school, especially when no one is going to care if I got a 4.0 versus a 3.2 (or something to the effect) as long as I have a master's degree, and some good work behind me, to secure a job one day in the field I am studying. God already has i...
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Daily Reflections ~ I Was An Exception & 24 hrs a Day
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He [Bill W.] said to me, gently and simply, "Do you think that you are one of us?" ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 413 During my drinking life I was convinced I was an exception. I thought I was beyond petty requirements and had the right to be excused. I never realized that the dark counterbalance o...
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We were creative giants in doing things the hard way!
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: If there's a harder way of doing something, someone will find it. -- Ralph E. Ross When we used alcohol or other drugs, we did most things the hard way. We could turn a simple task into a day-long project. We could turn a simple problem into an argument. We were creative g...
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Still here
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I just wanted everyone to know that I have been around, but lurking I am still paying the bills and dealing with the fear it brings, but it is getting better. It's Tuesday again so when I leave work I will be writing out checks. I will be going on a trip to Texas on Thursday night but I am taking the puter wi...
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Jellinek phases of alcoholism
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http://www.readytotest.com/NewJersey06/JELLINEK_PHASES.pdf
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Sometimes life is like moving from one place to another
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Some days my life feels so confusing and overwhelming that I think I'll scream. Sometimes life is like moving from one place to another. When I move into a new house, it is unorganized and chaotic until everything gets put in the right place. In life, my emotions and th...
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Daily Reflections ~ A Limitless Lode & 24hrs a Day
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Like a gaunt prospector, belt drawn in over the last ounce of food, our pick struck gold. Joy at our release from a lifetime of frustration knew no bounds. Father feels he has struck something better than gold. For a time he may try to hug the new treasure to himself. He may not see at once that he has barely...
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Dating
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So... first off, I know the AA recommendation about not dating during your first year of sobriety. I'm 36 so I don't really have that luxury. :) My ex-boyfriend and I broke up a couple of months ago (completely amicable, he moved to Chicago to start grad school and the distance just became unsustainabl...
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Homeward Bound!
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After 10 wonderful days ,my wife and my father and mother -in - law heading back up to New York(they are staying with us for a week). I got some new numbers,was able to take in 3 meetings while we were here and met some nice people..Weather was what is expected in Florida but it was a nice change to wear no ja...
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Little by little, I'm getting over my tendency to procrastinate
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: Reflection for the Day Little by little, I'm getting over my tendency to procrastinate. I always used to put things off until tomorrow, and, of course, they never got done. Instead of "Do it now," my motto was "Tomorrow's another day." I've le...
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Utter Sheer JOY!
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Hi My Friends, Just wanted to share a evening with you, from last evening, I had been planning a Surprise Birthday Party for my Son's 40th Birthday for almost a month, (yep that's right, I gave birth to him when I was 11..) it was at a Japanese Resturant, a very fancy one, and his all time Ethic food. On S...
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The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken
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Today's thought from Hazelden is: The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken. --Samuel Johnson The Twelve Steps won't work for anyone unless they are practiced. That's why so many veterans of this program work the Steps over and over. It's a good habit, and good hab...
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Larry_H
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Met my older twin tonight!!
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Wonderful older lady with 36 years sober... 4 DUI's, ran over someone, psyche wards, relapses, she was a nurse, the whole 9 yards. She did her drinking like I did mine, and showed me that we can stay sober no matter what. She led at tonight's meeting and we talked afterward and hit it off majorly. She was...
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Help with RESENTMENT!!!
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Ok well I've been in since 93 but as of now I have 2 month"s Ive just finished my 4,5,6,7 step My wife and i have been together 8 years, married for 5, seperated 3. I am in Arizona she lives in Oregon. We talk every day. so i'm talking to her and she says she has been talking to this guy for 6 months, he"...
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